Email Conversation Starters for Online Dating

When writing your profile description or sending a reply to a personal profile, think about some of the following questions to get the juices flowing. Remember, it's the small, telling details that expose your most unique (and attractive!) qualities.

Love and Romance

· Do you regret any of your past relationships? Why?

· In a new relationship, do you like to take it slow or start with a bang?

· How many serious relationships have you had?

· How old were you when you had your first kiss?

· Where do you like to be kissed?

· Describe your ideal dream date. Where would you go and what would you do?

· How much personal space do you need in a relationship?

· How long was your longest relationship? Why did it end?

· Do you believe in love at first sight? Have you ever experienced it?

· Does chemistry happen immediately, or can it build over time?

· What's your opinion of long-distance relationships?

· How long should couples date before getting married?

· Would you move to be close to the one you love?

· Which characteristic could you live without in a life-long partner: sexiness, intelligence, or financial stability?

Work and Education

· Do you have lots of friends at work, or is it strictly business?

· How would your co-workers describe you?

· Where did you go to school? Why did you pick that school?

· What was your major and why did you choose it?

· Are you taking any classes now? What are you interested in learning?

· Would you consider going back for more school?

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Family and Friends

· Where did you grow up?

· What games did you like to play as a child?

· Do you have any pets? Describe them.

· When you were young, what did you want to be when you grew up? Have you reached your goal?

· When you were a child, who was your hero?

· How do your closest friends describe you?

· Tell me a favorite childhood memory.

· How much do you tell your friends about what's going on in your life?

· How important is family to you? Describe your relationship with your family.

· Did you go to prom? Did you have a good time?

· Describe your social life. Are you a party person? Or do you like more intimate gatherings?

· What do you say to strike up a conversation at a party?

· Name one of your favorite activities for a Saturday night.Â

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Appearance and Health

· Do you have any piercings or tattoos? Where are they?

· If you don't have any, would you consider getting a piercing? A tattoo?

· How often do you do the laundry? Clean the bathroom? Floss your teeth? Â

· Describe your fashion sense. Is style important to you?

· How important is fitness in your life?

· What's your favorite scent? Why do you like it?

· Do you snore? Do you talk in your sleep?

· How long have you gone without a bath or shower?

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Arts and Entertainment

· Which movie character would you most like to be?

· Describe any celebrity run-ins you've had.

· What is your favorite band or musician?

· What's your favorite TV show?

· Which TV family would you like to join?

· Name a few of your top albums.

· Is your music collection alphabetized?

· What songs or artists put you in the mood?

· Name one of your favorite books. Why do you like it?

· Tell me some of your all-time favorite movies. Why do you like them?

· What celebrity would you would you want for president and why?

· Who is your favorite writer?

· In the car, do you listen to music or talk radio?

· Do you play any instruments?

· What's your favorite cartoon character?

· Name the first film that made you cry.

· Who's your favorite pro wrestler of all time?

· What's your favorite quote?

· What's your favorite web site? Why?

· Where are you most likely to be caught singing: in the shower, in the car, at a karaoke bar, in a Broadway show?

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Hobbies and Recreation

· Tell me about your favorite food.

· Do you enjoy brain teasers or do you find them frustrating?

· Do you have any unusual collections?

· Describe the best game you ever attended.

· What's your favorite outdoor activity?

· What is your favorite sport to watch? To play?

· What countries have you visited? Which was your favorite?

· Have you ever baited a fishing hook?

· Describe a meal you like to prepare.

· What is your favorite sports team?

· What was your most memorable moment as an athlete?

· List some of your favorite types of restaurants.

· What's your favorite dessert? Snack food?

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Personality Traits

· What is your greatest accomplishment?

· Have you ever been the "best" at anything?

· Do you believe in fate? How does that affect your life?

· Do you believe in revenge?

· Do you have any superstitions?

· If you could be a superhero, who would you be?

· What celebrity do people say you resemble? Do you like that or does that aggravate you?

· What are your secret talents?

· Tell me about the person who has most influenced your life.

· What do people notice about you within the first hour of meeting you (other than appearance)?

· Do you ever talk to yourself out loud? What do you talk about?

· When was the last time you lost your temper?

· Would you rather fly, walk, swim, or ride a horse?

· Do you run from the camera or jump in front of the photographer?

· Are you a gossip? A flirt?

· Are you a competitive person?

· Do you screen your phone calls?

· What's your biggest phobia?

· How often do you get bored? How do you stop the boredom?

· Which of your five senses would you LEAST want to lose? Why?

· When you're lost, do you ask for directions?

· What percentage of the time are you comfortable with yourself?

· What's your preferred method of communication: phone, instant messaging, or email? Why?

· What is your nickname?

· Do you find kids cute or obnoxious?

· What's your favorite body part?

· Tell me a little known fact about you.

· What stresses you out?

· Have you ever talked yourself out of a speeding ticket? Explain how.

· Are you pro-choice? Pro-life?

· Have you ever participated in a protest?

· Have you ever been arrested?

· Do you consider yourself open-minded? Rate yourself on a scale of 1 - 10 (1 being closed-minded and 10 being an exhibitionist) and explain your rating.

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Unique to You

· Describe three events in your own life -- two fictional and one factual -- and ask the person to guess which one is true

· Where do you see yourself in 15 years?

· What is your most embarrassing moment?

· Describe your wildest Halloween costume.

· Admit your favorite guilty pleasure.

· Describe the best vacation you've taken.

· What are your three main goals in life?

· Name five things you can't live without.

· What three things do you always keep in your wallet/bag?

· Are you into astrology? If yes, how does it affect your life?

· Name your worst pet peeve. Are you ever guilty of it yourself?

· In the past, why have you broken a promise?

· Would you rather be a pirate or a prince?

· What's been the biggest disappointment in your life?

· Would you ever want to predict your future? Why or why not?

· What's the best cure for a hangover?Â

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What If ...

· If you are a cat with nine lives, which life are you working on now?

· If you were a Survivor contestant, what would be your luxury item?

· If you could go to dinner with a famous person, who would it be?

· If you could bring someone back from the dead, who would it be?

· If you could bring back any deceased musician for one concert, who would it be?

· If you were a comic book character, what superpower would you possess? Why?

· If you could go back in time and relive one day in your life, which day would you choose and why?

· If you started a treehouse club and could only invite three members, who would you pick? What would the sign say on the door?

· If you could be an animal, which one would you be?

· If you could live anywhere, where would you live?

· If you could go back in time, which era would you choose? What would you most like to do?

· During which historical event would you like to have been a fly on the wall?

· If you were Miss America , which platform would you choose to represent?

· If you could eliminate one disease, which one would it be?

· If you could eliminate one crime, what would it be?Â

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Pick One

· Sunset or sunrise?

· Always on time or always late?

· Coffee or tea?

· The Beatles or the Rolling Stones?

· Perfume/cologne or natural body odor?

· Morning person or night owl?

· Plain or peanut M&Ms?

· Three suitcases or one carry-on?

· Make your bed or leave it messy?

· The movie or the book? Or the Cliffs Notes?

· Glass half-empty or half-full?

· Haagen-Dazs or Ben & Jerry's?

· Letterbox or pan-n-scan?

· Pepsi or Coke?

· Leader or joiner?

· The chicken or the egg?

· Chocolate or whipped cream?

· Martha or Oprah?

· Letterman or Leno?

· Carson Daly or Jon Stewart?

· Mango or Mr. Peepers?

· Roller coaster or merry go round?

· New home or historic residence?

· Pool or darts?

· Gym or outdoors?

· Paper or plastic?

· Big Bird or Kermit the Frog?