The Psychology Of Winning By Dr Dennis Waitley

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The Psychology of Winning
by Dr Dennis Waitley

This article is a brief summary of my notes from an excellent motivational, up-lifting and inspiring book 'THE PSYCHOLOGY OF WINNING' by Dr Dennis Waitley. I am sharing the contents of this work in the spirit of encouraging and hopefully even inspiring those people, who really want to "cultivate and grow Seeds of Greatness" in their own lives to read the book...and just GO FOR IT... and surprise yourself by "winning in the game of life"!.

"It's not what you "are" that holds you back; it's what you think you are not. Winners control their self image and change it as they desire. They elevate their self image and enlarge their universe. Winners are especially aware of the tremendous importance of their self image. What you imagine as being real, with frequency, becomes your version of reality. Phantasize about the person they would most like to become.
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Winners are people with a definite purpose in life, like a "homing torpedo". Losers wander aimlessly through life. or self destruct.

"No wind blows in favour of a ship without a destination."

"Where there is life, there is hope.
Where there are hopes there are dreams.

Where there are vivid dreams repeated, they become (there are goals). And goals become the action plans toward success.

We become what we think about most of the time.

Millions of people lead unhappy aimless lives - existing from day to day, year to year, confused, frustrated, in a prison of our own making. About 95 of humanity are ships without rudders, hopelessly adrift and subject to every shift of wind and tide. 5 of people accomplish more in 5 years than the rest accomplish in a lifetime.
Every sea captain, knows his next port of call.
Winners have lifetime goals. What would I want people to say about me after I'm gone? Losers spend their time in low prioritytension relieving, rather than high priority goal-achieving activities.

Most people spend more time planning a party, studying the newspaper or making a Christmas list, than they do in planning their lives. Winners set daily goals the afternoon or evening before. List on paper in priority sequence at least 6 major things to do tomorrow. Establish a clearly defined goal and write it down. dwell on it, as IF YOU'VE ALREADY ACHIEVED IT. Move in the direction of your priority goal, as if it already were a part of your life. We become what we think about most - it's specific. The man without a purpose is like a ship without a rudder.

"One ship sails East, another West, by the self- same winds that blow.
Tis the set of the sail and not the gale, that determines the way they go.
Like the winds of the sea are the ways of time, as we voyage along through life.
Tis the set of the soul that determines the goal;
and not the calm or the strife."

Get behind the helm. Plan the work and work the plan, one day at a time.

"Everything in life
Is what you make it...
it's not what it is that counts
it's how you take it."

Winners practice positive self-discipline. Self discipline alone can make or break a habit. Losing is habit forming; whereas winners simulate winning.

Winners pick themselves up after a loss, dust themselves off and do it all over...better!
Self discipline is the winning edge that achieves goals; it is mental practice

"If I can help you win, then I win. If nature wins, everybody wins.

Become a TOTAL person in the process of personal growth through our failures.

The greatest quality is earning the respect and love of other people.

Winners live each precious golden day, as if it were their last - building for the future, learning from the past.

Winners develop a cherished respect for the value of time.

"There isn't more to life than this - a baby's smile, a loved one's kiss a book, a song, a flower, a friend and just a little time - to spend."

Winners know they can't enjoy the view, unless they climb the mountain.

Learn from the past, plan for the future and live as fully as possible in the present

SUCCESS FORMULA:

Conceive + believe = achieve

visualise + internalise = realise
imagination + simulation = realisation

Winners project a warm glow and have a "gut feeling" that they are on the right path.

Just "do the best with what you've got"!

Listeners learn a great deal, while talkers learn nothing.
Winners ask questions, draw the other person out.
Know paying value to others is the greatest communication skill of all.
Winners are service oriented - not self oriented. We communicate by means of over 700000 non-verbal signals!

Have a good attitude: "I'll make him glad he talked with me."

Winners know everybody hears and sees differently.
They practice the KISS principle.

Will Rogers: "I never met a man I didn't like". Rogers found something to admire in everyone.

"Marriage is not looking at each other, but looking in the same direction together."

Feel your own worth and pass it on to others. Talk yourself and others up. Put your goals down on paper and share them with those who can help you achieve them.

Say, "the only limits to my accomplishments in life are self imposed".
Winners phantasize their own scripts - a magificient epic motion picture for which chosen as writer, producer, director and star.
Life is a "do-it-yourself project". Focus on desire, rather than fear. The stresses desire provide energy, propulsion, creativity and magnetic pull.

YOUR IMAGINATION RULES THE WORLD.
Set a game plan for your life. Losing is a developed habit, and so is winning.
Earn the respect of other human beings. Do your business to the benefit of others, not at their expense.

"If you want to be loved, be lovable."

Be happy just being the very best person you can be with "loads of" FUN along the journey of life.

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"I'm gonna fly from my cocoon and put my footsteps on the moon All I've ever hoped to be is free to be that person...me!

"Make no little plans; they have no magic to stir your blood to action - make big plans, aim high in work and hope."

"Every man has his own destiny; the only imperative is to follow it, no matter where it leads him." - Henry Miller

"Our Greatest Good is perhaps not to achieve wealth and share our material possessions, our money and 'riches' with others, but through encouragement and faith in other people, to lay the firm foundation of revealing the rich treasure that lies within themselves."
- craig

"And whatever else history may say about me when I'm gone, I hope it will record that I appealed to your best hopes, not your worst fears, to your confidence rather than your doubts. My dream is that you will travel the road ahead with liberty's lamp guiding your steps and opportunity's arm steadying your way. My fondest hope for each one of you - and especially for young people - is that you will love your country, not for her power or wealth, but for her selflessness and her idealism. May each of you have the heart to conceive, the understanding to direct, and the hand to execute works that will make the world a little better for your having been here. May all of you as Americans never forget your heroic origins, never fail to seek divine guidance, and never lose your natural, God-given optimism. And finally, my fellow Americans, may every dawn be a great new beginning for America and every evening bring us closer to that shining city upon a hill."
- Former US President Ronald Reagan