19 Dec

The Secret and Beyond . . .
The Five Most Common Mistakes in
Mastering the Law of Attraction

Did you love the movie The Secret? Have you been trying to practice what you learned from it? Do you experience any frustration or confusion about how to effectively manifest your dreams? If so, then read on. The tips in this article will help you bring more of the secrets behind the law of attraction out into the open.

Due to the popularity of The Secret, many new books, CDs and programs have been marketed to help people put these ideas into practice. People such as Esther Hicks (a.k.a. Abraham), Jack Canfield, Bob Doyle and countless others have offered their own spin on the principles of The Secret.

Many of you may have purchased these in an attempt to master the law of attraction and bring the things you truly want into your life. In this article you'll discover solutions for the five most common mistakes made when people first begin practicing the law of attraction.

Law of Attraction Mistake #1

You don't practice what you know. It may sound silly, but many people who watch The Secret think it's a great idea but then continue doing exactly what they've always done.

Solution: Pick at least one idea from The Secret and practice it every day. As soon as that one starts becoming habit, pick another one.

Law of Attraction Mistake #2

Getting attached to one particular outcome. Many people focus on one particular thing they want to manifest in their life and lose sight of the bigger picture. They end up blind to all the other good things that are actually happening in their lives because they're only looking for that one outcome that they initially imagined.

Solution: Things don't always come in the exact form that we expect. Focus instead on the underlying importance of what you want - the essence of it - and see the bigger picture too. Be open to experiencing the variety of miracles that come as the result of your efforts.

Law of Attraction Mistake #3

Sending yourself mixed messages. You have probably heard how important it is to focus your attention on what it is that you want. Often, people think they're concentrating on what they want, but they're actually complaining about what they don't have. They say things like: "I want more money because I'm sick of being so broke" or "I'm going to find the person of my dreams as soon as I lose some weight." All these mixed messages make it very challenging to manifest what you truly want.

Solution: Becoming conscious of the fact that you're sending mixed messages is the first step to focusing on what you want. Write a list of all the things that you want to manifest. Make sure it is totally free of anything about what you don't want. Then make it a game to see how many times you can catch yourself mixing your messages when you speak or think about these things. Every time you catch yourself, restate what you've just said the way you wrote it on your list.

Law of Attraction Mistake #4

Creating expectations that you don't really believe are possible. We see it all the time: someone gets very clear about what they want, like getting an 80 foot yacht by next month. Then they start practicing the principles of the law of attraction, but they don't really believe they can get what they want. The problem is that past experiences can limit what you believe is actually possible for you, and if you don't truly believe something can happen, it's almost guaranteed not to.

Solution: Let go of any expectations that are beyond what you can allow yourself to truly belive are possible. When you do pick something, trust it will come to you at the perfect time for you to accept it. Every success you have will increase your ability to believe that greater things are possible for you.

Law of Attraction Mistake #5

Focusing only on future returns. Gratitude is an essential component to manifesting your dreams. Very often, people seem to plan on being grateful in the future for all the things that will manifest in their lives. The big car, the great house, the perfect partner... the list goes on and on. But it is your day-to-day experiences that capture your attention - and what you focus your attention on grows. So, unless you can find things to be grateful for right now - in your daily experience - you'll end up focusing on what you don't have instead of what you really want.

Solution: Learn to cultivate gratitude in your daily life. Each morning, survey your life. Pinpoint at least 3 things you can be grateful for right now. Once you get the hang of this, it becomes easer and you'll begin noticing many more things for which you are grateful.

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Become A Hedgehog A Set The Power of the Law of Attraction Into Motion
Become a hedgehog today. Focus in on a single goal or mission. Keep your energy concentrated and focused don’t let it be diffused and weaken your life.

The Law of Attraction

Embracing The Power of Focus

Recently the power of focus and the law of attraction has been a key driving force in my life. Daily I’m reminded to keep focused on my goals and to use my gifts as creative expressions in my life.

Even to show me what I’ve been out picturing in my life and holding as a resonant frequency my daughter has begun to become effected by my thoughts.

She has shown me what it’s like to set the law of attraction in motion and then to suddenly change your mind.

She’ll ask for something like cereal and I’ll get up and go make it for her and then she’ll change her mind and not want it. She’ll ask for a glass of soy milk so I’ll go get it for her and before I start pouring it she’ll change her mind. Over and over this was happening.

Then just the other day it hit me, “This is what I’m doing with my life.” I thought to myself.

I’ll start something and then abruptly change my mind. I’ll set the power of the law of attraction in motion and just as the ball starts rolling in my life I’ll change my mind. Effectively getting me no-where and just frustrating all those people in my life who are hoping for my best and want to see me succeed.

Focus & the Law Of Attraction

Well this has all changed now. Daily I focus in on my targeted goals and anything that does not bring me closer to them get’s dropped out of my life.

Over the last few weeks, my life has become like a laser as I focus in on my chief goal, and do everything in my life to bring that dream into reality.

I’m becoming focused and as a result of that focus my power has increased 100 fold and the Law of Attraction has kicked into overdrive into my life.

So this process that has unfolded in my life has reminded of a concept that I first read in Jim Collins’amazing book Good To Great.

In it he proposes that there are two types of companies, hedgehogs or foxes, and it’s the hedgehogs that move to ultimate success, blowing there competition out of the water.

The Law of Attraction – Are You A Hedgehog of A Fox?

In his famous essay “The Hedgehog and the Fox,” Isaiah Berlin divided the world into hedgehogs and foxes, based upon an ancient Greek parable: “The fox knows many things, but the hedgehog knows one big thing.”

Good to Great, by Jim Collins

Are You a Hedgehog or a Fox?
Chapter 5, pages 90–91

The fox is a cunning creature, able to devise a myriad of complex strategies for sneak attacks upon the hedgehog. Day in and day out, the fox circles around the hedgehog’s den, waiting for the perfect moment to pounce. Fast, sleek, beautiful, fleet of foot, and crafty—the fox looks like the sure winner. The hedgehog, on the other hand, is a dowdier creature, looking like a genetic mix-up between a porcupine and a small armadillo. He waddles along, going about his simple day, searching for lunch and taking care of his home.

The fox waits in cunning silence at the juncture in the trail. The hedgehog, minding his own business, wanders right into the path of the fox. “Aha, I’ve got you now!” thinks the fox. He leaps out, bounding across the ground, lightning fast. The little hedgehog, sensing danger, looks up and thinks, “Here we go again. Will he ever learn?” Rolling up into a perfect little ball, the hedgehog becomes a sphere of sharp spikes, pointing outward in all directions. The fox, bounding toward his prey, sees the hedgehog defense and calls off the attack. Retreating back to the forest, the fox begins to calculate a new line of attack. Each day, some version of this battle between the hedgehog and the fox takes place, and despite the greater cunning of the fox, the hedgehog always wins.

Berlin extrapolated from this little parable to divide people into two basic groups: foxes and hedgehogs. Foxes pursue many ends at the same time and see the world in all its complexity. They are “scattered or diffused, moving on many levels,” says Berlin, never integrating their thinking into one overall concept or unifying vision.

Hedgehogs, on the other hand, simplify a complex world into a single organizing idea, a basic principle or concept that unifies and guides everything. It doesn’t matter how complex the world, a hedgehog reduces all challenges and dilemmas to simple—indeed almost simplistic—hedgehog ideas. For a hedgehog, anything that does not somehow relate to the hedgehog idea holds no relevance.

Princeton professor Marvin Bressler pointed out the power of the hedgehog during one of our long conversations: “You want to know what separates those who make the biggest impact from all the others who are just as smart? They’re hedgehogs.” Freud and the unconscious, Darwin and natural selection, Marx and class struggle, Einstein and relativity, Adam Smith and division of labor—they were all hedgehogs. They took a complex world and simplified it. “Those who leave the biggest footprints,” said Bressler, “have thousands calling after them, ‘Good idea, but you went too far!’ ”³

To be clear, hedgehogs are not stupid. Quite the contrary. They understand that the essence of profound insight is simplicity. What could be more simple than e = mc2? What could be simpler than the idea of the unconscious, organized into an id, ego, and superego? What could be more elegant than Adam Smith’s pin factory and “invisible hand?” No, the hedgehogs aren’t simpletons; they have a piercing insight that allows them to see through complexity and discern underlying patterns. Hedgehogs see what is essential, and ignore the rest.

Law of Attraction: Focus on the ''What'' Not the ''How''

Our minds are a pretty amazing thing. They can be our biggest liberator or our greatest oppressor. It has been my experience that our thoughts and feelings play a massive role in creating our reality and no one will ever be able to convince me otherwise. We all have our unique desires, things that we believe will make us happy. Unfortunately, those things often have not appeared in our life yet. In many instances, we do not even attempt to manifest them. We stop before we can even start because our logical minds cannot ‘’figure it out,’’ a compulsion that does not serve us well when it comes to creating the life we want for ourselves.

We view the things we desire most as something in the realm of fantasy; we conclude that they can never really be ours. We look at our current circumstances and we just cannot see how it would be possible to break free of them and move towards what we actually want. We have a very limited view of what life is supposed to be like and we settle for very little. We think we are just mean to be ordinary and we view people who have done extraordinary things as super humans, but they are just like us in many ways, they just think differently.

When it comes to really making significant changes in our lives and getting what we really want, there is one key rule that we must adopt, no exceptions. We need to focus on the ‘’what’’ and release the ‘’how.’’ The ‘’how’’ is something we cannot even begin to figure out logically. There are a million different ways we can manifest the things we want, there are a million different opportunities, a million different people or situations we can encounter; there is no way for us to conceive of all of them in this moment.

When I talk about this type of stuff, I am not just talking about awe-inspiring encounters that shake up your very foundation and how you look at the world, I am talking about seemingly non-spectacular events, like simply getting an urge to visit a particular website you never have before and it contains a piece of information that helps you reach your goal, or meeting a friend of a friend who happens to know of a job opening in the exact field you are looking for.

Letting go of the ‘’how’’ also unblocks your mind and allows ideas and solutions to flow to you. These epiphanies will often appear obvious and glaringly simple, and you will wonder how you did not think of it before; but when our minds are clogged with worry, fear and limited thinking, even the simplest solutions cannot get through. You will be inspired to do certain things and these inspired actions will open doors that you could not have even imagined. You will find that even though you are doing many of the things in the same way as you always have, you may be getting better results. For example, maybe you are a freelance writer and you seem to be getting a lot more jobs than you were previously.

Our heavy reliance on logical thought and the need to figure things out can make this extremely difficult, believe me I know! I still struggle with it, particularly in certain areas of my life. The good news is, you do not need to be in this zone 24/7 to make progress, though it will be to your benefit to tip the scales in favor of feeling good rather than feeling badly. Just get clear on your vision, what you want out of life, without judgment or censoring. As I have heard it said many times before, the ‘’how’’ is none of your business!

加藤鹰第一招：激起她的情欲

经过之前的勾兑，两人终于进入私密的房间，但此时更应该注意，要先确认对方的情欲是否高涨。别着急抢先，保持刚开始和对方交谈时的从容不迫。进入房间后，最重要的是共度一段彼此都能放松的时间，而不要在对方面前表现得心痒难耐，要让对方觉得“就算我们只是坐着看电视也没关系”。

你可以这样做：

1、制造浪漫气氛，调整房间内的光与声

把灯光调暗，把电视机的声音关小，灯火通明的卧房会令女性感到十分害羞。除非是完全熟悉的伴侣，否则完全的悄无声息反而会造成心里紧张，这样的紧张即使能略微提高期待感，却更容易形成尴尬的局面。

2、多等待一会儿，消除她的不安

你很可能会遇到这样的情景：女伴洗完澡后回到卧房，没有直接上床而是坐在椅子或沙发上，和你保持一定距离。也许她是害羞，也许是不希望你认为她是着急想做爱的大胆女人。让女人感到安心，是确保做爱节奏流畅的铁则。你可以通过交谈让她放松，或者干脆再多等上一会。如果女伴先上床，记得不要从正面靠近她的身体，最好从她的侧面和斜后方接近，以缓解她的紧张。

加藤鹰第二招：寻找性爱的入口

1、接吻

通过接吻，彼此抚摸敏感的部位，不但能使情欲高涨、快感加倍，还可以获得许多情报。例如：双唇紧绷还是放松可以得知她的紧张程度；嘴巴张开的大小、舌头缠绕的方式可以了解她的兴奋状况。通过接吻，能够了解她的心思究竟有几分放在了你的身上。

倘若女伴没有百分之百的回应，不要着急，继续吻她，要等到她百分之百回应你的热情，才能进入下一阶段。

接吻的诀窍

1、不是从正面，而是从斜后方搂着她；

2、以手指轻轻抬起她的下巴，让她的脸朝着自己；

3、慢慢靠近她的唇，轻轻贴上自己的唇；

4、以自己的嘴唇分别吸吮她的上下唇；

5、当她嘴巴微张时，安静地将自己的舌头轻巧地滑入对方口中。

2、爱抚

一提到爱抚，大部分男人联想到的不外乎胸部、臀部等女人的性感带。我们可以试试转变一下想法，将“爱抚”想象成“按摩”，那么重点就变成如何刺激对方全身的穴道。

爱抚的过程

1、爱抚脸部边缘

从下巴往脸颊，由下往上以手指若有似无地轻轻爱抚，力道介于“感觉很舒服”及“有点痒痒之间”。

2、轻抚睫毛

以指尖沿着眼框轻抚睫毛，重点在于抚触方向不是由内而外，而是由外到内。

3、亲吻鼻梁

使用你的双唇，由下而上亲吻她的鼻子，尤其是两眼之间的部位。

4、爱抚头部

张开手掌，将手指当做梳子沿着头颈、头后直到头顶。脸庞边缘从太阳穴直到侧头部的位置也以同样方式爱抚。重点是把手指张开，就像是用大梳子在梳头一样。