1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.
16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.
17. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.
18. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Overprepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: "In five years, will this matter?"
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
35. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
36. Growing old beats the alternative - dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.
38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
41. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
42. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
43. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
44. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
45. The best is yet to come.
46. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
47. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
48. If you don't ask, you don't get.
49. Yield.
50. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.
Sunday, August 1, 2010
Saturday, July 24, 2010
Dating: get what you want!
The realm of romance is full of those moments of 20/20 hindsight — you know, where you think, “I should have said…” or “Oh, if only I’d asked my date about…” And it’s also packed with those times when you sit and ponder, “He said this, but was he really trying to tell me something else?”
Break out of the wishing-and-wondering habit and learn how to communicate really effectively on a date. How? With the help of Laurie Puhn, J.D., communication expert and best-selling author of Instant Persuasion. She recently participated in a live chat, answering questions from our readers. Here, we share the highlights, as Laurie shows you how to be clear about what you need out of a relationship — and get exactly that.
Q: I communicate for a living, but when it comes to my personal life, I don’t seem to be able to “get my way.” What’s up with that?
A: Communicating on a date or in a relationship isn’t about getting your way. The purpose of communication is to reveal your true self and to be open enough that the other person is persuaded to want to be open with you in return, persuaded to want to help you meet your needs. Browse Local Singles At Match.com
I am a: Man Woman Seeking: Men Women Near: Q: How can I get my first date to ask me on a second date?
A: You want to make sure to ask him questions during the first date, about his life, about his day, about himself in general. That’s the best way to show someone you’re interested. And it persuades him to take interest in you.
Q: As a man, what is the best way to make a first connection in a public place — say, at a restaurant?
A: If you’re randomly approaching someone, you want to smile, say something about the restaurant or place you’re in, or why you like it. She is there so obviously she likes it too, so you’ll have something to talk about.
Q: I have very little dating confidence, and I know it shows. What can I do to give off a more confident vibe?
A: Try to go on dates during the day where you don’t feel as much pressure. Go to a coffee shop, a museum. Do something you’d normally do anyway, but take a date.
Q: I can’t seem to get past the first date! I think I make a good impression and chat easily. What am I doing wrong?
A: A major mistake daters make is that they complain while on a date. They might complain about their job or their family or their friends. They think this makes them look open and honest and interesting, but it actually persuades people to dislike them because they are pessimistic. Think about whether you might, unintentionally, be this type of complainer.
Q: How can I find out if the man I’m dating considers me a potential long-term partner?
A: You have to ask yourself questions and accept things that may be hard. Such as does he call you during the week? Does he involve you in multiple aspects of his life? Has he introduced you to his family? Does he help you out when you get very busy? Does he volunteer to do things for you? If the answers are yes, then he may be in it for the long run. If the answers are mostly no’s and he isn’t integrating you into his life, then the relationship is short-term. But there is hope that it can change if you express your intentions in a persuasive way by letting him know why you care about him and what he means to you.
Q: Previous girlfriends have accused me of being overly defensive, when I’m just trying to stand up for myself. What can I do to prevent this from affecting my next relationship?
A: Create a new trigger for yourself. The moment you feel defensive is the moment you should change your words and ask a question, such as “Why do you think that?” Listen to the answer. You might discover your date was never against you and there was nothing you needed to stand up for. Your words are powerful. If you change your words ever so slightly, you change how people respond to you, and you change your life. That’s the message of my book Instant Persuasion.
Q: I tend to be shy with people I don’t know, and I’m worried that I make a bad first impression with dates. What can I do?
A: You can ask the person questions. Perfect your skills as a good listener by asking follow-up questions. Making the other person the center of your attention will help put you at ease, and you’ll persuade him to become interested in you.
Q: I have a hard time trusting women because I’ve been burned more than once. What are some ways I can communicate this and figure out if a woman is being sincere?
A: Be sincere yourself — your honesty will eventually drive her away if she’s insincere. Keep in mind that everybody gets burned — the difference between the winners and the losers is that winners bounce back. And that’s true in every aspect of our lives. Winners aren’t luckier. Winners are persuasive. Winners are resilient.
Q: How do I tell the guy I’m dating that weekends should be couple time and not “let’s hang out with the gang” time?
A: Well, nothing is automatic. Everything must be communicated and negotiated. You want to speak persuasively by explaining to him what exactly you want to do with him on the weekends. He may find the ideas you have to be very interesting. Say what you do want from him, rather than what you don’t want. That’s being instantly persuasive.
Q: I’m a 38-year-old man who’s ready to get married and have a family. What’s the right way to say this to the women I’m dating? I don’t want to sound like I’m only interested in a woman as a potential mother to my children.
A: Well, you can’t be 100 percent ready until you meet the woman who’s going to be the mother of your children. Perhaps what you really mean is that you’re at a point in your life where you’re financially and emotionally secure. So talk about that. Talk about what you’ve learned in your life.
Q: How can I find out if someone is for real without asking too many questions first?
A: You don’t have to ask questions, just pay attention — people reveal themselves on their own. If a man is consistently late, he shows you that he doesn’t really care. If a woman talks to you about all the other men that she is attracted to, it tells you she’s in it for the game. Pay attention to the little moments and you will learn a lot — our words are always persuading people to like or dislike us, respect or disrespect us. We have the power to choose our words wisely to make sure that we are winning people over.
Break out of the wishing-and-wondering habit and learn how to communicate really effectively on a date. How? With the help of Laurie Puhn, J.D., communication expert and best-selling author of Instant Persuasion. She recently participated in a live chat, answering questions from our readers. Here, we share the highlights, as Laurie shows you how to be clear about what you need out of a relationship — and get exactly that.
Q: I communicate for a living, but when it comes to my personal life, I don’t seem to be able to “get my way.” What’s up with that?
A: Communicating on a date or in a relationship isn’t about getting your way. The purpose of communication is to reveal your true self and to be open enough that the other person is persuaded to want to be open with you in return, persuaded to want to help you meet your needs. Browse Local Singles At Match.com
I am a: Man Woman Seeking: Men Women Near: Q: How can I get my first date to ask me on a second date?
A: You want to make sure to ask him questions during the first date, about his life, about his day, about himself in general. That’s the best way to show someone you’re interested. And it persuades him to take interest in you.
Q: As a man, what is the best way to make a first connection in a public place — say, at a restaurant?
A: If you’re randomly approaching someone, you want to smile, say something about the restaurant or place you’re in, or why you like it. She is there so obviously she likes it too, so you’ll have something to talk about.
Q: I have very little dating confidence, and I know it shows. What can I do to give off a more confident vibe?
A: Try to go on dates during the day where you don’t feel as much pressure. Go to a coffee shop, a museum. Do something you’d normally do anyway, but take a date.
Q: I can’t seem to get past the first date! I think I make a good impression and chat easily. What am I doing wrong?
A: A major mistake daters make is that they complain while on a date. They might complain about their job or their family or their friends. They think this makes them look open and honest and interesting, but it actually persuades people to dislike them because they are pessimistic. Think about whether you might, unintentionally, be this type of complainer.
Q: How can I find out if the man I’m dating considers me a potential long-term partner?
A: You have to ask yourself questions and accept things that may be hard. Such as does he call you during the week? Does he involve you in multiple aspects of his life? Has he introduced you to his family? Does he help you out when you get very busy? Does he volunteer to do things for you? If the answers are yes, then he may be in it for the long run. If the answers are mostly no’s and he isn’t integrating you into his life, then the relationship is short-term. But there is hope that it can change if you express your intentions in a persuasive way by letting him know why you care about him and what he means to you.
Q: Previous girlfriends have accused me of being overly defensive, when I’m just trying to stand up for myself. What can I do to prevent this from affecting my next relationship?
A: Create a new trigger for yourself. The moment you feel defensive is the moment you should change your words and ask a question, such as “Why do you think that?” Listen to the answer. You might discover your date was never against you and there was nothing you needed to stand up for. Your words are powerful. If you change your words ever so slightly, you change how people respond to you, and you change your life. That’s the message of my book Instant Persuasion.
Q: I tend to be shy with people I don’t know, and I’m worried that I make a bad first impression with dates. What can I do?
A: You can ask the person questions. Perfect your skills as a good listener by asking follow-up questions. Making the other person the center of your attention will help put you at ease, and you’ll persuade him to become interested in you.
Q: I have a hard time trusting women because I’ve been burned more than once. What are some ways I can communicate this and figure out if a woman is being sincere?
A: Be sincere yourself — your honesty will eventually drive her away if she’s insincere. Keep in mind that everybody gets burned — the difference between the winners and the losers is that winners bounce back. And that’s true in every aspect of our lives. Winners aren’t luckier. Winners are persuasive. Winners are resilient.
Q: How do I tell the guy I’m dating that weekends should be couple time and not “let’s hang out with the gang” time?
A: Well, nothing is automatic. Everything must be communicated and negotiated. You want to speak persuasively by explaining to him what exactly you want to do with him on the weekends. He may find the ideas you have to be very interesting. Say what you do want from him, rather than what you don’t want. That’s being instantly persuasive.
Q: I’m a 38-year-old man who’s ready to get married and have a family. What’s the right way to say this to the women I’m dating? I don’t want to sound like I’m only interested in a woman as a potential mother to my children.
A: Well, you can’t be 100 percent ready until you meet the woman who’s going to be the mother of your children. Perhaps what you really mean is that you’re at a point in your life where you’re financially and emotionally secure. So talk about that. Talk about what you’ve learned in your life.
Q: How can I find out if someone is for real without asking too many questions first?
A: You don’t have to ask questions, just pay attention — people reveal themselves on their own. If a man is consistently late, he shows you that he doesn’t really care. If a woman talks to you about all the other men that she is attracted to, it tells you she’s in it for the game. Pay attention to the little moments and you will learn a lot — our words are always persuading people to like or dislike us, respect or disrespect us. We have the power to choose our words wisely to make sure that we are winning people over.
Instant persuasion : how to change your words to change your life / by Laurie Puhn
Summary "Whether or not you know it, we are all in a position to get what we want - every day. We just need to know the right words for every situation to persuade people to help us get it. Instant Persuasion gives us those words." "In this book, Harvard-educated lawyer and mediator Laurie Puhn translates complex mediation skills into simple, practical communication rules that can easily be applied to everyday situations."
Full contents
Rule 1. Punch with a smile --
Rule 2. Spread gossip --
Rule 3. Complain with impact --
Rule 4. Use the two-part apology --
Rule 5. Avoid superficial offers --
Rule 6. Right your wrongs --
Rule 7. Don't take sides --
Rule 8. Find factual solutions --
Rule 9. Hold your tongue --
Rule 10. Beware of uncomplimentary compliments --
Rule 11. Magnify praise --
Rule 12. Close the deal --
Rule 13. Save it for later --
Rule 14. Make people your partners --
Rule 15. Acknowledge others in a new way --
Rule 16. Show you care --
Rule 17. Give a final answer --
Rule 18. Prepare your evidence --
Rule 19. Get off the hook --
Rule 20. Appreciate criticism --
Rule 21. Get a green light --
Rule 22. Rein in roaming anger --
Rule 23. Avoid empty gestures --
Rule 24. Create comfort in a difficult time --
Rule 25. Ask and you'll receive --
Rule 26. Earn your favors --
Rule 27. Disagree without being disagreeable --
Rule 28. Be a party-wise host --
Rule 29. Don't cave under pressure.
Full contents
Rule 1. Punch with a smile --
Rule 2. Spread gossip --
Rule 3. Complain with impact --
Rule 4. Use the two-part apology --
Rule 5. Avoid superficial offers --
Rule 6. Right your wrongs --
Rule 7. Don't take sides --
Rule 8. Find factual solutions --
Rule 9. Hold your tongue --
Rule 10. Beware of uncomplimentary compliments --
Rule 11. Magnify praise --
Rule 12. Close the deal --
Rule 13. Save it for later --
Rule 14. Make people your partners --
Rule 15. Acknowledge others in a new way --
Rule 16. Show you care --
Rule 17. Give a final answer --
Rule 18. Prepare your evidence --
Rule 19. Get off the hook --
Rule 20. Appreciate criticism --
Rule 21. Get a green light --
Rule 22. Rein in roaming anger --
Rule 23. Avoid empty gestures --
Rule 24. Create comfort in a difficult time --
Rule 25. Ask and you'll receive --
Rule 26. Earn your favors --
Rule 27. Disagree without being disagreeable --
Rule 28. Be a party-wise host --
Rule 29. Don't cave under pressure.
Instant Persuasion
How to Change Your Words to Change Your Life
by Laurie Puhn
Tarcher/Penguin, 2005
This communication guide offers 35 rules for mastering the fine art of verbal persuasion. Whatever the social situation, it explains what "communication blunders" to avoid and "communication wonders" to employ.
"The wonders persuade people to like, listen to, cooperate with and respect you so that people will help you get what you want in life," lawyer and professional mediator Laurie Puhn explains.
"After noticing many of the same basic communication mistakes occurring over and over again in mediations, I knew there was a need for people to have better persuasive skills. The specific words people choose to say often have more influence on the outcome of the mediation process than does the content of what is being said."
Viewing the mediation setting as a microcosm for real-world conversations, Puhn developed the 35 rules described and illustrated with anecdotal examples throughout this book, from Rule #1 Punch With a Smile to Rule #35 Pay With Words.
It is surprising how little awareness most folks have of the impact their words have on those around them. Being outspoken and expressing your feelings or opinions can sometimes have a devastating impact on the listener. As Puhn explains in Rule #9 Hold Your Tongue, we should give advice only when asked for it, or after getting permission to give after asking, "Would you like my advice?"
Puhn intersperses her 35 rules with real-world examples, some rather obvious and others genuinely entertertaining and instructive.
by Laurie Puhn
Tarcher/Penguin, 2005
This communication guide offers 35 rules for mastering the fine art of verbal persuasion. Whatever the social situation, it explains what "communication blunders" to avoid and "communication wonders" to employ.
"The wonders persuade people to like, listen to, cooperate with and respect you so that people will help you get what you want in life," lawyer and professional mediator Laurie Puhn explains.
"After noticing many of the same basic communication mistakes occurring over and over again in mediations, I knew there was a need for people to have better persuasive skills. The specific words people choose to say often have more influence on the outcome of the mediation process than does the content of what is being said."
Viewing the mediation setting as a microcosm for real-world conversations, Puhn developed the 35 rules described and illustrated with anecdotal examples throughout this book, from Rule #1 Punch With a Smile to Rule #35 Pay With Words.
It is surprising how little awareness most folks have of the impact their words have on those around them. Being outspoken and expressing your feelings or opinions can sometimes have a devastating impact on the listener. As Puhn explains in Rule #9 Hold Your Tongue, we should give advice only when asked for it, or after getting permission to give after asking, "Would you like my advice?"
Puhn intersperses her 35 rules with real-world examples, some rather obvious and others genuinely entertertaining and instructive.
Eating Fruit - this opened my eyes.
Dr Stephen Mak is a friend of mine at the BSF course. He told me he treats terminal ill cancer patients by "un-orthodox" way and many patients recovered. He explains to me before he is using solar energy to clear the illnesses of his patients. He believes on natural healing in the body against illnesses. See the article below.
Thanks for the email on fruits and juices. It is one of the strategies to heal cancer. As of late, my success rate in curing cancer is about 80%. Cancer patients shouldn't die. The cure for cancer is already found. It is whether you believe it or not? I am sorry for the hundreds of cancer patients who die under the conventional treatments.. Very few can live for 5 years under the convenctional treatments and most live for only about 2 to 3 years. The conventional treatments do not make any difference because most cancer patients also live for about 2 to 3 years without undergoing any treatment. It is difficult to cure those cancer patients who have undergone chemo and radiotherapy as their cells are toxic and weak. When there is a relapse, the cancer will spread very fast as the resistance is poor.
Thanks and God bless.
Dr Stephen Mak
EATING FRUIT...
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We all think eating fruits means just buying fruits, cutting it and just popping it into our mouths. It's not as easy as you think. It's important to know how and when to eat.
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What is the correct way of eating fruits?
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IT MEANS NOT EATING FRUITS AFTER YOUR MEALS! * FRUITS SHOULD BE EATEN ON AN EMPTY STOMACH.
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If you eat fruit like that, it will play a major role to detoxify your system, supplying you with a great deal of energy for weight loss and other life activities.
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FRUIT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT FOOD.Let's say you eat two slices of bread and then a slice of fruit. The slice of fruit is ready to go straight through the stomach into the intestines, but it is prevented from doing so.
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In the meantime the whole meal rots and ferments and turns to acid.. The minute the fruit comes into contact with the food in the stomach and digestive juices, the entire mass of food begins to spoil....
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So please eat your fruits on an empty stomach or before your meals! You have heard people complaining — every time I eat watermelon I burp, when I eat durian my stomach bloats up, when I eat a banana I feel like running to the toilet, etc — actually all this will not arise if you eat the fruit on an empty stomach. The fruit mixes with the putrifying other food and produces gas and hence you will bloat!
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Graying hair, balding, nervous outburst, and dark circles under the eyes all these will NOThappen if you take fruits on an empty stomach.
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There is no such thing as some fruits, like orange and lemon are acidic, because all fruits become alkaline in our body, according to Dr. Herbert Shelton who did research on this matter. If you have mastered the correct way of eating fruits, you have the Secret of beauty, longevity, health, energy, happiness and normal weight.
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When you need to drink fruit juice - drink only fresh fruit juice, NOT from the cans. Don't even drink juice that has been heated up. Don't eat cooked fruits because you don't get the nutrients at all. You only get to taste. Cooking destroys all the vitamins.
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But eating a whole fruit is better than drinking the juice.. If you should drink the juice, drink it mouthful by mouthful slowly, because you must let it mix with your saliva before swallowing it. You can go on a 3-day fruit fast to cleanse your body. Just eat fruits and drink fruit juice throughout the 3 days and you will be surprised when your friends tell you how radiant you look!
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KIWI: Tiny but mighty. This is a good source of potassium, magnesium, vitamin E & fiber. Its vitamin C content is twice that of an orange.
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APPLE: An apple a day keeps the doctor away? Although an apple has a low vitamin C content, it has antioxidants & flavonoids which enhances the activity of vitamin C thereby helping to lower the risks of colon cancer, heart attack & stroke.
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STRAWBERRY: Protective Fruit. Strawberries have the highest total antioxidant power among major fruits & protect the body from cancer-causing, blood vessel-clogging free radicals.
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ORANGE : Sweetest medicine. Taking 2-4 oranges a day may help keep colds away, lower cholesterol, prevent & dissolve kidney stones as well as lessens the risk of colon cancer.
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WATERMELON: Coolest thirst quencher. Composed of 92% water, it is also packed with a giant dose of glutathione, which helps boost our immune system. They are also a key source of lycopene — the cancer fighting oxidant. Other nutrients found in watermelon are vitamin C & Potassium.
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GUAVA & PAPAYA:Top awards for vitamin C. They are the clear winners for their high vitamin C content. Guava is also rich in fiber, which helps prevent constipation. Papaya is rich in carotene; this is good for your eyes.
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Drinking Cold water after a meal = Cancer! Can u believe this?? For those who like to drink cold water, this article is applicable to you. It is nice to have a cup of cold drink after a meal. However, the cold water will solidify the oily stuff that you have just consumed. It will slow down the digestion. Once this 'sludge' reacts with the acid, it will break down and be absorbed by the intestine faster than the solid food. It will line the intestine. Very soon, this will turn into fats and lead to cancer. It is best to drink hot soup or warm water after a meal.
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A serious note about heart attacks HEART ATTACK PROCEDURE': (THIS IS NOT A JOKE!) Women should know that not every heart attack symptom is going to be the left arm hurting. Be aware of intense pain in the jaw line. You may never have the first chest pain during the course of a heart attack. Nausea and intense sweating are also common symptoms. Sixty percent of people who have a heart attack while they are asleep do not wake up. Pain in the jaw can wake you from a sound sleep. Let's be careful and be aware. The more we know the better chance we could survive.
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A cardiologist says if everyone who gets this mail sends it to 10 people, you can be sure that we'll save at least one life.
Read this....It could save your life!!
Thanks for the email on fruits and juices. It is one of the strategies to heal cancer. As of late, my success rate in curing cancer is about 80%. Cancer patients shouldn't die. The cure for cancer is already found. It is whether you believe it or not? I am sorry for the hundreds of cancer patients who die under the conventional treatments.. Very few can live for 5 years under the convenctional treatments and most live for only about 2 to 3 years. The conventional treatments do not make any difference because most cancer patients also live for about 2 to 3 years without undergoing any treatment. It is difficult to cure those cancer patients who have undergone chemo and radiotherapy as their cells are toxic and weak. When there is a relapse, the cancer will spread very fast as the resistance is poor.
Thanks and God bless.
Dr Stephen Mak
EATING FRUIT...
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It's long but very informative
�
We all think eating fruits means just buying fruits, cutting it and just popping it into our mouths. It's not as easy as you think. It's important to know how and when to eat.
�
What is the correct way of eating fruits?
�
IT MEANS NOT EATING FRUITS AFTER YOUR MEALS! * FRUITS SHOULD BE EATEN ON AN EMPTY STOMACH.
�
If you eat fruit like that, it will play a major role to detoxify your system, supplying you with a great deal of energy for weight loss and other life activities.
�
FRUIT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT FOOD.Let's say you eat two slices of bread and then a slice of fruit. The slice of fruit is ready to go straight through the stomach into the intestines, but it is prevented from doing so.
�
In the meantime the whole meal rots and ferments and turns to acid.. The minute the fruit comes into contact with the food in the stomach and digestive juices, the entire mass of food begins to spoil....
�
So please eat your fruits on an empty stomach or before your meals! You have heard people complaining — every time I eat watermelon I burp, when I eat durian my stomach bloats up, when I eat a banana I feel like running to the toilet, etc — actually all this will not arise if you eat the fruit on an empty stomach. The fruit mixes with the putrifying other food and produces gas and hence you will bloat!
�
Graying hair, balding, nervous outburst, and dark circles under the eyes all these will NOThappen if you take fruits on an empty stomach.
�
There is no such thing as some fruits, like orange and lemon are acidic, because all fruits become alkaline in our body, according to Dr. Herbert Shelton who did research on this matter. If you have mastered the correct way of eating fruits, you have the Secret of beauty, longevity, health, energy, happiness and normal weight.
�
When you need to drink fruit juice - drink only fresh fruit juice, NOT from the cans. Don't even drink juice that has been heated up. Don't eat cooked fruits because you don't get the nutrients at all. You only get to taste. Cooking destroys all the vitamins.
�
But eating a whole fruit is better than drinking the juice.. If you should drink the juice, drink it mouthful by mouthful slowly, because you must let it mix with your saliva before swallowing it. You can go on a 3-day fruit fast to cleanse your body. Just eat fruits and drink fruit juice throughout the 3 days and you will be surprised when your friends tell you how radiant you look!
�
KIWI: Tiny but mighty. This is a good source of potassium, magnesium, vitamin E & fiber. Its vitamin C content is twice that of an orange.
�
APPLE: An apple a day keeps the doctor away? Although an apple has a low vitamin C content, it has antioxidants & flavonoids which enhances the activity of vitamin C thereby helping to lower the risks of colon cancer, heart attack & stroke.
�
STRAWBERRY: Protective Fruit. Strawberries have the highest total antioxidant power among major fruits & protect the body from cancer-causing, blood vessel-clogging free radicals.
�
ORANGE : Sweetest medicine. Taking 2-4 oranges a day may help keep colds away, lower cholesterol, prevent & dissolve kidney stones as well as lessens the risk of colon cancer.
�
WATERMELON: Coolest thirst quencher. Composed of 92% water, it is also packed with a giant dose of glutathione, which helps boost our immune system. They are also a key source of lycopene — the cancer fighting oxidant. Other nutrients found in watermelon are vitamin C & Potassium.
�
GUAVA & PAPAYA:Top awards for vitamin C. They are the clear winners for their high vitamin C content. Guava is also rich in fiber, which helps prevent constipation. Papaya is rich in carotene; this is good for your eyes.
�
Drinking Cold water after a meal = Cancer! Can u believe this?? For those who like to drink cold water, this article is applicable to you. It is nice to have a cup of cold drink after a meal. However, the cold water will solidify the oily stuff that you have just consumed. It will slow down the digestion. Once this 'sludge' reacts with the acid, it will break down and be absorbed by the intestine faster than the solid food. It will line the intestine. Very soon, this will turn into fats and lead to cancer. It is best to drink hot soup or warm water after a meal.
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7 magical conversational phrases
No one ever said date-night conversation was easy. Some of us tend to clam up; others of us yak non-stop due to nerves. But, with some insider advice, you can learn to focus your chit-chat in a way that will have your date seeing you at your very best. All you need are the right words — and no, we’re not talking about overused phrases like “You look great tonight.” The best conversational strategies are far less obvious, which only add to their power. Try floating a few of these key phrases and watch them work their magic.
Smart phrase #1: “Tell me more about it”
Congratulations, you two have graduated beyond small talk and have delved into a meatier topic — namely, a problem he or she’s struggling with at work or in some other area of life. You, in a sincere effort to be helpful, offer a solution. Suddenly, that bonding moment you two were carefully cultivating freezes over as your date icily says, “Well, it’s not that easy...” What happened? In short, you gave unsolicited advice, an all-too-common conversational faux pas — especially for men, who are often accused of trying to “fix” women’s problems. Both genders, however, should take care to hold their tongues at any point they’re tempted to offer a solution. Instead, encourage your date to keep talking by saying, “Tell me more about it.” Browse Local Singles at Match.com on Yahoo!
I am a: Man Woman Seeking a: Man Woman Near: We’re not saying you should never share your brilliant ideas with your dates; just be sure to give them space to vent for awhile. Then — and this is crucial — ask for their permission with, “Would you like my advice?” If you’ve given your date ample time to get things out in the open, he or she should be more than happy to listen.
Smart phrase #2: “What are the reasons for your opinion?”
Oh, no! Your date’s in favor of deepwater drilling. You, on the other hand, have marched in every petroleum-use protest within a hundred miles of your hometown. We’re not saying you two are doomed; in fact, butting heads a bit is a great way to get to know each other, not to mention make some sparks fly. So by all means, share your opinion — just do so after you’ve asked your date to speak first with a diplomatic, “What are the reasons for your opinion?” This, my friends, is the difference between an engaging conversation and an instant turn-off.
Smart phrase #3: “I never thought of it that way”
Want to make your date’s day? That’s simple: After explaining his or her viewpoint on anything from a current event to a celeb’s odd behavior, ponder the comment and say, “I never thought of it that way.” Saying this doesn’t mean you think your date is a genius, it merely shows that you’re being influenced by that person’s thoughts and opinions. And once someone senses that you respect other ideas than your own, the ensuing ego boost will keep that certain someone coming back for more. (Note: This comment works wonders when combined with smart phrase #2.)
Smart phrase #4: “That must have upset you”
One moment, the person sitting across from you is ranting non-stop about how her younger brother borrowed her car and totaled it while speeding. But the minute you try to jump on the bashing bandwagon by blurting, “Your brother sure sounds like a loose cannon!” or some such comment, your date suddenly makes an about-face and says, “Actually, my brother has his flaws but he is a great guy. I’m sure you weren’t perfect when you were 22, either.”
The real problem is, you took sides — and insulted someone your date cares for deeply, in spite of the occasional gripes he or she might have. Stay neutral and say something sympathetic like “That must have upset you,” or “I can understand how that would annoy you.” This way, you show compassion and empathy without hitting any landmines.
Smart phrase #5: “How did it go?”
Sooner or later, your date may mention an upcoming event that’s important, whether it’s a third job interview, a granddad’s triple-bypass operation, or a best friend’s wedding. Take note when you hear these tidbits, since they will turn into prime opportunities to show your date you were listening later with a “So how did that interview/surgery/wedding go?” While it may seem obvious to follow up on occurrences like this, they are easy to forget, especially if they’re not of life-and-death magnitude. Or, your date may soon squander your chance by volunteering the information with a “So my interview went well...” Bottom line: Dates do like to be asked about things they’ve mentioned to you already — make a point of ponying up as soon as you see each other and your date will think, “Wow, how thoughtful.”
Smart phrase #6: “You are a really generous person”
Many people, especially men, are quick with the compliments: “You have the most gorgeous eyes,” “You look beautiful in that dress.” Your date will love it, at first. But then the compliments wear off and so does the reciprocal interest in you. What’s going on? The problem is, you’re focused on superficial qualities when people often prefer to be recognized for who they are on the inside. One’s personality, warmth, generosity, compassion — these things are desirable virtues. So try complimenting an internal quality. Say something like, “It was so thoughtful of you to ______ (for example, “go out of your way to meet me here”), or “You are a ______ (fill in with “caring” “honest,” etc…) person. I really like that about you.”
Smart phrase #7: “I really admire that”
Everyone loves to be admired and loves to be around people who admire them. So, look for opportunities to make your date feel proud. If your date shares a story about taking a risk, switching jobs and ending up in a better position, say something like, “That takes courage. I admire that.” If your date tells you a story about how he or she got a friend out of a bind, say “I admire that kind of loyalty.” How do you know your comments are winning your date over? You’ll see an instant smile.
Smart phrase #1: “Tell me more about it”
Congratulations, you two have graduated beyond small talk and have delved into a meatier topic — namely, a problem he or she’s struggling with at work or in some other area of life. You, in a sincere effort to be helpful, offer a solution. Suddenly, that bonding moment you two were carefully cultivating freezes over as your date icily says, “Well, it’s not that easy...” What happened? In short, you gave unsolicited advice, an all-too-common conversational faux pas — especially for men, who are often accused of trying to “fix” women’s problems. Both genders, however, should take care to hold their tongues at any point they’re tempted to offer a solution. Instead, encourage your date to keep talking by saying, “Tell me more about it.” Browse Local Singles at Match.com on Yahoo!
I am a: Man Woman Seeking a: Man Woman Near: We’re not saying you should never share your brilliant ideas with your dates; just be sure to give them space to vent for awhile. Then — and this is crucial — ask for their permission with, “Would you like my advice?” If you’ve given your date ample time to get things out in the open, he or she should be more than happy to listen.
Smart phrase #2: “What are the reasons for your opinion?”
Oh, no! Your date’s in favor of deepwater drilling. You, on the other hand, have marched in every petroleum-use protest within a hundred miles of your hometown. We’re not saying you two are doomed; in fact, butting heads a bit is a great way to get to know each other, not to mention make some sparks fly. So by all means, share your opinion — just do so after you’ve asked your date to speak first with a diplomatic, “What are the reasons for your opinion?” This, my friends, is the difference between an engaging conversation and an instant turn-off.
Smart phrase #3: “I never thought of it that way”
Want to make your date’s day? That’s simple: After explaining his or her viewpoint on anything from a current event to a celeb’s odd behavior, ponder the comment and say, “I never thought of it that way.” Saying this doesn’t mean you think your date is a genius, it merely shows that you’re being influenced by that person’s thoughts and opinions. And once someone senses that you respect other ideas than your own, the ensuing ego boost will keep that certain someone coming back for more. (Note: This comment works wonders when combined with smart phrase #2.)
Smart phrase #4: “That must have upset you”
One moment, the person sitting across from you is ranting non-stop about how her younger brother borrowed her car and totaled it while speeding. But the minute you try to jump on the bashing bandwagon by blurting, “Your brother sure sounds like a loose cannon!” or some such comment, your date suddenly makes an about-face and says, “Actually, my brother has his flaws but he is a great guy. I’m sure you weren’t perfect when you were 22, either.”
The real problem is, you took sides — and insulted someone your date cares for deeply, in spite of the occasional gripes he or she might have. Stay neutral and say something sympathetic like “That must have upset you,” or “I can understand how that would annoy you.” This way, you show compassion and empathy without hitting any landmines.
Smart phrase #5: “How did it go?”
Sooner or later, your date may mention an upcoming event that’s important, whether it’s a third job interview, a granddad’s triple-bypass operation, or a best friend’s wedding. Take note when you hear these tidbits, since they will turn into prime opportunities to show your date you were listening later with a “So how did that interview/surgery/wedding go?” While it may seem obvious to follow up on occurrences like this, they are easy to forget, especially if they’re not of life-and-death magnitude. Or, your date may soon squander your chance by volunteering the information with a “So my interview went well...” Bottom line: Dates do like to be asked about things they’ve mentioned to you already — make a point of ponying up as soon as you see each other and your date will think, “Wow, how thoughtful.”
Smart phrase #6: “You are a really generous person”
Many people, especially men, are quick with the compliments: “You have the most gorgeous eyes,” “You look beautiful in that dress.” Your date will love it, at first. But then the compliments wear off and so does the reciprocal interest in you. What’s going on? The problem is, you’re focused on superficial qualities when people often prefer to be recognized for who they are on the inside. One’s personality, warmth, generosity, compassion — these things are desirable virtues. So try complimenting an internal quality. Say something like, “It was so thoughtful of you to ______ (for example, “go out of your way to meet me here”), or “You are a ______ (fill in with “caring” “honest,” etc…) person. I really like that about you.”
Smart phrase #7: “I really admire that”
Everyone loves to be admired and loves to be around people who admire them. So, look for opportunities to make your date feel proud. If your date shares a story about taking a risk, switching jobs and ending up in a better position, say something like, “That takes courage. I admire that.” If your date tells you a story about how he or she got a friend out of a bind, say “I admire that kind of loyalty.” How do you know your comments are winning your date over? You’ll see an instant smile.
Friday, July 23, 2010
More hang-ups than hits in smartphone market
If we are buying so many smartphones these days, why is the phone industry smarting so much?
Just after the mid-point of 2010, a year marked by the re-emergence of Motorola and design savvy of HTC, we are witnessing notable hardware departures from Microsoft and, gasp, Google. Even Apple, which continues to set the smartphone pace, is licking its wounds from the enormous amount of unfavorable press surrounding the iPhone 4's faulty antenna design.
So while so much has gone right in smartphone development -- sales are expected to continue to rise rapidly -- there is much carnage in the marketplace.
Five failed signals
-- After only a few months on the market and backed by a significant marketing campaign, Microsoft pulled the largely well-reviewed Kin 1 and Kin 2 from the market.
-- Last week, Google said it will stop selling the Nexus One phone, the search giant's much-hyped foray into hardware development.
-- We almost said goodbye to the Palm product line-up until HP came in with a $1 billion lifeline to salvage that platform.
-- BlackBerry sales continue to slide as its once must-have phones are failing to keep pace with fresh approaches from Apple and Android.
-- Nokia (NOK), the world's leading mobile phone maker, is a non-factor in the smartphone race. Its much-heralded new product, the N8, is delayed.
-- Apple, of course, needed to put a band aid on the black eye that surrounds the iPhone 4.
Interestingly, there's a common denominator among these failures and hiccups. The products -- save for the missing Nokia N8 -- are innovative.
Verizon the problem for Microsoft
Microsoft's two Kin models were intended as social networking phones for teens and 20-somethings. Inspired by the success of the similar T-Mobile Sidekick, Microsoft was not wrong in its approach or execution. Indeed, the phone got raves from top reviewers like the New York Times David Pogue, who wrote that "Microsoft had three genuinely great ideas" with the Kin.
So what went wrong? Well, changing Microsoft's perception into a hip and interesting company is not easy. More significantly, Microsoft picked the wrong wireless partner, Verizon. The nation's top carrier did a lousy job of marketing the Kin phones for Microsoft, instead pushing customers toward smartphones such as the original Motorola Droid, which Verizon heavily markets. After the Kin was pulled, Microsoft employees who secretly shopped Verizon for smartphones reported that Verizon salespeople rarely mentioned the Kin as a worthy product.
If Microsoft had gone with T-Mobile, with its reputation as a hip carrier for younger people due to the Sidekick's success, the story might have been different. At least it would have lasted longer.
Google still gains from Nexus One
The Nexus One drop, on the other hand, was not surprising. The fact that Google launched its own phone in the first place was more unforeseen. Regardless, tech-savvy consumers and media pundits put heavy (and, in retrospect, unwarranted) expectations on an Android-based phone that competed against more established Android phones from Motorola, HTC and other manufacturers.
Now it's clear that Google launched the Nexus One as a loss-leader of sorts, using it as a showcase for Android at a time when few other phone makers were stretching the capabilities of the mobile operating system. But Google didn't really stretch those boundaries with the Nexus One either; rather, it hoped by slapping the Google name on a phone it would serve as a marketing tool for Android. That was the real plan, and it worked.
So when HTC and Motorola came out with great Android phones like the Evo, Incredible, and Droid X, Google quietly pulled the plug on the Nexus One.
Google vs. Apple is the real story
Of course, the reason for the troubles surrounding many phone makers and platforms is the battle between Apple and Google.
Apple has captured our imagination in what smartphones can do, something the traditional phone makers had not expressed as well prior to the iPhone's launch three years ago.
Sure, the BlackBerry (RIMM) sold very well and there was traction among Windows-based smartphones, but the iPhone was a unique product -- not just a portable computer and not just an email device -- that allowed for business and social activities to blend on the go. Apple's success pushed Google into the mobile market, but the Nexus One illustrated that Google is a great software company but not a hardware firm. Hence, Google will continue to make deals with phone makers who can innovate -- again, look at HTC and Motorola -- within that framework.
The future for BlackBerry, Nokia and Palm
It is widely believed that Research in Motion, the maker of the BlackBerry phones, will introduce another touchscreen phone this fall. Also, and more significantly, RIM should unveil a new operating system better suited for touch-screen products and partnerships with third-party app developers. With sales slipping, RIM is dangerously close to losing its grip on business customers -- its bread-and-butter clientele -- as the iPhone and Android products have proven to be attractive for road warriors.
Nokia's problems are more complex. In the wake of Apple's success, Nokia launched its own version of the App Store -- called Ovi -- and encouraged developers to create apps. But the approach hasn't worked well, particularly in the U.S., in large part because there are no compelling Nokia smartphones to lure customers.
As a result, Nokia faces two significant problems.
First, it needs a cool product. The phone maker once led with innovations like the N95, a fantastic media phone that was among the first to shoot high-quality video and take sharp pictures. I loved that phone. But that was launched at about the same time as the original iPhone in 2007, and was Nokia's last great phone. A promising successor, the N8, offers cool features like a 12-megapixel camera and HD-quality video recording, but the launch has been delayed from the spring and it could arrive in October. The N8's problem: Vlad Savov wrote in a June Engadget preview that "Nokia has put together a growling multimedia powerhouse, but the OS is so far from being fully baked we can still see the dough."
Thus, Nokia's second problem: leadership. According to a Tuesday Wall Street Journal story, Nokia is searching for a new CEO because its sales and stock price continue to fall. Also, it is looking at scrapping the Symbian platform for smartphones and is instead developing a new platform with Intel Corp., called MeeGo, to run its smartphones.
And then there is Palm, a story that will be developing for some time. The Palm Pre and Palm Pre Plus are well-regarded products, yet consumers are not buying. But instead of going out of business -- a very real possibility -- Palm was purchased by HP for about $1 billion. That's a pricey number, but it gives HP (HPQ) a potentially sexy product in a smartphone market it has had trouble with (who owns an iPaq?) and Palm a realistic shot at staying in the game.
Hopefully, the purchase will work out better for HP than Microsoft's and Google's recent forays into the smartphone space. Otherwise, expect more carnage in a market that, as it grows, eats its competition.
Just after the mid-point of 2010, a year marked by the re-emergence of Motorola and design savvy of HTC, we are witnessing notable hardware departures from Microsoft and, gasp, Google. Even Apple, which continues to set the smartphone pace, is licking its wounds from the enormous amount of unfavorable press surrounding the iPhone 4's faulty antenna design.
So while so much has gone right in smartphone development -- sales are expected to continue to rise rapidly -- there is much carnage in the marketplace.
Five failed signals
-- After only a few months on the market and backed by a significant marketing campaign, Microsoft pulled the largely well-reviewed Kin 1 and Kin 2 from the market.
-- Last week, Google said it will stop selling the Nexus One phone, the search giant's much-hyped foray into hardware development.
-- We almost said goodbye to the Palm product line-up until HP came in with a $1 billion lifeline to salvage that platform.
-- BlackBerry sales continue to slide as its once must-have phones are failing to keep pace with fresh approaches from Apple and Android.
-- Nokia (NOK), the world's leading mobile phone maker, is a non-factor in the smartphone race. Its much-heralded new product, the N8, is delayed.
-- Apple, of course, needed to put a band aid on the black eye that surrounds the iPhone 4.
Interestingly, there's a common denominator among these failures and hiccups. The products -- save for the missing Nokia N8 -- are innovative.
Verizon the problem for Microsoft
Microsoft's two Kin models were intended as social networking phones for teens and 20-somethings. Inspired by the success of the similar T-Mobile Sidekick, Microsoft was not wrong in its approach or execution. Indeed, the phone got raves from top reviewers like the New York Times David Pogue, who wrote that "Microsoft had three genuinely great ideas" with the Kin.
So what went wrong? Well, changing Microsoft's perception into a hip and interesting company is not easy. More significantly, Microsoft picked the wrong wireless partner, Verizon. The nation's top carrier did a lousy job of marketing the Kin phones for Microsoft, instead pushing customers toward smartphones such as the original Motorola Droid, which Verizon heavily markets. After the Kin was pulled, Microsoft employees who secretly shopped Verizon for smartphones reported that Verizon salespeople rarely mentioned the Kin as a worthy product.
If Microsoft had gone with T-Mobile, with its reputation as a hip carrier for younger people due to the Sidekick's success, the story might have been different. At least it would have lasted longer.
Google still gains from Nexus One
The Nexus One drop, on the other hand, was not surprising. The fact that Google launched its own phone in the first place was more unforeseen. Regardless, tech-savvy consumers and media pundits put heavy (and, in retrospect, unwarranted) expectations on an Android-based phone that competed against more established Android phones from Motorola, HTC and other manufacturers.
Now it's clear that Google launched the Nexus One as a loss-leader of sorts, using it as a showcase for Android at a time when few other phone makers were stretching the capabilities of the mobile operating system. But Google didn't really stretch those boundaries with the Nexus One either; rather, it hoped by slapping the Google name on a phone it would serve as a marketing tool for Android. That was the real plan, and it worked.
So when HTC and Motorola came out with great Android phones like the Evo, Incredible, and Droid X, Google quietly pulled the plug on the Nexus One.
Google vs. Apple is the real story
Of course, the reason for the troubles surrounding many phone makers and platforms is the battle between Apple and Google.
Apple has captured our imagination in what smartphones can do, something the traditional phone makers had not expressed as well prior to the iPhone's launch three years ago.
Sure, the BlackBerry (RIMM) sold very well and there was traction among Windows-based smartphones, but the iPhone was a unique product -- not just a portable computer and not just an email device -- that allowed for business and social activities to blend on the go. Apple's success pushed Google into the mobile market, but the Nexus One illustrated that Google is a great software company but not a hardware firm. Hence, Google will continue to make deals with phone makers who can innovate -- again, look at HTC and Motorola -- within that framework.
The future for BlackBerry, Nokia and Palm
It is widely believed that Research in Motion, the maker of the BlackBerry phones, will introduce another touchscreen phone this fall. Also, and more significantly, RIM should unveil a new operating system better suited for touch-screen products and partnerships with third-party app developers. With sales slipping, RIM is dangerously close to losing its grip on business customers -- its bread-and-butter clientele -- as the iPhone and Android products have proven to be attractive for road warriors.
Nokia's problems are more complex. In the wake of Apple's success, Nokia launched its own version of the App Store -- called Ovi -- and encouraged developers to create apps. But the approach hasn't worked well, particularly in the U.S., in large part because there are no compelling Nokia smartphones to lure customers.
As a result, Nokia faces two significant problems.
First, it needs a cool product. The phone maker once led with innovations like the N95, a fantastic media phone that was among the first to shoot high-quality video and take sharp pictures. I loved that phone. But that was launched at about the same time as the original iPhone in 2007, and was Nokia's last great phone. A promising successor, the N8, offers cool features like a 12-megapixel camera and HD-quality video recording, but the launch has been delayed from the spring and it could arrive in October. The N8's problem: Vlad Savov wrote in a June Engadget preview that "Nokia has put together a growling multimedia powerhouse, but the OS is so far from being fully baked we can still see the dough."
Thus, Nokia's second problem: leadership. According to a Tuesday Wall Street Journal story, Nokia is searching for a new CEO because its sales and stock price continue to fall. Also, it is looking at scrapping the Symbian platform for smartphones and is instead developing a new platform with Intel Corp., called MeeGo, to run its smartphones.
And then there is Palm, a story that will be developing for some time. The Palm Pre and Palm Pre Plus are well-regarded products, yet consumers are not buying. But instead of going out of business -- a very real possibility -- Palm was purchased by HP for about $1 billion. That's a pricey number, but it gives HP (HPQ) a potentially sexy product in a smartphone market it has had trouble with (who owns an iPaq?) and Palm a realistic shot at staying in the game.
Hopefully, the purchase will work out better for HP than Microsoft's and Google's recent forays into the smartphone space. Otherwise, expect more carnage in a market that, as it grows, eats its competition.
Galaxy Phones From Samsung Are Worthy iPhone Rivals
The war of the super-smartphones continues to heat up, and, at the moment, most of the combat seems to be between Apple's iPhone and the multiplying array of competitors running Google's Android (NASDAQ: GOOG - News) operating system.
Despite the weak economy, consumers seem to crave these hand-held computers, which typically cost around $200. Apple this week said it can't make enough of its new iPhone 4 models to meet strong demand. HTC, the Taiwanese-based manufacturer behind many of the better-known Android phones, also is struggling to meet demand for models like the Droid Incredible on Verizon and the Evo 4G on Sprint.
Now, the Korean electronics giant, Samsung, has begun rolling out an impressive new line of iPhone competitors that run on Android. These new super-smartphones are called the Galaxy S Series, and Samsung has managed to get all four top U.S. wireless carriers to agree to start selling them this summer. They share most of the same guts, but carry different model names and exterior designs.
I've been testing the first two Galaxy S phones, the T-Mobile Vibrant and the AT&T Captivate (NYSE: T - News), both of which cost $200 with a two-year contract. Neither has all the features of Apple's latest model, like a front-facing camera for video calls or an ultra-high resolution screen, but they are worthy competitors. They have some attributes the iPhone lacks, like bigger screens and better integration of social networking.
The T-Mobile Vibrant has rounded corners and a prominent border that make it look very much like last year's iPhone 3GS model. The AT&T Captivate is more angular and, to my taste, looks sleeker. Though the two phones share the same battery, the Vibrant claims better battery life. The Vibrant is longer but a bit lighter.
Both phones are multi-touch models which lack physical keyboards, though the upcoming Sprint version, the Epic, will have a slide-out physical keyboard and a front-facing camera.
For Android phone makers, a key challenge is to differentiate their models from others offering the same operating system. Samsung has chosen to do so by combining a design that's almost as thin as the iPhone 4 with a generous, four-inch screen. That's significantly bigger than the iPhone's 3.5-inch display, but smaller than the huge 4.3-inch screen on the Evo and the new Motorola Droid X (NYSE: MOT - News), which would force the phones to be larger.
In my tests, phone calls on both models were crisp and clear. Reception on the AT&T model was about the same as on the iPhone 4, which only works on AT&T. The five-megapixel camera took sharp pictures. The camera also did a fine job with video, which is high definition. Battery life was good, though not exceptional. The phones lasted through an average day of varied use.
The screen on the Galaxy S is based on a different technology than those on most other smartphones. It's called Super AMOLED, and Samsung claims it has better color reproduction, contrast, outdoor visibility and brightness. To my eye, the Galaxy S screens did look very good, but seemed no better, indoors or outdoors, than the iPhone 4's screen and were slightly less sharp.
Samsung has also added some of its own touches to Android. Users can add Samsung "widgets," such as a Buddies Now module that quickly allows access to your closest contacts. There's also something called the Social Hub, which integrates social-networking updates and media with contact entries. This is a common feature on Android and Palm phones, but isn't present on the iPhone.
While it's improving rapidly, Android still isn't quite as smooth as the iPhone's software, and on some Android models I've tested, it can slow down or have a jerky quality. Not so on these Samsung models. Performance in every function I tested was snappy.
Another nice touch on the Samsung models is a generous amount of internal memory -- 16 gigabytes -- in addition to the common removable memory card, which in this case holds two gigabytes but can be replaced at extra cost with a roomier card.
Also, Samsung says the new phones can hold up to two gigabytes of third-party apps, the most I've seen on an Android phone, which, unlike the iPhone, places limits on total app storage.
Like other Android phones, the two Samsung models offer around 65,000 third-party apps, including popular titles like the Kindle e-book reader and Facebook. That's far fewer than the iPhone's 225,000 available apps, but well above the measly 7,000 or so apps available for the BlackBerry.
There are some drawbacks. Like other Android phones, the Galaxy S models don't come with a program like iTunes, which allows easy synchronization with content on a PC or Mac. You can plug the phones into a computer for manual transfer of files, but this only works smoothly on Windows PCs. On Macs, you must turn on something called "USB debugging" to make this work.
I also wasn't crazy about the home, search and other buttons on these phones, which are found on a panel below the screen but not easily visible until you touch the panel and light the buttons up. That, in effect, means you have to touch twice to use them.
Still, for consumers who prefer Android, or who -- in the case of the Vibrant and the coming Sprint and Verizon versions -- would rather not be on AT&T, the Galaxy S phones present an appealing alternative to the iPhone.
Despite the weak economy, consumers seem to crave these hand-held computers, which typically cost around $200. Apple this week said it can't make enough of its new iPhone 4 models to meet strong demand. HTC, the Taiwanese-based manufacturer behind many of the better-known Android phones, also is struggling to meet demand for models like the Droid Incredible on Verizon and the Evo 4G on Sprint.
Now, the Korean electronics giant, Samsung, has begun rolling out an impressive new line of iPhone competitors that run on Android. These new super-smartphones are called the Galaxy S Series, and Samsung has managed to get all four top U.S. wireless carriers to agree to start selling them this summer. They share most of the same guts, but carry different model names and exterior designs.
I've been testing the first two Galaxy S phones, the T-Mobile Vibrant and the AT&T Captivate (NYSE: T - News), both of which cost $200 with a two-year contract. Neither has all the features of Apple's latest model, like a front-facing camera for video calls or an ultra-high resolution screen, but they are worthy competitors. They have some attributes the iPhone lacks, like bigger screens and better integration of social networking.
The T-Mobile Vibrant has rounded corners and a prominent border that make it look very much like last year's iPhone 3GS model. The AT&T Captivate is more angular and, to my taste, looks sleeker. Though the two phones share the same battery, the Vibrant claims better battery life. The Vibrant is longer but a bit lighter.
Both phones are multi-touch models which lack physical keyboards, though the upcoming Sprint version, the Epic, will have a slide-out physical keyboard and a front-facing camera.
For Android phone makers, a key challenge is to differentiate their models from others offering the same operating system. Samsung has chosen to do so by combining a design that's almost as thin as the iPhone 4 with a generous, four-inch screen. That's significantly bigger than the iPhone's 3.5-inch display, but smaller than the huge 4.3-inch screen on the Evo and the new Motorola Droid X (NYSE: MOT - News), which would force the phones to be larger.
In my tests, phone calls on both models were crisp and clear. Reception on the AT&T model was about the same as on the iPhone 4, which only works on AT&T. The five-megapixel camera took sharp pictures. The camera also did a fine job with video, which is high definition. Battery life was good, though not exceptional. The phones lasted through an average day of varied use.
The screen on the Galaxy S is based on a different technology than those on most other smartphones. It's called Super AMOLED, and Samsung claims it has better color reproduction, contrast, outdoor visibility and brightness. To my eye, the Galaxy S screens did look very good, but seemed no better, indoors or outdoors, than the iPhone 4's screen and were slightly less sharp.
Samsung has also added some of its own touches to Android. Users can add Samsung "widgets," such as a Buddies Now module that quickly allows access to your closest contacts. There's also something called the Social Hub, which integrates social-networking updates and media with contact entries. This is a common feature on Android and Palm phones, but isn't present on the iPhone.
While it's improving rapidly, Android still isn't quite as smooth as the iPhone's software, and on some Android models I've tested, it can slow down or have a jerky quality. Not so on these Samsung models. Performance in every function I tested was snappy.
Another nice touch on the Samsung models is a generous amount of internal memory -- 16 gigabytes -- in addition to the common removable memory card, which in this case holds two gigabytes but can be replaced at extra cost with a roomier card.
Also, Samsung says the new phones can hold up to two gigabytes of third-party apps, the most I've seen on an Android phone, which, unlike the iPhone, places limits on total app storage.
Like other Android phones, the two Samsung models offer around 65,000 third-party apps, including popular titles like the Kindle e-book reader and Facebook. That's far fewer than the iPhone's 225,000 available apps, but well above the measly 7,000 or so apps available for the BlackBerry.
There are some drawbacks. Like other Android phones, the Galaxy S models don't come with a program like iTunes, which allows easy synchronization with content on a PC or Mac. You can plug the phones into a computer for manual transfer of files, but this only works smoothly on Windows PCs. On Macs, you must turn on something called "USB debugging" to make this work.
I also wasn't crazy about the home, search and other buttons on these phones, which are found on a panel below the screen but not easily visible until you touch the panel and light the buttons up. That, in effect, means you have to touch twice to use them.
Still, for consumers who prefer Android, or who -- in the case of the Vibrant and the coming Sprint and Verizon versions -- would rather not be on AT&T, the Galaxy S phones present an appealing alternative to the iPhone.
投资超经典语录
股票价格距真正的价值很远，这就创造了赚钱的良机。 （索罗斯）
凡事总有盛极而衰的时候，大好之后便是大坏。重要的是认清趋势转变不可避免。要点在于找出转折点。（索罗斯)
买其所值，卖其疯狂。（罗杰斯)
以近期的眼光看，股市是一个投票箱；以长远的眼光看，股市是一个天平。（本杰明·格雷厄姆)
何为玩世不恭者？此乃知晓每一物品之价格而不通晓其价值者也。 （奥斯卡·王尔德）
投资成功的关键——耐力胜过头脑。
不论你使用什么方法选股或挑选股票投资基金，最终的成功与否取决于一种能力，即不理睬环境的压力而坚持到投资成功的能力；决定选股人命运的不是头脑而是耐力。敏感的投资者，不管他多么的聪明，往往经受不住命运不经意的打击，而被赶出市场。（彼得·林奇）
投资人总是习惯性地厌恶对他们最有利的市场，而对那些不易获利的市场却情有独钟，而且极有兴趣。在潜在意识中，投资人很不喜欢拥有那些股价下跌的股票，却对那些一路上涨的股票非常着迷。高价买进低价卖出当然赚不到钱。（巴菲特）
当我和查尔斯买下一种股票时，我们头脑中既没有考虑到出手的时间也没有考虑过出手的价位。 （巴菲特）
市场也经常处于不定状态，投资者如果能对明显的事物打个折扣，而把赌注放在别人意想不到的事物上，则必将获得大利。 （罗杰斯）
股票价格低于实质价值，此种股票即存有“安全边际”，建议投资人将精力用于辨认价格被低估的股票，而不管整个大盘的表现。（本杰明·格雷厄姆）
从不购买价格并不明显低于公司价值的股票。（巴菲特）
在其他人都下了投资的地方去投资，你是不会发财的。如果你没有持有一种股票１０年的准备，那么连十分钟都不要持有这种股票。 （巴菲特）
市场投机者试图对股价的短期波动进行预测，希望获取快速的利润。极少有人能以这种方式赚钱。实际上，任何人如果能够连续地预测市场，他或她的名字早就列入世界首富排行榜，排在亿万富翁华伦·巴菲特和比尔·盖茨之上。 （彼得·林奇）
不能承受股价下跌５０％的人就不应该炒股。（巴菲特）
切记，只是为保本，你的投资必须产出相等于通货膨胀的收益率。（伯顿·马尔基尔）
进行投资是种乐趣，以你的才智与广大投资群体抗争，并发现它们正以高于你工资的增长率递增是件令人兴奋的事，而学习在金融投资形式中出现的产品、服务和创新的新的概念也是件够刺激振奋人的事情。一个成功的投资者通常是个考虑周全的人，能用天生的好奇和有理智的兴趣进行工作以赚取更多钱财。 （伯顿·马尔基尔）
当股票价格跌得很低时，即使认为是投机的证券也具备了投资的性质，因为用他们的话说，你支付的价格，已经可以为你提供巨大的安全余地。（罗杰·Ｆ·默里）
当原本不关注股市的人纷纷大谈股票并跃跃欲试时，股市必跌；当多数人都对股市不抱希望且怨声载道时，就是进场的大好时机。
我从事投资的时候，主要观察一家公司的全貌，而大多数的投资人只盯着它的股价。
投资人总想要买进太多的股票，却不愿意耐心等待一家真正值得投资的好公司。每天抢进抢出不是聪明方法，……近乎忘情地按兵不动，正是我们一贯的投资风格。
当一些大企业暂时出现危机或股市下跌，出现有利可图的交易价格时，应该毫不犹豫买进它们的股票.（巴菲特）
１．挖掘潜藏的优绩股，并长期抱牢；
２．一定要充实自己，不要让证券专家和报纸的夸大不实宣传影响自己的决定；
３．市场操作，不要贪心太重，始终以自有资金行动。
（是川派投资乌龟三原则）
关键是你自己，不断奋斗，你会成为一种人；停下来，你也会成为一种人，但绝不会是同一种人。（罗伯特·清崎）
如果你想变富，你需要“思考”，独立思考而不是盲从他人。我认为，富人最大的一项资产就是他们的思考方式与别人不同。（罗伯特·清崎）
要想做一个成功的投资者或者企业主，你必须在情感上对赚钱和赔钱漠不关心，赚钱和赔钱只是游戏的一个部分。（罗伯特·清崎）
作为一项确定的规则，股票价格不应高于其增长率，即每年收益增长的比率。即使成长最快的企业也很难超过２５％的增长率，４０％更是寥若晨星，这样的高速增长难以持久；增长过快等于自毁长城。（彼得·林奇）
我的赚钱公式是：第一，购置赢利性资产；第二，没钱时，不要动用投资和积蓄，压力会使你找到赚钱的新方法，帮你还清账单，这是个好习惯。（罗伯特·清崎）
我小的时候，一直学的是如何投资，而大部分人去上学，学的是毕业以后怎么找到好的工作。我可以很敏锐发现很多投资项目，可能有很多人却视而不见。在中国可能很多人都意识到应该去投资，但是，他们在思想上还没有做好充分的准备。其实，在美国也是一样，有９５％的人不容易发现一些投资项目，大多数美国人都在做着有高薪收入的工作，但是我的“富爸爸”告诉我说，高薪并不能够使你致富。只是有好的工作，有好的收入，并不能代表就有财富。如果你想致富，必须使你具有投资者的思维模式，而不是工作雇员的思维模式。
首先，得让钱来为你工作，而不是你去为金钱工作。第二，你必须能够读懂财务报表。但是即使在美国也有９５％的人看不懂财务报表，也分不清什么是资产，什么是负债。如果你想致富的话，必须能够读懂金钱的语言。就像你如果从事计算机的工作，必须能够懂得计算机语言。 （罗伯特·清崎）
把金钱和债务游戏看成是愚弄你，愚弄我，愚弄任何人的游戏，企业与企业，国家与国家都在进行这种游戏，但这仅仅是游戏而已。问题是，对大多数人而言，金钱不是游戏，而是生存……甚至是生活本身。可悲的是，因为没有人向他们解释这种游戏，所以他们仍旧在相信银行家的话：房子是一项资产。（罗伯特·清崎）
凡事总有盛极而衰的时候，大好之后便是大坏。重要的是认清趋势转变不可避免。要点在于找出转折点。（索罗斯)
买其所值，卖其疯狂。（罗杰斯)
以近期的眼光看，股市是一个投票箱；以长远的眼光看，股市是一个天平。（本杰明·格雷厄姆)
何为玩世不恭者？此乃知晓每一物品之价格而不通晓其价值者也。 （奥斯卡·王尔德）
投资成功的关键——耐力胜过头脑。
不论你使用什么方法选股或挑选股票投资基金，最终的成功与否取决于一种能力，即不理睬环境的压力而坚持到投资成功的能力；决定选股人命运的不是头脑而是耐力。敏感的投资者，不管他多么的聪明，往往经受不住命运不经意的打击，而被赶出市场。（彼得·林奇）
投资人总是习惯性地厌恶对他们最有利的市场，而对那些不易获利的市场却情有独钟，而且极有兴趣。在潜在意识中，投资人很不喜欢拥有那些股价下跌的股票，却对那些一路上涨的股票非常着迷。高价买进低价卖出当然赚不到钱。（巴菲特）
当我和查尔斯买下一种股票时，我们头脑中既没有考虑到出手的时间也没有考虑过出手的价位。 （巴菲特）
市场也经常处于不定状态，投资者如果能对明显的事物打个折扣，而把赌注放在别人意想不到的事物上，则必将获得大利。 （罗杰斯）
股票价格低于实质价值，此种股票即存有“安全边际”，建议投资人将精力用于辨认价格被低估的股票，而不管整个大盘的表现。（本杰明·格雷厄姆）
从不购买价格并不明显低于公司价值的股票。（巴菲特）
在其他人都下了投资的地方去投资，你是不会发财的。如果你没有持有一种股票１０年的准备，那么连十分钟都不要持有这种股票。 （巴菲特）
市场投机者试图对股价的短期波动进行预测，希望获取快速的利润。极少有人能以这种方式赚钱。实际上，任何人如果能够连续地预测市场，他或她的名字早就列入世界首富排行榜，排在亿万富翁华伦·巴菲特和比尔·盖茨之上。 （彼得·林奇）
不能承受股价下跌５０％的人就不应该炒股。（巴菲特）
切记，只是为保本，你的投资必须产出相等于通货膨胀的收益率。（伯顿·马尔基尔）
进行投资是种乐趣，以你的才智与广大投资群体抗争，并发现它们正以高于你工资的增长率递增是件令人兴奋的事，而学习在金融投资形式中出现的产品、服务和创新的新的概念也是件够刺激振奋人的事情。一个成功的投资者通常是个考虑周全的人，能用天生的好奇和有理智的兴趣进行工作以赚取更多钱财。 （伯顿·马尔基尔）
当股票价格跌得很低时，即使认为是投机的证券也具备了投资的性质，因为用他们的话说，你支付的价格，已经可以为你提供巨大的安全余地。（罗杰·Ｆ·默里）
当原本不关注股市的人纷纷大谈股票并跃跃欲试时，股市必跌；当多数人都对股市不抱希望且怨声载道时，就是进场的大好时机。
我从事投资的时候，主要观察一家公司的全貌，而大多数的投资人只盯着它的股价。
投资人总想要买进太多的股票，却不愿意耐心等待一家真正值得投资的好公司。每天抢进抢出不是聪明方法，……近乎忘情地按兵不动，正是我们一贯的投资风格。
当一些大企业暂时出现危机或股市下跌，出现有利可图的交易价格时，应该毫不犹豫买进它们的股票.（巴菲特）
１．挖掘潜藏的优绩股，并长期抱牢；
２．一定要充实自己，不要让证券专家和报纸的夸大不实宣传影响自己的决定；
３．市场操作，不要贪心太重，始终以自有资金行动。
（是川派投资乌龟三原则）
关键是你自己，不断奋斗，你会成为一种人；停下来，你也会成为一种人，但绝不会是同一种人。（罗伯特·清崎）
如果你想变富，你需要“思考”，独立思考而不是盲从他人。我认为，富人最大的一项资产就是他们的思考方式与别人不同。（罗伯特·清崎）
要想做一个成功的投资者或者企业主，你必须在情感上对赚钱和赔钱漠不关心，赚钱和赔钱只是游戏的一个部分。（罗伯特·清崎）
作为一项确定的规则，股票价格不应高于其增长率，即每年收益增长的比率。即使成长最快的企业也很难超过２５％的增长率，４０％更是寥若晨星，这样的高速增长难以持久；增长过快等于自毁长城。（彼得·林奇）
我的赚钱公式是：第一，购置赢利性资产；第二，没钱时，不要动用投资和积蓄，压力会使你找到赚钱的新方法，帮你还清账单，这是个好习惯。（罗伯特·清崎）
我小的时候，一直学的是如何投资，而大部分人去上学，学的是毕业以后怎么找到好的工作。我可以很敏锐发现很多投资项目，可能有很多人却视而不见。在中国可能很多人都意识到应该去投资，但是，他们在思想上还没有做好充分的准备。其实，在美国也是一样，有９５％的人不容易发现一些投资项目，大多数美国人都在做着有高薪收入的工作，但是我的“富爸爸”告诉我说，高薪并不能够使你致富。只是有好的工作，有好的收入，并不能代表就有财富。如果你想致富，必须使你具有投资者的思维模式，而不是工作雇员的思维模式。
首先，得让钱来为你工作，而不是你去为金钱工作。第二，你必须能够读懂财务报表。但是即使在美国也有９５％的人看不懂财务报表，也分不清什么是资产，什么是负债。如果你想致富的话，必须能够读懂金钱的语言。就像你如果从事计算机的工作，必须能够懂得计算机语言。 （罗伯特·清崎）
把金钱和债务游戏看成是愚弄你，愚弄我，愚弄任何人的游戏，企业与企业，国家与国家都在进行这种游戏，但这仅仅是游戏而已。问题是，对大多数人而言，金钱不是游戏，而是生存……甚至是生活本身。可悲的是，因为没有人向他们解释这种游戏，所以他们仍旧在相信银行家的话：房子是一项资产。（罗伯特·清崎）
妓女:我什么都可给你除了吻
你，可以抚摸我的胸部，可以得到我的下体，可以肆意亲吻我的肉体，但你不能吻我。爱我的人才可以吻我，如果我在你眼里，只是个妓女，你，永远不能吻我。记得一场电影中男主角坐在钢琴边时听女主角说的话。-题记
欲望炙烤着灵魂，一边是道德底线的封锁，一边是物质生活的逼迫，弱势的女子选择了简单的平衡，出卖点什么，换回点什么。冲破了心理上的抵抗，再没有矜持和淑女，选择了出卖自己唯一的筹码--年轻的肉体，换回了红色人头纸。
职业的不同而已，何必大惊小怪？批判，谩骂，仇恨，交织成妓女的外衣，被人唾弃着，鄙视着。女人贞节的操守，注定了在今天无法公开承认妓女的身份，被埋藏在最阴暗的角落，肮脏的垃圾堆一样。
只是出卖了肉体，灵魂依旧纯洁。世界上没有第二个职业如此纯粹地出卖了只有商品，而绝对没有感情和灵魂。谁都知道，一旦出卖了灵魂，注定将迫使你放弃妓女的身份，也许这是个好事情，但为了生活，也注定无法放弃。
这是我的蓝颜知己酒后讲的真实的故事。文中隐去真名，以第一人称讲述。
不了解妓女时，总觉得妓女没有爱。成天跟男人厮混一起，靠性维系着生命，搭建生存空间，它又怎么可能会有爱？想妓女见一男的，没羞涩，没心动，有的只是快快的来，多多的给，再有的，就是呆一见不得人的小屋，相伴紧张、匆忙、厌恶、应付差事，它又怎么可能有爱？
那日，酒喝多了，好奇心作祟，不知怎么就进了欢乐场。吐字不清地来了吧台，想是想找一房间休息按摩，可没想这开的房就是嫖客，就是人生一大转折。
先生，这边请！一女引领着我上了二楼，又上了三楼，楼道悠长，好似走在去鬼门关的路上……一肚子没醒酒地埋怨着怎么领我走这么远的路呀，才见那领我之人用手轻轻开启一扇门，按下电源开关，一屋子的豪华就那么活灵活现在我的眼前。
先生，您先躺躺！
浑然不知的我在那女的示意下躺上了床，微醉着听她说一会儿小姐就来，就昏沉沉地闭上了眼睛……没一会，轻轻地敲门声清醒了我。见开启的门后站一美丽的女孩，很有礼貌地问我：先生，需要什么服务？
什么服务？来这，还能有什么服务？心是这么想的，以为她是按摩女。而她以为我是一嫖客，心知肚明没直白地说出那，就像一男一女去商店买戒指项链，只需眼神就能明了对方的意愿。
先生，只是按摩吗？就不想来点别的？她话挑逗得让我想起了那事，想她会是妓女？印象中龌龊厌恶的妓女吗？可她一点不像妓女，年轻，貌美，楚楚迷我。这样一女子若走在阳光下，一定是一窈窕淑女，是许多男孩追都追不到的气质女孩。可她，没多会就让我知道她的确是一妓女。一美丽，柔弱的妓女。瞧她暴露的装扮，妖艳的化妆，轻车熟路地手活，我就知她一定是一妓女。
能陪我说说话吗？我用手阻止着她的手活。可以，但得计时收费。怎么个算法？一小时一百八。这么贵啊？
是这么贵的。要不，来这的客人哪有提你这要求的？！那他们都提啥要求？你说呢？
走出欢乐场，想跟妓女呆一起的时光，我突然发现其实妓女也有爱，也有思念，有含情脉脉，有真情流露地会说她也离不开你……而这，跟那人性最美，最直接的表白是不同的。正常的男女之爱，所思所想所恋所爱，婚嫁同居，最终都离不开那性，那家，那一起生活慢慢变老的事实；而妓女，虽把最精彩的结尾搁最先做了，拿女人最精华的性给了你，可那所思所想所恋所爱，婚嫁同居，她却不可能给你！你能用钱买她的肉体，却无法用钱买她的心她的爱她对你的眷念、期待、胫骨回身合二为一的真情；她说：我什么都可给你，但你不能吻我！
为什么？我加钱给你还不行吗？
她说：我之所以不能给你，是因吻，得用眼，用嘴，用心直视对方的眼，嘴，心……用手挡在我想吻她的嘴前，她说是女人都知眼睛无法骗人，是不是真情一眼就能看得出。她还说若俩人没感情，是女人都无法从吻中体会爱的感受，爱的激情！她说男人是靠下半身感知爱，而妓女只剩下吻来寻找情……她说在这欢乐场，她唯一拥有的就是这吻。属于她的，也只有这吻。她说她不会轻易把吻给嫖客，而是想将吻留给她最喜欢的人！说着，她脸颊飘上了红晕，像似日落前的晚霞，一世得灿烂……会是这样吗？望着身后越来越不清晰的欢乐场，越来越模糊她的影像，我真的很不理解一个连什么都可以给你，让你随心所欲的妓女，怎么就不让你吻她呢？那吻，真的才是爱的赏赐，爱之最高境界？真的无法用钱买到吗？不自觉地伸手摸了下自己的唇，我真的一点不理解她为啥在我临走前，又主动紧紧地抱了我，说只要一分钟就好！而在那一分钟里，她在我怀中，紧闭双眼，仰头如吸铁石的N级S级，把她那吻，赏赐给了我。
就那一蜻蜓点水般的吻，却给了我一世的疑惑，内疚，思恋……时常会让我去想，这吻，会是她的爱吗？
编后：
我是你的红颜，神聊傲慢的红颜，行为上坚贞不屈地拒绝着肉体上的接触，思想里却充满了情色的缠绵。悔恨有时占据着思想，肉体的坚持又安慰着自己。没有被判和不忠贞。
仰首自叹，也许我还不如妓女，从指尖划过的淡淡的忧愁画出了深深内疚的形状。妓女出卖的只有肉体，而我恰恰相反，我出卖了灵魂。只是一桩情色生意，妓女出卖了单纯的肉体，保留了灵魂操守的忠贞，真正纯洁的生意人；而我，出卖了缥缈而无法衡量称重的灵魂，只剩下了到处游走的肉体。
欲望炙烤着灵魂，一边是道德底线的封锁，一边是物质生活的逼迫，弱势的女子选择了简单的平衡，出卖点什么，换回点什么。冲破了心理上的抵抗，再没有矜持和淑女，选择了出卖自己唯一的筹码--年轻的肉体，换回了红色人头纸。
职业的不同而已，何必大惊小怪？批判，谩骂，仇恨，交织成妓女的外衣，被人唾弃着，鄙视着。女人贞节的操守，注定了在今天无法公开承认妓女的身份，被埋藏在最阴暗的角落，肮脏的垃圾堆一样。
只是出卖了肉体，灵魂依旧纯洁。世界上没有第二个职业如此纯粹地出卖了只有商品，而绝对没有感情和灵魂。谁都知道，一旦出卖了灵魂，注定将迫使你放弃妓女的身份，也许这是个好事情，但为了生活，也注定无法放弃。
这是我的蓝颜知己酒后讲的真实的故事。文中隐去真名，以第一人称讲述。
不了解妓女时，总觉得妓女没有爱。成天跟男人厮混一起，靠性维系着生命，搭建生存空间，它又怎么可能会有爱？想妓女见一男的，没羞涩，没心动，有的只是快快的来，多多的给，再有的，就是呆一见不得人的小屋，相伴紧张、匆忙、厌恶、应付差事，它又怎么可能有爱？
那日，酒喝多了，好奇心作祟，不知怎么就进了欢乐场。吐字不清地来了吧台，想是想找一房间休息按摩，可没想这开的房就是嫖客，就是人生一大转折。
先生，这边请！一女引领着我上了二楼，又上了三楼，楼道悠长，好似走在去鬼门关的路上……一肚子没醒酒地埋怨着怎么领我走这么远的路呀，才见那领我之人用手轻轻开启一扇门，按下电源开关，一屋子的豪华就那么活灵活现在我的眼前。
先生，您先躺躺！
浑然不知的我在那女的示意下躺上了床，微醉着听她说一会儿小姐就来，就昏沉沉地闭上了眼睛……没一会，轻轻地敲门声清醒了我。见开启的门后站一美丽的女孩，很有礼貌地问我：先生，需要什么服务？
什么服务？来这，还能有什么服务？心是这么想的，以为她是按摩女。而她以为我是一嫖客，心知肚明没直白地说出那，就像一男一女去商店买戒指项链，只需眼神就能明了对方的意愿。
先生，只是按摩吗？就不想来点别的？她话挑逗得让我想起了那事，想她会是妓女？印象中龌龊厌恶的妓女吗？可她一点不像妓女，年轻，貌美，楚楚迷我。这样一女子若走在阳光下，一定是一窈窕淑女，是许多男孩追都追不到的气质女孩。可她，没多会就让我知道她的确是一妓女。一美丽，柔弱的妓女。瞧她暴露的装扮，妖艳的化妆，轻车熟路地手活，我就知她一定是一妓女。
能陪我说说话吗？我用手阻止着她的手活。可以，但得计时收费。怎么个算法？一小时一百八。这么贵啊？
是这么贵的。要不，来这的客人哪有提你这要求的？！那他们都提啥要求？你说呢？
走出欢乐场，想跟妓女呆一起的时光，我突然发现其实妓女也有爱，也有思念，有含情脉脉，有真情流露地会说她也离不开你……而这，跟那人性最美，最直接的表白是不同的。正常的男女之爱，所思所想所恋所爱，婚嫁同居，最终都离不开那性，那家，那一起生活慢慢变老的事实；而妓女，虽把最精彩的结尾搁最先做了，拿女人最精华的性给了你，可那所思所想所恋所爱，婚嫁同居，她却不可能给你！你能用钱买她的肉体，却无法用钱买她的心她的爱她对你的眷念、期待、胫骨回身合二为一的真情；她说：我什么都可给你，但你不能吻我！
为什么？我加钱给你还不行吗？
她说：我之所以不能给你，是因吻，得用眼，用嘴，用心直视对方的眼，嘴，心……用手挡在我想吻她的嘴前，她说是女人都知眼睛无法骗人，是不是真情一眼就能看得出。她还说若俩人没感情，是女人都无法从吻中体会爱的感受，爱的激情！她说男人是靠下半身感知爱，而妓女只剩下吻来寻找情……她说在这欢乐场，她唯一拥有的就是这吻。属于她的，也只有这吻。她说她不会轻易把吻给嫖客，而是想将吻留给她最喜欢的人！说着，她脸颊飘上了红晕，像似日落前的晚霞，一世得灿烂……会是这样吗？望着身后越来越不清晰的欢乐场，越来越模糊她的影像，我真的很不理解一个连什么都可以给你，让你随心所欲的妓女，怎么就不让你吻她呢？那吻，真的才是爱的赏赐，爱之最高境界？真的无法用钱买到吗？不自觉地伸手摸了下自己的唇，我真的一点不理解她为啥在我临走前，又主动紧紧地抱了我，说只要一分钟就好！而在那一分钟里，她在我怀中，紧闭双眼，仰头如吸铁石的N级S级，把她那吻，赏赐给了我。
就那一蜻蜓点水般的吻，却给了我一世的疑惑，内疚，思恋……时常会让我去想，这吻，会是她的爱吗？
编后：
我是你的红颜，神聊傲慢的红颜，行为上坚贞不屈地拒绝着肉体上的接触，思想里却充满了情色的缠绵。悔恨有时占据着思想，肉体的坚持又安慰着自己。没有被判和不忠贞。
仰首自叹，也许我还不如妓女，从指尖划过的淡淡的忧愁画出了深深内疚的形状。妓女出卖的只有肉体，而我恰恰相反，我出卖了灵魂。只是一桩情色生意，妓女出卖了单纯的肉体，保留了灵魂操守的忠贞，真正纯洁的生意人；而我，出卖了缥缈而无法衡量称重的灵魂，只剩下了到处游走的肉体。
梅核气
科技名词定义
中文名称：梅核气 英文名称：globus hystericus 定义：以咽喉异物感如梅核梗阻，咽之不下，咯之不出，时发时止为主要表现的疾病。 所属学科： 中医药学(一级学科) ；耳鼻喉科疾病(二级学科) ；咽喉病(三级学科)
百科名片
梅核气（imagined bolus in throat）是指咽喉中有异常感觉，但不影响进食为特征的病症。如梅核塞于咽喉，咯之不出，咽之不下，时发时止为特征的咽喉疾病。相当于西医的咽部神经官能症，或称咽癔症、癔球。该病多发于壮年人，以女性居多。
基本简介
梅核气主要因情志不畅，肝气郁结，循经上逆，结于咽喉或乘脾犯胃，运化失司，津液不得输布，凝结成痰，痰气结于咽喉引起。梅核气 示意图 “梅核气”一名首见于宋代《南阳活人书》，有关病证记载最早却见于战国晚期的《灵枢·邪气脏腑病形篇》，其曰：“心脉大甚为喉营”，即言喉间有物。汉代《金匮要略》描述了妇人“咽中如有炙脔”的症状及治疗。
主要症状
此病既无全身病变，更无前驱症状。惟觉喉头有异物感，无疼痛，往往在工作紧张时或睡着后或专心做事时可以完全消失，闲暇无事或情志不畅时异物感明显，当吞咽口涎或空咽时更觉明显吐之不出，咽之不下，而进食时，则毫无梗阻感觉。很多病人恐惧是喉癌或食道癌而致思想负担沉重。借助现代仪器局部检查及X线吞钡检查并未发现器质性病变。常伴有精神抑郁，心烦疑虑，胸胁胀满，纳呆，困倦，消瘦等。妇女常见月经不畅，舌质暗滞，脉弦。治疗宜疏肝解郁、行气散结，用半夏厚朴汤，肝郁不舒用逍遥散加减。
病理病因
分为器质性病因和非器质性病因两种：
器质性病因：茎突过长、颈椎病、上呼吸道慢性炎症、咽肌食管肌痉挛、反流性食管炎 、食道裂孔疝及胃病、咽喉及扁桃体病变、慢性鼻窦炎、环杓关节炎、咽、喉、食管、贲门部癌肿早期等等。
非器质性病因：年龄30～40岁发病率较高，女性患病率高于男性，常见有咽喉神经官能症、癔病、疑病性神经症、精神分裂症等。
梅核气主要因情志不畅引起，因此细心开导、解除其思想顾虑，有益于疾病痊愈。此外，也应少食煎炒辛辣食物。
诊断要点
1．以咽内异物感为主要症状，但不碍饮食。症状的轻重与情志的变化有关。
2．检查咽喉各部所见均属正常，无任何有关的阳性体征。
3．该病需与虚火喉痹，咽喉及食道肿物相鉴别。虚火喉痹觉有异物刺痛感，并觉咽喉干燥，常有发出“吭喀”声音的动作，症状与情志变化关系不大；检查时可见咽喉粘膜呈微暗红色，喉底有淋巴滤泡增生。咽喉及食道肿瘤，吞咽困难，有碍饮食，肉眼检查或X光钡剂透视可发现肿瘤。
治疗方法
1．针灸治疗
(1)毫针刺廉泉穴，针尖向上刺至舌根部，并令患者作吞咽动作，至异物感消失为止。
(2)取合谷、内关、太冲、丰隆等穴，中等刺激，留针15—30分钟，每日1次。
2．饮食疗法
(1)合欢花蒸猪肝：合欢花(干品)10～12克，放碟中，加清水少许，泡浸4—6小时，再将猪肝100～150克切片，同放碟中，加食盐少许调味，隔水蒸熟，食猪肝。
(2)玫瑰花茶：玫瑰花瓣(于品)6-10克，放茶盅内，冲人沸水，加盖煽片刻，代茶饮。
(3)葱煮柚皮：鲜柚皮1个，在炭火上将外层黄棕色烧焦，刮去表层，然后放人清水中泡浸1日，使其苦味析出。再切块加水煮，将熟时以葱两棵切碎加入，用油、盐调味，佐膳。
3．咽喉部导引法
(1)不拘行立坐卧，随时闭目静心，待神调气定后，即行叩齿36次，再以舌上下左右搅动，待津液满口时进行鼓漱，然后如咽硬物状，将咽津吞下。
(2)静坐，以舌托上腭，凝神该处有一股凉水流下，待将满口时，吞下。
(3)舌头用力往后卷，有唾液即吞下。坚持数日，有一定疗效。
4、梅核气的辨证论治
肝郁气滞型
【证见】 咽喉内有异物感，或如梅核堵塞，吞之不下，吐之不出，甚则感到窒闷难忍，但不碍饮食。患者常精神抑郁，多虑多疑，并觉胸闷胁胀，善太息，郁怒，嗳气。舌质淡红，苔白，脉弦。
【治法】 疏肝理气解郁。
【方药】 1．主方半夏厚朴汤加减
处方：法半夏12克，厚朴10克，茯苓15克，香附12克，紫苏12克，白芍15克，薄荷6克(后下)，甘草6克，生姜3片。水煎服。 胸胁苦闷者，加柴胡12克、薤白15克。口干，舌质偏红者，加夏枯草12克、杭菊10克。 2．中成药 (1)逍遥丸，口服，大蜜丸每次2丸，水蜜丸每次10～15克，每日1—2次；水泛丸每次8～10丸，每日1。3次。 (2)丹栀逍遥丸，每次6—8片，每日2次。 脾虚痰聚型
【证见】 咽喉内异物感，常觉痰多难咯。或有咳嗽痰白，肢倦，纳呆，脘腹胀满。舌胖苔白腻，脉滑。 【治法】 健脾理气化痰。
【方药】
1．主方二陈汤(陈师文等《太平惠民和剂局方》)加减
处方：法半夏12克，陈皮6克，茯苓15克，神曲12克，党参15克，白术12克，砂仁6克(后下)。水煎服。 若痰黄舌红者，加黄芩12克、薄荷6克(后下)。心烦者，加合欢花10克、素馨花10克。
2．中成药
(1)四君子丸(冲剂、液、袋泡剂)，口服，水泛丸每次3—6克，冲剂每次15克，袋泡剂每次1～2袋，每日3次；合剂每次5—10毫升，每日2次。
(2)陈夏六君子丸，口服，大蜜丸每次1丸，小蜜丸每次9克，水蜜丸每次6克，每日2—3次。
(3)香砂养胃丸，口服，每次9克，每日2次。
预防调护
(1)细心开导，解除思想顾虑，增强治疗信心；
(2)少食煎炒炙焯辛辣食物；
(3)加强体育锻炼，增强体质，或用咽喉部的导引法进行锻炼。
小贴士
相信各位如果有咽喉异物感，不影响饮食，打嗝会稍感舒适，但随后异物感马上回来，并且持续较长时间，经过查询可能以为自己得了是梅核气。但是到医院看，可能就是慢性咽炎的症状。所以建议大家，如果有类似症状一个礼拜以上，可以到医院或者社区诊所等去问询，如果是慢性咽炎，吃一些消炎药，并注意相关饮食习惯等保养措施，有利于自己的身心健康。毕竟，长时间的异物感对于心情、生活、工作确实一些不好的影响。
中文名称：梅核气 英文名称：globus hystericus 定义：以咽喉异物感如梅核梗阻，咽之不下，咯之不出，时发时止为主要表现的疾病。 所属学科： 中医药学(一级学科) ；耳鼻喉科疾病(二级学科) ；咽喉病(三级学科)
百科名片
梅核气（imagined bolus in throat）是指咽喉中有异常感觉，但不影响进食为特征的病症。如梅核塞于咽喉，咯之不出，咽之不下，时发时止为特征的咽喉疾病。相当于西医的咽部神经官能症，或称咽癔症、癔球。该病多发于壮年人，以女性居多。
基本简介
梅核气主要因情志不畅，肝气郁结，循经上逆，结于咽喉或乘脾犯胃，运化失司，津液不得输布，凝结成痰，痰气结于咽喉引起。梅核气 示意图 “梅核气”一名首见于宋代《南阳活人书》，有关病证记载最早却见于战国晚期的《灵枢·邪气脏腑病形篇》，其曰：“心脉大甚为喉营”，即言喉间有物。汉代《金匮要略》描述了妇人“咽中如有炙脔”的症状及治疗。
主要症状
此病既无全身病变，更无前驱症状。惟觉喉头有异物感，无疼痛，往往在工作紧张时或睡着后或专心做事时可以完全消失，闲暇无事或情志不畅时异物感明显，当吞咽口涎或空咽时更觉明显吐之不出，咽之不下，而进食时，则毫无梗阻感觉。很多病人恐惧是喉癌或食道癌而致思想负担沉重。借助现代仪器局部检查及X线吞钡检查并未发现器质性病变。常伴有精神抑郁，心烦疑虑，胸胁胀满，纳呆，困倦，消瘦等。妇女常见月经不畅，舌质暗滞，脉弦。治疗宜疏肝解郁、行气散结，用半夏厚朴汤，肝郁不舒用逍遥散加减。
病理病因
分为器质性病因和非器质性病因两种：
器质性病因：茎突过长、颈椎病、上呼吸道慢性炎症、咽肌食管肌痉挛、反流性食管炎 、食道裂孔疝及胃病、咽喉及扁桃体病变、慢性鼻窦炎、环杓关节炎、咽、喉、食管、贲门部癌肿早期等等。
非器质性病因：年龄30～40岁发病率较高，女性患病率高于男性，常见有咽喉神经官能症、癔病、疑病性神经症、精神分裂症等。
梅核气主要因情志不畅引起，因此细心开导、解除其思想顾虑，有益于疾病痊愈。此外，也应少食煎炒辛辣食物。
诊断要点
1．以咽内异物感为主要症状，但不碍饮食。症状的轻重与情志的变化有关。
2．检查咽喉各部所见均属正常，无任何有关的阳性体征。
3．该病需与虚火喉痹，咽喉及食道肿物相鉴别。虚火喉痹觉有异物刺痛感，并觉咽喉干燥，常有发出“吭喀”声音的动作，症状与情志变化关系不大；检查时可见咽喉粘膜呈微暗红色，喉底有淋巴滤泡增生。咽喉及食道肿瘤，吞咽困难，有碍饮食，肉眼检查或X光钡剂透视可发现肿瘤。
治疗方法
1．针灸治疗
(1)毫针刺廉泉穴，针尖向上刺至舌根部，并令患者作吞咽动作，至异物感消失为止。
(2)取合谷、内关、太冲、丰隆等穴，中等刺激，留针15—30分钟，每日1次。
2．饮食疗法
(1)合欢花蒸猪肝：合欢花(干品)10～12克，放碟中，加清水少许，泡浸4—6小时，再将猪肝100～150克切片，同放碟中，加食盐少许调味，隔水蒸熟，食猪肝。
(2)玫瑰花茶：玫瑰花瓣(于品)6-10克，放茶盅内，冲人沸水，加盖煽片刻，代茶饮。
(3)葱煮柚皮：鲜柚皮1个，在炭火上将外层黄棕色烧焦，刮去表层，然后放人清水中泡浸1日，使其苦味析出。再切块加水煮，将熟时以葱两棵切碎加入，用油、盐调味，佐膳。
3．咽喉部导引法
(1)不拘行立坐卧，随时闭目静心，待神调气定后，即行叩齿36次，再以舌上下左右搅动，待津液满口时进行鼓漱，然后如咽硬物状，将咽津吞下。
(2)静坐，以舌托上腭，凝神该处有一股凉水流下，待将满口时，吞下。
(3)舌头用力往后卷，有唾液即吞下。坚持数日，有一定疗效。
4、梅核气的辨证论治
肝郁气滞型
【证见】 咽喉内有异物感，或如梅核堵塞，吞之不下，吐之不出，甚则感到窒闷难忍，但不碍饮食。患者常精神抑郁，多虑多疑，并觉胸闷胁胀，善太息，郁怒，嗳气。舌质淡红，苔白，脉弦。
【治法】 疏肝理气解郁。
【方药】 1．主方半夏厚朴汤加减
处方：法半夏12克，厚朴10克，茯苓15克，香附12克，紫苏12克，白芍15克，薄荷6克(后下)，甘草6克，生姜3片。水煎服。 胸胁苦闷者，加柴胡12克、薤白15克。口干，舌质偏红者，加夏枯草12克、杭菊10克。 2．中成药 (1)逍遥丸，口服，大蜜丸每次2丸，水蜜丸每次10～15克，每日1—2次；水泛丸每次8～10丸，每日1。3次。 (2)丹栀逍遥丸，每次6—8片，每日2次。 脾虚痰聚型
【证见】 咽喉内异物感，常觉痰多难咯。或有咳嗽痰白，肢倦，纳呆，脘腹胀满。舌胖苔白腻，脉滑。 【治法】 健脾理气化痰。
【方药】
1．主方二陈汤(陈师文等《太平惠民和剂局方》)加减
处方：法半夏12克，陈皮6克，茯苓15克，神曲12克，党参15克，白术12克，砂仁6克(后下)。水煎服。 若痰黄舌红者，加黄芩12克、薄荷6克(后下)。心烦者，加合欢花10克、素馨花10克。
2．中成药
(1)四君子丸(冲剂、液、袋泡剂)，口服，水泛丸每次3—6克，冲剂每次15克，袋泡剂每次1～2袋，每日3次；合剂每次5—10毫升，每日2次。
(2)陈夏六君子丸，口服，大蜜丸每次1丸，小蜜丸每次9克，水蜜丸每次6克，每日2—3次。
(3)香砂养胃丸，口服，每次9克，每日2次。
预防调护
(1)细心开导，解除思想顾虑，增强治疗信心；
(2)少食煎炒炙焯辛辣食物；
(3)加强体育锻炼，增强体质，或用咽喉部的导引法进行锻炼。
小贴士
相信各位如果有咽喉异物感，不影响饮食，打嗝会稍感舒适，但随后异物感马上回来，并且持续较长时间，经过查询可能以为自己得了是梅核气。但是到医院看，可能就是慢性咽炎的症状。所以建议大家，如果有类似症状一个礼拜以上，可以到医院或者社区诊所等去问询，如果是慢性咽炎，吃一些消炎药，并注意相关饮食习惯等保养措施，有利于自己的身心健康。毕竟，长时间的异物感对于心情、生活、工作确实一些不好的影响。
All woman may be won (女人心都可征服）
看到美国作家华尔特·汤恩说过的一句话：“征服女人，精明的男人无需花费任何钱财，笨拙的男人则靠金钱，最差的男人靠暴力。”觉得很有道理。所有的女人都可以征服，只是看你是否足够优秀。
因为女人生来性格纤细柔弱，哪怕是外表刚强、办事雷厉风行的女强人，当她倾心于一个男人的时候，这个男人“要把她捏成什么样，就总能捏成什么样”。女人在感情上始终是弱者，她感性，凭直觉，一旦爱上不顾一切全情投入，就像张爱玲说的“遇到他,她变得很低很低,低到尘埃里,但她心里是喜欢的,从尘埃里开出花来”。女人对其深爱的男人，常常是这样子的卑微。
“女人头发长见识短”这句话现在抛出来肯定是倍受任何男女的批判的，但是用在女人对待感情的问题上是最恰当不过了，为了爱的人心甘情意付出一切，很多的女人都干过这样的傻事吧？常常还心里无怨无悔，甚至乐在其中。
因为女人生来性格纤细柔弱，哪怕是外表刚强、办事雷厉风行的女强人，当她倾心于一个男人的时候，这个男人“要把她捏成什么样，就总能捏成什么样”。女人在感情上始终是弱者，她感性，凭直觉，一旦爱上不顾一切全情投入，就像张爱玲说的“遇到他,她变得很低很低,低到尘埃里,但她心里是喜欢的,从尘埃里开出花来”。女人对其深爱的男人，常常是这样子的卑微。
“女人头发长见识短”这句话现在抛出来肯定是倍受任何男女的批判的，但是用在女人对待感情的问题上是最恰当不过了，为了爱的人心甘情意付出一切，很多的女人都干过这样的傻事吧？常常还心里无怨无悔，甚至乐在其中。
什么是梅核气，梅核气的症状，梅核气的中医治疗
在临床上经常遇到一些患者怀着十分紧张的心情，向医生诉说自己最近所得的一种病症：喉咙里感到有个东西堵着?这东西想吐也吐不出来，想咽也咽不下去。由于人们对食道癌的恐惧心理，不免耽心自己喉咙里是否长了瘤子?如果不是瘤子，为什么吐不出来，而又咽不下去呢?因此，就越发紧张起来了。
对于这些患者，医生要光作认真细致的检查，在必要时还可做X线钡剂造影，在排除癌肿和食道、咽喉其它病变后，医生才会告诉病人，您所患的病中医称“梅核气”。
梅核气，西医称为疙球，属于神经官能症的一种。这种病症只是患者的主观感觉，实际上并没有任何具体的病理改变。这种病的产生发展及痊愈和精神因素关系密切。中医认为，如果心情不舒畅，就会导致肝气郁结，气郁而生痰，痰气凝结而阻塞咽喉间就会引起这种病症。
中医以行气解邻化痰降逆的办法疗效较好。方用“半夏厚朴汤”加昧，即：法半夏12克、厚朴9克，获苔12克、苏叶9克、苏根9克、生姜12克、乌药6克、木香6克、积壳9克，水煎服。还可以用玫瑰花、厚朴花各12克开水沏代茶饮用。此外，多吃格子、青萝F对这种病也有疗效。但青萝卜要生吃，尤其将生青萝r捣汁冷饮疗效更好。如果喉咙堵得厉害，可用青皮、陈皮各12克、沉香6克，水煎去渣取汁，冲服木香(研末)6克;西药谷维素对本病有一定的疗效，——日服三次，每次服两片。针灸治疗：针刺天突穴，廉泉穴(都在咽喉部)，或经常用手按摩这两个穴位，对治疗本病有一定的效果。
总之，梅核气并非是什么可怕的疑难病，不必紧张，只要患者精神舒畅、积极治疗是可以治好的。当然，如果发现喉咙中有物的感觉和症状时，应积极请医生认真细致的检查，以免误诊，遗误病情。
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对于这些患者，医生要光作认真细致的检查，在必要时还可做X线钡剂造影，在排除癌肿和食道、咽喉其它病变后，医生才会告诉病人，您所患的病中医称“梅核气”。
梅核气，西医称为疙球，属于神经官能症的一种。这种病症只是患者的主观感觉，实际上并没有任何具体的病理改变。这种病的产生发展及痊愈和精神因素关系密切。中医认为，如果心情不舒畅，就会导致肝气郁结，气郁而生痰，痰气凝结而阻塞咽喉间就会引起这种病症。
中医以行气解邻化痰降逆的办法疗效较好。方用“半夏厚朴汤”加昧，即：法半夏12克、厚朴9克，获苔12克、苏叶9克、苏根9克、生姜12克、乌药6克、木香6克、积壳9克，水煎服。还可以用玫瑰花、厚朴花各12克开水沏代茶饮用。此外，多吃格子、青萝F对这种病也有疗效。但青萝卜要生吃，尤其将生青萝r捣汁冷饮疗效更好。如果喉咙堵得厉害，可用青皮、陈皮各12克、沉香6克，水煎去渣取汁，冲服木香(研末)6克;西药谷维素对本病有一定的疗效，——日服三次，每次服两片。针灸治疗：针刺天突穴，廉泉穴(都在咽喉部)，或经常用手按摩这两个穴位，对治疗本病有一定的效果。
总之，梅核气并非是什么可怕的疑难病，不必紧张，只要患者精神舒畅、积极治疗是可以治好的。当然，如果发现喉咙中有物的感觉和症状时，应积极请医生认真细致的检查，以免误诊，遗误病情。
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http://www.51qe.cn/jiuyi/2009/113515.html
刘德华超经典语录
“当爱就爱/何必矜持/矜持只会掉了你和你爱的人一生快乐
我认为生命就是每一天一步一步向前，人总不可以停留在某地方不动吧?这样太浪费生命，也很闷吧?既然难得来世间一转，便应让自己快快乐乐、精精彩彩过日子。勤奋并不需要有推动力，只要你能欣赏人生，你能欣赏日出日落，你懂得珍惜，你自然会勤力，因为你不会也不希望错过生命送给你的每一个机会。
没有黑夜，大家不会感受白日的好，没有吃过苦不可能了解甜，没有流过泪，怎会明白笑的快乐?我从不追求完美，我只追求自然。凡事顺其自然，懂得欣赏，缺陷也是另一种美丽。
伤害你的人，如果你能够开心地活下去的话，已是对他们最大的惩罚.
我的人生辞典中，没有所谓后悔不后悔，也没有所谓错或对。每一件发生的事，每一个所遇的人，也不过是一个经历、一个体验。看你究竟能从体验当中领略多少？从经历当中学会多少？这就是人生。
有信心未必会赢，没信心一定会输！
成功不是必然的，但努力是必需的！
“所有人都是演自己，为什么只有我刘德华不可以”
“电影是苦的，但还是要尽力去做。”
“演艺圈里面谋生从来就不是别人让给你机会，每个人在台上都希望自己是最瞩目的一个，我没有理由要让。”
人是不应该畏缩、屈服、自卑的。
二、学问不只是来自书本，大半是来自社会，来自生活的实践。
三、女是可爱和温柔的，但如果我们不小心处理感情，胡乱去滥爱，则可导致自己不能理智，毁灭前途。
四、自强不息，自力更生，不要以为世界上会有奇迹出现，奇迹只有是自己努力创造出来的。
五、人要有冒险的精神，在险中求稳，不断要求进步。
六、对家庭、父母、兄弟、姐妹、不要计较她们曾给你什麽，对你好不好，而你的责任，就是需要对亲人做到最好，尽最大的努力去帮助他们。
七、决不畏惧打击，决不自我陶醉，决不固步自封，决不目空一切，决不做逃兵，决不优柔寡断。
八、用爱、用善心去看世界。世界充满仇恨、灾难、痛苦，作为一个真的强人，必须为消除仇恨、战争、灾难、痛苦而奋斗终生，用欢乐的歌声，去传播爱的种子。
明天幸福靠今天不断的修炼.
要我说出一件人生中最后悔，或者做错过的事？对不起，我可以告诉你，没有。因为我认为这个世界上，没有所谓的错与对。
没有一个人会希望自己做错事，事情发生了，是不同生命的不同体验，唯有亲身走过这段路程，才能领悟出什麼是错，什麼是对。可是人生就是不断的学习，怎麼能只用对与错这两个字来形容？
从前我未经学习，会有很多的执著，今天我感谢这些执著，因为执著令我遇上不少困难，撞到墙、撞到满身是血。
我感谢每一个我曾经遇上的人。有一些朋友，他们负责每天明的、暗的给我送飞箭、导弹、荆棘、石头，让我练得一身好武功。没有他们，我不会进步，也不会更体会人生。但是更有一些朋友，他们对我不离不弃，默默 支持，陪我一同上战场，陪我战斗，下了战场，为我包扎伤口，激励我再度奋发的斗志。没有他们我如何能笑对人生？
我认为生命就是每一天一步一步向前，人总不可以停留在某地方不动吧?这样太浪费生命，也很闷吧?既然难得来世间一转，便应让自己快快乐乐、精精彩彩过日子。勤奋并不需要有推动力，只要你能欣赏人生，你能欣赏日出日落，你懂得珍惜，你自然会勤力，因为你不会也不希望错过生命送给你的每一个机会。
没有黑夜，大家不会感受白日的好，没有吃过苦不可能了解甜，没有流过泪，怎会明白笑的快乐?我从不追求完美，我只追求自然。凡事顺其自然，懂得欣赏，缺陷也是另一种美丽。
伤害你的人，如果你能够开心地活下去的话，已是对他们最大的惩罚.
我的人生辞典中，没有所谓后悔不后悔，也没有所谓错或对。每一件发生的事，每一个所遇的人，也不过是一个经历、一个体验。看你究竟能从体验当中领略多少？从经历当中学会多少？这就是人生。
有信心未必会赢，没信心一定会输！
成功不是必然的，但努力是必需的！
“所有人都是演自己，为什么只有我刘德华不可以”
“电影是苦的，但还是要尽力去做。”
“演艺圈里面谋生从来就不是别人让给你机会，每个人在台上都希望自己是最瞩目的一个，我没有理由要让。”
人是不应该畏缩、屈服、自卑的。
二、学问不只是来自书本，大半是来自社会，来自生活的实践。
三、女是可爱和温柔的，但如果我们不小心处理感情，胡乱去滥爱，则可导致自己不能理智，毁灭前途。
四、自强不息，自力更生，不要以为世界上会有奇迹出现，奇迹只有是自己努力创造出来的。
五、人要有冒险的精神，在险中求稳，不断要求进步。
六、对家庭、父母、兄弟、姐妹、不要计较她们曾给你什麽，对你好不好，而你的责任，就是需要对亲人做到最好，尽最大的努力去帮助他们。
七、决不畏惧打击，决不自我陶醉，决不固步自封，决不目空一切，决不做逃兵，决不优柔寡断。
八、用爱、用善心去看世界。世界充满仇恨、灾难、痛苦，作为一个真的强人，必须为消除仇恨、战争、灾难、痛苦而奋斗终生，用欢乐的歌声，去传播爱的种子。
明天幸福靠今天不断的修炼.
要我说出一件人生中最后悔，或者做错过的事？对不起，我可以告诉你，没有。因为我认为这个世界上，没有所谓的错与对。
没有一个人会希望自己做错事，事情发生了，是不同生命的不同体验，唯有亲身走过这段路程，才能领悟出什麼是错，什麼是对。可是人生就是不断的学习，怎麼能只用对与错这两个字来形容？
从前我未经学习，会有很多的执著，今天我感谢这些执著，因为执著令我遇上不少困难，撞到墙、撞到满身是血。
我感谢每一个我曾经遇上的人。有一些朋友，他们负责每天明的、暗的给我送飞箭、导弹、荆棘、石头，让我练得一身好武功。没有他们，我不会进步，也不会更体会人生。但是更有一些朋友，他们对我不离不弃，默默 支持，陪我一同上战场，陪我战斗，下了战场，为我包扎伤口，激励我再度奋发的斗志。没有他们我如何能笑对人生？
Thursday, July 1, 2010
Why Most Shampoos are a Waste of Money
It’s the dirty little secret shampoo companies don’t want you to know—when you wash your hair with one of those nutrient-rich shampoos, most of the nutrients and active ingredients in the product don’t actually end up in your hair, they wind up down the drain… along with all the money you spent on the shampoo.
Why does this happen? Because the shampoo molecules they contain are too large to penetrate the cells of hair and more importantly the tiny hair follicles where our hair actually grows. They sit atop the follicle until we wash them away.
Why is that a problem? Think about it this way—if you wanted to fertilize a plant, where would you pour the fertilizer? On the leaves? Of course not! You’d pour the fertilizer on the root and the soil where it’s needed most. Our hair works basically the same way—if you want to treat your hair right, you need to treat the roots.
But if regular shampoo can’t penetrate the hair follicles where our roots grow, what are we supposed to do?
Fortunately, a California company called Kronos decided to tackle this problem. Their team of researchers designed a more-effective shampoo—one that contains tiny microscopic spheres so small that they penetrate hair follicles and deliver nutrients to where they’re needed most. They call it “T-Sfere Technology”.
Once they had solved the delivery method dilemma, they turned their attention to formulating ingredients that targetted the 5 most significant signs of damaged hair:
1.Thinning hair that lacks volume
2.Dry, frizzy, unmanageable hair
3.Limp lackluster hair
4.Damaged hair with split ends
5.Hair with poor color retention
Does it work? Check out the results from the product’s clinical testing. In a recent study, the Kronos system was shown boost hair volume and body by an unprecedented 96%; increase hair hydration by 91%; improve luster and shine by 96%; reduce split ends and breakage by 96%; and virtually eliminate color fading for up to four weeks. It’s rare that a shampoo can provide so many amazing benefits.
Already, Kronos has quickly become one of the most talked about hair care systems out there. It was recently featured on the Today show and was rated the #1 Overnight Hair Treatment product by The Good Housekeeping Institute.
Since Kronos is still relatively new, the company is offering a limited amount of free trials of its 4-piece introductory kit, just so new customers can see the results for themselves before deciding whether or not they want to pay for their products.
The special trial includes a full, 60-day supply of four products that each feature the line's key ingredient complexes and delivery technology: Kronos Shampoo, Kronos Conditioner, the Phyx Overnight Repair Masque that repairs damaged hair while you sleep, and the Liquid Theory Conditioning Detangler that protects hair from thermal damage due to heat styling.
If you want to try this new way to shampoo, visit the Kronos website to see if these special Internet free trials are still being offered.
Why does this happen? Because the shampoo molecules they contain are too large to penetrate the cells of hair and more importantly the tiny hair follicles where our hair actually grows. They sit atop the follicle until we wash them away.
Why is that a problem? Think about it this way—if you wanted to fertilize a plant, where would you pour the fertilizer? On the leaves? Of course not! You’d pour the fertilizer on the root and the soil where it’s needed most. Our hair works basically the same way—if you want to treat your hair right, you need to treat the roots.
But if regular shampoo can’t penetrate the hair follicles where our roots grow, what are we supposed to do?
Fortunately, a California company called Kronos decided to tackle this problem. Their team of researchers designed a more-effective shampoo—one that contains tiny microscopic spheres so small that they penetrate hair follicles and deliver nutrients to where they’re needed most. They call it “T-Sfere Technology”.
Once they had solved the delivery method dilemma, they turned their attention to formulating ingredients that targetted the 5 most significant signs of damaged hair:
1.Thinning hair that lacks volume
2.Dry, frizzy, unmanageable hair
3.Limp lackluster hair
4.Damaged hair with split ends
5.Hair with poor color retention
Does it work? Check out the results from the product’s clinical testing. In a recent study, the Kronos system was shown boost hair volume and body by an unprecedented 96%; increase hair hydration by 91%; improve luster and shine by 96%; reduce split ends and breakage by 96%; and virtually eliminate color fading for up to four weeks. It’s rare that a shampoo can provide so many amazing benefits.
Already, Kronos has quickly become one of the most talked about hair care systems out there. It was recently featured on the Today show and was rated the #1 Overnight Hair Treatment product by The Good Housekeeping Institute.
Since Kronos is still relatively new, the company is offering a limited amount of free trials of its 4-piece introductory kit, just so new customers can see the results for themselves before deciding whether or not they want to pay for their products.
The special trial includes a full, 60-day supply of four products that each feature the line's key ingredient complexes and delivery technology: Kronos Shampoo, Kronos Conditioner, the Phyx Overnight Repair Masque that repairs damaged hair while you sleep, and the Liquid Theory Conditioning Detangler that protects hair from thermal damage due to heat styling.
If you want to try this new way to shampoo, visit the Kronos website to see if these special Internet free trials are still being offered.
How Professional Women Succeed in Meeting Great Guys
We often hear complaints from professional single women that their online dating efforts have just not been successful. Let’s take a look at that …
Meeting great guys is a challenge for most single women, and when you’re putting in long hours to get ahead in your profession or run a business, the challenge grows even greater. So it’s little wonder that professional women like the concept of online dating -- they completely “get” time management, and because online dating provides a great way to separate the wheat from the chaff, it theoretically offers the best return on time invested.
But this is not the experience of many professional women. Why is that? Many experts believe the fault lies in both the professional woman’s approach to online dating and the dating sites she selects.
Do you know what you want? Some professional women are looking for a guy who’s also financially successful; they feel it’s too difficult to establish a great long-term relationship with someone who can’t afford to do the things they like or is uncomfortable moving in the same upscale circles. Other professional women are totally fine with a down-to-earth guy, and despite being used to fine dining and luxury vacations, they’re perfectly happy to kick back with pizza and a movie and feel they can handle any income disparity.
Either approach can work, just as long as you’re clear as to what you want and follow through accordingly. Things are bound to turn out badly if you enter into a relationship with someone not as driven and successful as you are if that’s really important to you.
Do you approach potential dates as though they were business contracts? Some women focused on a career approach dating as if it were a business problem. It’s not. Dating is about finding someone you can build an emotional relationship with, and ultimately it’s about love. You may be in the habit of calling the shots during the day, but when it comes to dating, give the guy a chance to court you, even romance you. Unplug. Being strong doesn’t mean you have to be in charge all the time.
Are you using the wrong dating service? Dozens of dating sites out there cater to different types of people with different goals. Many are overrun by young singles looking for casual relationships. People on these sites have a tendency to play games and misrepresent themselves.
If your goal is to meet someone you can form a long-term relationship with, then compatibility is key. Why waste time going through the motions with people who ultimately have different goals, psychological make-up, and likes and dislikes?
So you might as well cut to the chase and select an online dating service that’s efficient and effective in matching you with people you have the greatest chance of succeeding with.
And the proven leader in this approach? eHarmony, whose scientific Compatibility Matching System is calibrated to connect you with your most compatible partners. Researchers at eHarmony studied successful married couples and discovered the characteristics that led to the couples' overall happiness. Using this data, they created their relationship questionnaire, an in-depth survey that analyzes a person's most important characteristics based on 29 Dimensions of Compatibility, covering essentials like beliefs, values, temperament, curiosity, and intellect.
Once you’ve completed this survey, eHarmony's Compatibility Matching System then performs a comprehensive search and matches you with like-minded people who share your most important criteria and characteristics. It's far easier to relate to someone if you don't have to negotiate essential differences to begin with. And the system clearly works, because according to Harris Interactive Research, on average 236 eHarmony members marry every day!
Meeting great guys is a challenge for most single women, and when you’re putting in long hours to get ahead in your profession or run a business, the challenge grows even greater. So it’s little wonder that professional women like the concept of online dating -- they completely “get” time management, and because online dating provides a great way to separate the wheat from the chaff, it theoretically offers the best return on time invested.
But this is not the experience of many professional women. Why is that? Many experts believe the fault lies in both the professional woman’s approach to online dating and the dating sites she selects.
Do you know what you want? Some professional women are looking for a guy who’s also financially successful; they feel it’s too difficult to establish a great long-term relationship with someone who can’t afford to do the things they like or is uncomfortable moving in the same upscale circles. Other professional women are totally fine with a down-to-earth guy, and despite being used to fine dining and luxury vacations, they’re perfectly happy to kick back with pizza and a movie and feel they can handle any income disparity.
Either approach can work, just as long as you’re clear as to what you want and follow through accordingly. Things are bound to turn out badly if you enter into a relationship with someone not as driven and successful as you are if that’s really important to you.
Do you approach potential dates as though they were business contracts? Some women focused on a career approach dating as if it were a business problem. It’s not. Dating is about finding someone you can build an emotional relationship with, and ultimately it’s about love. You may be in the habit of calling the shots during the day, but when it comes to dating, give the guy a chance to court you, even romance you. Unplug. Being strong doesn’t mean you have to be in charge all the time.
Are you using the wrong dating service? Dozens of dating sites out there cater to different types of people with different goals. Many are overrun by young singles looking for casual relationships. People on these sites have a tendency to play games and misrepresent themselves.
If your goal is to meet someone you can form a long-term relationship with, then compatibility is key. Why waste time going through the motions with people who ultimately have different goals, psychological make-up, and likes and dislikes?
So you might as well cut to the chase and select an online dating service that’s efficient and effective in matching you with people you have the greatest chance of succeeding with.
And the proven leader in this approach? eHarmony, whose scientific Compatibility Matching System is calibrated to connect you with your most compatible partners. Researchers at eHarmony studied successful married couples and discovered the characteristics that led to the couples' overall happiness. Using this data, they created their relationship questionnaire, an in-depth survey that analyzes a person's most important characteristics based on 29 Dimensions of Compatibility, covering essentials like beliefs, values, temperament, curiosity, and intellect.
Once you’ve completed this survey, eHarmony's Compatibility Matching System then performs a comprehensive search and matches you with like-minded people who share your most important criteria and characteristics. It's far easier to relate to someone if you don't have to negotiate essential differences to begin with. And the system clearly works, because according to Harris Interactive Research, on average 236 eHarmony members marry every day!
Sunday, June 27, 2010
9 ways to compliment your date
Wow. You’re face to face with a woman who has you dazzled... and tongue-tied. Learn the right way to flatter her from our pair of etiquette experts.
The statement, “Gee, Suzie, you look nice today,” used to arouse giggly tingles on the playground, but as a post-pubescent suitor, your compliments better be more focused. Warm praise can defrost those first icy moments of early dating, as well as subtly advertise your attraction. Later, compliments are standard daily fare for keeping a relationship fresh. How do you spice it up? Allow us to share nine secrets:
1. Offer praise that’s original, not stale.
A dating-scene veteran with luxuriant locks has heard dozens of times how lovely her hair is. Either craft a new quip (“Your red and gold highlights make me long for autumn”) or else bypass obvious compliments in favor of lesser-named qualities (“Your posture is flawless... do you take ballet?”). Browse Local Singles at Match.com on Yahoo!
I am a: Man Woman Seeking a: Man Woman Near: 2. Look for cues.
Where has your date invested her energies in preparing for your time together? A freshly-painted French manicure begs for recognition. Also, when someone has clearly invested their time or money in an area of interest, you’ve got a ready-made subject to compliment. “Wow... that’s quite a collection of snow globes.” This particular phrasing has the secondary advantage of making an observation without actually saying whether you like it or not.
3. Make it specific.
Vague, wide-beam flattery lacks the focused impact of a well-honed, explicit comment. “You’ve got a cool apartment,” is fine, but it doesn’t evoke pride as well as “Your jazz/art/fiction collection is amazing.” Instead of acknowledging her “pretty face,” pick one winning feature, like lips: “Your lips remind me of those coy silent-film stars.”
On to more compliments, with this note: Cheap flattery will get you nowhere. Keen compliments are never you-have-nice-eyes commonplace. Instead, it’s those rare remarks spotlighting subtler traits (e.g., sultry phone voice, bistro-picking savvy, and paparazzi-worthy glamour) that resonate longest. Next time you’ve got the chance to brighten a date’s day, issue one of these sincere forms of praise... you’ll know you’ve struck a chord when her cheeks blush. Here, the specifics:
4. “That color looks great on you.”
This phrase works on a number of levels. Your compliment suggests an appreciation of style and signifies attraction while demonstrating your own sharp eye.
5. “Your space is so inviting/hip/splendidly decorated” or “You have great taste in ______.”
Anyone who has taken time to enliven their home with objects d’art or contrasting pillow fabrics relishes this kind of accolade.
6. “I love your friends.”
If you are fortunate enough to be meeting her network of pals, put some praise out there. Acknowledging her friends will settle half of your date’s “Will they all get along?” doubts, while also casting a vote clearly in favor of those who might be bridesmaids or groomsmen one day in the rosy future.
7. “You must spend hours at the gym/yoga studio.”
Your date’s toned arms and trim gams are likelier the result of a gym membership than just splendid genes. When you notice the firm effects of someone’s workout regimen, say so. One simple compliment affirms months of labor sweatin’ to the oldies.
8. “You have the most alluring ______.”
If you’ve been dating for a bit of time, go ahead and mention eyes, toes, shoulders, back, hands and legs for this fill-in-the-blank. But beware of suggestive compliments that are more lewd than flattering.
9. “Being with you is really ______.”
This kind of statement cleverly compliments someone by signaling your own feelings. For those too shy to directly gush, “I really like you,” the above turn of phrase lets you reveal a little without coming on too strong.
Incidentally: Remarking upon a ring or earring offers the added bonus of an excuse to lift your date’s hand or brush soft curls from a delicate ear. As for necklaces, mind your manners... no pawing at pendants plunging down the bust line.
Bonus tip: End the date on a good note
After some tasty lip lock, offer immediate praise: “Now, that was a stupendous kiss.” And at the end of the date, close with a broad-stroked, three-word compliment: “You are fantastic.” This may not be terribly specific, but it ends the date on a high and succinctly announces your desire for more.
The statement, “Gee, Suzie, you look nice today,” used to arouse giggly tingles on the playground, but as a post-pubescent suitor, your compliments better be more focused. Warm praise can defrost those first icy moments of early dating, as well as subtly advertise your attraction. Later, compliments are standard daily fare for keeping a relationship fresh. How do you spice it up? Allow us to share nine secrets:
1. Offer praise that’s original, not stale.
A dating-scene veteran with luxuriant locks has heard dozens of times how lovely her hair is. Either craft a new quip (“Your red and gold highlights make me long for autumn”) or else bypass obvious compliments in favor of lesser-named qualities (“Your posture is flawless... do you take ballet?”). Browse Local Singles at Match.com on Yahoo!
I am a: Man Woman Seeking a: Man Woman Near: 2. Look for cues.
Where has your date invested her energies in preparing for your time together? A freshly-painted French manicure begs for recognition. Also, when someone has clearly invested their time or money in an area of interest, you’ve got a ready-made subject to compliment. “Wow... that’s quite a collection of snow globes.” This particular phrasing has the secondary advantage of making an observation without actually saying whether you like it or not.
3. Make it specific.
Vague, wide-beam flattery lacks the focused impact of a well-honed, explicit comment. “You’ve got a cool apartment,” is fine, but it doesn’t evoke pride as well as “Your jazz/art/fiction collection is amazing.” Instead of acknowledging her “pretty face,” pick one winning feature, like lips: “Your lips remind me of those coy silent-film stars.”
On to more compliments, with this note: Cheap flattery will get you nowhere. Keen compliments are never you-have-nice-eyes commonplace. Instead, it’s those rare remarks spotlighting subtler traits (e.g., sultry phone voice, bistro-picking savvy, and paparazzi-worthy glamour) that resonate longest. Next time you’ve got the chance to brighten a date’s day, issue one of these sincere forms of praise... you’ll know you’ve struck a chord when her cheeks blush. Here, the specifics:
4. “That color looks great on you.”
This phrase works on a number of levels. Your compliment suggests an appreciation of style and signifies attraction while demonstrating your own sharp eye.
5. “Your space is so inviting/hip/splendidly decorated” or “You have great taste in ______.”
Anyone who has taken time to enliven their home with objects d’art or contrasting pillow fabrics relishes this kind of accolade.
6. “I love your friends.”
If you are fortunate enough to be meeting her network of pals, put some praise out there. Acknowledging her friends will settle half of your date’s “Will they all get along?” doubts, while also casting a vote clearly in favor of those who might be bridesmaids or groomsmen one day in the rosy future.
7. “You must spend hours at the gym/yoga studio.”
Your date’s toned arms and trim gams are likelier the result of a gym membership than just splendid genes. When you notice the firm effects of someone’s workout regimen, say so. One simple compliment affirms months of labor sweatin’ to the oldies.
8. “You have the most alluring ______.”
If you’ve been dating for a bit of time, go ahead and mention eyes, toes, shoulders, back, hands and legs for this fill-in-the-blank. But beware of suggestive compliments that are more lewd than flattering.
9. “Being with you is really ______.”
This kind of statement cleverly compliments someone by signaling your own feelings. For those too shy to directly gush, “I really like you,” the above turn of phrase lets you reveal a little without coming on too strong.
Incidentally: Remarking upon a ring or earring offers the added bonus of an excuse to lift your date’s hand or brush soft curls from a delicate ear. As for necklaces, mind your manners... no pawing at pendants plunging down the bust line.
Bonus tip: End the date on a good note
After some tasty lip lock, offer immediate praise: “Now, that was a stupendous kiss.” And at the end of the date, close with a broad-stroked, three-word compliment: “You are fantastic.” This may not be terribly specific, but it ends the date on a high and succinctly announces your desire for more.
Friday, May 28, 2010
Short-Term Bottom In, But Rally Won't Be "Satisfying or Long-lasting," Roque Says
The market see-saw tilted back toward the upside Thursday. After taking a fall below 10,000 on Wednesday, the DOW was up more than 200 points in afternoon trading.
In the near term, this bounce could have legs, says John Roque, managing director and market technician with WJB Capital Group. "But we think the corrective phase is incomplete."
Roque believes the rally could take the S&P 500 as high as 1120 or 1130 in the near-term. However, "the rally's not going to be particularly satisfying, long-lasting (or) encouraging," he predicts.
For clues on the broader market's path, Roque closely follows Goldman Sachs, Morgan Stanley, Monsanto, Mosaic, Freeport-McMoran and copper prices; this group has tended to lead in and out of rallies over the last couple years. The signs coming from these so-called bellwethers, "suggests to us the S&P doesn't hold this 1050 level on this next retest," he says, predicting the S&P will fall until it finds support around 990.
One technical reason Roque is so down on any rally effort is the percent of NYSE stocks trading above their 200-day moving average. Through Wednesday 45% of Big Board stocks traded above their 200-day MA. "That number needs to decline below the 35% threshold," a level that has been a strong indicator of oversold conditions for the last 30 years. "It can get much lower, but at least at 35%, you'd say to yourself most of the damage has been done."
The good news for savers and those living on a fixed-income is the dollar does continue to look good against other currencies, according to Roque. "The dollar is benefiting from being the tallest midget," he jokes, predicting the euro will eventually fall to parity with the greenback.
In the near term, this bounce could have legs, says John Roque, managing director and market technician with WJB Capital Group. "But we think the corrective phase is incomplete."
Roque believes the rally could take the S&P 500 as high as 1120 or 1130 in the near-term. However, "the rally's not going to be particularly satisfying, long-lasting (or) encouraging," he predicts.
For clues on the broader market's path, Roque closely follows Goldman Sachs, Morgan Stanley, Monsanto, Mosaic, Freeport-McMoran and copper prices; this group has tended to lead in and out of rallies over the last couple years. The signs coming from these so-called bellwethers, "suggests to us the S&P doesn't hold this 1050 level on this next retest," he says, predicting the S&P will fall until it finds support around 990.
One technical reason Roque is so down on any rally effort is the percent of NYSE stocks trading above their 200-day moving average. Through Wednesday 45% of Big Board stocks traded above their 200-day MA. "That number needs to decline below the 35% threshold," a level that has been a strong indicator of oversold conditions for the last 30 years. "It can get much lower, but at least at 35%, you'd say to yourself most of the damage has been done."
The good news for savers and those living on a fixed-income is the dollar does continue to look good against other currencies, according to Roque. "The dollar is benefiting from being the tallest midget," he jokes, predicting the euro will eventually fall to parity with the greenback.
Saturday, April 24, 2010
一位父亲给女儿的九条人生忠告
（受用一生）
（一）对你不好的人，你不要太介怀，在你一生中，没有人有义务要对你好，除了我和你妈妈。对你好的人，你一定要珍惜、感恩。
（二）没有人是不可代替，没有东西是必须拥有。看透了这一点，将来就算你失去了世间最爱的一切时，也应该明白，这并不是什么大不了的事。
（三）生命是短暂的，今天或许还在浪费着生命，明日会发觉生命已远离你了。因此，愈早珍惜生命，你享受生命的日子也愈多，预期盼望长寿，倒不如早点享受。
（四）爱情只是一种感觉，而这感觉会随时日、心境而改变。如果你的所谓最爱离开你，请你耐心地等候一下，让时日慢慢冲洗，让心灵慢慢沉淀，你的苦就会慢慢淡化。不要过分憧憬爱情的美，不要过分夸大失恋的悲。
（五）虽然，很多有成就的人士都没有受过很多教育，但并不等于不用功读书，就一定可以成功。你学到的知识，就是你拥有的武器。人，可以白手起家，但不可以手无寸铁！
（六）我不会要求你供养我下半辈子，同样地我也不会供养你的下半辈子，当你长大到可以独立的时候，我的责任已经完结。以后，你要坐巴士还是奔驰，吃鱼翅还是粉丝，都要自己负责。
（七）你可以要求自己守信，但不能要求别人守信，你可以要求自己对人好，但不能期待人家对你好。你怎样对人，并不代表人家就会怎样对你，如果看不透这一点，你只会徒添不必要的烦恼。
（八）我买了二十六年的六合彩，还是一穷二白，连三等奖也没有中，这证明人要发达，还是要努力工作才可以，世界上并没有免费的午餐。
（九）爱人只有一次的缘分，无论这辈子我和你会相处多久，也请好好珍惜共聚的时光，下辈子，无论爱与不爱，都不会再见。
（一）对你不好的人，你不要太介怀，在你一生中，没有人有义务要对你好，除了我和你妈妈。对你好的人，你一定要珍惜、感恩。
（二）没有人是不可代替，没有东西是必须拥有。看透了这一点，将来就算你失去了世间最爱的一切时，也应该明白，这并不是什么大不了的事。
（三）生命是短暂的，今天或许还在浪费着生命，明日会发觉生命已远离你了。因此，愈早珍惜生命，你享受生命的日子也愈多，预期盼望长寿，倒不如早点享受。
（四）爱情只是一种感觉，而这感觉会随时日、心境而改变。如果你的所谓最爱离开你，请你耐心地等候一下，让时日慢慢冲洗，让心灵慢慢沉淀，你的苦就会慢慢淡化。不要过分憧憬爱情的美，不要过分夸大失恋的悲。
（五）虽然，很多有成就的人士都没有受过很多教育，但并不等于不用功读书，就一定可以成功。你学到的知识，就是你拥有的武器。人，可以白手起家，但不可以手无寸铁！
（六）我不会要求你供养我下半辈子，同样地我也不会供养你的下半辈子，当你长大到可以独立的时候，我的责任已经完结。以后，你要坐巴士还是奔驰，吃鱼翅还是粉丝，都要自己负责。
（七）你可以要求自己守信，但不能要求别人守信，你可以要求自己对人好，但不能期待人家对你好。你怎样对人，并不代表人家就会怎样对你，如果看不透这一点，你只会徒添不必要的烦恼。
（八）我买了二十六年的六合彩，还是一穷二白，连三等奖也没有中，这证明人要发达，还是要努力工作才可以，世界上并没有免费的午餐。
（九）爱人只有一次的缘分，无论这辈子我和你会相处多久，也请好好珍惜共聚的时光，下辈子，无论爱与不爱，都不会再见。
Sunday, April 11, 2010
Green Tea Side Effects Warnings!
Green tea side effects are easily preventable. Before you begin a tea diet, read this guide first to avoid nasty surprises.
When I first started this site, I decided to investigate side effects. I promise myself that I wouldn't make any recommendation without first understanding the risks.
I felt quite stupid at first. After all, even the United States FDA categories tea as "Generally Recognized as Safe". It is the second most consumed beverage after water. What can possibly go wrong?
Tea health benefits are like 1 million times more powerful than its side effects. Observed side effects are few and far between. Discovered health benefits? There are thousands of them.
But there are a few things to be aware of. Sometimes it is better to be safe than sorry.
I have to confess I am not in anyway medically qualified. I tried my best to inform. If you are in doubt, please speak to your medical adviser or post a question at the Tea Side Effects Forum below.
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #1:
When you have too much caffeine.
Tea contains about half the amount of caffeine found in coffee, so moderate consumption of green tea is unlikely to cause problems for the majority of people.
If you are sensitive to caffeine, here are the symptoms to watch out for:
◦restlessness
◦irritability
◦sleeping problems
◦tremor
◦heart palpitations
◦loss of appetite
◦upset stomach
◦nausea
◦frequent urination
◦skin rash
How to deal with tea caffeine? It is like an onion, surrounded by layers of myths. Are you ready to peel and see what is truly inside?
Tea Caffeine
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #2:
When you have a sensitive stomach.
This is very common. Stomach upset is the second most common complaint after caffeine.
A 1984 study concluded that "tea is a potent stimulant of gastric acid, and this can be reduced by adding milk and sugar."
Discover the 10 tips of enjoying a soothing cup of tea without experiencing stomach upset.
Tea and Stomach Gastric Irritation
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #3:
When you are pregnant or are breastfeeding.
Green tea contains caffeine, catechins and tannic acids. All three substances have been linked to pregnancy risks.
In addition, drinking a large amount may cause neural tube birth defect in babies.
Moderate consumption should be okay. But one should consider avoiding it altogether during early pregnancy.
Green Tea When Pregnant
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #4:
When you suffer from, or is susceptible to, iron deficiency anaemia.
Tea is known as a "negative calories" beverage. Not only does it contain virtually no calories, it also block the absorption of certain nutrients.
One key concern is iron mal absorption. A 2001 study reports that green tea extract reduces the absorption of non-heme iron by 25%.
Amazingly, another 2005 study found that long-term drinkers develop protective mechanism by having heavier parotic glands. The protein rich saliva neutralises the harmful effect of tea tannin.
Tea, Iron Absorption and Anemia
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #5:
When you experience PMS.
This is a hard one to call. There is mixed evidence.
A 2005 study found that green tea reduces the level of estrogens in the body.
It is not clear if this aggravates hot flashes. If hot flashes is a concern to you, please exercise caution with any tea beverage.
However, a 2003 study suggests that green tea, when taken with other herbs, may alleviate post menopausal symptoms.
Tea and Hot Flashes
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #6:
When you have young children.
If you have young kids, it is advisable for them not to drink tea.
This is because tea contains caffeine that may over-stimulate. It also contains tannins that may block nutrients absorption such as protein and fats in children.
Can Children Drink Tea Safely?
For older children, it is advisable for them to avoid energy drinks such as Enviga.
According to my friend Dr. Shen, energy drinks contain chemicals such as phosphoric acid, Ace-k and potassium benzoate. They are especially bad for kids, and even adults.
Potential side effects include weak bones, bad teeth, cancers and allergies.
Green Tea Energy Drinks Dangers!
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #7:
When you suffer from or are susceptible to thiamine deficiency.
Okay, I am stretching it a bit here ...
Tea reduces the absorption of thiamine (Vitamin B).
Thiamine deficiency leads to a condition known as beriberi. Once common to sailors, beriberi is now relatively rare in the Western world except for in alcoholics.
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #8:
When you have too many green tea extract tablets.
This is a real risk.
Some people prefer consuming green tea tablets rather than brewing hot tea. That is fine. But it is dangerous to overdose.
How many tablets can you safely consume? There is no clear cut answer, but some guidelines do exist.
Supplement Side Effects
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #9:
When you drink too much.
Drinking too much tea can be dangerous. Especially if the tea is low quality.
A 2005 study raised concerns about instant iced tea.
A middle aged woman was diagnosed with skeletal fluorosis for drinking up to 2 gallons of iced tea daily. Why? Because her green tea contained too much fluoride.
Fluoride in Green Tea - Danger in Lipton Instant Iced Tea!
Want to know which food and beverage may contain too much fluoride? The USDA database, which contains the fluoride content of more than 400 food and beverages, may be just what you need.
Tea and Fluoride - What Does USDA Say?
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #10:
When you have or are prone to forming kidney stones.
This is a hard one to call.
Kidney stones are mineral deposits made up of calcium, uric acid or the amino acid cysteine. At least 3 quarters of kidney stones are composed of calcium combined with phosphate or oxalic acid. Green tea is a concern because it is rich in oxalic acid.
However, contrary to expectations, recent studies suggest that green tea inhibits urinary stone formation and prevents kidney stones...
Tea and Kidney Stones
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #11:
When you are sensitive to tea.
This is another contradicting one ...
Drinking green tea may prevent allergy. But it also contains caffeine and tannin that may cause allergy.
Tea and Allergy
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #12:
Beware of slimming and weight loss teas.
There are many kinds of Chinese slimming and weight loss teas. While green tea is considered safe for long term consumption, slimming and weight loss teas that contain stimulant laxative herbs such as senna leaf and rhubarb root are especially dangerous when consumed in large quantity.
The FDA is on red alert. There have been 4 case reports of young women who died, of which herbal diet tea may be a contributing factor.
Herbal Laxative Tea - Diet Slimming and Constipation Relief?
For an in depth review of tea weight loss properties, visit Weight Loss Tea - How To Be A Successful Loser.
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #13:
When you don't brush your teeth effectively
Drinking tea or coffee stains or discolors the dental plaque, but not the teeth itself.
If the plaque is not completely brushed and flossed away within 24 hours, it begins to harden and becomes what is commonly known as tartar. This tartar is porous and further absorbs stains from other food products.
When a dentist clean your teeth, they remove the tartar and plaque. When the tartar and plaque go away, so do the teeth stains.
Want to find out what's the best ways to prevent teeth stains? Read Tea Staining and Teeth - 5 Whitening and Removal Tips.
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #14:
When you eat lots of tea leaves
The healthiest way to enjoy tea is to brew and drink the liquor. When you drink tea, you are protecting yourself from harmful insoluble solids that may be present in the leaves (such as synthetic pesticide DDT).
Matcha green tea sellers claim that when you consume tea powder, you are maximising its health benefits. This is garbage. Drinking green tea is the safest and most proven way of ingesting green tea antioxidants.
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #15:
When you are on medication or have a medical history.
This is perhaps the most important side effect of which to be aware.
Green tea, like any other tea beverages, can interfere and interact with certain medications. It is wise to avoid drinking any tea beverages 2 hours after taking medications.
Tea and Medical Interaction
Green tea contains caffeine. Caffeine can increase heart rate and blood pressure, although people who consume caffeine regularly don't seem to experience these effects in the long-term.
Caffeine can also increase blood sugar levels. Diabetes patients should drink it cautiously.
The same applies to those with psychological disorders, especially anxiety or panic disorders, and overactive thyroid or hyperthyroidism.
Take care if you have severe liver disease, as the level of caffeine in the blood may build up and last longer.
Finally, if you have any other health concerns, play it safe. Consult with your health adviser before drinking green tea.
When I first started this site, I decided to investigate side effects. I promise myself that I wouldn't make any recommendation without first understanding the risks.
I felt quite stupid at first. After all, even the United States FDA categories tea as "Generally Recognized as Safe". It is the second most consumed beverage after water. What can possibly go wrong?
Tea health benefits are like 1 million times more powerful than its side effects. Observed side effects are few and far between. Discovered health benefits? There are thousands of them.
But there are a few things to be aware of. Sometimes it is better to be safe than sorry.
I have to confess I am not in anyway medically qualified. I tried my best to inform. If you are in doubt, please speak to your medical adviser or post a question at the Tea Side Effects Forum below.
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #1:
When you have too much caffeine.
Tea contains about half the amount of caffeine found in coffee, so moderate consumption of green tea is unlikely to cause problems for the majority of people.
If you are sensitive to caffeine, here are the symptoms to watch out for:
◦restlessness
◦irritability
◦sleeping problems
◦tremor
◦heart palpitations
◦loss of appetite
◦upset stomach
◦nausea
◦frequent urination
◦skin rash
How to deal with tea caffeine? It is like an onion, surrounded by layers of myths. Are you ready to peel and see what is truly inside?
Tea Caffeine
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #2:
When you have a sensitive stomach.
This is very common. Stomach upset is the second most common complaint after caffeine.
A 1984 study concluded that "tea is a potent stimulant of gastric acid, and this can be reduced by adding milk and sugar."
Discover the 10 tips of enjoying a soothing cup of tea without experiencing stomach upset.
Tea and Stomach Gastric Irritation
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #3:
When you are pregnant or are breastfeeding.
Green tea contains caffeine, catechins and tannic acids. All three substances have been linked to pregnancy risks.
In addition, drinking a large amount may cause neural tube birth defect in babies.
Moderate consumption should be okay. But one should consider avoiding it altogether during early pregnancy.
Green Tea When Pregnant
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #4:
When you suffer from, or is susceptible to, iron deficiency anaemia.
Tea is known as a "negative calories" beverage. Not only does it contain virtually no calories, it also block the absorption of certain nutrients.
One key concern is iron mal absorption. A 2001 study reports that green tea extract reduces the absorption of non-heme iron by 25%.
Amazingly, another 2005 study found that long-term drinkers develop protective mechanism by having heavier parotic glands. The protein rich saliva neutralises the harmful effect of tea tannin.
Tea, Iron Absorption and Anemia
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #5:
When you experience PMS.
This is a hard one to call. There is mixed evidence.
A 2005 study found that green tea reduces the level of estrogens in the body.
It is not clear if this aggravates hot flashes. If hot flashes is a concern to you, please exercise caution with any tea beverage.
However, a 2003 study suggests that green tea, when taken with other herbs, may alleviate post menopausal symptoms.
Tea and Hot Flashes
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #6:
When you have young children.
If you have young kids, it is advisable for them not to drink tea.
This is because tea contains caffeine that may over-stimulate. It also contains tannins that may block nutrients absorption such as protein and fats in children.
Can Children Drink Tea Safely?
For older children, it is advisable for them to avoid energy drinks such as Enviga.
According to my friend Dr. Shen, energy drinks contain chemicals such as phosphoric acid, Ace-k and potassium benzoate. They are especially bad for kids, and even adults.
Potential side effects include weak bones, bad teeth, cancers and allergies.
Green Tea Energy Drinks Dangers!
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #7:
When you suffer from or are susceptible to thiamine deficiency.
Okay, I am stretching it a bit here ...
Tea reduces the absorption of thiamine (Vitamin B).
Thiamine deficiency leads to a condition known as beriberi. Once common to sailors, beriberi is now relatively rare in the Western world except for in alcoholics.
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #8:
When you have too many green tea extract tablets.
This is a real risk.
Some people prefer consuming green tea tablets rather than brewing hot tea. That is fine. But it is dangerous to overdose.
How many tablets can you safely consume? There is no clear cut answer, but some guidelines do exist.
Supplement Side Effects
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #9:
When you drink too much.
Drinking too much tea can be dangerous. Especially if the tea is low quality.
A 2005 study raised concerns about instant iced tea.
A middle aged woman was diagnosed with skeletal fluorosis for drinking up to 2 gallons of iced tea daily. Why? Because her green tea contained too much fluoride.
Fluoride in Green Tea - Danger in Lipton Instant Iced Tea!
Want to know which food and beverage may contain too much fluoride? The USDA database, which contains the fluoride content of more than 400 food and beverages, may be just what you need.
Tea and Fluoride - What Does USDA Say?
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #10:
When you have or are prone to forming kidney stones.
This is a hard one to call.
Kidney stones are mineral deposits made up of calcium, uric acid or the amino acid cysteine. At least 3 quarters of kidney stones are composed of calcium combined with phosphate or oxalic acid. Green tea is a concern because it is rich in oxalic acid.
However, contrary to expectations, recent studies suggest that green tea inhibits urinary stone formation and prevents kidney stones...
Tea and Kidney Stones
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #11:
When you are sensitive to tea.
This is another contradicting one ...
Drinking green tea may prevent allergy. But it also contains caffeine and tannin that may cause allergy.
Tea and Allergy
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #12:
Beware of slimming and weight loss teas.
There are many kinds of Chinese slimming and weight loss teas. While green tea is considered safe for long term consumption, slimming and weight loss teas that contain stimulant laxative herbs such as senna leaf and rhubarb root are especially dangerous when consumed in large quantity.
The FDA is on red alert. There have been 4 case reports of young women who died, of which herbal diet tea may be a contributing factor.
Herbal Laxative Tea - Diet Slimming and Constipation Relief?
For an in depth review of tea weight loss properties, visit Weight Loss Tea - How To Be A Successful Loser.
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #13:
When you don't brush your teeth effectively
Drinking tea or coffee stains or discolors the dental plaque, but not the teeth itself.
If the plaque is not completely brushed and flossed away within 24 hours, it begins to harden and becomes what is commonly known as tartar. This tartar is porous and further absorbs stains from other food products.
When a dentist clean your teeth, they remove the tartar and plaque. When the tartar and plaque go away, so do the teeth stains.
Want to find out what's the best ways to prevent teeth stains? Read Tea Staining and Teeth - 5 Whitening and Removal Tips.
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #14:
When you eat lots of tea leaves
The healthiest way to enjoy tea is to brew and drink the liquor. When you drink tea, you are protecting yourself from harmful insoluble solids that may be present in the leaves (such as synthetic pesticide DDT).
Matcha green tea sellers claim that when you consume tea powder, you are maximising its health benefits. This is garbage. Drinking green tea is the safest and most proven way of ingesting green tea antioxidants.
Green Tea Side Effects Alert #15:
When you are on medication or have a medical history.
This is perhaps the most important side effect of which to be aware.
Green tea, like any other tea beverages, can interfere and interact with certain medications. It is wise to avoid drinking any tea beverages 2 hours after taking medications.
Tea and Medical Interaction
Green tea contains caffeine. Caffeine can increase heart rate and blood pressure, although people who consume caffeine regularly don't seem to experience these effects in the long-term.
Caffeine can also increase blood sugar levels. Diabetes patients should drink it cautiously.
The same applies to those with psychological disorders, especially anxiety or panic disorders, and overactive thyroid or hyperthyroidism.
Take care if you have severe liver disease, as the level of caffeine in the blood may build up and last longer.
Finally, if you have any other health concerns, play it safe. Consult with your health adviser before drinking green tea.
Sunday, April 4, 2010
How to Sell Yourself
To get ahead in life, you need to be in the business of selling. If this statement makes you cringe, it is probably because the word “sales” evokes images of annoying telemarketers and pushy car dealers. Relax, though, as this article is about a product so wonderful and special you should have no qualms in selling it. The product? You.
There are endless situations in life where the key to success is the ability to sell yourself to others. In your career, the ability to convince an interviewer that you are the best person for the job is critical. When it comes to relationships, your ability to show your best qualities can be the crucial factor in clinching a date with the girl or guy you want. When you think about it, if you cannot sell yourself as a person to others, you are going to have a difficult time selling them your ideas, your wishes, your needs, your ambitions, your skills, and your experience.
Despite the necessity of being able to sell yourself to others, for many people like myself it does not come naturally. Introversion, shyness, and lack of self-worth are just a few of the obstacles that can potentially get in the way. To overcome such obstacles, I suggest focusing on the following:
Be Sold on Yourself
This is the first, and perhaps most important, aspect to successfully selling yourself to others. Unless it comes naturally, this is probably also the hardest. Being sold on yourself comes down to this: you must be aware of your own self-worth. This means you believe in yourself, have faith in yourself, and have confidence in yourself.
Being sold on yourself is not something that usually happens overnight. For many years, I did not like myself. I can, however, personally attest that it is possible to change your life and gain a sense of self-worth when there was once none. If you struggle with your sense of self-worth, here are just 3 ideas that may help:
•Live in such a way that you would want to be friends with yourself
•Find some time to reflect on what you like about yourself. If this seems hard, start with the smallest of attributes.
•Don’t do anything that will give you cause to feel ashamed later.
Have a Saleable Package
This article is predominately about letting others know about the inner contents of your package. That being said, there is no getting around the fact that people judge others based on their appearance. Some questions you may consider asking yourself are: am I looking after my appearance to the best of my ability? Are my clothes appropriate for the image I wish to project?
Be Positive and Enthusiastic
Can you remember the last time you received poor customer service? Did the person look bored, disinterested, and as if they wanted to be anywhere but that place? Don’t be that person. Positivity and enthusiasm can both be developed, but once again it takes work. Here are a few tips to help you:
•Look for the best in people
•Associate with positive people
•Care deeply about something
•See life as an adventure
•Smile
Be Real and Authentic
Rather than being about who you appear to be, selling yourself is about letting others know who you are as a person. For this reason, lies and half-truths are a recipe for disaster later down the line. By telling the truth, you will earn both trust and respect which, in turn, will help you build a great reputation. Not only that, it will make you feel good about yourself. The last thing you want to do is sell yourself out by compromising your values and principles.
There are endless situations in life where the key to success is the ability to sell yourself to others. In your career, the ability to convince an interviewer that you are the best person for the job is critical. When it comes to relationships, your ability to show your best qualities can be the crucial factor in clinching a date with the girl or guy you want. When you think about it, if you cannot sell yourself as a person to others, you are going to have a difficult time selling them your ideas, your wishes, your needs, your ambitions, your skills, and your experience.
Despite the necessity of being able to sell yourself to others, for many people like myself it does not come naturally. Introversion, shyness, and lack of self-worth are just a few of the obstacles that can potentially get in the way. To overcome such obstacles, I suggest focusing on the following:
Be Sold on Yourself
This is the first, and perhaps most important, aspect to successfully selling yourself to others. Unless it comes naturally, this is probably also the hardest. Being sold on yourself comes down to this: you must be aware of your own self-worth. This means you believe in yourself, have faith in yourself, and have confidence in yourself.
Being sold on yourself is not something that usually happens overnight. For many years, I did not like myself. I can, however, personally attest that it is possible to change your life and gain a sense of self-worth when there was once none. If you struggle with your sense of self-worth, here are just 3 ideas that may help:
•Live in such a way that you would want to be friends with yourself
•Find some time to reflect on what you like about yourself. If this seems hard, start with the smallest of attributes.
•Don’t do anything that will give you cause to feel ashamed later.
Have a Saleable Package
This article is predominately about letting others know about the inner contents of your package. That being said, there is no getting around the fact that people judge others based on their appearance. Some questions you may consider asking yourself are: am I looking after my appearance to the best of my ability? Are my clothes appropriate for the image I wish to project?
Be Positive and Enthusiastic
Can you remember the last time you received poor customer service? Did the person look bored, disinterested, and as if they wanted to be anywhere but that place? Don’t be that person. Positivity and enthusiasm can both be developed, but once again it takes work. Here are a few tips to help you:
•Look for the best in people
•Associate with positive people
•Care deeply about something
•See life as an adventure
•Smile
Be Real and Authentic
Rather than being about who you appear to be, selling yourself is about letting others know who you are as a person. For this reason, lies and half-truths are a recipe for disaster later down the line. By telling the truth, you will earn both trust and respect which, in turn, will help you build a great reputation. Not only that, it will make you feel good about yourself. The last thing you want to do is sell yourself out by compromising your values and principles.
每個人都在推銷自己
很多人聽到sales(銷售員或者推銷員)的時候，或許第一個反應是這是一個沒有保障的工作，起薪不高又靠別人臉色吃飯，還經常需要到處奔波，從另一方面說，如果遇上一個保險、直銷甚至是銀行的推銷員，有時就好像沾上了一塊口香糖，怎麼甩都甩不掉似的，因此很多人在職場上的選擇，除非不得已，否則都不期望自己變成sales。
然而，在有了一定的社會工作經驗之後，面對這些有個業績甚至生存壓力的sales，不管是透過電話或者是街頭上的偶遇，總是會多給他們一點時間，聽聽他們的介紹，而從中會發現，一些sales只是一昧的恭維抬舉你，也有不少人其實對自己所想推銷的產品或者服務不甚了解，但也不乏對自己的工作懷有熱誠，且真正是抱著想把一個好東西推薦給別人的sales……
今天閱讀了一本書，《如何在人生中推銷自己》，是上個世紀全球知名的成功勵志大師拿破崙希爾（Napoleon Hill）的著作，原文名稱為《Selling yourself》，這書開宗明義提到，每個人總是不斷的對外推銷自己，無論你是誰，或從事什麼職業，每當遇見一個人、向他人解釋、和人通電話或表達自己的觀點時，你就在推銷最寶貴的財富-你自己。
這是一個很有意思的話題，而也一針見血，不管你有多高的學歷，有多麼學問淵博，如果不知道如何把自己推銷出去，那麼你就不會成功，這是不僅是一門學問，更是一種藝術，只有用心的人才能真正學會！
書中提到兩個案例，的確讓人感同身受，99%的人在購買人壽保險時不知道自己的保單上寫了什麼，更有甚者，他們看上去似乎根本就不關心這些。真正吸引他們的是保險推銷員令人愉快的個性，而這些推銷員深知養成這種個性的價值所在；此外，每一個真正精明的辯護律師都知道，任何試圖恭維法官的舉動都相當於拿當事人的案件去冒險。
那麼如何才是推銷自己的最好方式呢？
作者提到了需要遵守的28個原則以及規避的26個不良的習慣，或許這些都是人人都知道的常理，但卻從未切身注意或認真執行過的一些事項，在這些原則或者不良習慣之外，我認為書中提到最關鍵的其實是「真誠、坦承」、「個性、魅力」、「目的、驅動」。
真誠與坦誠可以說是最基本的，這關係到個人的信譽，也是能否長久經營個人或者一個事業的必要關鍵，真誠是可以讓人感覺得到你的用心，而坦誠則更能贏得別人的信任，這是莫名的恭維奉承所無法做到的，而且路遙知馬力，真誠與坦誠給人很多的收益，不只是在推銷這件事上，更可以贏得人脈、友情，並讓這個關係長久保持著…
個性與魅力則是另一個重要的環節，這關係到你的事業的發展大小，要學會建立個人或者事業的使命、魅力以及價值觀，並且樂於分享，用以影響感染別人，這有點類似洗腦，而最高竿之處就在於「對別人產生影響，而又不會激怒別人」，就像Apple的產品系列一樣，有一群忠誠的用戶，再結合了上述的真誠與坦誠，將使你成為一個受歡迎的人(或事業)。
最後一個目的與驅動，相對於前兩者是屬於對內自期許的，冷靜理性的幫自己制定一個目的遠景，不斷的提醒自己專注在你的目的遠景上，想像得達到這個目標的美好，並隨時驅動著自己保持著正面積極的熱誠，只要熱情不減，縱使遇到困難，都可以產生源源不斷的靈感，並找到突破點…
其實，多數這些勵志的圖書都在闡述這些觀念，或許真正吸引我的是這本書的書名，我們不應該排斥所謂推銷的工作，因為這不僅是個人職涯上一個重要的關鍵，也是每個事業的根本，無法把自己或者產品推銷出去，一次都是空談，所以有機會把這些相關的勵志書籍拿出來翻閱一下，搞不好會給我們更多繼續向前的動力。
然而，在有了一定的社會工作經驗之後，面對這些有個業績甚至生存壓力的sales，不管是透過電話或者是街頭上的偶遇，總是會多給他們一點時間，聽聽他們的介紹，而從中會發現，一些sales只是一昧的恭維抬舉你，也有不少人其實對自己所想推銷的產品或者服務不甚了解，但也不乏對自己的工作懷有熱誠，且真正是抱著想把一個好東西推薦給別人的sales……
今天閱讀了一本書，《如何在人生中推銷自己》，是上個世紀全球知名的成功勵志大師拿破崙希爾（Napoleon Hill）的著作，原文名稱為《Selling yourself》，這書開宗明義提到，每個人總是不斷的對外推銷自己，無論你是誰，或從事什麼職業，每當遇見一個人、向他人解釋、和人通電話或表達自己的觀點時，你就在推銷最寶貴的財富-你自己。
這是一個很有意思的話題，而也一針見血，不管你有多高的學歷，有多麼學問淵博，如果不知道如何把自己推銷出去，那麼你就不會成功，這是不僅是一門學問，更是一種藝術，只有用心的人才能真正學會！
書中提到兩個案例，的確讓人感同身受，99%的人在購買人壽保險時不知道自己的保單上寫了什麼，更有甚者，他們看上去似乎根本就不關心這些。真正吸引他們的是保險推銷員令人愉快的個性，而這些推銷員深知養成這種個性的價值所在；此外，每一個真正精明的辯護律師都知道，任何試圖恭維法官的舉動都相當於拿當事人的案件去冒險。
那麼如何才是推銷自己的最好方式呢？
作者提到了需要遵守的28個原則以及規避的26個不良的習慣，或許這些都是人人都知道的常理，但卻從未切身注意或認真執行過的一些事項，在這些原則或者不良習慣之外，我認為書中提到最關鍵的其實是「真誠、坦承」、「個性、魅力」、「目的、驅動」。
真誠與坦誠可以說是最基本的，這關係到個人的信譽，也是能否長久經營個人或者一個事業的必要關鍵，真誠是可以讓人感覺得到你的用心，而坦誠則更能贏得別人的信任，這是莫名的恭維奉承所無法做到的，而且路遙知馬力，真誠與坦誠給人很多的收益，不只是在推銷這件事上，更可以贏得人脈、友情，並讓這個關係長久保持著…
個性與魅力則是另一個重要的環節，這關係到你的事業的發展大小，要學會建立個人或者事業的使命、魅力以及價值觀，並且樂於分享，用以影響感染別人，這有點類似洗腦，而最高竿之處就在於「對別人產生影響，而又不會激怒別人」，就像Apple的產品系列一樣，有一群忠誠的用戶，再結合了上述的真誠與坦誠，將使你成為一個受歡迎的人(或事業)。
最後一個目的與驅動，相對於前兩者是屬於對內自期許的，冷靜理性的幫自己制定一個目的遠景，不斷的提醒自己專注在你的目的遠景上，想像得達到這個目標的美好，並隨時驅動著自己保持著正面積極的熱誠，只要熱情不減，縱使遇到困難，都可以產生源源不斷的靈感，並找到突破點…
其實，多數這些勵志的圖書都在闡述這些觀念，或許真正吸引我的是這本書的書名，我們不應該排斥所謂推銷的工作，因為這不僅是個人職涯上一個重要的關鍵，也是每個事業的根本，無法把自己或者產品推銷出去，一次都是空談，所以有機會把這些相關的勵志書籍拿出來翻閱一下，搞不好會給我們更多繼續向前的動力。
我是黎智英
某天跟朋友聊天的過程，不經意又提到了黎智英的幾本書，因為對於自己的下一步選擇有所遲疑，因而再度把《我是黎智英》一書當作枕邊書，每天晚上睡前就當做看故事書一樣重新翻閱了一次，這不是一本新書，或許是因為個人經歷的關係，對於書中所描述的創業或者經營理念，突然有了一種新的體會，甚至讓我越讀越興奮…
當然黎智英先生這幾年下來經營的媒體事業之後，外界對於其人的評價褒貶不一，同時畢竟是自傳體的文章描述，或許也可能缺乏所謂的中立性，然而就事論事，純粹站在經營管理面的角度來看待這本書的內容，不談其他社會環境流傳的風風火火的八卦以及是非，我認為最起碼黎智英是一個很熱愛生活、很有熱情、也是一個擁有智慧的人…
一個從小因為家境清寒而外出闖蕩到後來白手起家的人，他一路奮鬥努力所累積下來寶貴的人生經驗，這一篇篇的看似很輕鬆的故事當中，無不透露出其人生的態度，更勝於我們在冠冕堂皇的教科書中所得到的呆板知識，甚至讓人打自內心表示認同，並且拍案叫絕的智慧理念，從中我看到了一個很真實的人生故事，沒有虛偽以及一些言不及義的言談，他甚至坦白的說出過去一些為了目的不得手段的事蹟…
書中透過不少其人生經歷過的事件，用以形容創業、創新、專注的重要性，也讓我們知道人才管理、信念、簡化工作流程的重要性，而這些理念跟我們過去所認知的事有極大的差異性的，我忍不住想節錄書中的一些內容來豐富這篇文章，如下：
「創業的人不一定聰明，也可能不太聰明…創業是從無知開始的。一盤事先便可以計畫好的生意，哪還會有發展的空間？故此一早便計畫出來的生意，是最容易失敗的生意…創業就是unexpected，創作一些原來預料不到的事…面對無知所產生的錯誤，透過解決問題，去創造一個從來沒有出現過的事情，這才是創業…」
「在創業的初期，錢其實越少越好，因為創業的過程是一個學習的過程，你開始時的事業越大，你繳的學費也越多…」
「為了分散注意力，會議的時間以四十五分鐘為限。每個參加會議的人都要預先準備好問題，而這些問題都要集中在內部運作上和顧客面對的困難，不得提出假設和預測(我從不相信預測這一回事)，這樣便可以避免浪費時間、精力胡扯了。我看過太多無的放矢的胡扯會議了…」
「我相信要贏對方，最好的方法就是集中精神發揮自己的優勢。要知道自己有什麼長處與短處已經不容易，更何況要了解對方的…設想對方會出什麼招數，進而謀求對策，不是比一心二用還要艱難嗎…我不相信Michael比我聰明六倍。如果我們的經營模式比他的簡單六倍，我不是KISS- Keep it Simple, Stupid有機會取勝了嗎？」
「要發展事業、過好的生活，先便要知道自己的弱點是什麼。避開這些弱點，優點自然在工作和生活的環節中呈現出來。故此我以為做人不用總是去想自己的優點是什麼，只顧提防自己的弱點便好了…」
「維繫員工與公司的關係，不是肝膽相照的忠誠，而是秉正不阿的操守…有些老闆對忠誠的定義是：如果你真的對我忠誠，那麼少些薪水、辛苦些，你也該繼續跟我做事，不該跳槽。這不是忠誠，這是純粹佔人便宜，是百分之百的虛偽…以對待市場的方式對待員工：滿足不了好的員工，公司亦會倒閉…」
節錄了這些《我是黎智英》一書我認為經典的語錄，很多跟我過去失敗的創業經驗不謀而合的理念，可以了解黎智英是個實踐重於理論的人，邊做邊學習成長，也因此成功的快，理論需要執行力去應證，從行動中又發現新的理論，他的成功並非偶然，值得我們學習…
＊本文大量節錄《我是黎智英》(商周出版，2007)的內容，也真誠推薦給對於自己的生涯、事業規劃正茫然不知所措的朋友們…
當然黎智英先生這幾年下來經營的媒體事業之後，外界對於其人的評價褒貶不一，同時畢竟是自傳體的文章描述，或許也可能缺乏所謂的中立性，然而就事論事，純粹站在經營管理面的角度來看待這本書的內容，不談其他社會環境流傳的風風火火的八卦以及是非，我認為最起碼黎智英是一個很熱愛生活、很有熱情、也是一個擁有智慧的人…
一個從小因為家境清寒而外出闖蕩到後來白手起家的人，他一路奮鬥努力所累積下來寶貴的人生經驗，這一篇篇的看似很輕鬆的故事當中，無不透露出其人生的態度，更勝於我們在冠冕堂皇的教科書中所得到的呆板知識，甚至讓人打自內心表示認同，並且拍案叫絕的智慧理念，從中我看到了一個很真實的人生故事，沒有虛偽以及一些言不及義的言談，他甚至坦白的說出過去一些為了目的不得手段的事蹟…
書中透過不少其人生經歷過的事件，用以形容創業、創新、專注的重要性，也讓我們知道人才管理、信念、簡化工作流程的重要性，而這些理念跟我們過去所認知的事有極大的差異性的，我忍不住想節錄書中的一些內容來豐富這篇文章，如下：
「創業的人不一定聰明，也可能不太聰明…創業是從無知開始的。一盤事先便可以計畫好的生意，哪還會有發展的空間？故此一早便計畫出來的生意，是最容易失敗的生意…創業就是unexpected，創作一些原來預料不到的事…面對無知所產生的錯誤，透過解決問題，去創造一個從來沒有出現過的事情，這才是創業…」
「在創業的初期，錢其實越少越好，因為創業的過程是一個學習的過程，你開始時的事業越大，你繳的學費也越多…」
「為了分散注意力，會議的時間以四十五分鐘為限。每個參加會議的人都要預先準備好問題，而這些問題都要集中在內部運作上和顧客面對的困難，不得提出假設和預測(我從不相信預測這一回事)，這樣便可以避免浪費時間、精力胡扯了。我看過太多無的放矢的胡扯會議了…」
「我相信要贏對方，最好的方法就是集中精神發揮自己的優勢。要知道自己有什麼長處與短處已經不容易，更何況要了解對方的…設想對方會出什麼招數，進而謀求對策，不是比一心二用還要艱難嗎…我不相信Michael比我聰明六倍。如果我們的經營模式比他的簡單六倍，我不是KISS- Keep it Simple, Stupid有機會取勝了嗎？」
「要發展事業、過好的生活，先便要知道自己的弱點是什麼。避開這些弱點，優點自然在工作和生活的環節中呈現出來。故此我以為做人不用總是去想自己的優點是什麼，只顧提防自己的弱點便好了…」
「維繫員工與公司的關係，不是肝膽相照的忠誠，而是秉正不阿的操守…有些老闆對忠誠的定義是：如果你真的對我忠誠，那麼少些薪水、辛苦些，你也該繼續跟我做事，不該跳槽。這不是忠誠，這是純粹佔人便宜，是百分之百的虛偽…以對待市場的方式對待員工：滿足不了好的員工，公司亦會倒閉…」
節錄了這些《我是黎智英》一書我認為經典的語錄，很多跟我過去失敗的創業經驗不謀而合的理念，可以了解黎智英是個實踐重於理論的人，邊做邊學習成長，也因此成功的快，理論需要執行力去應證，從行動中又發現新的理論，他的成功並非偶然，值得我們學習…
＊本文大量節錄《我是黎智英》(商周出版，2007)的內容，也真誠推薦給對於自己的生涯、事業規劃正茫然不知所措的朋友們…
牛顿，爱因斯坦，老子为你揭示人类财富密码
第一课、300多年前，牛顿为我们揭示了股市运行3大定律
1、惯性定律：一切公司在任何情况下，在主营业务没有增长时，公司的内在价值保持不变。
2、第二定律：公司的赚钱能力（净利润） ＝ 净资产 × 净资产收益率，净资产收益率就是赚钱加速度。
3、第三定律：公司的价值 和 公司在经营期内的净现金流入，大小相等。
课后练习题：
1、平安靠融资获得1500亿，是否可以判断平安的价值增加1500亿，请用惯性定律做答。
2、公司当期盈余 和 净资产收益率，哪个可以用作判断公司未来赚钱能力？请用第二定律做答。
3、张裕B和张裕A在的净现金流入一样，那么二者价值一样吗？ 请用第三定律做答。
恭喜你，中学毕业了
第二课、100多年前，有个叫阿尔伯特·爱因斯坦的犹太小孩，20岁的时候，悟出了人类财富密码。
E=mC^2, 其中E表示你拥有的财富，m表示你的本金，C表示保住本金。如果你每一次操作都能保住本金，你就坐上了光速的翅膀，这就是“慢即是快”
课后练习题：
4、如果你的本金经常受到损失，你会很快积累财富吗。
恭喜你，大学毕业了！
第三课、其实，早在2500年前，伟大的先秦思想家 老子 揭示了人类和财富的秘密：
道生一，一生二，二生三，三生万物。
你先赚到第1块钱，然后从1块钱赚到2块钱，从2块钱赚到3块钱，等你赚到3块钱后，你就知道了致富的秘密。你就可以富甲天下了。
但是第一块钱是从哪里来的，是“道”生的，“道”就是你自己。
课后练习题：
5、如果健康没了，你的财富是多少？
恭喜你，博士毕业了！
1、惯性定律：一切公司在任何情况下，在主营业务没有增长时，公司的内在价值保持不变。
2、第二定律：公司的赚钱能力（净利润） ＝ 净资产 × 净资产收益率，净资产收益率就是赚钱加速度。
3、第三定律：公司的价值 和 公司在经营期内的净现金流入，大小相等。
课后练习题：
1、平安靠融资获得1500亿，是否可以判断平安的价值增加1500亿，请用惯性定律做答。
2、公司当期盈余 和 净资产收益率，哪个可以用作判断公司未来赚钱能力？请用第二定律做答。
3、张裕B和张裕A在的净现金流入一样，那么二者价值一样吗？ 请用第三定律做答。
恭喜你，中学毕业了
第二课、100多年前，有个叫阿尔伯特·爱因斯坦的犹太小孩，20岁的时候，悟出了人类财富密码。
E=mC^2, 其中E表示你拥有的财富，m表示你的本金，C表示保住本金。如果你每一次操作都能保住本金，你就坐上了光速的翅膀，这就是“慢即是快”
课后练习题：
4、如果你的本金经常受到损失，你会很快积累财富吗。
恭喜你，大学毕业了！
第三课、其实，早在2500年前，伟大的先秦思想家 老子 揭示了人类和财富的秘密：
道生一，一生二，二生三，三生万物。
你先赚到第1块钱，然后从1块钱赚到2块钱，从2块钱赚到3块钱，等你赚到3块钱后，你就知道了致富的秘密。你就可以富甲天下了。
但是第一块钱是从哪里来的，是“道”生的，“道”就是你自己。
课后练习题：
5、如果健康没了，你的财富是多少？
恭喜你，博士毕业了！
Saturday, April 3, 2010
Can You Choose To Be A Luckier Person?
Yesterday morning I was walking to work, when a crumpled up piece of green and white paper on the street caught my eye.
Money! There it was, a dollar bill that someone had accidentally tossed away – it was my lucky day!
Now, you might say – relax girl, it’ s just a dollar… But the truth is, how often do you find paper money waiting for you o n the streets of New York City? I was in the right place at the right time - just lucky, I guess!
I’ll be honest, the idea of luck has always sort of tormented me. I love the idea of just happening upon good fortune, but I’ve never liked the notion that our lives are just left to such chance. Or maybe I just hadn’t been looking at it the right way..
The more I thought about it, the more I became convinced that we could actually choose to be lucky or unlucky. Have you ever noticed that it’s always the down in the dumps people who seem to “never win anything” – you know the type! And have you noticed that some of the “luckiest” people you know are also some of the most positive people you know too? Perhaps it’s a chick en and egg scenario, but I tend to believe that it’s the person who controls the ir luck, not the ot her way around. So, here are some simple ways you ca n choose to be a luckier person!
Stay Open to Opportunity
Do we really need to remind you of the “When life gives you lemons make lemonade” cliché?! When you start seeing the opportunity that is right in front of your eyes, you’ll instantly feel like a luckier person! Feeling run-down and exhausted you have to wake up so early for work? Take a moment to appreciate the sunrise – you wouldn’t see it if you were still snoozing in bed!
Seize the Moment
Speaking of clichés, why do you think Carpe Diem is also such a popular saying? Want to compliment your co-worker on a job well done, but not sure if you should reach out? I mean, why would she care what little old you have to say? Go for it! She may just want to partner with you on the next big project!
Be Kind & Respectful to Everyone You Meet
That first impression will last, and you never know who will bring you an opportunity down the road! If you are bitchy and terse with the receptionist in the waiting room and then find out she is actually the doctor’s wife (!) is that an example of you being unlucky? Or of you being a negative person?
Positivity B reeds “ L uck”
Positive people have a magnetic pull to them – they pull goodness towards themselves, the same way negative people repel it. Karma, ladies, karma. The other day at Target a man cut in front of me to grab a shopping cart. Of course I wanted to tell him to ‘F’ Off, but I took a deep breathe and smiled instead. He paused, turned around and gave me a shopping cart first — and then went back to get one for himself. If you put positive energy into the world chances are you will receive it in return – this may appear as luck but is really just a by-product of your good energy.
Stay In The Game
Have ever noticed how so many bands, actors and other artists seem to hit it big overnight? It’s NOT true! In fact, most people who become ‘instantly’ successful have actually been working hard for that break for years.
So: DON’T GIVE UP.
Good things- aka luck- come to those who ACTIVELY wait!
So, if you want to change your luck, try changing your outlook. Who knows just how many crumpled up dollar bills you might find in the street? But, seriously, if it’s stuck in some really nasty looking NYC garbage, the luckiest thing to do may be to just keep walking!
Money! There it was, a dollar bill that someone had accidentally tossed away – it was my lucky day!
Now, you might say – relax girl, it’ s just a dollar… But the truth is, how often do you find paper money waiting for you o n the streets of New York City? I was in the right place at the right time - just lucky, I guess!
I’ll be honest, the idea of luck has always sort of tormented me. I love the idea of just happening upon good fortune, but I’ve never liked the notion that our lives are just left to such chance. Or maybe I just hadn’t been looking at it the right way..
The more I thought about it, the more I became convinced that we could actually choose to be lucky or unlucky. Have you ever noticed that it’s always the down in the dumps people who seem to “never win anything” – you know the type! And have you noticed that some of the “luckiest” people you know are also some of the most positive people you know too? Perhaps it’s a chick en and egg scenario, but I tend to believe that it’s the person who controls the ir luck, not the ot her way around. So, here are some simple ways you ca n choose to be a luckier person!
Stay Open to Opportunity
Do we really need to remind you of the “When life gives you lemons make lemonade” cliché?! When you start seeing the opportunity that is right in front of your eyes, you’ll instantly feel like a luckier person! Feeling run-down and exhausted you have to wake up so early for work? Take a moment to appreciate the sunrise – you wouldn’t see it if you were still snoozing in bed!
Seize the Moment
Speaking of clichés, why do you think Carpe Diem is also such a popular saying? Want to compliment your co-worker on a job well done, but not sure if you should reach out? I mean, why would she care what little old you have to say? Go for it! She may just want to partner with you on the next big project!
Be Kind & Respectful to Everyone You Meet
That first impression will last, and you never know who will bring you an opportunity down the road! If you are bitchy and terse with the receptionist in the waiting room and then find out she is actually the doctor’s wife (!) is that an example of you being unlucky? Or of you being a negative person?
Positivity B reeds “ L uck”
Positive people have a magnetic pull to them – they pull goodness towards themselves, the same way negative people repel it. Karma, ladies, karma. The other day at Target a man cut in front of me to grab a shopping cart. Of course I wanted to tell him to ‘F’ Off, but I took a deep breathe and smiled instead. He paused, turned around and gave me a shopping cart first — and then went back to get one for himself. If you put positive energy into the world chances are you will receive it in return – this may appear as luck but is really just a by-product of your good energy.
Stay In The Game
Have ever noticed how so many bands, actors and other artists seem to hit it big overnight? It’s NOT true! In fact, most people who become ‘instantly’ successful have actually been working hard for that break for years.
So: DON’T GIVE UP.
Good things- aka luck- come to those who ACTIVELY wait!
So, if you want to change your luck, try changing your outlook. Who knows just how many crumpled up dollar bills you might find in the street? But, seriously, if it’s stuck in some really nasty looking NYC garbage, the luckiest thing to do may be to just keep walking!
我是黎智英
黎智英，用一元港幣從香港街頭起家，沒有受過教育，卻能靠著流利的英語闖進紐約成衣業，閱讀複雜的經濟理論。先後創立公明織造廠，佐丹奴成衣連鎖，《壹周刊》與《蘋果日報》，身價超過五億美元。
三十年的創業生涯，他說︰簡單，才能專注；專注，才能成功。
我要偷渡到香港必先進澳門，當時，進入澳門只能攜帶一元港幣，臨走前母親偷偷將一塊小金條?在我的內褲裡。在拱北關檢查站排隊等候檢查的時候，有個女人因為私藏金器而被官員押走，我驚慌之下用手指把褲袋戳破一個洞，伸手拔出金條，讓它沿著大腿滑落，再重重將之踩入泥土裡。經過檢查哨時，官員並沒有搜我的身，可是踏出關口的那一剎那，我沒有懊悔，我為自己的決定高興。因為，我要逃離貧困，去澳門是我唯一的路，除此之外我別無選擇。
一個人，只要能認清「我別無選擇」的現實，就能體悟到「謙遜」，而「謙遜」正是簡化事業和簡化人生的第一步。在構思如何挽救佐丹奴時，我不時回想走過拱北關的那一刻。面對當時競爭條件好過佐丹奴許多的對手G2000，我下定決心簡化公司的運作，我心想，如果我的經營模式比你簡單六倍，那麼，只要我不比你笨六倍，我豈會沒有贏的機會？
無論做人或做事，簡單才能專注。但是簡單令人生畏，大多數的人都喜歡保有許多選擇，愈是重要的事情便要愈多的選擇。殊不知選擇愈多，事情愈複雜，如果我們將生命裡重要的事情都複雜化，那我們必死無疑。
若你問我在近六十年的複雜人生裡找出了什麼條理，這條理便是簡單。無論經營事業還是人生，我們都要時刻提醒自己，有什麼是我們應該要放棄的？
作者簡介 黎智英
1948年出生在貧窮的廣東農村，12歲那年，他乘著舢舨船偷渡到香港，進入成衣工廠當童工，月薪8美元。他一路經營自己，做到成衣廠的經理，卻因公司的一場記過處分，下定決心自己創業。1981年，他成立佐丹奴（Giordano）成衣連鎖店，快速打響名號；1989年，創辦《壹周刊》（Next），正式進入媒體事業，繼發行量破紀錄達到15萬本的《壹周刊》後，1995年又創辦《蘋果日報》，發行量超過70萬份，此時他擁有的財富已超過5億美元。1999年6月創辦「蘋果速銷」（adMart），以線上零售為主，虧損10億港幣（台幣40億元）。2001年創辦台灣《壹周刊》，2003年創辦台灣《蘋果日報》。
三十年的創業生涯，他說︰簡單，才能專注；專注，才能成功。
我要偷渡到香港必先進澳門，當時，進入澳門只能攜帶一元港幣，臨走前母親偷偷將一塊小金條?在我的內褲裡。在拱北關檢查站排隊等候檢查的時候，有個女人因為私藏金器而被官員押走，我驚慌之下用手指把褲袋戳破一個洞，伸手拔出金條，讓它沿著大腿滑落，再重重將之踩入泥土裡。經過檢查哨時，官員並沒有搜我的身，可是踏出關口的那一剎那，我沒有懊悔，我為自己的決定高興。因為，我要逃離貧困，去澳門是我唯一的路，除此之外我別無選擇。
一個人，只要能認清「我別無選擇」的現實，就能體悟到「謙遜」，而「謙遜」正是簡化事業和簡化人生的第一步。在構思如何挽救佐丹奴時，我不時回想走過拱北關的那一刻。面對當時競爭條件好過佐丹奴許多的對手G2000，我下定決心簡化公司的運作，我心想，如果我的經營模式比你簡單六倍，那麼，只要我不比你笨六倍，我豈會沒有贏的機會？
無論做人或做事，簡單才能專注。但是簡單令人生畏，大多數的人都喜歡保有許多選擇，愈是重要的事情便要愈多的選擇。殊不知選擇愈多，事情愈複雜，如果我們將生命裡重要的事情都複雜化，那我們必死無疑。
若你問我在近六十年的複雜人生裡找出了什麼條理，這條理便是簡單。無論經營事業還是人生，我們都要時刻提醒自己，有什麼是我們應該要放棄的？
作者簡介 黎智英
1948年出生在貧窮的廣東農村，12歲那年，他乘著舢舨船偷渡到香港，進入成衣工廠當童工，月薪8美元。他一路經營自己，做到成衣廠的經理，卻因公司的一場記過處分，下定決心自己創業。1981年，他成立佐丹奴（Giordano）成衣連鎖店，快速打響名號；1989年，創辦《壹周刊》（Next），正式進入媒體事業，繼發行量破紀錄達到15萬本的《壹周刊》後，1995年又創辦《蘋果日報》，發行量超過70萬份，此時他擁有的財富已超過5億美元。1999年6月創辦「蘋果速銷」（adMart），以線上零售為主，虧損10億港幣（台幣40億元）。2001年創辦台灣《壹周刊》，2003年創辦台灣《蘋果日報》。
Top 15 Dating Mistakes Guys Make
Okay fellas, the ladies have to hand it to you-- you do a lot of things to make our hearts swoon. You surprise us by taking the initiative to invite us out to dinner-- where we will undoubtedly enjoy a romantic meal by candlelight, talk for hours, spoon feed each other creme brulee-- wait a minute, are those your friends from college about to sit with us? And you wonder why we're mad later. Needless to say, sometimes guys trip up their own game with the ladies without even realizing it. Here's a list of the most common dating mistakes guys make-- so you can keep your game in check.
1. Overly possessive
Stop. Just, stop. If the girl is dating you, she obviously wants to be with you doofus-- there's no need to call her every hour, resort to extreme PDA to show the world she's yours, or be on her back all the time about her guy friends. It's not sweet, it's stifling, and nobody wants to date a guy like that. Except that chick from Twilight-- we guess there are a few here and there that are into that whole creepily possessive, smothering, super jealous deal.
2. Gross living space
Dorm room, apartment, house, condo, parent's basement-- wherever you live, there's no excuse for it to be dirty. No, it doesn't have to be "Suzy Homemaker" clean, but she'll notice the Doritos crumbs from last night's March Madness party, the empty beer cans, and the dreaded dirty socks littering the floor. While your lady friend shouldn't be dating you solely based on your living space, a decently clean room shows her that you not only take care of yourself, but also put in the effort to make her feel comfortable in your home.
3. Acting like a tough guy
Oh, you have muscles and testosterone? We never noticed. No, really c'mon guys-- girls know it, you know it, and other guys know it. You're a man, grrrrrr. So why do some guys start stupid, unnecessary scuffles ("Come at my bro")? News flash-- fights just make us scared, not impressed. So just play it cool and save everyone the stress.
4. Acting differently around your friends
The merging of the two worlds of friends and GF is a delicate task (one that most guys seem to bomb). Just as your main squeeze wouldn't want the 411 about the hot chick your ex-frat buddy hooked up with last weekend, the same goes for your bros not wanting to hear about your latest antiquing excursion. Play it cool, keep the conversations neutral, and your friends will like your new girl as much as you do (well hopefully not as much).
5. Saying they'll do XYZ with no follow through
Everyone has a cell phone these days. Seriously, if you haven't jumped on the 21st century bandwagon yet then you probably aren't reading this and are more likely holed up in the mountains catching fish with your bare hands and wrestling bears. Case in point-- we're betting you have access to a telephone. So stop making excuses and just call a girl when you say you will.
6. Flirting with/checking out other women
Most women have a slight case of the "green eyed monster," but it's relatively easy to keep the beast at bay-- unless given just cause. That quick glance at the waitress' cha-chas? Being overly friendly with your knockout coworker? Talking a little too much about Megan Fox? Yep, she'll notice. We get that you have hormones-- trust us we do, too (especially when it comes to anyone whose last name is Badgley, Pitt, or Damon)-- but do yourself a favor and keep them under control around us, or jealousy will rear its head. And yes, it will get ugly.
7. Baby talk in bed
Urban dictionary defines baby talk as "the cutesy gibberish spoken by 1. Babies and 2. Adults speaking to animals and babies." It's a bizarre phenomenon really, when grown adults turn into babbling idiots in the cute faces of their pets. That said, while it's endearing with puppies and bunnies, girls don't want to be spoken to like that-- particularly in the bedroom.
8. Expecting her to act like your mother
Newsflash-- women are nurturing creatures. Sometimes men try to abuse their goodwill and start treating them more like mothers than girlfriends-- especially in a cohabitation scenario. After all, she's not there to be a mommy replacement-- to clean up after you, take in your dry cleaning, or "make you a sandwich" (thanks teenage boys everywhere for perpetuating this sexist comment). In short, man up mamma's boy and get your act together.
9. Letting your friends dictate your life
Ladies get it-- your bros, brahs, wingmen, fellas, buddies, etc. are really important to you. What women find really aggravating, however, is when you let your friends dictate your life. Ever taken a friend's advice like "make her jealous to win her back?" Wow, good one man-- she just broke up with you. See, while their intentions may be good, they're not experts, and girls would prefer that you discuss your relationship issues with them instead.
10. Threatened by her job
Sometimes it seems as though the best way to test a man's commitment isn't to gauge his reaction when his significant other is down in the dumps-- after all, anybody can deliver ice cream and rented movies-- but rather gauge his reaction in the face of success. If the BF is overjoyed for his GF, he is definitely a keeper. However, far too often, men are threatened by a woman's success-- two words guys-- not cool.
11. Hypocritical standards
Nobody likes a hypocrite. That annoying "do as I say, not what I do" mentality loses its merit fast-- especially when it translates to your relationship. Either adhere to the standards you go by for her, or run the risk of coming off as controlling.
12. Not having your own life away from her
Scientifically speaking, in the first six months of dating, dopamine and serotonin levels peak, creating a form of obsession with your significant other. Once you transition out of this phase, you feel attached to your partner deeply, but often begin pursuing interests that have fallen by the wayside. Just don't forget the step where you start persuing those other interests. Nobody likes a needy guy.
13. Bringing up previous relationships
Talking about an ex a lot-- whether in a positive light, as in "I'm totally at peace with the situation," or in a negative light-- i.e. "I can't believe I dated that w----," sends one very clear, unnerving message-- he's not over his ex. Bringing up past girlfriends to use as ammo in a fight is a terrible idea-- lest you want to start WWIII. You don't have to ignore her existence, but you also don't need to bring up her name in every convo, either.
14. Treating others poorly
When men are first dating someone casually and trying to impress them, one major red flag is when they treat people poorly. While we sincerely hope he won't go as far as to put a fumbling waiter in a headlock, just being rude to a taxi driver or making a scene with the cashier worries ladies that they may be dating a narcissistic psycho.
15. Inflated ego
When it comes to dating, big ego = big turn-off. No one likes a know-it-all with an inflated sense of self. When guys talk a big game or boast about past conquests, it makes girls wonder what they're over-compensating for-- and chances are that they won't stay in the relationship long enough to find out.
1. Overly possessive
Stop. Just, stop. If the girl is dating you, she obviously wants to be with you doofus-- there's no need to call her every hour, resort to extreme PDA to show the world she's yours, or be on her back all the time about her guy friends. It's not sweet, it's stifling, and nobody wants to date a guy like that. Except that chick from Twilight-- we guess there are a few here and there that are into that whole creepily possessive, smothering, super jealous deal.
2. Gross living space
Dorm room, apartment, house, condo, parent's basement-- wherever you live, there's no excuse for it to be dirty. No, it doesn't have to be "Suzy Homemaker" clean, but she'll notice the Doritos crumbs from last night's March Madness party, the empty beer cans, and the dreaded dirty socks littering the floor. While your lady friend shouldn't be dating you solely based on your living space, a decently clean room shows her that you not only take care of yourself, but also put in the effort to make her feel comfortable in your home.
3. Acting like a tough guy
Oh, you have muscles and testosterone? We never noticed. No, really c'mon guys-- girls know it, you know it, and other guys know it. You're a man, grrrrrr. So why do some guys start stupid, unnecessary scuffles ("Come at my bro")? News flash-- fights just make us scared, not impressed. So just play it cool and save everyone the stress.
4. Acting differently around your friends
The merging of the two worlds of friends and GF is a delicate task (one that most guys seem to bomb). Just as your main squeeze wouldn't want the 411 about the hot chick your ex-frat buddy hooked up with last weekend, the same goes for your bros not wanting to hear about your latest antiquing excursion. Play it cool, keep the conversations neutral, and your friends will like your new girl as much as you do (well hopefully not as much).
5. Saying they'll do XYZ with no follow through
Everyone has a cell phone these days. Seriously, if you haven't jumped on the 21st century bandwagon yet then you probably aren't reading this and are more likely holed up in the mountains catching fish with your bare hands and wrestling bears. Case in point-- we're betting you have access to a telephone. So stop making excuses and just call a girl when you say you will.
6. Flirting with/checking out other women
Most women have a slight case of the "green eyed monster," but it's relatively easy to keep the beast at bay-- unless given just cause. That quick glance at the waitress' cha-chas? Being overly friendly with your knockout coworker? Talking a little too much about Megan Fox? Yep, she'll notice. We get that you have hormones-- trust us we do, too (especially when it comes to anyone whose last name is Badgley, Pitt, or Damon)-- but do yourself a favor and keep them under control around us, or jealousy will rear its head. And yes, it will get ugly.
7. Baby talk in bed
Urban dictionary defines baby talk as "the cutesy gibberish spoken by 1. Babies and 2. Adults speaking to animals and babies." It's a bizarre phenomenon really, when grown adults turn into babbling idiots in the cute faces of their pets. That said, while it's endearing with puppies and bunnies, girls don't want to be spoken to like that-- particularly in the bedroom.
8. Expecting her to act like your mother
Newsflash-- women are nurturing creatures. Sometimes men try to abuse their goodwill and start treating them more like mothers than girlfriends-- especially in a cohabitation scenario. After all, she's not there to be a mommy replacement-- to clean up after you, take in your dry cleaning, or "make you a sandwich" (thanks teenage boys everywhere for perpetuating this sexist comment). In short, man up mamma's boy and get your act together.
9. Letting your friends dictate your life
Ladies get it-- your bros, brahs, wingmen, fellas, buddies, etc. are really important to you. What women find really aggravating, however, is when you let your friends dictate your life. Ever taken a friend's advice like "make her jealous to win her back?" Wow, good one man-- she just broke up with you. See, while their intentions may be good, they're not experts, and girls would prefer that you discuss your relationship issues with them instead.
10. Threatened by her job
Sometimes it seems as though the best way to test a man's commitment isn't to gauge his reaction when his significant other is down in the dumps-- after all, anybody can deliver ice cream and rented movies-- but rather gauge his reaction in the face of success. If the BF is overjoyed for his GF, he is definitely a keeper. However, far too often, men are threatened by a woman's success-- two words guys-- not cool.
11. Hypocritical standards
Nobody likes a hypocrite. That annoying "do as I say, not what I do" mentality loses its merit fast-- especially when it translates to your relationship. Either adhere to the standards you go by for her, or run the risk of coming off as controlling.
12. Not having your own life away from her
Scientifically speaking, in the first six months of dating, dopamine and serotonin levels peak, creating a form of obsession with your significant other. Once you transition out of this phase, you feel attached to your partner deeply, but often begin pursuing interests that have fallen by the wayside. Just don't forget the step where you start persuing those other interests. Nobody likes a needy guy.
13. Bringing up previous relationships
Talking about an ex a lot-- whether in a positive light, as in "I'm totally at peace with the situation," or in a negative light-- i.e. "I can't believe I dated that w----," sends one very clear, unnerving message-- he's not over his ex. Bringing up past girlfriends to use as ammo in a fight is a terrible idea-- lest you want to start WWIII. You don't have to ignore her existence, but you also don't need to bring up her name in every convo, either.
14. Treating others poorly
When men are first dating someone casually and trying to impress them, one major red flag is when they treat people poorly. While we sincerely hope he won't go as far as to put a fumbling waiter in a headlock, just being rude to a taxi driver or making a scene with the cashier worries ladies that they may be dating a narcissistic psycho.
15. Inflated ego
When it comes to dating, big ego = big turn-off. No one likes a know-it-all with an inflated sense of self. When guys talk a big game or boast about past conquests, it makes girls wonder what they're over-compensating for-- and chances are that they won't stay in the relationship long enough to find out.
从偷渡客到传媒大亨
从偷渡客到香港大亨
黎智英1948年12月出生于广州的一个大资本家家庭。新中国成立后,其父逃往香港,家产被抄没,其母也被批斗后送去劳改。十几岁的黎智英开始在电影院摆小摊或到火车站帮人拿行李赚钱养活自己和弟妹。一次在火车站,一个香港旅客给了他一块巧克力,他觉得吃到了天下美味并幻想对岸的香港必是人间天堂,于是萌发了偷渡香港的念头。
12岁时,黎智英孤身一人偷渡到香港,并找到了在香港的姨妈。但姨妈生活并不富裕,当晚姨妈甚至不能留他在家过夜,连夜送他到工厂。那晚,他睡在工厂,做了一名童工,而他也开始意识到原来香港并非如他想象中的那样美好,也有穷人。他由童工做起,逐漸获得老板赏识,20多岁便成为厂里最年轻的经理。
同许多白手起家的香港富豪类似,黎智英的第一桶金来自股市。1973年底,黎智英用公司的7000元分红进入股市,一年就赚了25万港币。接着他用这第一桶金开办了自己的工厂,做服装加工,并于1981年开设了属于自己的第一家品牌店——佐丹奴。开始几年生意不济,年年亏损,黎智英曾一度想结束此生意,但他不断从失败中总结经验,探索经营之道,几经波折和起落,佐丹奴终于成为了香港及内地的畅销品牌,黎智英也成为了香港服装界的名人。
1990年,迫于经营压力,黎智英将自己的佐丹奴股份全部低价售出,但跟着香港就爆发了金融风暴,这一看似无奈的蚀本买卖反而阴差阳错地令黎智英躲过一劫。黎智英把工作重心转向传媒业,并于1990年正式创办了《壹周刊》,1995年又创办了《苹果日报》,将粗俗轰动的坊间消息与政经新闻合刊销售,迅速在香港打开销路。《壹周刊》在港的发行量曾达到破纪录的15万份,《苹果日报》的日发行量也曾高达70万份。2001年和2003年,他又相继创办了台湾版《壹周刊》和《苹果日报》。黎智英本人也因此成为港台地区颇有影响力的传媒大亨。
大亨自诩的成功经验
黎智英事业成功后,常常与别人谈论自己的成功往事。他认为自己成功的因素很多,但主要有以下两条:
一是深谙人生取舍进退之道。黎智英自称其对人生的取舍之度把握得很好,知道什么该舍、什么该得。偷渡香港时,妈妈缝了一块金子在他裤子里作为到香港后安身立命的费用,在排队过关时,他发现私带东西会被警察拖出队伍,无法过关。于是他便将裤子弄烂,将金子顺裤管丢在泥泞的地上,又用脚将其踏人泥中。多年后,黎智英回忆此事时,,依然印象深刻,“我一点都未曾后悔,不能为了一块金子断送我一生最关键的一次机会。”此外,尽管黎智英靠炒股挣得第一桶金,但他认为炒股只是权宜之计,不是致富的根本,之后他再不沾手股市,一直至今。
二是敢闯敢拼,惯出“怪招”、“奇招”。黎智英办事胆量之大、手段之怪,在业界颇有名气,他的公司文化之一就是“放胆尝试,不怕失败”。黎智英在经营佐丹奴时,为了走出困境,关闭了原先大部分零售店,解雇了70%的员工,并聘请了没有相关行业经验的人担任主管,这些被业内人士认为自毁前程的做法却使得佐丹奴起死回生。之后,黎智英以毫无经验的外行身份进入香港传媒界,在被认为“半年内必死”的情况下,通过震撼性暴料、狗仔似的采访、价格战等手段在香港传媒界打开局面,在很短的时间里就把《壹周刊》和《苹果日报》做成了台港地区最畅销的传媒刊物。他的这些做法至今还被香港业界人士视为传奇并被效仿沿用至今。
看不透的“肥佬黎”
在和黎智英有过接触的人眼中,他是一个琢磨不透、百思不得其解的“怪人”、“奇人”。
和黎智英共过事的人都知道这个人风格很果断他会不惜重金聘请员工,年终给高分红,会把25%的股权分给员工;但他也常常大规模解雇职员,甚至在几年内把手下大部分员工都替换掉。黎智英在生活上很体贴员工,但他也常常因为一言不合,在一夜之间解雇同甘共苦多年的业务骨干,即使是对那些为其打拼多年的“元老功臣”,他也毫不留情。黎智英对人性的弱点十分清楚,有一套独特的用人之术。
在香港女性眼中,“肥佬黎”却是一个爱家的好男人。黎智英经历过两次婚姻,先后育有6个子女。他自小离家,走澳门、跑香港,走南闯北,长期漂泊。他自称家庭能给他安定和温暖的感觉,对他来讲非常重要,他的第一次婚姻不顺,离婚后前妻离港出国,他竟然带着3个孩子历时半年在全球“千里寻妻”,希望挽回婚姻,但最终没有成功。之后,他又对《南华早报》的记者李韵琴一见钟情。为了追求她,黎智英暂放事业,竟跟着她旅居法国以“千里求妻”,并最终获得芳心。
黎智英1948年12月出生于广州的一个大资本家家庭。新中国成立后,其父逃往香港,家产被抄没,其母也被批斗后送去劳改。十几岁的黎智英开始在电影院摆小摊或到火车站帮人拿行李赚钱养活自己和弟妹。一次在火车站,一个香港旅客给了他一块巧克力,他觉得吃到了天下美味并幻想对岸的香港必是人间天堂,于是萌发了偷渡香港的念头。
12岁时,黎智英孤身一人偷渡到香港,并找到了在香港的姨妈。但姨妈生活并不富裕,当晚姨妈甚至不能留他在家过夜,连夜送他到工厂。那晚,他睡在工厂,做了一名童工,而他也开始意识到原来香港并非如他想象中的那样美好,也有穷人。他由童工做起,逐漸获得老板赏识,20多岁便成为厂里最年轻的经理。
同许多白手起家的香港富豪类似,黎智英的第一桶金来自股市。1973年底,黎智英用公司的7000元分红进入股市,一年就赚了25万港币。接着他用这第一桶金开办了自己的工厂,做服装加工,并于1981年开设了属于自己的第一家品牌店——佐丹奴。开始几年生意不济,年年亏损,黎智英曾一度想结束此生意,但他不断从失败中总结经验,探索经营之道,几经波折和起落,佐丹奴终于成为了香港及内地的畅销品牌,黎智英也成为了香港服装界的名人。
1990年,迫于经营压力,黎智英将自己的佐丹奴股份全部低价售出,但跟着香港就爆发了金融风暴,这一看似无奈的蚀本买卖反而阴差阳错地令黎智英躲过一劫。黎智英把工作重心转向传媒业,并于1990年正式创办了《壹周刊》,1995年又创办了《苹果日报》,将粗俗轰动的坊间消息与政经新闻合刊销售,迅速在香港打开销路。《壹周刊》在港的发行量曾达到破纪录的15万份,《苹果日报》的日发行量也曾高达70万份。2001年和2003年,他又相继创办了台湾版《壹周刊》和《苹果日报》。黎智英本人也因此成为港台地区颇有影响力的传媒大亨。
大亨自诩的成功经验
黎智英事业成功后,常常与别人谈论自己的成功往事。他认为自己成功的因素很多,但主要有以下两条:
一是深谙人生取舍进退之道。黎智英自称其对人生的取舍之度把握得很好,知道什么该舍、什么该得。偷渡香港时,妈妈缝了一块金子在他裤子里作为到香港后安身立命的费用,在排队过关时,他发现私带东西会被警察拖出队伍,无法过关。于是他便将裤子弄烂,将金子顺裤管丢在泥泞的地上,又用脚将其踏人泥中。多年后,黎智英回忆此事时,,依然印象深刻,“我一点都未曾后悔,不能为了一块金子断送我一生最关键的一次机会。”此外,尽管黎智英靠炒股挣得第一桶金,但他认为炒股只是权宜之计,不是致富的根本,之后他再不沾手股市,一直至今。
二是敢闯敢拼,惯出“怪招”、“奇招”。黎智英办事胆量之大、手段之怪,在业界颇有名气,他的公司文化之一就是“放胆尝试,不怕失败”。黎智英在经营佐丹奴时,为了走出困境,关闭了原先大部分零售店,解雇了70%的员工,并聘请了没有相关行业经验的人担任主管,这些被业内人士认为自毁前程的做法却使得佐丹奴起死回生。之后,黎智英以毫无经验的外行身份进入香港传媒界,在被认为“半年内必死”的情况下,通过震撼性暴料、狗仔似的采访、价格战等手段在香港传媒界打开局面,在很短的时间里就把《壹周刊》和《苹果日报》做成了台港地区最畅销的传媒刊物。他的这些做法至今还被香港业界人士视为传奇并被效仿沿用至今。
看不透的“肥佬黎”
在和黎智英有过接触的人眼中,他是一个琢磨不透、百思不得其解的“怪人”、“奇人”。
和黎智英共过事的人都知道这个人风格很果断他会不惜重金聘请员工,年终给高分红,会把25%的股权分给员工;但他也常常大规模解雇职员,甚至在几年内把手下大部分员工都替换掉。黎智英在生活上很体贴员工,但他也常常因为一言不合,在一夜之间解雇同甘共苦多年的业务骨干,即使是对那些为其打拼多年的“元老功臣”,他也毫不留情。黎智英对人性的弱点十分清楚,有一套独特的用人之术。
在香港女性眼中,“肥佬黎”却是一个爱家的好男人。黎智英经历过两次婚姻,先后育有6个子女。他自小离家,走澳门、跑香港,走南闯北,长期漂泊。他自称家庭能给他安定和温暖的感觉,对他来讲非常重要,他的第一次婚姻不顺,离婚后前妻离港出国,他竟然带着3个孩子历时半年在全球“千里寻妻”,希望挽回婚姻,但最终没有成功。之后,他又对《南华早报》的记者李韵琴一见钟情。为了追求她,黎智英暂放事业,竟跟着她旅居法国以“千里求妻”,并最终获得芳心。
吉利董事长李书福：从照相师到“汽车疯子”
吉利集团董事长李书福，不仅有着“汽车狂人”的别号，甚至被业内人士称为“汽车疯子”，他直率敢为的性格早已为外界所熟知。
十几年前，当李书福带着他的吉利汽车第一次出现在汽车市场上的时候，人们评价他异想天开，对于他的产品——吉利汽车，人们的评价是“它就是廉价和粗糙的代名词”。当时更多的人可能会这样想，让他蹦跶去吧，让他自生自灭吧。十几年过去了，吉利不仅活下来了，实力还不断壮大，吉利汽车——这个从中国农村走出来的穷小子还要迎娶世界顶级的明星——沃尔沃。
李书福是在浙江台州一个贫穷落后的山村长大的，19岁就试水商海，1982年，就拿着父亲给的120块钱做起了照相生意，掘到了第一桶金。时间到了1984年，李书福的简历，基本上都是从这一年开始写起，此时他的名头是黄岩县石曲冰箱配件厂厂长。
在吉利汽车流传的故事是，这一年前后，李书福有一次去一个小鞋厂定做一双皮鞋，发现鞋厂的4个工人都在给冰箱做一种元件。回家后，李书福也开始生产这种冰箱零部件。1986年，李书福作了个更大的决定——建厂生产北极花牌电冰箱。1989年，李书福这个26岁的北极花冰箱厂厂长，已经是一个实足的千万富翁。1991年，发现造汽车能够产生巨大利润，李书福不顾家人的激烈反对，毅然投入到他的造车梦中。
不过，由于当时国家审批的限制，李书福的汽车梦未能实现。汽车没造成，李书福开始造摩托车。他创造的全国第一家生产摩托车的民营企业取得了巨大的利润，但是李书福还是对他的汽车梦念念不忘。当时，他自己只有一辆破旧的小面包。“我不想花很多钱去买，我觉得那不值得，我觉得自己去造就行啦。”李书福说。
李书福说，最初搞汽车，他自己根本不懂，技术、人才、资金，可以说什么都没有。支撑李书福开始艰难的汽车产业之路的只有一个信念，四个字——相信未来。在李书福眼里，造汽车无非就是这样几个步骤，并不太难。“汽车是个现代工业，它必须体现模块化大生产的特征，因此四个轮子，一个车身，发动机，加沙发就构成了一辆汽车。”
一个中国最早做汽车梦的民营企业家，最终开着他的吉利轿车破冰而来，将中国车市搅的涛翻浪涌，接连引爆中国车市4次降价风潮，开创中国车市的新未来。汽车“疯子”李书福虽然一直在制造行业里摸爬滚打，他还有浓厚的诗人气质，比如他这样形容自己，形容从事制造业的同仁。
李书福：一批又一批痴心人，天天向苍穹倾诉，夜夜同月亮相约。
在决定要收购沃尔沃之后，李书福被推到了风口浪尖，他要面对各式各样的质疑。也许印证了诗人李书福的秉性，他说其实自己很孤单，吉利也很孤单。
作为一个有着7000多名员工的汽车公司的董事长，李书福是中国富豪排行榜上的常客，但有报道说，李书福会经常穿件工作服到职工食堂吃饭，不喝酒，陪客人也就两三个小菜，有人说李书福很抠门，生活上很节俭。可为了自己的造车梦，李书福愿意倾其所有，迎娶汽车豪门贵族沃尔沃。他的执著，应该是源于他的性格。
李书福：我的缺点是娘胎里给我带来的比较刚烈的性格，这种脾气不太好，性格不太刚烈，不够柔，太直白。
李书福今年47岁，退休前，他希望自己吉利汽车能进入全球汽车行业排名的前10位。
十几年前，当李书福带着他的吉利汽车第一次出现在汽车市场上的时候，人们评价他异想天开，对于他的产品——吉利汽车，人们的评价是“它就是廉价和粗糙的代名词”。当时更多的人可能会这样想，让他蹦跶去吧，让他自生自灭吧。十几年过去了，吉利不仅活下来了，实力还不断壮大，吉利汽车——这个从中国农村走出来的穷小子还要迎娶世界顶级的明星——沃尔沃。
李书福是在浙江台州一个贫穷落后的山村长大的，19岁就试水商海，1982年，就拿着父亲给的120块钱做起了照相生意，掘到了第一桶金。时间到了1984年，李书福的简历，基本上都是从这一年开始写起，此时他的名头是黄岩县石曲冰箱配件厂厂长。
在吉利汽车流传的故事是，这一年前后，李书福有一次去一个小鞋厂定做一双皮鞋，发现鞋厂的4个工人都在给冰箱做一种元件。回家后，李书福也开始生产这种冰箱零部件。1986年，李书福作了个更大的决定——建厂生产北极花牌电冰箱。1989年，李书福这个26岁的北极花冰箱厂厂长，已经是一个实足的千万富翁。1991年，发现造汽车能够产生巨大利润，李书福不顾家人的激烈反对，毅然投入到他的造车梦中。
不过，由于当时国家审批的限制，李书福的汽车梦未能实现。汽车没造成，李书福开始造摩托车。他创造的全国第一家生产摩托车的民营企业取得了巨大的利润，但是李书福还是对他的汽车梦念念不忘。当时，他自己只有一辆破旧的小面包。“我不想花很多钱去买，我觉得那不值得，我觉得自己去造就行啦。”李书福说。
李书福说，最初搞汽车，他自己根本不懂，技术、人才、资金，可以说什么都没有。支撑李书福开始艰难的汽车产业之路的只有一个信念，四个字——相信未来。在李书福眼里，造汽车无非就是这样几个步骤，并不太难。“汽车是个现代工业，它必须体现模块化大生产的特征，因此四个轮子，一个车身，发动机，加沙发就构成了一辆汽车。”
一个中国最早做汽车梦的民营企业家，最终开着他的吉利轿车破冰而来，将中国车市搅的涛翻浪涌，接连引爆中国车市4次降价风潮，开创中国车市的新未来。汽车“疯子”李书福虽然一直在制造行业里摸爬滚打，他还有浓厚的诗人气质，比如他这样形容自己，形容从事制造业的同仁。
李书福：一批又一批痴心人，天天向苍穹倾诉，夜夜同月亮相约。
在决定要收购沃尔沃之后，李书福被推到了风口浪尖，他要面对各式各样的质疑。也许印证了诗人李书福的秉性，他说其实自己很孤单，吉利也很孤单。
作为一个有着7000多名员工的汽车公司的董事长，李书福是中国富豪排行榜上的常客，但有报道说，李书福会经常穿件工作服到职工食堂吃饭，不喝酒，陪客人也就两三个小菜，有人说李书福很抠门，生活上很节俭。可为了自己的造车梦，李书福愿意倾其所有，迎娶汽车豪门贵族沃尔沃。他的执著，应该是源于他的性格。
李书福：我的缺点是娘胎里给我带来的比较刚烈的性格，这种脾气不太好，性格不太刚烈，不够柔，太直白。
李书福今年47岁，退休前，他希望自己吉利汽车能进入全球汽车行业排名的前10位。
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从业经历
一不怕苦二不怕穷 浙商李书福闯荡成汽车大亨
有人预计，李书福的身家已经升到大陆富豪第25位，而当初他不过是一个120元创业起家、在冰箱行业赚到第一桶金、在海南地产热中摔过大跟头的年轻人。他的几次起起落落集中体现了浙商两种突出的精神气质：面对机会精明，敢为天下先；认准的事不放弃，对失败无所惧。
开照相馆
“我是在浙江台州一个贫穷落后的山村长大的。”李书福说：“第一不怕苦，第二不怕穷，第三当然更喜欢致富了！”他敢闯敢拼，豁得出去。
他最早算得上做生意，应该是1982年的照相生意。“当时就是父亲给了120元。”李书福说。那年，李书福19岁，高中毕业。
“刚开始根本不是照相馆，就是买了个小相机，骑个破自行车满街给人照相。”李书福并不愿多回忆那段历史。
会讲故事的台州人，把这段创业的故事中的李书福，说成是背着相机在公园里瞎转悠的“野照相”———“来，来，同志过来照张相。”见了逛公园的拉着照相，直到现在，一些二级城市的公园里还有这样的生意人。
李书福的照相生意做得不错，半年后赚到1000元，他正式开起了照相馆。
“垃圾”淘金
一年以后，李书福迈出办企业的第一步。
“我选的工业项目都是别人做不了的。”李书福说是在“垃圾”中提取金银。
李书福经常买一些零件自己组装照相机。喜欢鼓捣的李书福，在洗相的过程中发现，用一种药水浸泡，可以把废弃物中的金银分离出来。李书福开始把分离提取出来的金银背到杭州出售。后来干脆关了照相馆，专门做这个买卖。
为这个项目，李书福投资了1万元。虽然这些钱大部分来自生意不错的照相馆，但李书福还是义无反顾地把照相馆关了门。
“这个到现在别人还做不了。”李书福至今对这个生财之道感觉良好。
冰箱“逃兵”
时间到了1984年。
后来，李书福的简历，基本上都是从这一年开始写起，此时他的名头是黄岩县石曲冰箱配件厂厂长。
在吉利汽车流传的故事是，这一年前后，李书福有一次去一个小鞋厂定做一双皮鞋，发现鞋厂的4个工人都在给冰箱做一种元件。
现在看来，浙江所谓的“小狗经济”，那时就已经开始了。
那时候，冰箱在北方一些城市还绝对是供不应求。李书福回家后也开始生产这种冰箱零部件。据说，一开始，李书福就是自己一个人生产，然后装包里，骑自行车把零部件送到冰箱厂。后来，李书福和其他几个兄弟一起成立了冰箱配件厂，他出任厂长。
“当时的效益非常好，一年营业额有四五千万元。”吉利集团一位老员工回忆。
这时李书福做出了一个更大决定———生产电冰箱。在1985年前后，民营经济还没有获得正式承认，电冰箱这种国家统一配售商品，不可能获得有关部门批准生产。
但李书福决定冒险。
1986年，李书福在自己研发、生产出电冰箱关键零部件蒸发器后，组建了黄岩县北极花电冰箱厂，生产北极花电冰箱。
“我们电冰箱非常成功。”6月14日，靠在吉利汽车台州路桥生产基地会议室的沙发上，李书福“吹牛”。
“到1989年5月，冰箱销售额已达4000多万元，并与青岛红星厂合作，为红星厂生产冰箱、冰柜。”有老员工介绍。
北极花冰箱当时已成为国内冰箱行业的名牌产品。1989年，李书福这个26岁的北极花冰箱厂厂长，已经是一个实足的千万富翁。
但冒险让李书福付出了代价。
1989年6月，国家电冰箱实行定点生产，民营背景、戴着乡镇企业“红顶”的北极花，自然没有列入定点生产企业名单。
后来，李书福离开北极花怀揣上千万元来到深圳，身份是学生。这是李书福第一次外出学习，到目前为止，他分别在深圳、上海、哈尔滨三地的大学进修学习过，他能说一口较流利的英语。
其实，现在国内冰箱行业的名牌美的与科龙，当时同样没有上国家的定点目录，但它们还是通过各种办法坚持生产了。这可能对后来李书福虽然没有取得轿车生产目录，却坚持要通过各种办法生产汽车是一个推动。
在深圳学习期间，因为装修宿舍，李书福发现一种进口装修材料市场前景不错。随即返回浙江台州，联合兄弟开始重新创业，生产这种材料。装修材料给李书福家族带来了巨大的成功，直到现在，这份产业每年还有上亿元的利润。
海南之败
李书福最大的商业失败在海南。1992年前后海南房地产热潮正猛，李书福带着数千万元赶赴海南。
“海南地产热那一段，几千万全赔了，人都回不来了。”李书福说，“这一段就不要讲了嘛。”
李书福在海南进行房地产生意不到两年，做了些什么项目，李书福很少向外人谈起，在他个人的介绍中，这一段也被省略。海南房地产的失败，李书福说，给他最大的教训就是：“我只能做实业。”
一个月前，吉利汽车实现香港上市。李书福说，有关资本市场的事，有专门的人来做。“我不懂这一块。”
足球投资
与他在海南房地产失败不太为人所知不同，李书福从足球行业仓促退出那一段时间，他几乎天天上新闻。
2001年3月16日，吉利集团与广州签署协议进入广州足球队，随后广州吉利足球队晋级甲A失败。10月4日李书福宣布退出足球行业。但他没有选择默默地退出，而是揭开了国内足球的一些“黑幕”。“足球黑幕”因为李书福的高调退出以及他点名道姓的批评而成了热点话题。之后，媒体开始了一轮又一轮的足球“反黑打假”时，被冠上“大炮”之名的李书福又选择了沉默，到现在，他几乎不再提及这段历史。
“失败，这些都是实践的过程，这些是在学校里学不到的。”李书福说。
李书福所领导的吉利集团及其整车制造产业
集团总部设在杭州，在浙江临海、宁波、路桥和上海、兰州、济南、湘潭建有六个汽车整车制造基地，拥有年产30万辆整车的生产能力。集团现有吉利自由舰、吉利金刚、吉利远景、上海华普、美人豹等八大系列30多个整车产品。上述产品全部通过国家的3C认证，并达到欧III排放标准，部分产品达到欧IV标准，吉利拥有上述产品的完全知识产权。
从福特收购沃尔沃(volvo)
2010年3月28日，中国发展最快的汽车制造商之一浙江吉利控股集团有限收购沃尔沃(volvo)签署协议公司（简称：吉利集团）在瑞典哥德堡，宣布已与福特汽车签署最终股权收购协议，获得沃尔沃轿车公司（简称：沃尔沃轿车）100%的股权以及相关资产（包括知识产权）。吉利集团以18亿美元收购沃尔沃100%股权的协议。这是中国民营企业近年来，在海外最大的一起知名企业收购案，吉利集团一举成为中国和全球汽车制造业的耀眼明星。吉利董事长李书福随后对凤凰卫视记者表示，未来的沃尔沃是吉利的、是中国的，更是世界的。[1]
社会评价
李书福先生作风民主、办事果断。决策前他能集思广益、博采众长、虚心听取专家学者和经营管理班子其他成员的意见，并深入实际搞市场调查和可行性研究，一旦决策则意志坚定、雷厉风行，不达目标誓不放弃。1995年以来他做出的重大决策很少失误，使公司始终沿着正确方向，保持高速增长。
获得成功的根源
李书福为什么会成功？更多的人关注李书福就是希望得到他成功的答案，因此，“李书福创业”成为百度搜索中有关李书福问题所用的最多的关键词。
回答这个问题，无异于回答为什么浙江商人能成功。
有关浙商最著名的描述：“有浙商的地方就有市场”和“有市场的地方就有浙商”。其实，这两句话从另一个角度回答了李书福他们成功的原因。
尽管李书福的成功可能会有很多我们外人根本看不到的原因，但如果总结李书福创业的过程中最重要因素，最起码有两条：一是敢为天下先；二是认准了就不放弃。
看李书福的几次成功的创业，从电冰箱到摩托车再到汽车，每一次都走在了别人的前面。全国上下还在“割资本主义尾巴”的年代，李书福他们就开始“闯红灯”按市场经济的思想做生意，这成就了“有浙商就有市场”的声誉。
李书福有一句名言：“少谈点金钱，多谈点精神。”这句话高度总结了他获得财富的经验。为天下之先，说来容易，横看世间人，你一生有几次敢为天下先？其实，这是精神问题，不是赚钱的技术问题。
李书福能走到今天，与他“偏执”的性格关系密切。李书福每次做出吉利集团重大转折性的决定后，会义无反顾地去追求，就是所谓的认准了不放弃。当然，认准不放弃，包含两层意思，首先是认准了，然后就去追求。
李书福8年前开始进入汽车行业，但他说13年前，他已经预测到今天国内汽车行业的市场状况。因此，在此之前他不止一次地说，吉利进入汽车行业的时机把握是最佳的，“早一年不行，晚一年也不行”。2005年，国内民营企业开始一窝蜂进入汽车行业，这其中包括已经退出的浙江企业奥克斯。“我当时就预测奥克斯进入汽车行业不会成功。”李书福为了证明他所说的准确性，给记者拿来了他前年发表的一篇有关民营造车热的文章，指着文章说，“这可不是吹呢！”可见他对这个市场了解得透彻。
而李书福对汽车行业的“追求”当初被说成是“李疯子”。因为市场对汽车有需求，李书福就认准了去追求，这大概就是“有市场就有浙商”理论的来源吧。
一不怕苦二不怕穷 浙商李书福闯荡成汽车大亨
有人预计，李书福的身家已经升到大陆富豪第25位，而当初他不过是一个120元创业起家、在冰箱行业赚到第一桶金、在海南地产热中摔过大跟头的年轻人。他的几次起起落落集中体现了浙商两种突出的精神气质：面对机会精明，敢为天下先；认准的事不放弃，对失败无所惧。
开照相馆
“我是在浙江台州一个贫穷落后的山村长大的。”李书福说：“第一不怕苦，第二不怕穷，第三当然更喜欢致富了！”他敢闯敢拼，豁得出去。
他最早算得上做生意，应该是1982年的照相生意。“当时就是父亲给了120元。”李书福说。那年，李书福19岁，高中毕业。
“刚开始根本不是照相馆，就是买了个小相机，骑个破自行车满街给人照相。”李书福并不愿多回忆那段历史。
会讲故事的台州人，把这段创业的故事中的李书福，说成是背着相机在公园里瞎转悠的“野照相”———“来，来，同志过来照张相。”见了逛公园的拉着照相，直到现在，一些二级城市的公园里还有这样的生意人。
李书福的照相生意做得不错，半年后赚到1000元，他正式开起了照相馆。
“垃圾”淘金
一年以后，李书福迈出办企业的第一步。
“我选的工业项目都是别人做不了的。”李书福说是在“垃圾”中提取金银。
李书福经常买一些零件自己组装照相机。喜欢鼓捣的李书福，在洗相的过程中发现，用一种药水浸泡，可以把废弃物中的金银分离出来。李书福开始把分离提取出来的金银背到杭州出售。后来干脆关了照相馆，专门做这个买卖。
为这个项目，李书福投资了1万元。虽然这些钱大部分来自生意不错的照相馆，但李书福还是义无反顾地把照相馆关了门。
“这个到现在别人还做不了。”李书福至今对这个生财之道感觉良好。
冰箱“逃兵”
时间到了1984年。
后来，李书福的简历，基本上都是从这一年开始写起，此时他的名头是黄岩县石曲冰箱配件厂厂长。
在吉利汽车流传的故事是，这一年前后，李书福有一次去一个小鞋厂定做一双皮鞋，发现鞋厂的4个工人都在给冰箱做一种元件。
现在看来，浙江所谓的“小狗经济”，那时就已经开始了。
那时候，冰箱在北方一些城市还绝对是供不应求。李书福回家后也开始生产这种冰箱零部件。据说，一开始，李书福就是自己一个人生产，然后装包里，骑自行车把零部件送到冰箱厂。后来，李书福和其他几个兄弟一起成立了冰箱配件厂，他出任厂长。
“当时的效益非常好，一年营业额有四五千万元。”吉利集团一位老员工回忆。
这时李书福做出了一个更大决定———生产电冰箱。在1985年前后，民营经济还没有获得正式承认，电冰箱这种国家统一配售商品，不可能获得有关部门批准生产。
但李书福决定冒险。
1986年，李书福在自己研发、生产出电冰箱关键零部件蒸发器后，组建了黄岩县北极花电冰箱厂，生产北极花电冰箱。
“我们电冰箱非常成功。”6月14日，靠在吉利汽车台州路桥生产基地会议室的沙发上，李书福“吹牛”。
“到1989年5月，冰箱销售额已达4000多万元，并与青岛红星厂合作，为红星厂生产冰箱、冰柜。”有老员工介绍。
北极花冰箱当时已成为国内冰箱行业的名牌产品。1989年，李书福这个26岁的北极花冰箱厂厂长，已经是一个实足的千万富翁。
但冒险让李书福付出了代价。
1989年6月，国家电冰箱实行定点生产，民营背景、戴着乡镇企业“红顶”的北极花，自然没有列入定点生产企业名单。
后来，李书福离开北极花怀揣上千万元来到深圳，身份是学生。这是李书福第一次外出学习，到目前为止，他分别在深圳、上海、哈尔滨三地的大学进修学习过，他能说一口较流利的英语。
其实，现在国内冰箱行业的名牌美的与科龙，当时同样没有上国家的定点目录，但它们还是通过各种办法坚持生产了。这可能对后来李书福虽然没有取得轿车生产目录，却坚持要通过各种办法生产汽车是一个推动。
在深圳学习期间，因为装修宿舍，李书福发现一种进口装修材料市场前景不错。随即返回浙江台州，联合兄弟开始重新创业，生产这种材料。装修材料给李书福家族带来了巨大的成功，直到现在，这份产业每年还有上亿元的利润。
海南之败
李书福最大的商业失败在海南。1992年前后海南房地产热潮正猛，李书福带着数千万元赶赴海南。
“海南地产热那一段，几千万全赔了，人都回不来了。”李书福说，“这一段就不要讲了嘛。”
李书福在海南进行房地产生意不到两年，做了些什么项目，李书福很少向外人谈起，在他个人的介绍中，这一段也被省略。海南房地产的失败，李书福说，给他最大的教训就是：“我只能做实业。”
一个月前，吉利汽车实现香港上市。李书福说，有关资本市场的事，有专门的人来做。“我不懂这一块。”
足球投资
与他在海南房地产失败不太为人所知不同，李书福从足球行业仓促退出那一段时间，他几乎天天上新闻。
2001年3月16日，吉利集团与广州签署协议进入广州足球队，随后广州吉利足球队晋级甲A失败。10月4日李书福宣布退出足球行业。但他没有选择默默地退出，而是揭开了国内足球的一些“黑幕”。“足球黑幕”因为李书福的高调退出以及他点名道姓的批评而成了热点话题。之后，媒体开始了一轮又一轮的足球“反黑打假”时，被冠上“大炮”之名的李书福又选择了沉默，到现在，他几乎不再提及这段历史。
“失败，这些都是实践的过程，这些是在学校里学不到的。”李书福说。
李书福所领导的吉利集团及其整车制造产业
集团总部设在杭州，在浙江临海、宁波、路桥和上海、兰州、济南、湘潭建有六个汽车整车制造基地，拥有年产30万辆整车的生产能力。集团现有吉利自由舰、吉利金刚、吉利远景、上海华普、美人豹等八大系列30多个整车产品。上述产品全部通过国家的3C认证，并达到欧III排放标准，部分产品达到欧IV标准，吉利拥有上述产品的完全知识产权。
从福特收购沃尔沃(volvo)
2010年3月28日，中国发展最快的汽车制造商之一浙江吉利控股集团有限收购沃尔沃(volvo)签署协议公司（简称：吉利集团）在瑞典哥德堡，宣布已与福特汽车签署最终股权收购协议，获得沃尔沃轿车公司（简称：沃尔沃轿车）100%的股权以及相关资产（包括知识产权）。吉利集团以18亿美元收购沃尔沃100%股权的协议。这是中国民营企业近年来，在海外最大的一起知名企业收购案，吉利集团一举成为中国和全球汽车制造业的耀眼明星。吉利董事长李书福随后对凤凰卫视记者表示，未来的沃尔沃是吉利的、是中国的，更是世界的。[1]
社会评价
李书福先生作风民主、办事果断。决策前他能集思广益、博采众长、虚心听取专家学者和经营管理班子其他成员的意见，并深入实际搞市场调查和可行性研究，一旦决策则意志坚定、雷厉风行，不达目标誓不放弃。1995年以来他做出的重大决策很少失误，使公司始终沿着正确方向，保持高速增长。
获得成功的根源
李书福为什么会成功？更多的人关注李书福就是希望得到他成功的答案，因此，“李书福创业”成为百度搜索中有关李书福问题所用的最多的关键词。
回答这个问题，无异于回答为什么浙江商人能成功。
有关浙商最著名的描述：“有浙商的地方就有市场”和“有市场的地方就有浙商”。其实，这两句话从另一个角度回答了李书福他们成功的原因。
尽管李书福的成功可能会有很多我们外人根本看不到的原因，但如果总结李书福创业的过程中最重要因素，最起码有两条：一是敢为天下先；二是认准了就不放弃。
看李书福的几次成功的创业，从电冰箱到摩托车再到汽车，每一次都走在了别人的前面。全国上下还在“割资本主义尾巴”的年代，李书福他们就开始“闯红灯”按市场经济的思想做生意，这成就了“有浙商就有市场”的声誉。
李书福有一句名言：“少谈点金钱，多谈点精神。”这句话高度总结了他获得财富的经验。为天下之先，说来容易，横看世间人，你一生有几次敢为天下先？其实，这是精神问题，不是赚钱的技术问题。
李书福能走到今天，与他“偏执”的性格关系密切。李书福每次做出吉利集团重大转折性的决定后，会义无反顾地去追求，就是所谓的认准了不放弃。当然，认准不放弃，包含两层意思，首先是认准了，然后就去追求。
李书福8年前开始进入汽车行业，但他说13年前，他已经预测到今天国内汽车行业的市场状况。因此，在此之前他不止一次地说，吉利进入汽车行业的时机把握是最佳的，“早一年不行，晚一年也不行”。2005年，国内民营企业开始一窝蜂进入汽车行业，这其中包括已经退出的浙江企业奥克斯。“我当时就预测奥克斯进入汽车行业不会成功。”李书福为了证明他所说的准确性，给记者拿来了他前年发表的一篇有关民营造车热的文章，指着文章说，“这可不是吹呢！”可见他对这个市场了解得透彻。
而李书福对汽车行业的“追求”当初被说成是“李疯子”。因为市场对汽车有需求，李书福就认准了去追求，这大概就是“有市场就有浙商”理论的来源吧。
職業炒家密食當三番
上回談到 Trading for a living，即在投資市場中以買賣來賺取生活費用。記得早年在美國科網股熱潮時，美國投資市場曾一度盛行 Day Trading及相關的即日鮮訓練班，有不少投資者參加了這些訓練班，初時賺到點錢，但最後被洗袋的佔大多數。
至於單靠炒賣股票搵食是否可行（事先聲明，這個搵食是指賺取生活費用，並非致富發達）？在筆者的友儕中，也有多位朋友，多年來確是成功地單靠股市搵食，當中有些更成績不俗，近年已可在半山買樓。正如好友「二百萬」，最初是期貨市場的 Trader，筆者原本打算聘請他工作，無奈他在期貨市場工作多年後，察覺日常自行買賣已有可觀收入，因而婉拒了筆者，幸好他仍每日如常跟筆者報告期貨市場的情況。
中遠 9至 11元炒波幅
美國多本有關 Day Trading的書籍也有談到，若要靠炒賣股票賺取生活費，在心態方面便要跟投資或理財截然不同。因為當炒賣成為你唯一職業後，每月須有一定收入才能維持生活，故便要將股票視為貨物，一如貨如輪轉般，股票買入來是為了盡快在短時間內賣出圖利，更重要是此乃買入股票唯一目的，當中不宜涉及太多個人感情，例如此股基本因素好，可以長揸之類，這方面與長線投資股票抱不同心態。
正如長期持有某隻股票，雖然它可能會在 1年間由 1元升至 5、 6元，但你卻沒有這麼多時間等，否則又如何有資金繼續運作？更重要是今個月又哪裏找來錢交租及水電煤等開支。
所以在 Day Trading其中一項重點，便是不要奢望每次能獲厚利，反而是每次能夠在短時間內，在最大機會率下獲取微利，好像不少美國的 Market Maker（俗稱莊家），很多時他們僅賺幾個價位便沽貨，盡快讓資金回籠，因為資金停留在市場越久，其危險性便越高，而莊家極注重資金的運用效率。
此外，有些持續在某特定水位上落的股份，它的質素未必佳，但也是一個不俗的短線買賣對象，正如附圖的中國遠洋，由去年 6月至今，除了個別極端價位，其股價大約在 9至 11元間橫行，提供了多次短線買賣機會。
由於筆者近日工作繁忙，幸好請得黃國英兄暫時代為撰寫本欄，筆者在 4月 14日再與各位讀者見面。
至於單靠炒賣股票搵食是否可行（事先聲明，這個搵食是指賺取生活費用，並非致富發達）？在筆者的友儕中，也有多位朋友，多年來確是成功地單靠股市搵食，當中有些更成績不俗，近年已可在半山買樓。正如好友「二百萬」，最初是期貨市場的 Trader，筆者原本打算聘請他工作，無奈他在期貨市場工作多年後，察覺日常自行買賣已有可觀收入，因而婉拒了筆者，幸好他仍每日如常跟筆者報告期貨市場的情況。
中遠 9至 11元炒波幅
美國多本有關 Day Trading的書籍也有談到，若要靠炒賣股票賺取生活費，在心態方面便要跟投資或理財截然不同。因為當炒賣成為你唯一職業後，每月須有一定收入才能維持生活，故便要將股票視為貨物，一如貨如輪轉般，股票買入來是為了盡快在短時間內賣出圖利，更重要是此乃買入股票唯一目的，當中不宜涉及太多個人感情，例如此股基本因素好，可以長揸之類，這方面與長線投資股票抱不同心態。
正如長期持有某隻股票，雖然它可能會在 1年間由 1元升至 5、 6元，但你卻沒有這麼多時間等，否則又如何有資金繼續運作？更重要是今個月又哪裏找來錢交租及水電煤等開支。
所以在 Day Trading其中一項重點，便是不要奢望每次能獲厚利，反而是每次能夠在短時間內，在最大機會率下獲取微利，好像不少美國的 Market Maker（俗稱莊家），很多時他們僅賺幾個價位便沽貨，盡快讓資金回籠，因為資金停留在市場越久，其危險性便越高，而莊家極注重資金的運用效率。
此外，有些持續在某特定水位上落的股份，它的質素未必佳，但也是一個不俗的短線買賣對象，正如附圖的中國遠洋，由去年 6月至今，除了個別極端價位，其股價大約在 9至 11元間橫行，提供了多次短線買賣機會。
由於筆者近日工作繁忙，幸好請得黃國英兄暫時代為撰寫本欄，筆者在 4月 14日再與各位讀者見面。
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