我是男生，看到有的男生想追自己喜欢的女孩子又不敢追，还想人家倒追她，我很反感.
从一个女生的角度，我比较了解女孩子的心理。女孩子大多不会主动出击，去追求自己喜欢的男孩，除了确实太喜欢了或者是那种比较有个性的勇敢的女孩子。所以，如果你很喜欢一个女孩子，并且认为她对你也有点意思，那就主动点，别跟她搞拉锯战，自己难受，说不定你喜欢的人也痛苦。
任何一个女孩子在被人追的时候，心理都是很复杂的。她也许很开心，但是又带着点惶恐，她对这个闯进自己平静的生活的男孩子，有着欲拒还迎的矛盾心理，她不是故意的。不要以为她在考验你，她其实也在和自己斗争，她怕受到伤害。
不要怕你的主动会带来她的反感，你不主动，她也不主动，也就慢慢淡下来了。如果你开始的表白被她拒绝，那也很正常呀。不要气馁，谁知道这个女孩子心里在想什么呢？
也许你再表白两次，她就会被你打动，一个心地善良的好女孩是很容易感动的。
如果你受到一次挫折，就立刻离开，再也不去答理这个女孩，把自己紧紧地保护起来，默默地舔舐伤口，在你痛苦的同时，殊不知，那个女孩子也许也正在心里遗憾、后悔呢！也许她会偷偷哭泣，后悔拒绝了你，再看到你漠然的眼神，她也很痛心，但是她却不会对你说，绝对不会请求你回来追她。你的过度的自尊心，可能会伤害了女孩子敏感的心。
她会认为你不是真诚的喜欢他，要不怎么会就这么放弃了她？
有人说，男生真难，追女孩子太不容易了。可是我的感觉却是，这种现象跟男人和女人的社会角色定位是分不开的，从生理和社会的角度，女人总是被动的。如果反过来,让男人都脉脉含羞，女人变得勇往直前，世界才乱了套呢！女人的羞涩总是美好的、动人的呀~我总是听说是某个勇敢的男人战胜了多少困难，最终获得佳人芳心。相反的例子却少得很。
有的男生，就怕别人说自己什么死缠烂打，落下不好的名声。可是我觉得男生追求自己喜欢的女孩子，受了点挫折还继续对这个女孩子好，说明人家确实很喜欢，很有诚意，如果没成功，也不遗憾，并没什么啊？谁让人家喜欢了？最讨厌别人跟着瞎掺乎，也最讨厌那种自己没主意，过于在乎别人对自己看法的男生，活该这种男生找不到女朋友。
是男人就勇敢点，女孩子本来就感性，容易沉浸在爱情里。虽然你付出了辛苦，而一旦你的真心打动了她，那么你得到的将是更多更久的加倍的爱。这样的例子，在身边比比皆是。女孩子对自己的男朋友都是很温柔很贴心的，为了换来这份甜蜜，开头的辛苦算什么啊？而且大多好女孩都爱得挺投入挺专一的。
所以，建议有的男生勇敢一点，去追求自己喜欢的女孩子，不要那么畏畏缩缩，一来是让人觉得你没男人气概，二来是你自己怪难受的，然而最最最重要的还是：最后你什么都得不到。幸福总是自己挣来的，别指望别人施舍给你！
再补充一句，我觉得主动点儿挺好的，因为你的目标是你自己真心喜欢的，女孩子往往被动，被动的只能选择接受和拒绝，所以我宁愿主动出击，爱我所爱，无怨无悔！
Thursday, July 3, 2008
How to Flirt
Guide Note: Flirting is a part of every day life for many people. But how do you know when someone's flirting with you? How do you make it clear that you are interested in them? This page will give you practical tips on How to Flirt.
How to Flirt
Has anyone ever told you that you're a hopeless flirt? If so, you're not alone. Flirting is a universal activity that can help break the ice and lead to new friendships and romantic relationships. It can also just be a fun way to meet new people or add a little excitement to your day. It isn't limited to clubs and parties; flirting can be a useful skill in everyday life, whether you're browsing your local bookstore or sipping some Starbucks on your lunch break.
Maybe you need a few pointers to be a successful flirt. Perhaps you'd just like some tips to improve on the skills you already have. Maybe you even consider yourself a professional flirt artist and simply need some affirmation that you're doing it right. This page will take a look at the concepts of flirting and what they mean about you... And your object of affection.
Flirting Dos and Dont's
Although sometimes it seems that there are very few similarities between genders, some basic guidelines apply to anyone who is about to flirt it up with the opposite sex. The main goal of flirtation is to convey that you are interested in the other person without coming out and saying it (which can invite rejection and embarrassment). But it's worth restating that flirting doesn't have to be romantic at all. In fact, you may be better off just thinking of it as a good general social skill. These dos and don'ts will help you accomplish more with your flirting.
Flirting Dos
Do be prepared.
This especially applies if you are going somewhere like a party where you know you'll likely be seriously exercising your flirting muscles.
Make sure you're showered and smelling nice. This seems obvious, but an offensive odor or bad breath really tends to hamper your flirting abilities.
Wear clothing that reflects your style and fits your body type. Dress yourself so you'll be feeling comfortable and confident.
Do make eye contact.
This is one of the simplest and best ways to determine whether or not you should initially approach someone.
You can tell a lot by that first moment of eye contact. Hold the contact with them for a few moments, then slowly look away. Be careful not to stare and look creepy... A smile or friendly expression can help avoid this.
If they smile back at you, the flirting has officially begun.
If you catch them constantly looking at you, that's a good sign you should talk to them.
Retaining good eye contact while talking to them shows that you're interested.
Do control your body language.
Body language is everything. The fact is, what you say is not nearly as important as what you do.
Confident body language is the key ingredient to flirtation. You do not want to look insecure or afraid of talking to someone new.
Standing up straight and keeping your head up are two basic elements of good body language. Be sure you look approachable. Don't cross your arms in front of you, and keep your hands from covering your face. Be careful not to keep your hands in your pockets all the time, and never put them all the way in.
Mirroring is an effective flirting technique which involves making similar movements and assuming the same positive body language as the person you're flirting with.
Be very aware of how your gestures and movements reflect your confidence level. Too much hand fidgeting can make you look nervous, for example. Just remember that you want to relax, and look cool and comfortable.
Do initiate converstation.
When flirting, it really doesn't matter what you say so much as how you say it. Consequently, having an arsenal of witty pickup lines isn't really necessary or recommended.
Often, just saying "Hi" is all it takes to start up a conversation.
Making an observation (about something they're wearing, about the crazy party you're at) is a great way to begin. Try to think of something they haven't already heard 10 times that day.
The more unique your conversation starter, the more you will stand out. The more you stand out, the more interesting you seem. Just remember that if you do decide to use a pickup line to begin the conversation, try to pick one that is appropriate, funny, and innocuous.
Use observations about your surroundings as conversation starters. (Creative Commons photo by Ingrid)Do engage them with how unbelievably interesting you are.
Once you've begun talking, your next challenge is to not bore them to death.
Funny jokes are always good, but you can really be impressive if you show off your listening skills.
Ask questions and bring up things they said earlier in the conversation. This shows them you've been paying attention.
Don't treat it like a job interview; you don't need to dive in and start asking them for their name, birthday, hometown, favorite color, and number of siblings. Mix personal questions about them with funny observations about that guy doing a keg stand in the corner.
Slowly reveal interesting and relevant information about yourself as the conversation goes on. Highlight things the other person mentions that you have in common, as this can be a great way to keep their interest and perpetuate the conversation.
Do use humor.
One of the best things two people can share while getting comfortable with each other is a good laugh. Make them laugh, and make them laugh often!
Be careful not to get too comfortable when joking around... Cross the line with a joke and you may never be able to recover.
Do smile.
Keep the conversation light and positive and don't forget to smile.
Showing that you're enjoying yourself will help both sides stay in the moment and know that nobody's getting bored.
You don't have to look like it's the single greatest moment of your life. A friendly smile will do just fine.
Do look out for signs and signals.
Keep an eye out for warning signs. If you come across signals that this person is not interested in flirting (or even talking) with you, make a swift and immediate exit. There will always be someone else to talk to instead of wasting your time and effort on someone who isn't interested.
Some bad signals include looking around the room for what else is going on, turning their back to you, grabbing the nearest person in a desperate attempt to stop talking to you, and throwing a drink in your face.
Also be aware of positive signals like open body language. Some of these are detailed in the gender-specific sections below.
It takes some practice to learn to recognize all of the signals. The more you flirt, the more you'll understand what their responses mean.
Do seal the deal.
So your flirtatious encounter has been going well... Great! Now would be a great time to ask for a phone number or email address (which can seem more non-confrontational). Otherwise you may miss a golden opportunity to see this person again.
You could also give them your contact info, but doing so puts the ball in their court and you risk them not calling you.
Once you have successfully done this and maybe even made arrangements to see each other again, make your exit. The longer you stick around, the more chances you'll have of blowing it.
Do practice.
After all, practice makes perfect. The more people you flirt with, the better you'll get at knowing what you should be doing and what to look out for. Plus it's easy... You can practice flirting with people every day!
Flirting Don'ts
Don't take it too seriously.
Remember that most flirting is all in good fun and just a way to meet new people. Most folks you flirt with you'll never even talk to again. Let's face it—that may be a good thing for some of those situations.
A cold stare is none too inviting. (Creative Commons photo by Michelle Jones)Don't act like a stalker.
Surprisingly, people don't enjoy being creeped out.
Things such as staring ominously, humorless flirtatious remarks, and saying you want to have children with someone after first meeting them are usually quick turn-offs.
If the object of your menacing attention actually responds positively, you might be a bit weirded out yourself.
Don't flirt in inappropriate places.
Flirt at your own risk in the workplace. If you do decide to attempt this, keep it G-rated unless you enjoy a good sexual harassment lawsuit.
Use your best judgment as to whether a situation is conducive to flirting or not. It is generally frowned upon to flirt at a funeral, for example. Use some common sense.
Don't be arrogant.
Confidence + humor can be a magical combination when it comes to flirting. Even a little bit of cocky humor can go a long way. But misjudge the balance and you'll come across as arrogant.
Although you want the other person to get to know you a little, don't talk about yourself too much. If you catch yourself doing this, start asking them questions about themself instead.
Arrogance is neither funny nor flirty. It's really just irritating.
Don't be too forward.
Don't lose sight of the fact that you've just met this person. If you try to gently segue a compliment about the person's sense of style into a comment that they would probably enjoy meeting your parents before you get engaged, you're likely to see that smile fade into a look of horror.
Although this applies mostly to the fellas, girls should know that coming off as desperate or overly aggressive can be just as unattractive to the male species.
Don't talk about your ex.
The last thing anyone wants to hear about is what your ex was like. They don't care. Leave your exes out of it!
Don't be rude.
Most flirting is done in public places, so inevitably others may try to join in on the chatting. Even if you're truly "in the zone" while flirting with someone, don't purposely exclude or shut someone out of the conversation. Acting rude won't impress anybody.
Don't overstay your welcome.
Some quality conversations can last for a half hour. Some of them can last 10 minutes. If you hit a lull, it's time to decide if it's been going well enough to ask for some contact information, or if it's about time you moved on.
If they begin talking to someone else and ignoring you, you can pretty much consider your conversation over.
Go easy on the aftershave or perfume. (Creative Commons photo by Mestissa)Don't over do it with the cologne/perfume.
Yes, you want to smell nice. No, you don't want your skin glistening with aftershave when you approach someone new. A true friend will help you learn the art of scented subtlety.
Don't keep trying with someone who just isn't interested.
Sometimes you just need to cut your losses. If they're playing hard to get when you first meet them, they're probably not playing at all.
It's really not worth your time to go after someone who doesn't appreciate your advances. Try not to test the line between persistence and restraining order.
Don't flirt with someone you shouldn't be flirting with.
Other people's significant others should be considered off limits. Seems obvious, right?
Sure, sometimes you won't know if they're in a relationship. But as soon as you establish that they have a boyfriend/girlfriend, you'll probably want to knock it off or risk being knocked out.
This goes double for husbands and wives.
If their boyfriend/girlfriend comes up in conversation, don't be rude and immediately storm off in frustration. Either keep flirting in friend-mode or politely excuse yourself at an appropriate time.
Flirting with your boss or any professional superior is not the best idea, no matter how much you want that raise.
Flirting by Gender
If you feel like you have a pretty good handle on the fundamentals of flirting, it's about time you got into some more detail to really fine-tune your courting ritual (and recognize when someone is flirting with you). It's about this time that the specifics start to depend on the gender you're dealing with. Read on for a few pointers.
Tips for Girls
Look nice.
Guys tend to be a little more visually-oriented than girls. You don't have to overdo it, but you should be conscious of your appearance.
Smile and look inviting. (Creative Commons photo by Chunyang LIN)Smile!
We did already go over this, but it's very important to look genuine and approachable instead of cold and nasty. Otherwise the flirting may never even begin.
Be yourself.
Don't try to dumb it down. Most guys would rather talk to a girl who can actually carry on a conversation.
Don't try too hard. Just be yourself and be friendly!
Give the right signals.
Play with your hair, laugh at his jokes, bat your eyelashes, touch his arm. Giving signals that you're interested and enjoying yourself will encourage the flirting to continue, possibly to the next level.
If you're into it, go for it.
In this day and age, it's not always up to the guy to make a move. Especially if you are dealing with a shy person, it's perfectly acceptable for you to initiate the next step in the flirting process.
Don't flirt with someone you're not interested in.
Guys often mistake regular friendliness for romantic flirting. If you're not interested in someone, flirting with them will only lead them on and possibly create an awkward scene later (even if you thought you gave some pretty obvious signals).
Tips for Guys
Listen!
It's true, we already went over this before. But this is extremely important for the gender that's most listening-challenged.
Listen for key words and phrases that she says that you can bring up later or ask questions about to keep the conversation going.
Listen for open-ended questions that may be a set-up to ask her out. This can work with common interests ("do you like mini golfing?") and especially anything having to do with dinner, movies, or other date-like activities.
Because listening can be so difficult for guys, she will notice if you do it well.
Keep relaxed body language.
Lean back instead of in when talking to her. You want to come off as confident and relaxed, not desperate and needy.
Be naughty and nice.
Mixing the occasional compliment with playful teasing can keep her guessing what you'll say next.
Keep your sense of humor in full force. Just insulting her will end your flirting before it's begun. The idea is to add an element of mystery and unexpectedness.
Simply gushing over her with a steady stream of compliments can actually make you seem desperate.
Add up the signals to see if she's interested
Add up the signs.
Math may not be your strong suit, but you can't take any one signal as your guaranteed ticket in. Women tend to be naturally flirtatious, and men often mistake friendliness for romantic interest. Also, some signals may be a false alarm (crossing her arms could just mean she's cold). Therefore, you need to assess as many signals as you possibly can in order to establish whether she is interested or not.
Some positive signals include:
Constant eye contact with dilated pupils
Touching your arm or leg during conversation
Crossing her leg towards you
Playing with her hair
Hearty laughter at your jokes
Eyelash batting
Compliments
Some negative signals include:
Crossing her arms
Not retaining eye contact/looking distant or uninterested
Leaning away when you lean in, or turning her body away
Constantly repeating how great her boyfriend is (some guys just don't get the hint)
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
The only true way to guarantee that nothing will come from your attempt at flirting is to not flirt at all.
Conclusion
You can talk all day about the concepts and principles of flirting, but nothing will help you more than going out and doing it. This page should give you a great place to start from, but eventually you will learn to recognize even more signals and develop your own flirting style. If you ever need to brush up, read through this page until you internalize it a bit better. Now get out there and have some fun!
How to Flirt
Has anyone ever told you that you're a hopeless flirt? If so, you're not alone. Flirting is a universal activity that can help break the ice and lead to new friendships and romantic relationships. It can also just be a fun way to meet new people or add a little excitement to your day. It isn't limited to clubs and parties; flirting can be a useful skill in everyday life, whether you're browsing your local bookstore or sipping some Starbucks on your lunch break.
Maybe you need a few pointers to be a successful flirt. Perhaps you'd just like some tips to improve on the skills you already have. Maybe you even consider yourself a professional flirt artist and simply need some affirmation that you're doing it right. This page will take a look at the concepts of flirting and what they mean about you... And your object of affection.
Flirting Dos and Dont's
Although sometimes it seems that there are very few similarities between genders, some basic guidelines apply to anyone who is about to flirt it up with the opposite sex. The main goal of flirtation is to convey that you are interested in the other person without coming out and saying it (which can invite rejection and embarrassment). But it's worth restating that flirting doesn't have to be romantic at all. In fact, you may be better off just thinking of it as a good general social skill. These dos and don'ts will help you accomplish more with your flirting.
Flirting Dos
Do be prepared.
This especially applies if you are going somewhere like a party where you know you'll likely be seriously exercising your flirting muscles.
Make sure you're showered and smelling nice. This seems obvious, but an offensive odor or bad breath really tends to hamper your flirting abilities.
Wear clothing that reflects your style and fits your body type. Dress yourself so you'll be feeling comfortable and confident.
Do make eye contact.
This is one of the simplest and best ways to determine whether or not you should initially approach someone.
You can tell a lot by that first moment of eye contact. Hold the contact with them for a few moments, then slowly look away. Be careful not to stare and look creepy... A smile or friendly expression can help avoid this.
If they smile back at you, the flirting has officially begun.
If you catch them constantly looking at you, that's a good sign you should talk to them.
Retaining good eye contact while talking to them shows that you're interested.
Do control your body language.
Body language is everything. The fact is, what you say is not nearly as important as what you do.
Confident body language is the key ingredient to flirtation. You do not want to look insecure or afraid of talking to someone new.
Standing up straight and keeping your head up are two basic elements of good body language. Be sure you look approachable. Don't cross your arms in front of you, and keep your hands from covering your face. Be careful not to keep your hands in your pockets all the time, and never put them all the way in.
Mirroring is an effective flirting technique which involves making similar movements and assuming the same positive body language as the person you're flirting with.
Be very aware of how your gestures and movements reflect your confidence level. Too much hand fidgeting can make you look nervous, for example. Just remember that you want to relax, and look cool and comfortable.
Do initiate converstation.
When flirting, it really doesn't matter what you say so much as how you say it. Consequently, having an arsenal of witty pickup lines isn't really necessary or recommended.
Often, just saying "Hi" is all it takes to start up a conversation.
Making an observation (about something they're wearing, about the crazy party you're at) is a great way to begin. Try to think of something they haven't already heard 10 times that day.
The more unique your conversation starter, the more you will stand out. The more you stand out, the more interesting you seem. Just remember that if you do decide to use a pickup line to begin the conversation, try to pick one that is appropriate, funny, and innocuous.
Use observations about your surroundings as conversation starters. (Creative Commons photo by Ingrid)Do engage them with how unbelievably interesting you are.
Once you've begun talking, your next challenge is to not bore them to death.
Funny jokes are always good, but you can really be impressive if you show off your listening skills.
Ask questions and bring up things they said earlier in the conversation. This shows them you've been paying attention.
Don't treat it like a job interview; you don't need to dive in and start asking them for their name, birthday, hometown, favorite color, and number of siblings. Mix personal questions about them with funny observations about that guy doing a keg stand in the corner.
Slowly reveal interesting and relevant information about yourself as the conversation goes on. Highlight things the other person mentions that you have in common, as this can be a great way to keep their interest and perpetuate the conversation.
Do use humor.
One of the best things two people can share while getting comfortable with each other is a good laugh. Make them laugh, and make them laugh often!
Be careful not to get too comfortable when joking around... Cross the line with a joke and you may never be able to recover.
Do smile.
Keep the conversation light and positive and don't forget to smile.
Showing that you're enjoying yourself will help both sides stay in the moment and know that nobody's getting bored.
You don't have to look like it's the single greatest moment of your life. A friendly smile will do just fine.
Do look out for signs and signals.
Keep an eye out for warning signs. If you come across signals that this person is not interested in flirting (or even talking) with you, make a swift and immediate exit. There will always be someone else to talk to instead of wasting your time and effort on someone who isn't interested.
Some bad signals include looking around the room for what else is going on, turning their back to you, grabbing the nearest person in a desperate attempt to stop talking to you, and throwing a drink in your face.
Also be aware of positive signals like open body language. Some of these are detailed in the gender-specific sections below.
It takes some practice to learn to recognize all of the signals. The more you flirt, the more you'll understand what their responses mean.
Do seal the deal.
So your flirtatious encounter has been going well... Great! Now would be a great time to ask for a phone number or email address (which can seem more non-confrontational). Otherwise you may miss a golden opportunity to see this person again.
You could also give them your contact info, but doing so puts the ball in their court and you risk them not calling you.
Once you have successfully done this and maybe even made arrangements to see each other again, make your exit. The longer you stick around, the more chances you'll have of blowing it.
Do practice.
After all, practice makes perfect. The more people you flirt with, the better you'll get at knowing what you should be doing and what to look out for. Plus it's easy... You can practice flirting with people every day!
Flirting Don'ts
Don't take it too seriously.
Remember that most flirting is all in good fun and just a way to meet new people. Most folks you flirt with you'll never even talk to again. Let's face it—that may be a good thing for some of those situations.
A cold stare is none too inviting. (Creative Commons photo by Michelle Jones)Don't act like a stalker.
Surprisingly, people don't enjoy being creeped out.
Things such as staring ominously, humorless flirtatious remarks, and saying you want to have children with someone after first meeting them are usually quick turn-offs.
If the object of your menacing attention actually responds positively, you might be a bit weirded out yourself.
Don't flirt in inappropriate places.
Flirt at your own risk in the workplace. If you do decide to attempt this, keep it G-rated unless you enjoy a good sexual harassment lawsuit.
Use your best judgment as to whether a situation is conducive to flirting or not. It is generally frowned upon to flirt at a funeral, for example. Use some common sense.
Don't be arrogant.
Confidence + humor can be a magical combination when it comes to flirting. Even a little bit of cocky humor can go a long way. But misjudge the balance and you'll come across as arrogant.
Although you want the other person to get to know you a little, don't talk about yourself too much. If you catch yourself doing this, start asking them questions about themself instead.
Arrogance is neither funny nor flirty. It's really just irritating.
Don't be too forward.
Don't lose sight of the fact that you've just met this person. If you try to gently segue a compliment about the person's sense of style into a comment that they would probably enjoy meeting your parents before you get engaged, you're likely to see that smile fade into a look of horror.
Although this applies mostly to the fellas, girls should know that coming off as desperate or overly aggressive can be just as unattractive to the male species.
Don't talk about your ex.
The last thing anyone wants to hear about is what your ex was like. They don't care. Leave your exes out of it!
Don't be rude.
Most flirting is done in public places, so inevitably others may try to join in on the chatting. Even if you're truly "in the zone" while flirting with someone, don't purposely exclude or shut someone out of the conversation. Acting rude won't impress anybody.
Don't overstay your welcome.
Some quality conversations can last for a half hour. Some of them can last 10 minutes. If you hit a lull, it's time to decide if it's been going well enough to ask for some contact information, or if it's about time you moved on.
If they begin talking to someone else and ignoring you, you can pretty much consider your conversation over.
Go easy on the aftershave or perfume. (Creative Commons photo by Mestissa)Don't over do it with the cologne/perfume.
Yes, you want to smell nice. No, you don't want your skin glistening with aftershave when you approach someone new. A true friend will help you learn the art of scented subtlety.
Don't keep trying with someone who just isn't interested.
Sometimes you just need to cut your losses. If they're playing hard to get when you first meet them, they're probably not playing at all.
It's really not worth your time to go after someone who doesn't appreciate your advances. Try not to test the line between persistence and restraining order.
Don't flirt with someone you shouldn't be flirting with.
Other people's significant others should be considered off limits. Seems obvious, right?
Sure, sometimes you won't know if they're in a relationship. But as soon as you establish that they have a boyfriend/girlfriend, you'll probably want to knock it off or risk being knocked out.
This goes double for husbands and wives.
If their boyfriend/girlfriend comes up in conversation, don't be rude and immediately storm off in frustration. Either keep flirting in friend-mode or politely excuse yourself at an appropriate time.
Flirting with your boss or any professional superior is not the best idea, no matter how much you want that raise.
Flirting by Gender
If you feel like you have a pretty good handle on the fundamentals of flirting, it's about time you got into some more detail to really fine-tune your courting ritual (and recognize when someone is flirting with you). It's about this time that the specifics start to depend on the gender you're dealing with. Read on for a few pointers.
Tips for Girls
Look nice.
Guys tend to be a little more visually-oriented than girls. You don't have to overdo it, but you should be conscious of your appearance.
Smile and look inviting. (Creative Commons photo by Chunyang LIN)Smile!
We did already go over this, but it's very important to look genuine and approachable instead of cold and nasty. Otherwise the flirting may never even begin.
Be yourself.
Don't try to dumb it down. Most guys would rather talk to a girl who can actually carry on a conversation.
Don't try too hard. Just be yourself and be friendly!
Give the right signals.
Play with your hair, laugh at his jokes, bat your eyelashes, touch his arm. Giving signals that you're interested and enjoying yourself will encourage the flirting to continue, possibly to the next level.
If you're into it, go for it.
In this day and age, it's not always up to the guy to make a move. Especially if you are dealing with a shy person, it's perfectly acceptable for you to initiate the next step in the flirting process.
Don't flirt with someone you're not interested in.
Guys often mistake regular friendliness for romantic flirting. If you're not interested in someone, flirting with them will only lead them on and possibly create an awkward scene later (even if you thought you gave some pretty obvious signals).
Tips for Guys
Listen!
It's true, we already went over this before. But this is extremely important for the gender that's most listening-challenged.
Listen for key words and phrases that she says that you can bring up later or ask questions about to keep the conversation going.
Listen for open-ended questions that may be a set-up to ask her out. This can work with common interests ("do you like mini golfing?") and especially anything having to do with dinner, movies, or other date-like activities.
Because listening can be so difficult for guys, she will notice if you do it well.
Keep relaxed body language.
Lean back instead of in when talking to her. You want to come off as confident and relaxed, not desperate and needy.
Be naughty and nice.
Mixing the occasional compliment with playful teasing can keep her guessing what you'll say next.
Keep your sense of humor in full force. Just insulting her will end your flirting before it's begun. The idea is to add an element of mystery and unexpectedness.
Simply gushing over her with a steady stream of compliments can actually make you seem desperate.
Add up the signals to see if she's interested
Add up the signs.
Math may not be your strong suit, but you can't take any one signal as your guaranteed ticket in. Women tend to be naturally flirtatious, and men often mistake friendliness for romantic interest. Also, some signals may be a false alarm (crossing her arms could just mean she's cold). Therefore, you need to assess as many signals as you possibly can in order to establish whether she is interested or not.
Some positive signals include:
Constant eye contact with dilated pupils
Touching your arm or leg during conversation
Crossing her leg towards you
Playing with her hair
Hearty laughter at your jokes
Eyelash batting
Compliments
Some negative signals include:
Crossing her arms
Not retaining eye contact/looking distant or uninterested
Leaning away when you lean in, or turning her body away
Constantly repeating how great her boyfriend is (some guys just don't get the hint)
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
The only true way to guarantee that nothing will come from your attempt at flirting is to not flirt at all.
Conclusion
You can talk all day about the concepts and principles of flirting, but nothing will help you more than going out and doing it. This page should give you a great place to start from, but eventually you will learn to recognize even more signals and develop your own flirting style. If you ever need to brush up, read through this page until you internalize it a bit better. Now get out there and have some fun!
泡妞心法 秘诀。。。。。。。
第一诀：摸
这个“摸”不同于你想象的那个摸，是摸清底细。俺孙子说：知己知彼，百战不殆。兄弟是个大老粗，不会抽象思维，说不太清楚。你们都是什么生物生的，化学化的，应该能懂这个道理。
摸有分会摸，不会摸两种：会摸者摸其心，不会摸者摸其表。对她的喜欢什么、厌恶什么，用什么香水、唇膏，有什么口头禅、癖好，家庭出身、政治背景，等等等等，全部分门别类，记个滚瓜烂熟。记住，你不是在应付考试。这不，说难也不难，说易也不易，只要肯下工夫。当年兄弟我，每每见到心仪的美眉，比差诸姐妹把她摸个清清楚楚。有了这些资料，便能立于不败之地。
第二诀：靠
兵马未动，粮草先行。恋爱中的人心绪很不稳定，有时一句话都能引起波澜万丈，形势陡转。因此，先把美眉身边的人打点仔细罗。
如果她有男朋友，先和她男朋友成为铁哥们，伺机而动，用尽你肚子里的坏水，你总有扶正的那一天。试看古史，赵高，燕王，雍正等大哥，做得岂止漂亮。如果她没有男朋友，那就简单一些，但亦不可大意。兄弟我这一点做得不好，结果她众姐妹一句“他只是一种距离美而已！”害得兄弟我形影相吊，茕茕孑立好几个礼拜。
第三诀：粘
顾名思义，粘住她不放。所谓精诚所至，金石为开。这方面，李白兄弟知道的很清楚，他知道拿根铁棍去磨，也能磨出根针来。女孩是水做的，易动。工夫下到家，肯定是“有情人终成眷属”，再没人说三道四了。要做好这一步，建议先读几遍厚黑。这粘也别粘得那么死扳，出点花样。该刚就刚，该柔则柔。什么玫瑰、张学友、大宝送勤点。刘欢说：该出手时就出手。他是为了你好！
这一点，屡试不爽。迄今无失败的病例。美眉们别笑，如果你碰上这样的对头，偏偏那厮又不属于白马系列，你就准备哭吧。你要求我，我也会给你解招。谁叫我老人家有一腔热血呢。
第四诀：审
所谓第四诀，即可有可无也。审，就是仔细想想你和她属于那一类，说白了就是配不配，否则追到手也没好果子吃，不值啊！不过那全在你，你说配就配，你说不配就不配。如果她说你不配，兄弟我把她关起来，每天喂她二十斤猪油，五年之后，看她还配不配！
泡妞的五重境界
泡妞渐成时尚。似乎男人泡妞天经地义，不泡妞反而不正常--要么是段位太低、太差劲，泡不上或不会泡；要么就是“有病”需要补肾或者上医院。
对泡妞现象进行观察分析之后，发现泡妞其实也有三六九等之分。泡妞有三个基本条件，必须同时具备方可泡妞：其一，你有泡妞的欲望或需要；其二，存在有被泡可能的妞(妞愿意被泡或者可能被泡)；其三，才是你会泡妞(具备泡妞的资格并掌握泡妞的技巧)。
根据泡妞的对象不同，可以判断男人泡妞的水平和境界，大致有五重境界。
第一种是泡小姐，这是级别最低的。小姐的职业就是“三陪”，做些皮肉生意，混口饭吃。现在人们的观念比较开放，从业人员众多，市场竞争激烈；加上宏观经济形势仍不景气，内需不足，市场疲软，生意不好做。所以在失业和不景气的压力下，小姐们是巴不得有人去泡的，不但一泡就来，而且遇到不泡小姐的男人，小姐们也要努力拉客，争取被泡，就跟现在商家的促销推销一样。因此，泡小姐其实只是一种消费，有钱就行了，不需要多少技巧，更不需要什么魅力。跟坐公共汽车和出租车一样，给钱就上。所以，泡小姐并不代表水平。
第二种是泡小妞，泡十几二十来岁的小姑娘，这种水平略高一点。不过也不难。现在的新人类、新新人类，思想解放得干脆彻底，先是看《泰坦尼克》之后春心荡漾、想入非非，然后又是看《上海宝贝》之后百无禁忌、敢作敢为--管他妈的，我只要高兴就好！虽然外表美丽，但是内心空洞，没有多少思想，象杨花柳絮，轻飘飘的，没有重量，随风飘荡，整天生活在浪漫的幻想之中(报上不是经常有女大学生、女研究生被人拐卖的报道么？！)。如果遇上经过包装的“帅哥”、“酷哥”，或者“才子”，“成熟男人”，就难免把持不住；等而下之的，贪图虚荣的小妞遇到看起来有钱的“成功男人”，那就更是“沙土萝卜，一带就来”。
所以，泡小姑娘的条件也并不苛刻，手法也并不高深，只需要在外表、气质和地位三方面下点工夫就行了。外表方面，如果长的不算太差就装“帅”，如果先天不足，不能装“帅”就扮“酷”。气质方面，有多种方案可供选择，比如包装成才子，似乎才气十足，会一些古今中外的诗歌小说戏剧音乐格言警句，不时甩出来吓人一跳；或者装深沉，做出饱经风霜、曾经沧海很受伤的样子，骗取同情--这是利用女性潜意识中保护弱者的母性本能的中级手筋；或者装成洞察入微、善解人意的“成熟男人”。地位方面呢，就包装成事业有成(一般是以西服革履、有车有房为标志)的“成功男人”。这三条之中只要占一条，泡妞就不难；占两条，泡妞就得心应手；三条齐备，则几乎不会失手。老牛吃嫩草，基本都是这些手法取得的战果。
《诗》不云乎，“有女怀春，吉士诱之”，趁热打铁，是得手的关键。
第三种是泡老妞，即离异单身女士，年龄一般在30~45岁之间的(年龄再大，就不能称为妞了，更不会有人感兴趣)。这也不难，一般都能泡得老妞人财两空。按说，这个年龄的女人有一定的阅历，对世态百象也有一些见识，不是那么轻易被泡的。不过，现在的社会现实很残酷，“离婚的男人是块宝，离婚的女人象根草”，这个年龄段的男女比例严重失调，在婚姻市场上女性严重的供大于求，所以女人就只好来个跳楼大减价亏本大处理了。再优秀的女人，在离婚之后至少要打五折甚至一折处理，毕竟，Second-Handed的销路是不太好的。更何况，这种女人在饱受创伤之后，又经历了独自生活的巨大压力，一心盼着能又个遮风避雨的家，长期的孤独寂寞使她们到了《诗经》种所说的“倾筐暨之”的程度，属于汽车加油站那种需要“严禁烟火”的危险地带。只要来一点火花，肯定就是一场烈火。所以，泡这种老妞也不难，甚至比泡小妞还容易，只需要打出“我想有个家”的招牌，再将泡小妞的招数变通一下就行了。
第四种是泡别人的老婆。这种难度较大，成功率也比以上三种低一些。关键是记住“苍蝇不叮没缝的蛋”这句俗话。对于名花有主的女人而言，虽然内心深处难免有时有些想入非非甚至狂野，但在关键时候特别是要采取行动的时候还是很冷静的。“功不十，不易器；利不百，不变法”，用在这些女人身上倒十分合适。如果人家老公优秀出色，子女聪明乖巧，家庭和睦幸福，夫妻恩爱，老婆对老公没有什么不满，那就是没缝的蛋，趁早别浪费表情。有机可乘的通常有三种情况：一是女人很优秀，老公却并不出色，“高个子女人与矮个子丈夫”，不般配，外人对此议论颇多，女人心里也不太舒服，只是嘴上说不在乎；二是老公比较迟钝麻木，不解风情，不懂惜香怜玉，让老婆觉得失落、空虚、寂寞；三是老公花心，有外遇，老婆想报复(才开始可能只是在潜意识种有报复的心理，甚至连自己也没有意识到)--一句话，感情出现裂痕，老婆对老公不满了，成了有缝的蛋，这时就可趁虚而入。
泡这种女人的基本定式与实战手筋是：
第一招孔雀开屏：寻找机会自我表现，并让对方看到，让对方觉得自己是一个很特别、很有个性、很有品位的男人，引起对方的注意。
第二招黄鼠狼拜年：寻找机会接近对方，表示关心、欣赏和好感，让对方感到你对她不错，是值得信赖至少是可以交往的朋友。
第三招陈仓暗渡：制造一些单独交往的机会，寻求双方的一些共同点，比如，经历、兴趣、爱好、价值观念等等，借机展示一番学识、才华与智慧，注意要不失幽默风趣，当然，必不可少的是对女性要有一种适当的尊重、关心与体贴(程度要恰倒好处，以对方感到“很舒服、能接受”的地步为宜，过分了让人觉得肉麻、怀疑你别有用心；太淡了让对方感受不到，没有效果，记住“过犹不及”的古训，把握好火候)，让对方觉得你真的是自己的知己，大有相见恨晚的感受，于是老愿意与你接触(特别是单独接触)，直到“一日不见，如三秋兮”的地步。
第四招欲擒故纵：鱼这时快要上钩了，但是不能急，必须学会钓鱼，欲擒故纵。可以借故推掉一些约会，不接电话，不回传呼；见面之后一改平时滔滔不绝、口若悬河、妙语连珠、舌吐莲花的形象，变得沉默寡言，郁郁寡欢，时不常显得心事重重、若有所思的样子：言辞吞吞吐吐，眼神游离不定，表情暧昧多变，让对方要情不自禁地问你——你这是怎么了？这时，就可进入下一个环节--
第五招单刀直入：在对方持续不断的追问下，就可以进入正题，开始表白了。首先，必须做出很犹豫、迟疑的样子(比如，不断抽烟，拼命喝酒--最好是喝啤酒，一般男人的酒量喝四五瓶也不会真正的醉，千万别喝太多白酒，否则真的醉了，酒醉吐真言，事情就要搞砸)--因为这个剧本是讲述理智与情感作斗争的故事，现阶段的剧情是情感战胜了理智，理性的堤坝马上就要崩溃了，所以得有一种内心痛苦挣扎的表演；然后，终于下定了决心，一吐为快，感情的洪水决堤了，心安理得地“做不该做的事，爱不该爱的人”；可以说自己是如何如何地爱慕对方，几乎到了不可救药的地步，这时的言辞要夸张一点，有激情，有诗意，有才华，才能打动对方，温度越高越好，至少要“烫人”，最好事先翻一下情书大全之类的工具书，好在这类书现在也出得不少。偷两段流行歌曲的歌词，效果也不错，比如，“怪你过分美丽”、“不是我不小心，只是真情难以抗拒”；会点外语那就更好，选择面更大，也显得更有品位一些，可以唱一唱(不会唱就点歌吧！)“Oh,can’tyouseeit,baby,you’vegotmegoincrazy!”或者“You’retheonlyonewhoreallyknowmeatall!”以及“EverythingIdo,Idoitforyou!”……如果能够创造性的发挥，效果肯定更佳。
第六招埋下伏笔：表白之后，对方可能被打动，但是十有八九难以就这么快下决心。这时，还需要记住再做一项工作，就是要来一番自我剖白的表演：1、倾述一番自己的不幸以博取同情(比如自己的经历如何如何的坎坷，是多么的需要关怀；或者自己的老婆如何如何的不是东西，不懂感情，家庭生活索然无味……怎么有效就怎么编，反正你老婆也不可能在场反驳，她也不可能去做调查)，“我好象一叶疲惫的归帆，摇摇晃晃驶向你高张的臂弯”(有几个女人忍心拒绝呢！)；2、再次表达自己确实陷入了爱河：自己也知道对她的这种感情很危险，不会有什么结果，但是，堕入情网之后难以自拔，失去了理智--“不是我存心故意，只是无法改变自己”(这是用反证法来证明自己确实是非常非常的“爱”她的，嘿嘿！)3、证明自己的善良：表明自己确实不想破坏她的家庭与幸福，但是，如果失去她，这一辈子简直就无法生存，因为自己在遇到她之前的几十年简直就是白活！(“最近的你是我最深的痛！”)--此招的作用有两个方面，一是巧妙地证明自己确实是爱她的，至少这份感情是很真挚很炽烈的，以此促进对方“下定决心，不怕牺牲”(注意：是让她去“不怕牺牲”，别弄错了！！！)；二是为将来的临阵脱逃、不负责任埋下伏笔(不是早就说过知道这份感情没有什么结果、也不愿意破坏别人的家庭吗？！)，而且还可以把过错事先就推给了对方。如果将来的结局是悲剧(十之八九是如此)，那就“愿赌服输”：不怨天，也不怨地，来生有缘再相聚；不怪你，更不怪我，“都是月亮惹的祸”！
第七招如鱼得水：六招之后，基本可以搞定，如果暂时不能得手，就重复交叉使用第四招、第五招、第六招，直到搞定为止。搞定之后要做的，是个男人都会做，就不用多说了。万事开头难，有一就有二，有二就有三，以此类推。
第八招骑驴找马：甘蔗嚼得差不多了，没有什么味道，就该寻找下一个目标，另寻新欢了，然后重复第一至第七招的招数。
第九招全身而退：最难，但一定要不择手段，成功地退出，否则，泡妞泡成老公，和炒股炒成股东一样，都是套牢，是一种失败。分手时，不妨来一段“只要我们曾经拥有过，对于我来讲已经足够”的告别演说(她觉得不够是她的事，反正你已经够了！)，再来一段“只要你过得比我好”的祝福--记住，慷慨一点，千万别吝啬，反正只是一句话，又不要本钱！
以上九招，可全面掌握、灵活运用，如同独孤九剑般威力无穷。独孤九剑，天下莫敌；泡妞九招一出，当使天下无淑女！！！
泡妞的第五重境界，是泡自己的老婆。这是泡妞的最高境界，天下男人能达到这种境界的，恐怕只有1%以下。原因有三，一是没意识到自己的老婆需要泡，二是不知道泡自己老婆的乐趣，三是对自己的老婆不知道如何去泡。所以，好多人是把泡妞的心思都花到泡小姐、泡小妞、泡老妞或者泡别人的老婆上去了，自己的老婆反而不去泡，实在可悲！
从上帝创造亚当夏娃开始，男人和女人就是这个世界的主角。女人对男人的要求很高，男人对女人的要求更高。概括起来，不外乎生活的需要、心理的需要和生理的需要三个方面。所以，女人希望有三个男人：第一个是老公，第二个是知己，第三个是情人；男人则希望老婆“客厅里象个淑女，厨房里象个劳动妇女，卧室里象个妓女”。看来，老公(老婆)、知己、情人，是男人和女人对异性共同的要求，分别满足人的生活的、心理的和生理的需要，人同此心，心同此理--天经地义，天经地义！！！
明白这个道理，自己的老婆也需要泡的原因就不用多说，只是提醒一下，自己的老婆你不去泡，说不定就有人帮你去泡，到时弄顶环保色的帽子来戴就不太舒服了。泡自己老婆的乐趣，需要大致说一下，如果段位够高，把自己老婆泡成“妻子+红颜知己+情人”的三位一体的完美女人，那将终身受益无穷的；自己也成为自己老婆的“丈夫+知己+情人”的男人，想起来就让人陶醉。都说女人是本书，要会读；其实，女人这本书，不光要会读，更要会写，才是真正优秀的男人。
泡自己老婆的招数很多，凡泡小姐、泡小妞、泡老妞、泡别人老婆的手筋都可以用。招数是次要的，关键之处时要有三心：一是爱心，二是专心，三是恒心。只要有这三心，泡自己老婆可谓无往而不胜，人人都可成为泡自己老婆的高手！
泡自己老婆的三心，较之泡别人老婆的九招威力更大。毫不夸张地说，泡自己老婆三心一出，可使天下无怨女！！！
丐帮镇帮之宝“打狗棒法”威力最大的一招，也是最后的一招，唤作“天下无狗”。如果天下男人都用三心去泡自己的老婆，届时可能就没有人再想泡妞--小姐、小妞、老妞还有别人的老婆，也没有妞可泡，那才真是“天下无妞”！哈哈！哈哈哈哈！！！
结束语：--泡妞的级别越低，离动物越近，离人越远。
--有家有室没车没房不帅不酷亦正亦邪更年期前青春期后三十五岁老实男人
六招打动女人心
通常来说，一个男人的身高和五官在娘胎里就已经注定，但他的偏偏风度，堂堂仪表和倾群芳的魅力却可以通过后天的教养和训练而获得。有的男人天生就具有这种魅力，他们每到一处，那里的空气似乎都为之振荡。可惜大多数男人都缺乏这种魅力。从意识到自己是一个男人到中老年，大多数男人都是在平庸的工作和生活中忙忙碌碌的，没有机会甚至没有意识到应该怎样来展现自己的魅力。而到了50岁后这就更难了，似乎只有犯了心脏病才能引起他人的注意。事实上，大多是男人苦苦奋斗了一生，但一直默默无闻。
这并不是说，我们不得不接受这一命运的安排。每个男人都有推动自己的责任。任何一和男人都可以填补个人魅力的空白。当然这需要如同十项全能式的训练，需要在生活的各个场合中培养全面的兴趣和熟练的技巧，有时一些故作姿态的兴措也能奏效。
魅力的培养是自我调节的计划，是经验的积累。只要是新的手段，就不会无足轻重，都应追求、尝试。只要充满激情的生活，不断学习新手段。谈论新手段，这种增自身魅力的尝试就一定会成功。
第一招我有一个好工作
女人只要容貌较好，似乎就可终身有靠。男子则不然。一旦穷困潦倒，在大的魅力也无从体现。换言之，男子的魅力是如赚钱一样辛辛苦苦挣来的。最省时省力的职业莫过于球票推销员和侦探。这类工作无需多大的投入，只需干一季度，就可有资本谈论这一辈子。如果你的工作不好听，可以用夸张法对其修饰。“银行官员”总比“小职员”中听，“啤酒研究员”总比“苏打调配人”提劲，“环境监督员”总比“厕所收费员”得体，这样修饰一下能给人留下较好的第一印象。谁也搞不清楚这些是什么职位，尤其是女人，也许等她们搞清楚时，她们已经喜欢你了。曾有一位专门从事消灭老鼠蟑螂的人娶了一位律师为妻。为了参加宴会与他妻子那些风度翩翩的朋友相见时，则自称“职业杀手”。
第二招：我有风格
男人的服饰无需昂贵，但一些小小的装饰音符，如香不、古表、吊裤带、名牌钢笔，甚至象牙衬衫袖口链扣都能体现个人性格，引起他人的注意或好奇。不过，凡事都需适可而止你可以换一种更好的香水，但靠恨别酷爱到用这种香水洗澡，只需用上一两滴就足够了。
同样，你不必非得腰缠万贯才能拥有酒窖。你只需去参观一个酿酒厂，与酒商聊一聊，了解一些有关制酒的知识，包括阳光的角度、平均气温、土壤的成分。然后你在存储一些名牌酒。今后在你启瓶倒酒、祝酒时，可尽显你的老道。
第三招：我有一技之长
日常生活中，多数男人都地重复着机械单调的生活程序：星期四看电视剧；星期五朋友相聚喝点酒；星期六睡它一天懒觉；星期日培太太逛街等等。这种生活格调无法提供新话题。所以你应该独辟蹊径，做一点不同寻常的事情。比如当一个收藏家，但不要囤积钱币或邮票之类的物品，那些东西太普遍了。收藏些你经济情况可以承担同时你又感兴趣的东西，如老式汽车、钟表等。收藏如死昆虫、著名人士的内衣或遗物这类奇特的物品要有趣的多，但要承担一些风险，因为这类物品的市场价值难以预测，也许会使你由此变富，也可能是你变得不明分文。你可以利用你的收藏在业余时间调节自我，而且谈起你的收藏，你可以滔滔不绝，如数家珍，对每一细节都可饶有兴趣的谈论半天，这样你的自我魅力也就充分地展现了出来。
具有特殊专长的人往往可得到女人的爱慕。张先生喜好研究夜间活动的动物，他勤奋钻研，成为世界上研究老鼠和蝙蝠的权威人士。情人节时，她来到女友居住的高层公寓楼与她相会。大厦的管理人员一直对大厦窗户上的一种奇怪的残留物疑惑不解。张先生看了一眼，便告诉他们，“这是一种蝙蝠尿”，并建议他们用什么样的清洗剂洗。它的女友从此对他更加爱慕，很快就嫁给了他。
第四招：我能带给你刺激
也许你的公寓单调无性格，只有普普通通的家具、贴着比萨优惠券的冰箱、一份电视节目报直落在地板上。怎样才能不重新装修而又能增添其性格呢？其实很简单。只要增加些有特色的物品。比如，门后方一幅冲浪板，它的存在会明显表露主人是个爱追求刺激的人。另外，雪橇、攀岩铁锁等物也可有相同的效果。国外杂志和外币可表明你曾去国外旅行。生动活泼、刺激够味的日本卡通画报或荷兰大麻酒吧的菜单既然可满足低层次来访者的好奇心，也可是你那些保守的朋友大吃一惊。你可以关心的问一句：“那些东西没吓着你吧？”
古董使人感兴趣，而那些物价值的旧东西也常常引人入胜。各种手工制品都充分表现了遥远的空中的人们如何生活。一个1919的示速器，或一卷维多利亚时代的卫生纸，或几件儿童玩具，或著名岩洞中得到的几颗卵石，或酒瓶塞商的广告等都不失为有趣之物。
第五招：我心眼儿好
积善的美德也能增加一个人的魅力。
你无须一辈子从事慈善事业，也不必加入和平队才能使你出众。开始只需从小事做起。例如，向无家可归的人施舍汤水，象因贫困上不起学的孩子提供力所能及的资助。只需花费不多的时间和金钱，你就会感到惊人的变化。你的熟人会对你的所作所为感兴趣。如果你想保持这种状态，在进一步为他人多作些好事。
第六招：我是你儿子的好父亲
父亲形象的建立有利有弊。它的出现也许会使你失去在交际场中的艳遇和乐趣，但你又不能不树立这一最有个性化的形象。在家外的损失将在家中得到巨大的弥补，因为在一个渴望安全与柔情的女性心中，你乐于扮演父亲角色可以证明你是一个多么有责任感的人！
成为家中的神是自我的极大满足。在你三岁儿子的眼中，你比一切英雄都伟大，因为你是“爸爸！”。你的声音如同神的呼唤，你的鞋子是那样巨大，犹如一艘巨轮，甚至你的小便都是金黄色。
你的魅力对他的影响要比任何人都大。当然，这种黄金时代不会永存。不久，你的儿子将会发现，你在整个社会中并不是一颗闪闪发亮的巨星，而只是一个平庸的矮子。十年后，他会如同掸去头皮屑一样掸去你现在的形象。可现在，每当你拨弄各种电器时，你仍是他心中的普罗米修斯。当你放弃了家外宽广的世界时，你应对家中这种特有的荣誉感到心满意足。在这里，你至少还可以有那么多几年被认为是世界上最高大、最坚强、最有幽默感和最有魅力的男人。
而儿子对你的崇拜将是你收服太太的有效武器。
这个“摸”不同于你想象的那个摸，是摸清底细。俺孙子说：知己知彼，百战不殆。兄弟是个大老粗，不会抽象思维，说不太清楚。你们都是什么生物生的，化学化的，应该能懂这个道理。
摸有分会摸，不会摸两种：会摸者摸其心，不会摸者摸其表。对她的喜欢什么、厌恶什么，用什么香水、唇膏，有什么口头禅、癖好，家庭出身、政治背景，等等等等，全部分门别类，记个滚瓜烂熟。记住，你不是在应付考试。这不，说难也不难，说易也不易，只要肯下工夫。当年兄弟我，每每见到心仪的美眉，比差诸姐妹把她摸个清清楚楚。有了这些资料，便能立于不败之地。
第二诀：靠
兵马未动，粮草先行。恋爱中的人心绪很不稳定，有时一句话都能引起波澜万丈，形势陡转。因此，先把美眉身边的人打点仔细罗。
如果她有男朋友，先和她男朋友成为铁哥们，伺机而动，用尽你肚子里的坏水，你总有扶正的那一天。试看古史，赵高，燕王，雍正等大哥，做得岂止漂亮。如果她没有男朋友，那就简单一些，但亦不可大意。兄弟我这一点做得不好，结果她众姐妹一句“他只是一种距离美而已！”害得兄弟我形影相吊，茕茕孑立好几个礼拜。
第三诀：粘
顾名思义，粘住她不放。所谓精诚所至，金石为开。这方面，李白兄弟知道的很清楚，他知道拿根铁棍去磨，也能磨出根针来。女孩是水做的，易动。工夫下到家，肯定是“有情人终成眷属”，再没人说三道四了。要做好这一步，建议先读几遍厚黑。这粘也别粘得那么死扳，出点花样。该刚就刚，该柔则柔。什么玫瑰、张学友、大宝送勤点。刘欢说：该出手时就出手。他是为了你好！
这一点，屡试不爽。迄今无失败的病例。美眉们别笑，如果你碰上这样的对头，偏偏那厮又不属于白马系列，你就准备哭吧。你要求我，我也会给你解招。谁叫我老人家有一腔热血呢。
第四诀：审
所谓第四诀，即可有可无也。审，就是仔细想想你和她属于那一类，说白了就是配不配，否则追到手也没好果子吃，不值啊！不过那全在你，你说配就配，你说不配就不配。如果她说你不配，兄弟我把她关起来，每天喂她二十斤猪油，五年之后，看她还配不配！
泡妞的五重境界
泡妞渐成时尚。似乎男人泡妞天经地义，不泡妞反而不正常--要么是段位太低、太差劲，泡不上或不会泡；要么就是“有病”需要补肾或者上医院。
对泡妞现象进行观察分析之后，发现泡妞其实也有三六九等之分。泡妞有三个基本条件，必须同时具备方可泡妞：其一，你有泡妞的欲望或需要；其二，存在有被泡可能的妞(妞愿意被泡或者可能被泡)；其三，才是你会泡妞(具备泡妞的资格并掌握泡妞的技巧)。
根据泡妞的对象不同，可以判断男人泡妞的水平和境界，大致有五重境界。
第一种是泡小姐，这是级别最低的。小姐的职业就是“三陪”，做些皮肉生意，混口饭吃。现在人们的观念比较开放，从业人员众多，市场竞争激烈；加上宏观经济形势仍不景气，内需不足，市场疲软，生意不好做。所以在失业和不景气的压力下，小姐们是巴不得有人去泡的，不但一泡就来，而且遇到不泡小姐的男人，小姐们也要努力拉客，争取被泡，就跟现在商家的促销推销一样。因此，泡小姐其实只是一种消费，有钱就行了，不需要多少技巧，更不需要什么魅力。跟坐公共汽车和出租车一样，给钱就上。所以，泡小姐并不代表水平。
第二种是泡小妞，泡十几二十来岁的小姑娘，这种水平略高一点。不过也不难。现在的新人类、新新人类，思想解放得干脆彻底，先是看《泰坦尼克》之后春心荡漾、想入非非，然后又是看《上海宝贝》之后百无禁忌、敢作敢为--管他妈的，我只要高兴就好！虽然外表美丽，但是内心空洞，没有多少思想，象杨花柳絮，轻飘飘的，没有重量，随风飘荡，整天生活在浪漫的幻想之中(报上不是经常有女大学生、女研究生被人拐卖的报道么？！)。如果遇上经过包装的“帅哥”、“酷哥”，或者“才子”，“成熟男人”，就难免把持不住；等而下之的，贪图虚荣的小妞遇到看起来有钱的“成功男人”，那就更是“沙土萝卜，一带就来”。
所以，泡小姑娘的条件也并不苛刻，手法也并不高深，只需要在外表、气质和地位三方面下点工夫就行了。外表方面，如果长的不算太差就装“帅”，如果先天不足，不能装“帅”就扮“酷”。气质方面，有多种方案可供选择，比如包装成才子，似乎才气十足，会一些古今中外的诗歌小说戏剧音乐格言警句，不时甩出来吓人一跳；或者装深沉，做出饱经风霜、曾经沧海很受伤的样子，骗取同情--这是利用女性潜意识中保护弱者的母性本能的中级手筋；或者装成洞察入微、善解人意的“成熟男人”。地位方面呢，就包装成事业有成(一般是以西服革履、有车有房为标志)的“成功男人”。这三条之中只要占一条，泡妞就不难；占两条，泡妞就得心应手；三条齐备，则几乎不会失手。老牛吃嫩草，基本都是这些手法取得的战果。
《诗》不云乎，“有女怀春，吉士诱之”，趁热打铁，是得手的关键。
第三种是泡老妞，即离异单身女士，年龄一般在30~45岁之间的(年龄再大，就不能称为妞了，更不会有人感兴趣)。这也不难，一般都能泡得老妞人财两空。按说，这个年龄的女人有一定的阅历，对世态百象也有一些见识，不是那么轻易被泡的。不过，现在的社会现实很残酷，“离婚的男人是块宝，离婚的女人象根草”，这个年龄段的男女比例严重失调，在婚姻市场上女性严重的供大于求，所以女人就只好来个跳楼大减价亏本大处理了。再优秀的女人，在离婚之后至少要打五折甚至一折处理，毕竟，Second-Handed的销路是不太好的。更何况，这种女人在饱受创伤之后，又经历了独自生活的巨大压力，一心盼着能又个遮风避雨的家，长期的孤独寂寞使她们到了《诗经》种所说的“倾筐暨之”的程度，属于汽车加油站那种需要“严禁烟火”的危险地带。只要来一点火花，肯定就是一场烈火。所以，泡这种老妞也不难，甚至比泡小妞还容易，只需要打出“我想有个家”的招牌，再将泡小妞的招数变通一下就行了。
第四种是泡别人的老婆。这种难度较大，成功率也比以上三种低一些。关键是记住“苍蝇不叮没缝的蛋”这句俗话。对于名花有主的女人而言，虽然内心深处难免有时有些想入非非甚至狂野，但在关键时候特别是要采取行动的时候还是很冷静的。“功不十，不易器；利不百，不变法”，用在这些女人身上倒十分合适。如果人家老公优秀出色，子女聪明乖巧，家庭和睦幸福，夫妻恩爱，老婆对老公没有什么不满，那就是没缝的蛋，趁早别浪费表情。有机可乘的通常有三种情况：一是女人很优秀，老公却并不出色，“高个子女人与矮个子丈夫”，不般配，外人对此议论颇多，女人心里也不太舒服，只是嘴上说不在乎；二是老公比较迟钝麻木，不解风情，不懂惜香怜玉，让老婆觉得失落、空虚、寂寞；三是老公花心，有外遇，老婆想报复(才开始可能只是在潜意识种有报复的心理，甚至连自己也没有意识到)--一句话，感情出现裂痕，老婆对老公不满了，成了有缝的蛋，这时就可趁虚而入。
泡这种女人的基本定式与实战手筋是：
第一招孔雀开屏：寻找机会自我表现，并让对方看到，让对方觉得自己是一个很特别、很有个性、很有品位的男人，引起对方的注意。
第二招黄鼠狼拜年：寻找机会接近对方，表示关心、欣赏和好感，让对方感到你对她不错，是值得信赖至少是可以交往的朋友。
第三招陈仓暗渡：制造一些单独交往的机会，寻求双方的一些共同点，比如，经历、兴趣、爱好、价值观念等等，借机展示一番学识、才华与智慧，注意要不失幽默风趣，当然，必不可少的是对女性要有一种适当的尊重、关心与体贴(程度要恰倒好处，以对方感到“很舒服、能接受”的地步为宜，过分了让人觉得肉麻、怀疑你别有用心；太淡了让对方感受不到，没有效果，记住“过犹不及”的古训，把握好火候)，让对方觉得你真的是自己的知己，大有相见恨晚的感受，于是老愿意与你接触(特别是单独接触)，直到“一日不见，如三秋兮”的地步。
第四招欲擒故纵：鱼这时快要上钩了，但是不能急，必须学会钓鱼，欲擒故纵。可以借故推掉一些约会，不接电话，不回传呼；见面之后一改平时滔滔不绝、口若悬河、妙语连珠、舌吐莲花的形象，变得沉默寡言，郁郁寡欢，时不常显得心事重重、若有所思的样子：言辞吞吞吐吐，眼神游离不定，表情暧昧多变，让对方要情不自禁地问你——你这是怎么了？这时，就可进入下一个环节--
第五招单刀直入：在对方持续不断的追问下，就可以进入正题，开始表白了。首先，必须做出很犹豫、迟疑的样子(比如，不断抽烟，拼命喝酒--最好是喝啤酒，一般男人的酒量喝四五瓶也不会真正的醉，千万别喝太多白酒，否则真的醉了，酒醉吐真言，事情就要搞砸)--因为这个剧本是讲述理智与情感作斗争的故事，现阶段的剧情是情感战胜了理智，理性的堤坝马上就要崩溃了，所以得有一种内心痛苦挣扎的表演；然后，终于下定了决心，一吐为快，感情的洪水决堤了，心安理得地“做不该做的事，爱不该爱的人”；可以说自己是如何如何地爱慕对方，几乎到了不可救药的地步，这时的言辞要夸张一点，有激情，有诗意，有才华，才能打动对方，温度越高越好，至少要“烫人”，最好事先翻一下情书大全之类的工具书，好在这类书现在也出得不少。偷两段流行歌曲的歌词，效果也不错，比如，“怪你过分美丽”、“不是我不小心，只是真情难以抗拒”；会点外语那就更好，选择面更大，也显得更有品位一些，可以唱一唱(不会唱就点歌吧！)“Oh,can’tyouseeit,baby,you’vegotmegoincrazy!”或者“You’retheonlyonewhoreallyknowmeatall!”以及“EverythingIdo,Idoitforyou!”……如果能够创造性的发挥，效果肯定更佳。
第六招埋下伏笔：表白之后，对方可能被打动，但是十有八九难以就这么快下决心。这时，还需要记住再做一项工作，就是要来一番自我剖白的表演：1、倾述一番自己的不幸以博取同情(比如自己的经历如何如何的坎坷，是多么的需要关怀；或者自己的老婆如何如何的不是东西，不懂感情，家庭生活索然无味……怎么有效就怎么编，反正你老婆也不可能在场反驳，她也不可能去做调查)，“我好象一叶疲惫的归帆，摇摇晃晃驶向你高张的臂弯”(有几个女人忍心拒绝呢！)；2、再次表达自己确实陷入了爱河：自己也知道对她的这种感情很危险，不会有什么结果，但是，堕入情网之后难以自拔，失去了理智--“不是我存心故意，只是无法改变自己”(这是用反证法来证明自己确实是非常非常的“爱”她的，嘿嘿！)3、证明自己的善良：表明自己确实不想破坏她的家庭与幸福，但是，如果失去她，这一辈子简直就无法生存，因为自己在遇到她之前的几十年简直就是白活！(“最近的你是我最深的痛！”)--此招的作用有两个方面，一是巧妙地证明自己确实是爱她的，至少这份感情是很真挚很炽烈的，以此促进对方“下定决心，不怕牺牲”(注意：是让她去“不怕牺牲”，别弄错了！！！)；二是为将来的临阵脱逃、不负责任埋下伏笔(不是早就说过知道这份感情没有什么结果、也不愿意破坏别人的家庭吗？！)，而且还可以把过错事先就推给了对方。如果将来的结局是悲剧(十之八九是如此)，那就“愿赌服输”：不怨天，也不怨地，来生有缘再相聚；不怪你，更不怪我，“都是月亮惹的祸”！
第七招如鱼得水：六招之后，基本可以搞定，如果暂时不能得手，就重复交叉使用第四招、第五招、第六招，直到搞定为止。搞定之后要做的，是个男人都会做，就不用多说了。万事开头难，有一就有二，有二就有三，以此类推。
第八招骑驴找马：甘蔗嚼得差不多了，没有什么味道，就该寻找下一个目标，另寻新欢了，然后重复第一至第七招的招数。
第九招全身而退：最难，但一定要不择手段，成功地退出，否则，泡妞泡成老公，和炒股炒成股东一样，都是套牢，是一种失败。分手时，不妨来一段“只要我们曾经拥有过，对于我来讲已经足够”的告别演说(她觉得不够是她的事，反正你已经够了！)，再来一段“只要你过得比我好”的祝福--记住，慷慨一点，千万别吝啬，反正只是一句话，又不要本钱！
以上九招，可全面掌握、灵活运用，如同独孤九剑般威力无穷。独孤九剑，天下莫敌；泡妞九招一出，当使天下无淑女！！！
泡妞的第五重境界，是泡自己的老婆。这是泡妞的最高境界，天下男人能达到这种境界的，恐怕只有1%以下。原因有三，一是没意识到自己的老婆需要泡，二是不知道泡自己老婆的乐趣，三是对自己的老婆不知道如何去泡。所以，好多人是把泡妞的心思都花到泡小姐、泡小妞、泡老妞或者泡别人的老婆上去了，自己的老婆反而不去泡，实在可悲！
从上帝创造亚当夏娃开始，男人和女人就是这个世界的主角。女人对男人的要求很高，男人对女人的要求更高。概括起来，不外乎生活的需要、心理的需要和生理的需要三个方面。所以，女人希望有三个男人：第一个是老公，第二个是知己，第三个是情人；男人则希望老婆“客厅里象个淑女，厨房里象个劳动妇女，卧室里象个妓女”。看来，老公(老婆)、知己、情人，是男人和女人对异性共同的要求，分别满足人的生活的、心理的和生理的需要，人同此心，心同此理--天经地义，天经地义！！！
明白这个道理，自己的老婆也需要泡的原因就不用多说，只是提醒一下，自己的老婆你不去泡，说不定就有人帮你去泡，到时弄顶环保色的帽子来戴就不太舒服了。泡自己老婆的乐趣，需要大致说一下，如果段位够高，把自己老婆泡成“妻子+红颜知己+情人”的三位一体的完美女人，那将终身受益无穷的；自己也成为自己老婆的“丈夫+知己+情人”的男人，想起来就让人陶醉。都说女人是本书，要会读；其实，女人这本书，不光要会读，更要会写，才是真正优秀的男人。
泡自己老婆的招数很多，凡泡小姐、泡小妞、泡老妞、泡别人老婆的手筋都可以用。招数是次要的，关键之处时要有三心：一是爱心，二是专心，三是恒心。只要有这三心，泡自己老婆可谓无往而不胜，人人都可成为泡自己老婆的高手！
泡自己老婆的三心，较之泡别人老婆的九招威力更大。毫不夸张地说，泡自己老婆三心一出，可使天下无怨女！！！
丐帮镇帮之宝“打狗棒法”威力最大的一招，也是最后的一招，唤作“天下无狗”。如果天下男人都用三心去泡自己的老婆，届时可能就没有人再想泡妞--小姐、小妞、老妞还有别人的老婆，也没有妞可泡，那才真是“天下无妞”！哈哈！哈哈哈哈！！！
结束语：--泡妞的级别越低，离动物越近，离人越远。
--有家有室没车没房不帅不酷亦正亦邪更年期前青春期后三十五岁老实男人
六招打动女人心
通常来说，一个男人的身高和五官在娘胎里就已经注定，但他的偏偏风度，堂堂仪表和倾群芳的魅力却可以通过后天的教养和训练而获得。有的男人天生就具有这种魅力，他们每到一处，那里的空气似乎都为之振荡。可惜大多数男人都缺乏这种魅力。从意识到自己是一个男人到中老年，大多数男人都是在平庸的工作和生活中忙忙碌碌的，没有机会甚至没有意识到应该怎样来展现自己的魅力。而到了50岁后这就更难了，似乎只有犯了心脏病才能引起他人的注意。事实上，大多是男人苦苦奋斗了一生，但一直默默无闻。
这并不是说，我们不得不接受这一命运的安排。每个男人都有推动自己的责任。任何一和男人都可以填补个人魅力的空白。当然这需要如同十项全能式的训练，需要在生活的各个场合中培养全面的兴趣和熟练的技巧，有时一些故作姿态的兴措也能奏效。
魅力的培养是自我调节的计划，是经验的积累。只要是新的手段，就不会无足轻重，都应追求、尝试。只要充满激情的生活，不断学习新手段。谈论新手段，这种增自身魅力的尝试就一定会成功。
第一招我有一个好工作
女人只要容貌较好，似乎就可终身有靠。男子则不然。一旦穷困潦倒，在大的魅力也无从体现。换言之，男子的魅力是如赚钱一样辛辛苦苦挣来的。最省时省力的职业莫过于球票推销员和侦探。这类工作无需多大的投入，只需干一季度，就可有资本谈论这一辈子。如果你的工作不好听，可以用夸张法对其修饰。“银行官员”总比“小职员”中听，“啤酒研究员”总比“苏打调配人”提劲，“环境监督员”总比“厕所收费员”得体，这样修饰一下能给人留下较好的第一印象。谁也搞不清楚这些是什么职位，尤其是女人，也许等她们搞清楚时，她们已经喜欢你了。曾有一位专门从事消灭老鼠蟑螂的人娶了一位律师为妻。为了参加宴会与他妻子那些风度翩翩的朋友相见时，则自称“职业杀手”。
第二招：我有风格
男人的服饰无需昂贵，但一些小小的装饰音符，如香不、古表、吊裤带、名牌钢笔，甚至象牙衬衫袖口链扣都能体现个人性格，引起他人的注意或好奇。不过，凡事都需适可而止你可以换一种更好的香水，但靠恨别酷爱到用这种香水洗澡，只需用上一两滴就足够了。
同样，你不必非得腰缠万贯才能拥有酒窖。你只需去参观一个酿酒厂，与酒商聊一聊，了解一些有关制酒的知识，包括阳光的角度、平均气温、土壤的成分。然后你在存储一些名牌酒。今后在你启瓶倒酒、祝酒时，可尽显你的老道。
第三招：我有一技之长
日常生活中，多数男人都地重复着机械单调的生活程序：星期四看电视剧；星期五朋友相聚喝点酒；星期六睡它一天懒觉；星期日培太太逛街等等。这种生活格调无法提供新话题。所以你应该独辟蹊径，做一点不同寻常的事情。比如当一个收藏家，但不要囤积钱币或邮票之类的物品，那些东西太普遍了。收藏些你经济情况可以承担同时你又感兴趣的东西，如老式汽车、钟表等。收藏如死昆虫、著名人士的内衣或遗物这类奇特的物品要有趣的多，但要承担一些风险，因为这类物品的市场价值难以预测，也许会使你由此变富，也可能是你变得不明分文。你可以利用你的收藏在业余时间调节自我，而且谈起你的收藏，你可以滔滔不绝，如数家珍，对每一细节都可饶有兴趣的谈论半天，这样你的自我魅力也就充分地展现了出来。
具有特殊专长的人往往可得到女人的爱慕。张先生喜好研究夜间活动的动物，他勤奋钻研，成为世界上研究老鼠和蝙蝠的权威人士。情人节时，她来到女友居住的高层公寓楼与她相会。大厦的管理人员一直对大厦窗户上的一种奇怪的残留物疑惑不解。张先生看了一眼，便告诉他们，“这是一种蝙蝠尿”，并建议他们用什么样的清洗剂洗。它的女友从此对他更加爱慕，很快就嫁给了他。
第四招：我能带给你刺激
也许你的公寓单调无性格，只有普普通通的家具、贴着比萨优惠券的冰箱、一份电视节目报直落在地板上。怎样才能不重新装修而又能增添其性格呢？其实很简单。只要增加些有特色的物品。比如，门后方一幅冲浪板，它的存在会明显表露主人是个爱追求刺激的人。另外，雪橇、攀岩铁锁等物也可有相同的效果。国外杂志和外币可表明你曾去国外旅行。生动活泼、刺激够味的日本卡通画报或荷兰大麻酒吧的菜单既然可满足低层次来访者的好奇心，也可是你那些保守的朋友大吃一惊。你可以关心的问一句：“那些东西没吓着你吧？”
古董使人感兴趣，而那些物价值的旧东西也常常引人入胜。各种手工制品都充分表现了遥远的空中的人们如何生活。一个1919的示速器，或一卷维多利亚时代的卫生纸，或几件儿童玩具，或著名岩洞中得到的几颗卵石，或酒瓶塞商的广告等都不失为有趣之物。
第五招：我心眼儿好
积善的美德也能增加一个人的魅力。
你无须一辈子从事慈善事业，也不必加入和平队才能使你出众。开始只需从小事做起。例如，向无家可归的人施舍汤水，象因贫困上不起学的孩子提供力所能及的资助。只需花费不多的时间和金钱，你就会感到惊人的变化。你的熟人会对你的所作所为感兴趣。如果你想保持这种状态，在进一步为他人多作些好事。
第六招：我是你儿子的好父亲
父亲形象的建立有利有弊。它的出现也许会使你失去在交际场中的艳遇和乐趣，但你又不能不树立这一最有个性化的形象。在家外的损失将在家中得到巨大的弥补，因为在一个渴望安全与柔情的女性心中，你乐于扮演父亲角色可以证明你是一个多么有责任感的人！
成为家中的神是自我的极大满足。在你三岁儿子的眼中，你比一切英雄都伟大，因为你是“爸爸！”。你的声音如同神的呼唤，你的鞋子是那样巨大，犹如一艘巨轮，甚至你的小便都是金黄色。
你的魅力对他的影响要比任何人都大。当然，这种黄金时代不会永存。不久，你的儿子将会发现，你在整个社会中并不是一颗闪闪发亮的巨星，而只是一个平庸的矮子。十年后，他会如同掸去头皮屑一样掸去你现在的形象。可现在，每当你拨弄各种电器时，你仍是他心中的普罗米修斯。当你放弃了家外宽广的世界时，你应对家中这种特有的荣誉感到心满意足。在这里，你至少还可以有那么多几年被认为是世界上最高大、最坚强、最有幽默感和最有魅力的男人。
而儿子对你的崇拜将是你收服太太的有效武器。
How to Impress a Woman
Things You’ll Need:
Breath Fresheners
Cologne
Step1
Ask her about herself, her ambitions, her life. Be interested. It's a rare woman who wants to sit around all night listening to a man talk about himself. And the more you try to impress her with your tales of adventure, the less impressed she'll be.
Step2
Be presentable. Women are notorious accessorizers, and whether she'll admit it to you or not, you are an accessory. Other women will judge her on her choice. A clean, good-smelling man with well-fitting clothes is a real prize.
Step3
Make eye contact. A lot. And smile - in a friendly way. Don't leer.
Step4
Be a gentleman. It's a myth that chivalry is dead, right? There are just a few women out there messing it up for the rest of us who really do like to have doors held open for us.
Step5
Learn to dance. Women will flock to you - all of them will be impressed.
Step6
Be funny without being crude. It's an art.
Step7
Compliment her. Notice her shoes or her watch - something that shows you're paying attention. We'll change our clothes six times before we leave the house; it's nice to find someone who appreciates the final choice.
Step8
It's hard for a woman not to be impressed with a man who is impressed with her. If you really like her, tell her so. You don't have to make a big deal about it, just let her know you admire her.
Breath Fresheners
Cologne
Step1
Ask her about herself, her ambitions, her life. Be interested. It's a rare woman who wants to sit around all night listening to a man talk about himself. And the more you try to impress her with your tales of adventure, the less impressed she'll be.
Step2
Be presentable. Women are notorious accessorizers, and whether she'll admit it to you or not, you are an accessory. Other women will judge her on her choice. A clean, good-smelling man with well-fitting clothes is a real prize.
Step3
Make eye contact. A lot. And smile - in a friendly way. Don't leer.
Step4
Be a gentleman. It's a myth that chivalry is dead, right? There are just a few women out there messing it up for the rest of us who really do like to have doors held open for us.
Step5
Learn to dance. Women will flock to you - all of them will be impressed.
Step6
Be funny without being crude. It's an art.
Step7
Compliment her. Notice her shoes or her watch - something that shows you're paying attention. We'll change our clothes six times before we leave the house; it's nice to find someone who appreciates the final choice.
Step8
It's hard for a woman not to be impressed with a man who is impressed with her. If you really like her, tell her so. You don't have to make a big deal about it, just let her know you admire her.
How to Flirt
Things You’ll Need:
Cologne
Breath Fresheners
Perfume
Lip Gloss
Step1
Start by working on your self-esteem. The underlying key to all flirtation is confidence, the magical charm that makes others want to get to know you.
Step2
Smile, smile, smile.
Step3
Think playful thoughts when gearing up to flirt. Flirts are fun and engaging, and they love to play with others.
Step4
Compliment a stranger or acquaintance on his or her clothes, eyes, smile or sense of humor for starters.
Step5
Keep your body language open and inviting: make eye contact, lightly touch the person's hand or arm when telling a story, toss your head back when you laugh.
Step6
Initiate stimulating conversation. At a loss for words? Ask open-ended questions about the flirtee's job, hometown, family, recent movies seen, or thoughts about a painting on the wall.
Step7
Open up about yourself, giving someone even more reason to like you. But don't go on and on - the goal is to engage and intrigue, not bore.
Step8
Gauge the person's interest carefully. If you sense a flashing red light - or worse, smug ridicule - make your exit graciously, and immediately. You've got nicer people to meet.
Step9
Progress in your flirtation, paying attention to cues from the object of your interest. If you perceive a sensual or sexual connection, make a bold move - ask for a date.
Cologne
Breath Fresheners
Perfume
Lip Gloss
Step1
Start by working on your self-esteem. The underlying key to all flirtation is confidence, the magical charm that makes others want to get to know you.
Step2
Smile, smile, smile.
Step3
Think playful thoughts when gearing up to flirt. Flirts are fun and engaging, and they love to play with others.
Step4
Compliment a stranger or acquaintance on his or her clothes, eyes, smile or sense of humor for starters.
Step5
Keep your body language open and inviting: make eye contact, lightly touch the person's hand or arm when telling a story, toss your head back when you laugh.
Step6
Initiate stimulating conversation. At a loss for words? Ask open-ended questions about the flirtee's job, hometown, family, recent movies seen, or thoughts about a painting on the wall.
Step7
Open up about yourself, giving someone even more reason to like you. But don't go on and on - the goal is to engage and intrigue, not bore.
Step8
Gauge the person's interest carefully. If you sense a flashing red light - or worse, smug ridicule - make your exit graciously, and immediately. You've got nicer people to meet.
Step9
Progress in your flirtation, paying attention to cues from the object of your interest. If you perceive a sensual or sexual connection, make a bold move - ask for a date.
泡妞10大准则
第一条：不管在任何地点、任何时间，如果有漂亮的女生，必须马上前去大献殷勤，倾吐爱慕之心，务必要问到小姐芳名、电话号码、工作单位之类的基本信息。不得有担心害怕会被该女生旁边双目竖瞪、膀大腰粗之男友痛 K一顿之行为！
第二条：不管是大眼睛小燕子还是麦当劳里“欢迎光临”的小妹，只要自己看上了，必须呕心沥血写去无比肉麻直至打动芳心的万封情书，不得有心动不行动或则害羞胆怯、担心别人说自己癞蛤蟆想吃天鹅肉之行为！
第三条：不管是衬衣或西装领口、袖口，不能让MM看见黑渍，不得有三天不换衬衣袜子、十天不愿洗澡之行为，必须保持“像刚剥壳之熟鸡蛋”、西装革履之干净潇洒形象，不得有当面掏耳朵、挖鼻孔、全身泛酸味令MM恶心之行为！
第四条：不管是唐诗三百首、琼瑶三毛之无聊小说、周星驰电影，还是《傲慢与偏见》、《红楼梦》等自称是经典的东西，必须烂熟于胸，还必须上知天文、下知地理，还要满口网络、现代主义等新名词，不得有一问三不知，被人贬之为绣花枕头一包糠、中看不中用、土包子之行为！
第五条：不管是陪女友看电影、上餐馆，还是逛商场买东西，必须随叫随到、跑前跑后，抢先付钱以讨芳心。不得有丝毫“陪女人逛街好无聊”之想法，更不得有无精打采、垂头丧气、小里小气毫不大方之行为！
第六条：不管现任女友有多漂亮，对你再温柔再体贴，需知天外有天、人外有人，美丽还有更美丽！必须见一个、爱一个，或则脚踏两只船（三只船更好），不得有从一而终、娶了她拉倒就此收心、金盆洗手之想法及行为！
第七条：对待现任女友，必须每天一朵玫瑰花或数个甜蜜电话，香水、礼品不断。不得有三天不理、忘记女友生日、情人节、三八妇女节、第一次见面纪念日、第一次接吻纪念日、第一次……等特别日子而想起再说“忘了更好”等不懂浪漫之行为！
第八条：不得有朋友妻、不可欺，兔子不吃窝边草之想法及行为！（抱歉，这种破烂事儿方丈俺也没干过，想编也编不出来）
第九条：女友生病或则烦恼之时，必须马上问寒问暖、轻言轻语、小心慰藉、关怀倍至，充当家庭教师、心理医生、求助热线、忠实听众之举动，不得有“害怕麻烦、关我屁事、懒得理你”大男子主义之行为！
第十条：遇见比自己更高级厉害的花花公子、泡妞专家（诸如方丈之类前辈高人）或同道之人，必须虚心请教、互相切磋技艺，交换经验体会，提高花心水平、让自己能更上泡妞新台阶！不得有同行相轻、互相诋毁翻白眼之行为！
第二条：不管是大眼睛小燕子还是麦当劳里“欢迎光临”的小妹，只要自己看上了，必须呕心沥血写去无比肉麻直至打动芳心的万封情书，不得有心动不行动或则害羞胆怯、担心别人说自己癞蛤蟆想吃天鹅肉之行为！
第三条：不管是衬衣或西装领口、袖口，不能让MM看见黑渍，不得有三天不换衬衣袜子、十天不愿洗澡之行为，必须保持“像刚剥壳之熟鸡蛋”、西装革履之干净潇洒形象，不得有当面掏耳朵、挖鼻孔、全身泛酸味令MM恶心之行为！
第四条：不管是唐诗三百首、琼瑶三毛之无聊小说、周星驰电影，还是《傲慢与偏见》、《红楼梦》等自称是经典的东西，必须烂熟于胸，还必须上知天文、下知地理，还要满口网络、现代主义等新名词，不得有一问三不知，被人贬之为绣花枕头一包糠、中看不中用、土包子之行为！
第五条：不管是陪女友看电影、上餐馆，还是逛商场买东西，必须随叫随到、跑前跑后，抢先付钱以讨芳心。不得有丝毫“陪女人逛街好无聊”之想法，更不得有无精打采、垂头丧气、小里小气毫不大方之行为！
第六条：不管现任女友有多漂亮，对你再温柔再体贴，需知天外有天、人外有人，美丽还有更美丽！必须见一个、爱一个，或则脚踏两只船（三只船更好），不得有从一而终、娶了她拉倒就此收心、金盆洗手之想法及行为！
第七条：对待现任女友，必须每天一朵玫瑰花或数个甜蜜电话，香水、礼品不断。不得有三天不理、忘记女友生日、情人节、三八妇女节、第一次见面纪念日、第一次接吻纪念日、第一次……等特别日子而想起再说“忘了更好”等不懂浪漫之行为！
第八条：不得有朋友妻、不可欺，兔子不吃窝边草之想法及行为！（抱歉，这种破烂事儿方丈俺也没干过，想编也编不出来）
第九条：女友生病或则烦恼之时，必须马上问寒问暖、轻言轻语、小心慰藉、关怀倍至，充当家庭教师、心理医生、求助热线、忠实听众之举动，不得有“害怕麻烦、关我屁事、懒得理你”大男子主义之行为！
第十条：遇见比自己更高级厉害的花花公子、泡妞专家（诸如方丈之类前辈高人）或同道之人，必须虚心请教、互相切磋技艺，交换经验体会，提高花心水平、让自己能更上泡妞新台阶！不得有同行相轻、互相诋毁翻白眼之行为！
一个MM写的泡妞秘诀
我是女生，看到有的男生想追自己喜欢的女孩子又不敢追，还想人家倒追她，我很反感.
从一个女生的角度，我比较了解女孩子的心理。女孩子大多不会主动出击，去追求自己喜欢的男孩，除了确实太喜欢了或者是那种比较有个性的勇敢的女孩子。所以，如果你很喜欢一个女孩子，并且认为她对你也有点意思，那就主动点，别跟她搞拉锯战，自己难受，说不定你喜欢的人也痛苦。
任何一个女孩子在被人追的时候，心理都是很复杂的。她也许很开心，但是又带着点惶恐，她对这个闯进自己平静的生活的男孩子，有着欲拒还迎的矛盾心理，她不是故意的。不要以为她在考验你，她其实也在和自己斗争，她怕受到伤害。
不要怕你的主动会带来她的反感，你不主动，她也不主动，也就慢慢淡下来了。如果你开始的表白被她拒绝，那也很正常呀。不要气馁，谁知道这个女孩子心里在想什么呢？
也许你再表白两次，她就会被你打动，一个心地善良的好女孩是很容易感动的。
如果你受到一次挫折，就立刻离开，再也不去答理这个女孩，把自己紧紧地保护起来，默默地舔舐伤口，在你痛苦的同时，殊不知，那个女孩子也许也正在心里遗憾、后悔呢！也许她会偷偷哭泣，后悔拒绝了你，再看到你漠然的眼神，她也很痛心，但是她却不会对你说，绝对不会请求你回来追她。你的过度的自尊心，可能会伤害了女孩子敏感的心。
她会认为你不是真诚的喜欢他，要不怎么会就这么放弃了她？
有人说，男生真难，追女孩子太不容易了。可是我的感觉却是，这种现象跟男人和女人的社会角色定位是分不开的，从生理和社会的角度，女人总是被动的。如果反过来,让男人都脉脉含羞，女人变得勇往直前，世界才乱了套呢！女人的羞涩总是美好的、动人的呀~我总是听说是某个勇敢的男人战胜了多少困难，最终获得佳人芳心。相反的例子却少得很。
有的男生，就怕别人说自己什么死缠烂打，落下不好的名声。可是我觉得男生追求自己喜欢的女孩子，受了点挫折还继续对这个女孩子好，说明人家确实很喜欢，很有诚意，如果没成功，也不遗憾，并没什么啊？谁让人家喜欢了？最讨厌别人跟着瞎掺乎，也最讨厌那种自己没主意，过于在乎别人对自己看法的男生，活该这种男生找不到女朋友。
是男人就勇敢点，女孩子本来就感性，容易沉浸在爱情里。虽然你付出了辛苦，而一旦你的真心打动了她，那么你得到的将是更多更久的加倍的爱。这样的例子，在身边比比皆是。女孩子对自己的男朋友都是很温柔很贴心的，为了换来这份甜蜜，开头的辛苦算什么啊？而且大多好女孩都爱得挺投入挺专一的。
所以，建议有的男生勇敢一点，去追求自己喜欢的女孩子，不要那么畏畏缩缩，一来是让人觉得你没男人气概，二来是你自己怪难受的，然而最最最重要的还是：最后你什么都得不到。幸福总是自己挣来的，别指望别人施舍给你！
再补充一句，我觉得主动点儿挺好的，因为你的目标是你自己真心喜欢的，女孩子往往被动，被动的只能选择接受和拒绝，所以我宁愿主动出击，爱我所爱，无怨无悔！
一、应该给MM留下什么样的第一印象（时间：刚开始接触MM）
1、我认为最关键的，是要让MM看到你的上进心。
男人的最大魅力在于事业有成，年轻人工作时间不长谈不上“有成”，这时候你就要让MM觉得你是个有上进心的人。
别的可以胡说八道，但这个问题不能含糊，你一定要告诉MM，你对未来充满信心，你不满足于现状，并且你已经有了长远的计划，总之你的未来不是梦。
2、要显得有信心、有责任心
不要像个小孩子，女孩子都很懒希望能找个依靠，你要拿出自己的信心和责任心来。
有一个错的选择总比没有选择要好的多。
3、不要太正经，但也不要太随便
该正经的地方就正经，该调侃的的时候就调侃。
女孩子都喜欢有点玩世不恭的男人，所以别显得对什么都特别在意，那样太呆板。
4、显得成熟一点
遇事镇定、从容不迫的男人对MM有致命的吸引力。
二、如何与MM展开进一步接触（时间：开始追的阶段）
1、这个阶段最关键的是不能着急，不要把事情弄的那么清楚，让人家一眼就能看出你在 追人家。
想一想，一般人都不会一眼就看上你，但也不会看一眼就讨厌你，都是老百姓家的孩子（除非你长得象周润发刘德华或者凯文科斯特纳），好感是需要随着了解的不断增加而实现的，所以问题的关键是你要得的进一步发展的机会。
站在女孩子的角度替人家想一想：你这么直接了当的冲过来要搞对象，女孩子肯定有心理压力。这要是接触一阵后发现不喜欢你，那不就成了耍你了么？所以如果你开始就摆出志在必得的姿势出来，基本上会被立刻闷回去。
2、要低姿态起步
首先要把关系定位成“朋友”，本来是“普通朋友”，你希望成为“好朋友”，有品位的还可以要求对方成为“红颜知己”什么的，总之千万不要说“追你”。
你想想，你如果根本不提“追”，那么女孩子也就更没机会“拒绝”你——你没追她怎么拒绝你？！
这样可以减轻女孩子的心理压力，使你们能顺利的交往下去。不要幻想认识三天就答应嫁给你，要充分的交往、了解，感情不是凭空产生的。
3、交往的过程中不要太急躁
要有张有弛，不要整天缠着人家，谁这样对你，你也会腻。我有个好朋友对我说，追女孩子的关键是八个字—— “忽冷忽热、欲擒故纵”（这是我同学多少年心血的结晶）。
你整天缠着人家自然不觉得你好，你适当的冷个一两天，女孩子就会想起你在的好处了。
还有就是不要拿出“非你不娶”的志气来，太掉价了不好，有时候可以耍点花招。
4、要适当的创造机会
前面说了，不要使事情立刻变成“你在追别人”，而你又需要得到接近女孩子的机会，这时就要看你的创造力了。
你可以搜集情报，想办法把守株待兔变成一场邂逅；也可以装做漫不经心的找出最最充足的理由邀请对方和你一起做什么事。
总之这个是最有技术含量的地方，实在不行可以找前辈请教。
5、切忌切忌：随便送人家礼物是不礼貌的
有些人追女孩子心切，喜欢经常买东西送人家，殊不知追女孩子最忌讳这个。
俗话说“无功不受禄”，你这样送人家东西就是在施加压力，人家会觉得欠你的，所以会 想办法还给你，如果没办法还给你就会想办法不和你交往，免得总是欠你人情。
如果你想显示自己的诚意，倒不妨请女孩子一起消费，比如说找好的餐厅吃饭，或者找贵 的地方一起玩什么的，女孩子自然能看出你花了很多钱，但钱终究是两个人一起花了而不是变成东西带回家。
三、“女朋友”到底是什么？
1、“女朋友”是一种事实，而不是一份承诺
你和女孩子开始交往，从“普通朋友”变成“好朋友”，再到“非常非常好、无话不谈的朋友”，某一个阳光灿烂的午后，你“不小心”拉了她的手；“月上柳梢头”，你突然袭击吻了她。这时她就已经是你的女朋友了，无论她是否承认，她心理已经认为你是他男朋友了。
我知道最高明的，直到上床了都没问过“你是否愿意做我女朋友”，最后还是女孩子急了 ：“你怎么还不求我做你女朋友啊！”
所以说，千万不要急于把窗户纸捅破，情况越朦胧对你越有利。
2、“表白”是什么？
前面说了，表白实际上就是一个形式而已，正确的顺序应该是：事实上已经成为你女朋友 了，你才能向人家表白，水到渠成。 很多人弄不明白这个问题，总以为人家先答应做自己女朋友，然后再如何如何，我只能说非常非常“单纯”，也非常非常“愚蠢”。
3、有没有“迫不得已非表白不可”的时候？
有，比如说出现第三者，或者你和女孩子关系没有成熟但两个人可能分开一段时间。
这时候的表白就是条件不成熟的表白，风险非常大，类似于下围棋的时候形势严峻，落後的一方迫于无奈放出“胜负手”，赢了就赢了，输了也只能说“倒霉都是天生的”。
4、“爱”字不要轻易出口
经常看见论坛出现“大胆的表白”，说实话我真的认为这是非常不成熟的一种表现。“爱”是一个神圣的字，意味着追求，也意味着承诺，甚至体现出一种责任。
随便说“爱”的男人是不负责任的。
四、文明恋爱，不可强求
1、不是每个MM都能追到手的
好女孩子总会有很多人追，不可能遂了每个人的心愿，总会有失败者。举个例子，就算你刻苦钻研掌握了最搞超的追MM原理，你一样追不上TWINS里的任何一个。
换个角度考虑问题，一个小学没毕业的农村小保姆，即使对你再好，每个月赚600给你买700的礼物（透支），愿意为你“当牛做马”，你也不会爱上她。如果她每天哭哭啼啼的缠着，你肯定觉得烦。
所以说爱情是需要物质基础的，至少需要平衡。
2、追MM做是一种严肃的社会活动
千万不要把人家搞烦了，要给自己留后路。大丈夫何患无妻？有些MM确实势利眼（少数），如果不服气，你可以发愤图强，用事实证明“她当时瞎了眼”，绝对不要误人误己。
从一个女生的角度，我比较了解女孩子的心理。女孩子大多不会主动出击，去追求自己喜欢的男孩，除了确实太喜欢了或者是那种比较有个性的勇敢的女孩子。所以，如果你很喜欢一个女孩子，并且认为她对你也有点意思，那就主动点，别跟她搞拉锯战，自己难受，说不定你喜欢的人也痛苦。
任何一个女孩子在被人追的时候，心理都是很复杂的。她也许很开心，但是又带着点惶恐，她对这个闯进自己平静的生活的男孩子，有着欲拒还迎的矛盾心理，她不是故意的。不要以为她在考验你，她其实也在和自己斗争，她怕受到伤害。
不要怕你的主动会带来她的反感，你不主动，她也不主动，也就慢慢淡下来了。如果你开始的表白被她拒绝，那也很正常呀。不要气馁，谁知道这个女孩子心里在想什么呢？
也许你再表白两次，她就会被你打动，一个心地善良的好女孩是很容易感动的。
如果你受到一次挫折，就立刻离开，再也不去答理这个女孩，把自己紧紧地保护起来，默默地舔舐伤口，在你痛苦的同时，殊不知，那个女孩子也许也正在心里遗憾、后悔呢！也许她会偷偷哭泣，后悔拒绝了你，再看到你漠然的眼神，她也很痛心，但是她却不会对你说，绝对不会请求你回来追她。你的过度的自尊心，可能会伤害了女孩子敏感的心。
她会认为你不是真诚的喜欢他，要不怎么会就这么放弃了她？
有人说，男生真难，追女孩子太不容易了。可是我的感觉却是，这种现象跟男人和女人的社会角色定位是分不开的，从生理和社会的角度，女人总是被动的。如果反过来,让男人都脉脉含羞，女人变得勇往直前，世界才乱了套呢！女人的羞涩总是美好的、动人的呀~我总是听说是某个勇敢的男人战胜了多少困难，最终获得佳人芳心。相反的例子却少得很。
有的男生，就怕别人说自己什么死缠烂打，落下不好的名声。可是我觉得男生追求自己喜欢的女孩子，受了点挫折还继续对这个女孩子好，说明人家确实很喜欢，很有诚意，如果没成功，也不遗憾，并没什么啊？谁让人家喜欢了？最讨厌别人跟着瞎掺乎，也最讨厌那种自己没主意，过于在乎别人对自己看法的男生，活该这种男生找不到女朋友。
是男人就勇敢点，女孩子本来就感性，容易沉浸在爱情里。虽然你付出了辛苦，而一旦你的真心打动了她，那么你得到的将是更多更久的加倍的爱。这样的例子，在身边比比皆是。女孩子对自己的男朋友都是很温柔很贴心的，为了换来这份甜蜜，开头的辛苦算什么啊？而且大多好女孩都爱得挺投入挺专一的。
所以，建议有的男生勇敢一点，去追求自己喜欢的女孩子，不要那么畏畏缩缩，一来是让人觉得你没男人气概，二来是你自己怪难受的，然而最最最重要的还是：最后你什么都得不到。幸福总是自己挣来的，别指望别人施舍给你！
再补充一句，我觉得主动点儿挺好的，因为你的目标是你自己真心喜欢的，女孩子往往被动，被动的只能选择接受和拒绝，所以我宁愿主动出击，爱我所爱，无怨无悔！
一、应该给MM留下什么样的第一印象（时间：刚开始接触MM）
1、我认为最关键的，是要让MM看到你的上进心。
男人的最大魅力在于事业有成，年轻人工作时间不长谈不上“有成”，这时候你就要让MM觉得你是个有上进心的人。
别的可以胡说八道，但这个问题不能含糊，你一定要告诉MM，你对未来充满信心，你不满足于现状，并且你已经有了长远的计划，总之你的未来不是梦。
2、要显得有信心、有责任心
不要像个小孩子，女孩子都很懒希望能找个依靠，你要拿出自己的信心和责任心来。
有一个错的选择总比没有选择要好的多。
3、不要太正经，但也不要太随便
该正经的地方就正经，该调侃的的时候就调侃。
女孩子都喜欢有点玩世不恭的男人，所以别显得对什么都特别在意，那样太呆板。
4、显得成熟一点
遇事镇定、从容不迫的男人对MM有致命的吸引力。
二、如何与MM展开进一步接触（时间：开始追的阶段）
1、这个阶段最关键的是不能着急，不要把事情弄的那么清楚，让人家一眼就能看出你在 追人家。
想一想，一般人都不会一眼就看上你，但也不会看一眼就讨厌你，都是老百姓家的孩子（除非你长得象周润发刘德华或者凯文科斯特纳），好感是需要随着了解的不断增加而实现的，所以问题的关键是你要得的进一步发展的机会。
站在女孩子的角度替人家想一想：你这么直接了当的冲过来要搞对象，女孩子肯定有心理压力。这要是接触一阵后发现不喜欢你，那不就成了耍你了么？所以如果你开始就摆出志在必得的姿势出来，基本上会被立刻闷回去。
2、要低姿态起步
首先要把关系定位成“朋友”，本来是“普通朋友”，你希望成为“好朋友”，有品位的还可以要求对方成为“红颜知己”什么的，总之千万不要说“追你”。
你想想，你如果根本不提“追”，那么女孩子也就更没机会“拒绝”你——你没追她怎么拒绝你？！
这样可以减轻女孩子的心理压力，使你们能顺利的交往下去。不要幻想认识三天就答应嫁给你，要充分的交往、了解，感情不是凭空产生的。
3、交往的过程中不要太急躁
要有张有弛，不要整天缠着人家，谁这样对你，你也会腻。我有个好朋友对我说，追女孩子的关键是八个字—— “忽冷忽热、欲擒故纵”（这是我同学多少年心血的结晶）。
你整天缠着人家自然不觉得你好，你适当的冷个一两天，女孩子就会想起你在的好处了。
还有就是不要拿出“非你不娶”的志气来，太掉价了不好，有时候可以耍点花招。
4、要适当的创造机会
前面说了，不要使事情立刻变成“你在追别人”，而你又需要得到接近女孩子的机会，这时就要看你的创造力了。
你可以搜集情报，想办法把守株待兔变成一场邂逅；也可以装做漫不经心的找出最最充足的理由邀请对方和你一起做什么事。
总之这个是最有技术含量的地方，实在不行可以找前辈请教。
5、切忌切忌：随便送人家礼物是不礼貌的
有些人追女孩子心切，喜欢经常买东西送人家，殊不知追女孩子最忌讳这个。
俗话说“无功不受禄”，你这样送人家东西就是在施加压力，人家会觉得欠你的，所以会 想办法还给你，如果没办法还给你就会想办法不和你交往，免得总是欠你人情。
如果你想显示自己的诚意，倒不妨请女孩子一起消费，比如说找好的餐厅吃饭，或者找贵 的地方一起玩什么的，女孩子自然能看出你花了很多钱，但钱终究是两个人一起花了而不是变成东西带回家。
三、“女朋友”到底是什么？
1、“女朋友”是一种事实，而不是一份承诺
你和女孩子开始交往，从“普通朋友”变成“好朋友”，再到“非常非常好、无话不谈的朋友”，某一个阳光灿烂的午后，你“不小心”拉了她的手；“月上柳梢头”，你突然袭击吻了她。这时她就已经是你的女朋友了，无论她是否承认，她心理已经认为你是他男朋友了。
我知道最高明的，直到上床了都没问过“你是否愿意做我女朋友”，最后还是女孩子急了 ：“你怎么还不求我做你女朋友啊！”
所以说，千万不要急于把窗户纸捅破，情况越朦胧对你越有利。
2、“表白”是什么？
前面说了，表白实际上就是一个形式而已，正确的顺序应该是：事实上已经成为你女朋友 了，你才能向人家表白，水到渠成。 很多人弄不明白这个问题，总以为人家先答应做自己女朋友，然后再如何如何，我只能说非常非常“单纯”，也非常非常“愚蠢”。
3、有没有“迫不得已非表白不可”的时候？
有，比如说出现第三者，或者你和女孩子关系没有成熟但两个人可能分开一段时间。
这时候的表白就是条件不成熟的表白，风险非常大，类似于下围棋的时候形势严峻，落後的一方迫于无奈放出“胜负手”，赢了就赢了，输了也只能说“倒霉都是天生的”。
4、“爱”字不要轻易出口
经常看见论坛出现“大胆的表白”，说实话我真的认为这是非常不成熟的一种表现。“爱”是一个神圣的字，意味着追求，也意味着承诺，甚至体现出一种责任。
随便说“爱”的男人是不负责任的。
四、文明恋爱，不可强求
1、不是每个MM都能追到手的
好女孩子总会有很多人追，不可能遂了每个人的心愿，总会有失败者。举个例子，就算你刻苦钻研掌握了最搞超的追MM原理，你一样追不上TWINS里的任何一个。
换个角度考虑问题，一个小学没毕业的农村小保姆，即使对你再好，每个月赚600给你买700的礼物（透支），愿意为你“当牛做马”，你也不会爱上她。如果她每天哭哭啼啼的缠着，你肯定觉得烦。
所以说爱情是需要物质基础的，至少需要平衡。
2、追MM做是一种严肃的社会活动
千万不要把人家搞烦了，要给自己留后路。大丈夫何患无妻？有些MM确实势利眼（少数），如果不服气，你可以发愤图强，用事实证明“她当时瞎了眼”，绝对不要误人误己。
国外泡妞高手写的英文文章
The point of the 3s rule is to propel you to approach women fast enough to keep your internal voice from talking you out of it and avoid hesitation. You do not want a woman to see you hesitate. The longer you hesitate, the more insecure and sappy you appear. Also, hesitation creates an added sense of nervousness to your mental state -a personality trait you do not want to portray when approaching women.
Even if you can't think of any way to initiate a conversation with a woman, whatever you do, don't break the 3s rule! Act in 3 seconds as the default rule, even if you have no idea how you will continue. If you don't have an opener or opening line in mind by the time you're in front of her, at least just say "Hi". If you act in 3 seconds, she will notice it, no matter where she just came in from or where you came from or how you passed by each other. She will see the spontaneity and decisiveness in your approach and it can only work in your favor. If you wait, hesitate, then decide to approach, you are in a weaker situation. Hesitating will give your self-doubt a chance to create imaginary bad outcomes and add unneeded insecurity to your approach.
With the 3s rule, you don't need to wait for eye contact or for her to notice you or for an opportunity to present itself. You simply see something you like and you go right up to it. You are also doing yourself a favor by following the 3s rule. In three seconds, you have no time to become nervous, self-conscious, sweaty, shaky - all the obvious signs of an AFC: lacking confidence, quality, power, or assertiveness, a weakling around women, a pariah to beautiful girls. Even if you start sweating, or getting shaky or stutter while talking to the woman after following the 3s rule, you weren't that way when you initiated contact. The first impression is what counts. If that first impression of you is of a confident and spontaneous man, her feelings for you will be positive from the start, which greatly the minimizes the chance of you turning into a pile of jelly while talking with her. It sets the pace and helps keep your inner voice at bay, allowing you the chance to keep up your confidence.
The 3s rule, though, is not absolute - you may simply not notice her when she enters your environment, or maybe you'll be tied up with something that might in some way stop you from approaching her (real obstacles, not your imagined ones). The 3 seconds start counting from the moment you have spotted her and are free to approach. When those two conditions are met, you really don't have the time to think deep thoughts, or try and figure out whether or not she noticed that you didn't approach her because you were either too preoccupied, restrained, or simply oblivious - the clock is always ticking, so move it!
Mike, ASF: "When approaching these chicks, I used Mystery's 3 second rule approach (which I rely on heavily) and tried to pick out something about them to comment on. It could be a book, something they are wearing, questions about something that they MAY (not necessarily DO) have knowledge on, something we have in common, whatever."
Formhandle's thoughts on the 3 seconds rule:
There is a reason it's a RULE and not just a recommendation. In just about any situation, you are better off approaching quickly and without hesitation after seeing the chick rather than waiting around to think about the "perfect" opener or hesitating because of self-doubt. Most AFCs just stand/sit around, gazing at the HB they want to apporach rather than just going up and doing the approach. While they stand/sit there, the voice in their head goes through every possible rejection scenario and scares the hell out of them. They cause themselves to get nervous and scared and if they finally do get the nerve to do the approach, they are walking up to her as a quivering pile of jelly. Waiting also creates time for a cockblock to appear. The longer you wait, the more time gets created for cockblock scenarios to present themselves.
The rule is not chiseled in stone, though, and some circumstances aren't quite 3s material. You can't just walk up to a chick and chat her up while she's depositing a check at a bank teller window, for example. Also, sometimes you are in a room full of HBs and you need time to scan for ones that you actually want to approach. You obviously can't approach 2 chicks in 3 seconds who are on different ends of a room. But you also shouldn't stand around for too long if you've seen a chick that you DO want to approach. Just go and do it. If you can't think of anything, say "Hi." Usually, it's also better to have a default opener ready for all situations if you want to give yourself more confidence and less reason to hesitate. If you're with a wingman, you may also want to do a Mr. Smooth type approach. If your target is in a group, you may also want to brush up on group approach techniques.
Even if you can't think of any way to initiate a conversation with a woman, whatever you do, don't break the 3s rule! Act in 3 seconds as the default rule, even if you have no idea how you will continue. If you don't have an opener or opening line in mind by the time you're in front of her, at least just say "Hi". If you act in 3 seconds, she will notice it, no matter where she just came in from or where you came from or how you passed by each other. She will see the spontaneity and decisiveness in your approach and it can only work in your favor. If you wait, hesitate, then decide to approach, you are in a weaker situation. Hesitating will give your self-doubt a chance to create imaginary bad outcomes and add unneeded insecurity to your approach.
With the 3s rule, you don't need to wait for eye contact or for her to notice you or for an opportunity to present itself. You simply see something you like and you go right up to it. You are also doing yourself a favor by following the 3s rule. In three seconds, you have no time to become nervous, self-conscious, sweaty, shaky - all the obvious signs of an AFC: lacking confidence, quality, power, or assertiveness, a weakling around women, a pariah to beautiful girls. Even if you start sweating, or getting shaky or stutter while talking to the woman after following the 3s rule, you weren't that way when you initiated contact. The first impression is what counts. If that first impression of you is of a confident and spontaneous man, her feelings for you will be positive from the start, which greatly the minimizes the chance of you turning into a pile of jelly while talking with her. It sets the pace and helps keep your inner voice at bay, allowing you the chance to keep up your confidence.
The 3s rule, though, is not absolute - you may simply not notice her when she enters your environment, or maybe you'll be tied up with something that might in some way stop you from approaching her (real obstacles, not your imagined ones). The 3 seconds start counting from the moment you have spotted her and are free to approach. When those two conditions are met, you really don't have the time to think deep thoughts, or try and figure out whether or not she noticed that you didn't approach her because you were either too preoccupied, restrained, or simply oblivious - the clock is always ticking, so move it!
Mike, ASF: "When approaching these chicks, I used Mystery's 3 second rule approach (which I rely on heavily) and tried to pick out something about them to comment on. It could be a book, something they are wearing, questions about something that they MAY (not necessarily DO) have knowledge on, something we have in common, whatever."
Formhandle's thoughts on the 3 seconds rule:
There is a reason it's a RULE and not just a recommendation. In just about any situation, you are better off approaching quickly and without hesitation after seeing the chick rather than waiting around to think about the "perfect" opener or hesitating because of self-doubt. Most AFCs just stand/sit around, gazing at the HB they want to apporach rather than just going up and doing the approach. While they stand/sit there, the voice in their head goes through every possible rejection scenario and scares the hell out of them. They cause themselves to get nervous and scared and if they finally do get the nerve to do the approach, they are walking up to her as a quivering pile of jelly. Waiting also creates time for a cockblock to appear. The longer you wait, the more time gets created for cockblock scenarios to present themselves.
The rule is not chiseled in stone, though, and some circumstances aren't quite 3s material. You can't just walk up to a chick and chat her up while she's depositing a check at a bank teller window, for example. Also, sometimes you are in a room full of HBs and you need time to scan for ones that you actually want to approach. You obviously can't approach 2 chicks in 3 seconds who are on different ends of a room. But you also shouldn't stand around for too long if you've seen a chick that you DO want to approach. Just go and do it. If you can't think of anything, say "Hi." Usually, it's also better to have a default opener ready for all situations if you want to give yourself more confidence and less reason to hesitate. If you're with a wingman, you may also want to do a Mr. Smooth type approach. If your target is in a group, you may also want to brush up on group approach techniques.
富豪赵世曾的沟女招式
赵世曾似乎从不在乎被人指为风流成性，反以身为“香港第一玩家”为荣，他说：“我最大的快乐就来源于女人。”
育有三名母亲各异的子女，赵世曾依旧无限风流，顶着媒体颁发的“香港头号玩家”牌匾，泡在孙女级的美女堆里，扬言要再博一子。这就是70岁的赵世曾。
儿子赵式浩，身负父亲厚望，要成为玩家接班人，成为全港最棒的泡妞高手。70岁的父亲给这位20岁儿子的泡妞锦囊是：千万不能沉迷一个女人和千万不能只搞一个女人。
赵世曾自称曾拥有10000个女友，先后有演艺圈名人姚炜、盈盈、方怡珍，还有落选港姐张荪微、Terri Holladay、Michelle等等。
1992年，他与Terri举行海陆空“婚宴”，之后生下儿子赵式正，3年后夫妻感情破裂，才爆出他们原来还未领结婚证。后来，赵世曾与马慧拍拖近三年，如胶似漆，俨然一对夫妻。不久后，赵世曾又携一名北方佳丽乌仁出席公开场合，表现得非常亲密，赵世曾更坦言希望乌仁是他“最后一个女友”，拍拖五个月后就传出闪电结婚的消息，但这段感情最后却维持不足一年。原因是女方埋怨男友“孤寒”，过年只给她七百元的零用钱，更发现赵世曾还与其他女性约会，因而决心分手。
尽管三个儿子无论金钱还是女人都各有发展，赵从衍对他们的风流史心知肚明，更是不满三子赵世曾的行为及花花公子形象。因此，直到1997年，赵从衍才以健康理由辞去华光董事局主席，决定由长子赵世彭出任主席、四子赵世光任副主席，三子赵世曾连董事一衔也没有。
“玩女哲学”须知
赵世曾自称玩过的女人逾万，而且还是经过筛选的，如果不筛选更是不止这个数目。而他真正爱过的女人更多达数十人。
赵世曾育有三名子女，但母亲各异。赵世曾与“金大班”姚炜的恋情轰动一时，两人育有一女赵式芝。分手后，赵与港姐盈盈在一起，生了次子式浩；与洋女模Terri Holiday生下幼子式正。目前，他与来自大陆的女子许冬梅（Wendy）同居。
“在情场上，我是逢赌必赢。”在接受采访时，赵世曾回顾自己的风流情史，言语间流露出自豪。并且以骨灰级专家身份自居，细数“玩女”功略。
首先，第一要领是：让女人主动黏上来，不是见到美女就追。
赵世曾坦白告诉记者，他在三四十岁的时候，最爱泡女明星和选美冠军。“老实说，年轻的时候跟我在一起的全是女明星，都是她们自己黏过来的，是觉得我对她们的娱乐事业有帮助，有多些宣传作用，我可以说是被她们利用，哈哈哈……”
他还自曝，三四十岁时，是邵逸夫的家中常客，整天在邵的家庭舞会中泡到不少女明星。
尤其令这位玩家津津乐道的是，每个女人被他甩了之后，都不会要生要死。“女人闹自杀，是男人处事不当，他们应该来请教我。跟女人分手，要一步一步来，不是今天说要分手就马上分手，这样她们当然要跳楼啦！”
他的秘诀是，逐日减少见面次数，从一周见7天到4天，再减到2天、1天，一个月一两次，对方就会慢慢明白，知道是时候自己“走路”了。因为，美女今天分手后，明天又可以找到新欢；没人要的女人，被甩了也会自己找条“生路”的。至于同居女友，他说，玩腻了要马上给对方另找住处，不要藕断丝连。
“女人拖越久就越不值钱，对她反而不好。一个女子的青春和外貌就是她的本钱，女子通常会想要跟男人一辈子，如果你不想却又死硬拖住她，对她是很不公道的。”
所以，一个有良心的玩家原则是：如果觉得没有长远的计划，就应该散。“我就常跟分手的女朋友说：大家没可能发展下去，再拖，你就会损失你的本钱了。”
要领二，把握主导权。女人烦不烦，主导权完全在男人手中，赵世曾随时可以叫一个女人千依百顺。“不能不宠女人，但，也不能一味地宠，女人乱发脾气是男人宠出来的，有时要懂得宠女人，有时也要表明立场。”
当然，男人也要能“一点就通”。他举例，当女人说 “我放假很有空”，又或者说“我什么时候不用拍戏”，就要明白她们的意思，立即“跟进”。
现在， 70岁的赵世曾不再像一只留恋花丛的蝴蝶，朵朵鲜花都采，固定与Wendy出现在公众视线。
“年纪大了，觉得一个人开心不可以这么高调，反正我已经够多人认识了，再泡女明星还得了？岂不是火上加油？真的会烧死自己的。”
所以现在，他会低调去泡，不再只玩女星和美后。
不过，尽管赵世曾自己心力衰减，他的两个儿子，年纪轻轻，却已经充分显示出“虎父无犬子”的玩家风范。23岁的儿子赵式浩一天可以泡六七个女人。早、午、晚餐和下午茶可以拖不同女子。
“这个儿子真是厉害啊！比我十多岁时还行，他还说学校的美女很多，也喜欢金发美女，叫我教他两招泡妞秘诀。10岁的小儿子（式正）都会说以后要有两个女人，让她们互相竞争。”
后浪推前浪，儿子充分习得父亲玩家真传，赵世曾不止一次在媒体面前夸奖儿子。他扬言要把儿子栽培成玩家接班人，成为全港最棒的泡妞高手。
情钟于“4”
游艇及女人是赵世曾的快乐源泉。他将自己的游艇命名为“海上乐居”（Happy Sea Lodge），每逢周六，例必出海，绝对宝刀未老。“‘海上乐居’的‘乐’字好重要。我人生的唯一目的就是享乐。”“海上乐居”由意大利设计师设计，于澳洲制造，Riva StTropez型号，长110英尺，以4000万元购入，附送直升机及装修。
“1994至2004年，我完全享乐度日，从2004年开始我要在事业上再搏杀。”赵世曾透露宏图大计，就是在2014年写三本自传，分别是《如何致富》、《如何自乐》及《如何讨女人欢心》。赵世曾形容做生意与追女孩子同样有挑战，不过他说：“对我来说两样都不难！”
从1994年至2004年再到2014年，不难看出，赵世曾似乎对阿拉伯数字“4”特别厚爱。对于香港人而言，“4”是个不吉利的数字，而赵世曾却认为“4”代表四喜临门，好彩头又好记。赵祖籍上海，其家族经营航运业，“4”的上海话与“水”同音，水即是财，且有“生意兴隆通四海”之意，故他颇为喜欢。因此，赵世曾甚至连车牌都是单位数字“4”。
自1975年至今，香港政府每年都拍卖一批车牌，所得款项均作为善款用途。最值钱的当数阿拉伯数字“1至10”的十大无字头车牌，即阿拉伯数字前无英文字母。如今，这十大车牌已成为高贵身份的象征。除1号车牌属香港警务处长拥有外，其余2至10号都属私人拥有。赵世曾以14.7万港元投得4号车牌。该牌照原属香港医务处长。
玩家的代价
“出来混，迟早要还的。”一句充满禅学意味的台词不仅适用于警匪混战的《无间道》，也适用于金钱和美色发酵冒泡的欲望世界。
2001年8月，赵世曾与两名女友在深圳闹市一间饭店进膳，当其一拖二步出门外时，突然扑出3名蒙面刀客，强行将3人掳上一辆小车。赵世曾事后向记者忆述，起初以为是单纯劫案，所以没有反抗，任由贼人抢去大约4000元人民币，及价值10万元名表。后来但见贼人意犹未足，看似要将他绑架，为保护自身安全，于是突然发难，在车厢内与三个匪徒近身肉搏，小车被迫在半途停下。他趁机打开车门，携同两名女友奔跑再跳下河，蒙面刀客曾拔足穷追，可能为免引起路人注目，折返小车逃去无踪。他惊魂甫定后，到深圳公安局报案，休息一晚，于星期一回香港，再到湾仔警署备案。
当被询问是否要与内地女友断绝来往时，他立马表态“妞照泡、吧照蒲”。只是，赵世曾说，以后都不会再去深圳。而一年前，同样是8月，前同居女友Terri Holladay到香港高等法院提出诉讼，控告赵的律师事务所处事疏忽，导致她与赵世曾分居后，失去三亿港元的生活保障费。
她在庭上表示，当年与赵世曾同居时，对方曾口头承诺支付金钱以保障她的日后生活，并找来律师草拟了协议书。但当时律师方面却因为一时疏忽，未订立一份具法律约束力的协议文件，使得赵世曾对她的承诺难以兑现，导致她蒙受极大的经济损失。因此，她决定向该律师事务所提出三亿港元的赔偿，当中包括两亿港元的信用卡贷款额。
除了头疼前任、现任女友和自己的经济纠纷，赵世曾还必须考虑自己的丰厚身家如何分配给众多女友。他早已为自己立下遗嘱，其子女当然获得遗产分配，只是因不停转换女友，所以在完全不知谁才是其真命女友的情况下，他的遗嘱每年都要更改内容，而近年则转为每半年更改一次。
好友龚如心遗产争夺案的前车之鉴，让他打算用摄像机拍下自己所讲的遗嘱。“拍录像带会比较好，说明是最后一个版本，只有一盒没有拷贝。有改变时再录过，旧的就丢掉。”他感叹：“人生会改变，有些身边人感觉较亲，便分多一点，要捐助的机构也会改变。”他承认每改一次，红颜知己Wendy便分得愈多。前女友Terri Holladay虽然是儿子的妈妈，但遗嘱并没有其份，赵世曾暗指讨厌的人没有份。
赵世曾迄今唯一一个法律上承认的妻子，前妻“金大班”姚炜（其最受瞩目的代表作是由白先勇名著改编而成的《金大班的最后一夜》，此后，港媒以“金大班”称呼姚炜），提及这位“香港头号玩家”前夫的风流韵事，没好气地说：“他说玩过的女人过万？我想问普罗大众，这样很光荣吗？”她停了一会，激动地说：“我简直不想再提这个人，以他的学识（大学生）和家世（船王后代及地产名人），他可以做好多有益的事，贡献社会。”鄙夷之意溢于言表。
但赵世曾似乎从不在乎被人指为风流成性，反以身为“香港第一玩家”为荣，他说：“我最大的快乐就来源于女人。”
育有三名母亲各异的子女，赵世曾依旧无限风流，顶着媒体颁发的“香港头号玩家”牌匾，泡在孙女级的美女堆里，扬言要再博一子。这就是70岁的赵世曾。
儿子赵式浩，身负父亲厚望，要成为玩家接班人，成为全港最棒的泡妞高手。70岁的父亲给这位20岁儿子的泡妞锦囊是：千万不能沉迷一个女人和千万不能只搞一个女人。
赵世曾自称曾拥有10000个女友，先后有演艺圈名人姚炜、盈盈、方怡珍，还有落选港姐张荪微、Terri Holladay、Michelle等等。
1992年，他与Terri举行海陆空“婚宴”，之后生下儿子赵式正，3年后夫妻感情破裂，才爆出他们原来还未领结婚证。后来，赵世曾与马慧拍拖近三年，如胶似漆，俨然一对夫妻。不久后，赵世曾又携一名北方佳丽乌仁出席公开场合，表现得非常亲密，赵世曾更坦言希望乌仁是他“最后一个女友”，拍拖五个月后就传出闪电结婚的消息，但这段感情最后却维持不足一年。原因是女方埋怨男友“孤寒”，过年只给她七百元的零用钱，更发现赵世曾还与其他女性约会，因而决心分手。
尽管三个儿子无论金钱还是女人都各有发展，赵从衍对他们的风流史心知肚明，更是不满三子赵世曾的行为及花花公子形象。因此，直到1997年，赵从衍才以健康理由辞去华光董事局主席，决定由长子赵世彭出任主席、四子赵世光任副主席，三子赵世曾连董事一衔也没有。
“玩女哲学”须知
赵世曾自称玩过的女人逾万，而且还是经过筛选的，如果不筛选更是不止这个数目。而他真正爱过的女人更多达数十人。
赵世曾育有三名子女，但母亲各异。赵世曾与“金大班”姚炜的恋情轰动一时，两人育有一女赵式芝。分手后，赵与港姐盈盈在一起，生了次子式浩；与洋女模Terri Holiday生下幼子式正。目前，他与来自大陆的女子许冬梅（Wendy）同居。
“在情场上，我是逢赌必赢。”在接受采访时，赵世曾回顾自己的风流情史，言语间流露出自豪。并且以骨灰级专家身份自居，细数“玩女”功略。
首先，第一要领是：让女人主动黏上来，不是见到美女就追。
赵世曾坦白告诉记者，他在三四十岁的时候，最爱泡女明星和选美冠军。“老实说，年轻的时候跟我在一起的全是女明星，都是她们自己黏过来的，是觉得我对她们的娱乐事业有帮助，有多些宣传作用，我可以说是被她们利用，哈哈哈……”
他还自曝，三四十岁时，是邵逸夫的家中常客，整天在邵的家庭舞会中泡到不少女明星。
尤其令这位玩家津津乐道的是，每个女人被他甩了之后，都不会要生要死。“女人闹自杀，是男人处事不当，他们应该来请教我。跟女人分手，要一步一步来，不是今天说要分手就马上分手，这样她们当然要跳楼啦！”
他的秘诀是，逐日减少见面次数，从一周见7天到4天，再减到2天、1天，一个月一两次，对方就会慢慢明白，知道是时候自己“走路”了。因为，美女今天分手后，明天又可以找到新欢；没人要的女人，被甩了也会自己找条“生路”的。至于同居女友，他说，玩腻了要马上给对方另找住处，不要藕断丝连。
“女人拖越久就越不值钱，对她反而不好。一个女子的青春和外貌就是她的本钱，女子通常会想要跟男人一辈子，如果你不想却又死硬拖住她，对她是很不公道的。”
所以，一个有良心的玩家原则是：如果觉得没有长远的计划，就应该散。“我就常跟分手的女朋友说：大家没可能发展下去，再拖，你就会损失你的本钱了。”
要领二，把握主导权。女人烦不烦，主导权完全在男人手中，赵世曾随时可以叫一个女人千依百顺。“不能不宠女人，但，也不能一味地宠，女人乱发脾气是男人宠出来的，有时要懂得宠女人，有时也要表明立场。”
当然，男人也要能“一点就通”。他举例，当女人说 “我放假很有空”，又或者说“我什么时候不用拍戏”，就要明白她们的意思，立即“跟进”。
现在， 70岁的赵世曾不再像一只留恋花丛的蝴蝶，朵朵鲜花都采，固定与Wendy出现在公众视线。
“年纪大了，觉得一个人开心不可以这么高调，反正我已经够多人认识了，再泡女明星还得了？岂不是火上加油？真的会烧死自己的。”
所以现在，他会低调去泡，不再只玩女星和美后。
不过，尽管赵世曾自己心力衰减，他的两个儿子，年纪轻轻，却已经充分显示出“虎父无犬子”的玩家风范。23岁的儿子赵式浩一天可以泡六七个女人。早、午、晚餐和下午茶可以拖不同女子。
“这个儿子真是厉害啊！比我十多岁时还行，他还说学校的美女很多，也喜欢金发美女，叫我教他两招泡妞秘诀。10岁的小儿子（式正）都会说以后要有两个女人，让她们互相竞争。”
后浪推前浪，儿子充分习得父亲玩家真传，赵世曾不止一次在媒体面前夸奖儿子。他扬言要把儿子栽培成玩家接班人，成为全港最棒的泡妞高手。
情钟于“4”
游艇及女人是赵世曾的快乐源泉。他将自己的游艇命名为“海上乐居”（Happy Sea Lodge），每逢周六，例必出海，绝对宝刀未老。“‘海上乐居’的‘乐’字好重要。我人生的唯一目的就是享乐。”“海上乐居”由意大利设计师设计，于澳洲制造，Riva StTropez型号，长110英尺，以4000万元购入，附送直升机及装修。
“1994至2004年，我完全享乐度日，从2004年开始我要在事业上再搏杀。”赵世曾透露宏图大计，就是在2014年写三本自传，分别是《如何致富》、《如何自乐》及《如何讨女人欢心》。赵世曾形容做生意与追女孩子同样有挑战，不过他说：“对我来说两样都不难！”
从1994年至2004年再到2014年，不难看出，赵世曾似乎对阿拉伯数字“4”特别厚爱。对于香港人而言，“4”是个不吉利的数字，而赵世曾却认为“4”代表四喜临门，好彩头又好记。赵祖籍上海，其家族经营航运业，“4”的上海话与“水”同音，水即是财，且有“生意兴隆通四海”之意，故他颇为喜欢。因此，赵世曾甚至连车牌都是单位数字“4”。
自1975年至今，香港政府每年都拍卖一批车牌，所得款项均作为善款用途。最值钱的当数阿拉伯数字“1至10”的十大无字头车牌，即阿拉伯数字前无英文字母。如今，这十大车牌已成为高贵身份的象征。除1号车牌属香港警务处长拥有外，其余2至10号都属私人拥有。赵世曾以14.7万港元投得4号车牌。该牌照原属香港医务处长。
玩家的代价
“出来混，迟早要还的。”一句充满禅学意味的台词不仅适用于警匪混战的《无间道》，也适用于金钱和美色发酵冒泡的欲望世界。
2001年8月，赵世曾与两名女友在深圳闹市一间饭店进膳，当其一拖二步出门外时，突然扑出3名蒙面刀客，强行将3人掳上一辆小车。赵世曾事后向记者忆述，起初以为是单纯劫案，所以没有反抗，任由贼人抢去大约4000元人民币，及价值10万元名表。后来但见贼人意犹未足，看似要将他绑架，为保护自身安全，于是突然发难，在车厢内与三个匪徒近身肉搏，小车被迫在半途停下。他趁机打开车门，携同两名女友奔跑再跳下河，蒙面刀客曾拔足穷追，可能为免引起路人注目，折返小车逃去无踪。他惊魂甫定后，到深圳公安局报案，休息一晚，于星期一回香港，再到湾仔警署备案。
当被询问是否要与内地女友断绝来往时，他立马表态“妞照泡、吧照蒲”。只是，赵世曾说，以后都不会再去深圳。而一年前，同样是8月，前同居女友Terri Holladay到香港高等法院提出诉讼，控告赵的律师事务所处事疏忽，导致她与赵世曾分居后，失去三亿港元的生活保障费。
她在庭上表示，当年与赵世曾同居时，对方曾口头承诺支付金钱以保障她的日后生活，并找来律师草拟了协议书。但当时律师方面却因为一时疏忽，未订立一份具法律约束力的协议文件，使得赵世曾对她的承诺难以兑现，导致她蒙受极大的经济损失。因此，她决定向该律师事务所提出三亿港元的赔偿，当中包括两亿港元的信用卡贷款额。
除了头疼前任、现任女友和自己的经济纠纷，赵世曾还必须考虑自己的丰厚身家如何分配给众多女友。他早已为自己立下遗嘱，其子女当然获得遗产分配，只是因不停转换女友，所以在完全不知谁才是其真命女友的情况下，他的遗嘱每年都要更改内容，而近年则转为每半年更改一次。
好友龚如心遗产争夺案的前车之鉴，让他打算用摄像机拍下自己所讲的遗嘱。“拍录像带会比较好，说明是最后一个版本，只有一盒没有拷贝。有改变时再录过，旧的就丢掉。”他感叹：“人生会改变，有些身边人感觉较亲，便分多一点，要捐助的机构也会改变。”他承认每改一次，红颜知己Wendy便分得愈多。前女友Terri Holladay虽然是儿子的妈妈，但遗嘱并没有其份，赵世曾暗指讨厌的人没有份。
赵世曾迄今唯一一个法律上承认的妻子，前妻“金大班”姚炜（其最受瞩目的代表作是由白先勇名著改编而成的《金大班的最后一夜》，此后，港媒以“金大班”称呼姚炜），提及这位“香港头号玩家”前夫的风流韵事，没好气地说：“他说玩过的女人过万？我想问普罗大众，这样很光荣吗？”她停了一会，激动地说：“我简直不想再提这个人，以他的学识（大学生）和家世（船王后代及地产名人），他可以做好多有益的事，贡献社会。”鄙夷之意溢于言表。
但赵世曾似乎从不在乎被人指为风流成性，反以身为“香港第一玩家”为荣，他说：“我最大的快乐就来源于女人。”
王永庆：最抠门的富豪一生勤奋
王永庆常说：“要常常警惕自己，稍一松懈就导致衰退，经常要有富不三代的警觉。”“一勤天下无难事”。王永庆的这句话贯穿了他整个奋斗的人生。
王永庆常说：“要常常警惕自己，稍一松懈就导致衰退，经常要有富不三代的警觉。”“一勤天下无难事”。王永庆的这句话贯穿了他整个奋斗的人生。
2006年，王永庆年满九十岁。这一年，这个意志力惊人的世纪老人，突然决定隐身台后并交棒于下一代。世人警觉到，一个属于经营之神的长达半个多世纪的辉煌朝代在逐渐落下句点。留给世人的是一个庞大的石化王国和一段让人说不完道不尽的富豪传奇。
由于事业上的杰出成就，因此每当人们谈到“王永庆”三个字，脑海中浮现的是企业巨子的传奇形象，联想到的首先是“财富”与“企业经营管理”之间的问题。人们把焦点集中在他的“致富”和“成功之道”上，“王永庆”三个字，似乎除了名词之外，也是形容词，和白手起家、勤奋坚毅、合理化经营管理结下不解之缘。
在企业家的角色上，王永庆无疑散发着钻石的光芒，王永庆三个字是华人世界里永远无法忽略的名字。这耀眼的形象，人们已经太熟悉了，在这光圈之外，我们不妨从另一个角度来看王永庆。
事实上，王永庆和平常人一样，一生中都要扮演许多不同的角色，一天都是24小时，在这24小时里，他除了是扮演领导数万名员工的企业经营者，坐镇指挥海内外各庞大的事业机构外，生活的另一面，他也扮演家长、儿子、父亲、丈夫、兄长、祖父、外公的角色。
“我们中国人是比较艰苦出身的，比较有能力，像牛一样，有角啊!”把自己喻为牛的他一向追求“止于至善”，总是要求自己：要做就要做最顶尖的。做领导者，就要做个成功的领导者;做主管，就要做个优秀的主管;做儿子，就要做最孝顺的儿子;做父亲，就要做一个尽职的父亲。
王永庆身上折射的是一个时代的缩影，是通过勤劳简朴，顽强拼搏而白手起家的一代中国人的杰出代表。
一勤天下无难事
凌晨2点半的台北夜深人静，敦化北路底的台塑大楼十三楼，一盏灯缓缓亮起。一位九十岁的老人，起床办公，他是台塑集团董事长王永庆。52年如一日。
王永庆每天晚上10点睡觉，2点半起床办公，每周工作100多小时，每天宁静的台塑大楼总会传来沉稳而缓慢的脚步声，出现一个颀长的身影，脊背挺直。无数个相似的寂静深夜里，包括全球最大的石化园区云林麦寮六轻、中国最大民营火力电厂华阳电业漳州电厂，宁波大乙烯计划都是由这个房间思索出来。
王永庆常说：“要常常警惕自己，稍一松懈就导致衰退，经常要有富不三代的警觉。”“一勤天下无难事”。王永庆的这句话贯穿了他整个奋斗的人生。
人生信念与习性的养成往往与从小的成长经历有着千丝万缕的联系。众所周知，王永庆是一位真正的白手起家者，1917年1月18日他出生在台北县一个俗称“情人谷”的偏僻地方，父母以种茶为生，家境十分困难，每日三餐以番薯充饥。
王家虽然穷困，但父亲深感文盲之苦，故十分重视子女的教育。王永庆7岁时，就被父亲送到新店国民小学就读。学校在离家10公里外，王永庆必须一大早起床，到附近的水井提水，把家中的大水缸装满后才步行上学。放学后，还经常要肩扛一袋50斤重的饲料返家养猪。在王永庆9岁那年，父亲病倒在床，一家的生计全靠母亲王詹样种菜、种番薯、养猪来维持。 于是，上小学三年级的王永庆开始半工半读，为邻居看牛，每月赚取5毛钱来贴补家用。他上小学用的书包是一条粗布巾做的口袋，穿的衣服是补丁加补丁，整天赤着脚，几乎没有穿过一双鞋。而小学期间，对书本不感兴趣的王永庆，从来没有下过苦功读书，所以成绩总列在班里的最后10名。
常言道：穷人家的孩子早当家。年幼的王永庆很理解父母的处境，为了分担家庭生活的压力，15岁的王永庆小学毕业后便无奈辍学。由于在家乡找不到工作，在征得父母同意后，经叔叔王水源的介绍，到嘉义的一家米店当小工。当时，白花花的大米是王永庆梦寐以求之物，为此他格外珍惜这份工作，除认认真真做工外，还细心观察老板经营米店的诀窍，为今后自行创业做准备。
王永庆曾说过一段发人深省的话：“我幼时无力进一步学习，长大后必须做工谋生，也没有机会接受正规教育，像我这样一个身无专长的人，只有吃苦耐劳才能补其不足。我还常常想，由于生活的煎熬，我才产生了克服困难的精神和勇气，幼年生活的困苦，也许是上帝对我的赐福。”因此，吃苦耐劳是王永庆成功的杀手锏。
凡事勤俭 凡事合理化
王永庆个人生活俭朴最为媒体津津乐道的要数他喝咖啡的过程。他曾在接受记者专访前，把奶精倒入咖啡时，还把奶球放在咖啡中涮了三次，确定奶精全部溶入咖啡。等到送客时，还把剩下的咖啡一口喝完。俭朴的个性显露无遗。
台塑集团今年迈入第53年，历经半个多世纪，王永庆仍不改他节俭的个性。他认为，凡事讲求“合理化”，东西物尽其用，发挥到极致，就是合理化，事情做到最好，止于至善，也是合理化。王永庆的名片夹是台塑自行研发的“撕不破”珠光纸，接触过王永庆的人都知道，他发名片很有节度，会特别注意一人发一张，绝不浪费，就如他喝咖啡一定涮一涮奶精的勤俭。这数十年的坚持，相对于部分企业的奢华作风，特别发人深思。
王永庆的生活非常俭朴，他对穿着的要求是大方整洁，从不计较衣服的新旧及款式。每回坐飞机一定是经济舱。他生平最喜欢收藏名人字画，然后就是听戏，并常年坚持慢跑锻炼。他在台塑顶楼开辟了一个菜园，母亲去世前，他吃的都是自己种的菜。用的肥皂剩下一小片，还要粘在整块上继续使用;每天做健身毛巾操，一条毛巾用了27年。据说，就连他过去在麦寮用餐时，当问到一颗卤蛋竟卖新台币10元时，他直觉认为卖得太贵了。王永庆企业经营讲求合理化，个人生活细节处处显示他对合理的执著。
女儿王雪红曾向媒体透露，以前他们兄弟姐妹几个在美国生活也不富裕，因为父亲供给学费、生活费都算得很精准，就像管理手下企业般，总是给得“刚刚好”，不让他们有一丝享受奢侈的机会，此外，和儿女联络都是写信，从不打电话，“因为觉得打电话太贵了”。王雪红的母亲廖娇也在一次采访中证实了，儿女还必须回信报告花了哪些钱，连买支牙膏也得写上去!
王永庆同时也是一个很低调的人，几乎不接受个人专访。在他眼里，一个人只要努力工作就可以了，不需要把个人的经历告诉大家。在这个纷乱的时代，他坚守着自己的行为方式，坚守着一个传统的产业。
王永庆常说：“要常常警惕自己，稍一松懈就导致衰退，经常要有富不三代的警觉。”“一勤天下无难事”。王永庆的这句话贯穿了他整个奋斗的人生。
2006年，王永庆年满九十岁。这一年，这个意志力惊人的世纪老人，突然决定隐身台后并交棒于下一代。世人警觉到，一个属于经营之神的长达半个多世纪的辉煌朝代在逐渐落下句点。留给世人的是一个庞大的石化王国和一段让人说不完道不尽的富豪传奇。
由于事业上的杰出成就，因此每当人们谈到“王永庆”三个字，脑海中浮现的是企业巨子的传奇形象，联想到的首先是“财富”与“企业经营管理”之间的问题。人们把焦点集中在他的“致富”和“成功之道”上，“王永庆”三个字，似乎除了名词之外，也是形容词，和白手起家、勤奋坚毅、合理化经营管理结下不解之缘。
在企业家的角色上，王永庆无疑散发着钻石的光芒，王永庆三个字是华人世界里永远无法忽略的名字。这耀眼的形象，人们已经太熟悉了，在这光圈之外，我们不妨从另一个角度来看王永庆。
事实上，王永庆和平常人一样，一生中都要扮演许多不同的角色，一天都是24小时，在这24小时里，他除了是扮演领导数万名员工的企业经营者，坐镇指挥海内外各庞大的事业机构外，生活的另一面，他也扮演家长、儿子、父亲、丈夫、兄长、祖父、外公的角色。
“我们中国人是比较艰苦出身的，比较有能力，像牛一样，有角啊!”把自己喻为牛的他一向追求“止于至善”，总是要求自己：要做就要做最顶尖的。做领导者，就要做个成功的领导者;做主管，就要做个优秀的主管;做儿子，就要做最孝顺的儿子;做父亲，就要做一个尽职的父亲。
王永庆身上折射的是一个时代的缩影，是通过勤劳简朴，顽强拼搏而白手起家的一代中国人的杰出代表。
一勤天下无难事
凌晨2点半的台北夜深人静，敦化北路底的台塑大楼十三楼，一盏灯缓缓亮起。一位九十岁的老人，起床办公，他是台塑集团董事长王永庆。52年如一日。
王永庆每天晚上10点睡觉，2点半起床办公，每周工作100多小时，每天宁静的台塑大楼总会传来沉稳而缓慢的脚步声，出现一个颀长的身影，脊背挺直。无数个相似的寂静深夜里，包括全球最大的石化园区云林麦寮六轻、中国最大民营火力电厂华阳电业漳州电厂，宁波大乙烯计划都是由这个房间思索出来。
王永庆常说：“要常常警惕自己，稍一松懈就导致衰退，经常要有富不三代的警觉。”“一勤天下无难事”。王永庆的这句话贯穿了他整个奋斗的人生。
人生信念与习性的养成往往与从小的成长经历有着千丝万缕的联系。众所周知，王永庆是一位真正的白手起家者，1917年1月18日他出生在台北县一个俗称“情人谷”的偏僻地方，父母以种茶为生，家境十分困难，每日三餐以番薯充饥。
王家虽然穷困，但父亲深感文盲之苦，故十分重视子女的教育。王永庆7岁时，就被父亲送到新店国民小学就读。学校在离家10公里外，王永庆必须一大早起床，到附近的水井提水，把家中的大水缸装满后才步行上学。放学后，还经常要肩扛一袋50斤重的饲料返家养猪。在王永庆9岁那年，父亲病倒在床，一家的生计全靠母亲王詹样种菜、种番薯、养猪来维持。 于是，上小学三年级的王永庆开始半工半读，为邻居看牛，每月赚取5毛钱来贴补家用。他上小学用的书包是一条粗布巾做的口袋，穿的衣服是补丁加补丁，整天赤着脚，几乎没有穿过一双鞋。而小学期间，对书本不感兴趣的王永庆，从来没有下过苦功读书，所以成绩总列在班里的最后10名。
常言道：穷人家的孩子早当家。年幼的王永庆很理解父母的处境，为了分担家庭生活的压力，15岁的王永庆小学毕业后便无奈辍学。由于在家乡找不到工作，在征得父母同意后，经叔叔王水源的介绍，到嘉义的一家米店当小工。当时，白花花的大米是王永庆梦寐以求之物，为此他格外珍惜这份工作，除认认真真做工外，还细心观察老板经营米店的诀窍，为今后自行创业做准备。
王永庆曾说过一段发人深省的话：“我幼时无力进一步学习，长大后必须做工谋生，也没有机会接受正规教育，像我这样一个身无专长的人，只有吃苦耐劳才能补其不足。我还常常想，由于生活的煎熬，我才产生了克服困难的精神和勇气，幼年生活的困苦，也许是上帝对我的赐福。”因此，吃苦耐劳是王永庆成功的杀手锏。
凡事勤俭 凡事合理化
王永庆个人生活俭朴最为媒体津津乐道的要数他喝咖啡的过程。他曾在接受记者专访前，把奶精倒入咖啡时，还把奶球放在咖啡中涮了三次，确定奶精全部溶入咖啡。等到送客时，还把剩下的咖啡一口喝完。俭朴的个性显露无遗。
台塑集团今年迈入第53年，历经半个多世纪，王永庆仍不改他节俭的个性。他认为，凡事讲求“合理化”，东西物尽其用，发挥到极致，就是合理化，事情做到最好，止于至善，也是合理化。王永庆的名片夹是台塑自行研发的“撕不破”珠光纸，接触过王永庆的人都知道，他发名片很有节度，会特别注意一人发一张，绝不浪费，就如他喝咖啡一定涮一涮奶精的勤俭。这数十年的坚持，相对于部分企业的奢华作风，特别发人深思。
王永庆的生活非常俭朴，他对穿着的要求是大方整洁，从不计较衣服的新旧及款式。每回坐飞机一定是经济舱。他生平最喜欢收藏名人字画，然后就是听戏，并常年坚持慢跑锻炼。他在台塑顶楼开辟了一个菜园，母亲去世前，他吃的都是自己种的菜。用的肥皂剩下一小片，还要粘在整块上继续使用;每天做健身毛巾操，一条毛巾用了27年。据说，就连他过去在麦寮用餐时，当问到一颗卤蛋竟卖新台币10元时，他直觉认为卖得太贵了。王永庆企业经营讲求合理化，个人生活细节处处显示他对合理的执著。
女儿王雪红曾向媒体透露，以前他们兄弟姐妹几个在美国生活也不富裕，因为父亲供给学费、生活费都算得很精准，就像管理手下企业般，总是给得“刚刚好”，不让他们有一丝享受奢侈的机会，此外，和儿女联络都是写信，从不打电话，“因为觉得打电话太贵了”。王雪红的母亲廖娇也在一次采访中证实了，儿女还必须回信报告花了哪些钱，连买支牙膏也得写上去!
王永庆同时也是一个很低调的人，几乎不接受个人专访。在他眼里，一个人只要努力工作就可以了，不需要把个人的经历告诉大家。在这个纷乱的时代，他坚守着自己的行为方式，坚守着一个传统的产业。
趙世曾女友多多益善
“風流財子”趙世曾，他未結婚，已有三位成人兒女，父親節前夕，接受傳媒專訪，大談為父之道。
趙公子是個開明人，任數他的風流史，都不以為忤。
趙公子不諱言，人生是甚麼？追求快樂！他的公館是“樂居”，他的遊艇“海上樂居”，他的私人飛機“空中樂居”。當然，為追求快樂，要有事業和健康的基礎。趙世曾年近古稀了，接受專訪時，T恤短褲，皮光肉滑，談笑風生，儼如年輕人，卻有成功男人的穩重。怪不得他說：“我有多少女朋友，哈哈哈，我也記不得了。
女朋友多多益善，從未結婚。風流財子最掛心的，是女兒GiGi的婚事。趙世曾公然招親：我很想女兒早點結婚，誰娶了我女兒，送錢！送樓！
趙式芝小姐，洋名GiGi，城中名千金，趙世曾與紅星姚煒所生，長得婷婷玉立，有幾分姚煒的影子。她不是沒有男朋友，而是追逐裙下的人太多，為父的趙世曾擔心甚麼呢？他說，女孩子愛情要專一，不要男朋友換來換去。男孩子不同，可以多些女朋友，哈哈，人不風流枉少年。幽默是，趙世曾的第二仔，愛情很專一。他的第三仔，屬情場幼稚生，常問爸爸，我很喜歡那個女孩子，怎麼開口？“虎父無犬子”，或適用商場，不適用情場。
慶祝父親節，趙世曾父性大暴露，問此生甚麼都有了，還有何心願？我女兒快些結婚就好了！哎吔，在場記者走寳了，為何不緊接一問：趙生，你如此關心兒女婚姻，為甚麼你又不結婚呢？
“月月換畫”，是不結婚的好處，也是趙世曾此生一憾。父親節願望：不要這麼多記者跟着我，不能為所欲為。
趙公子是個開明人，任數他的風流史，都不以為忤。
趙公子不諱言，人生是甚麼？追求快樂！他的公館是“樂居”，他的遊艇“海上樂居”，他的私人飛機“空中樂居”。當然，為追求快樂，要有事業和健康的基礎。趙世曾年近古稀了，接受專訪時，T恤短褲，皮光肉滑，談笑風生，儼如年輕人，卻有成功男人的穩重。怪不得他說：“我有多少女朋友，哈哈哈，我也記不得了。
女朋友多多益善，從未結婚。風流財子最掛心的，是女兒GiGi的婚事。趙世曾公然招親：我很想女兒早點結婚，誰娶了我女兒，送錢！送樓！
趙式芝小姐，洋名GiGi，城中名千金，趙世曾與紅星姚煒所生，長得婷婷玉立，有幾分姚煒的影子。她不是沒有男朋友，而是追逐裙下的人太多，為父的趙世曾擔心甚麼呢？他說，女孩子愛情要專一，不要男朋友換來換去。男孩子不同，可以多些女朋友，哈哈，人不風流枉少年。幽默是，趙世曾的第二仔，愛情很專一。他的第三仔，屬情場幼稚生，常問爸爸，我很喜歡那個女孩子，怎麼開口？“虎父無犬子”，或適用商場，不適用情場。
慶祝父親節，趙世曾父性大暴露，問此生甚麼都有了，還有何心願？我女兒快些結婚就好了！哎吔，在場記者走寳了，為何不緊接一問：趙生，你如此關心兒女婚姻，為甚麼你又不結婚呢？
“月月換畫”，是不結婚的好處，也是趙世曾此生一憾。父親節願望：不要這麼多記者跟着我，不能為所欲為。
香港富豪赵世曾的泡女招式
赵世曾似乎从不在乎被人指为风流成性，反以身为“香港第一玩家”为荣，他说：“我最大的快乐就来源于女人。”
育有三名母亲各异的子女，赵世曾依旧无限风流，顶着媒体颁发的“香港头号玩家”牌匾，泡在孙女级的美女堆里，扬言要再博一子。
儿子赵式浩，身负父亲厚望，要成为玩家接班人，成为全港最棒的泡妞高手。70岁的父亲给这位20岁儿子的泡妞锦囊是：千万不能沉迷一个女人和千万不能只搞一个女人。
赵氏航运王国的三公子
上世纪70年代末，香港是全球著名的国际航运中心。环球航运的包玉刚、东方海外的董浩云、万邦集团的曹文锦和华光航业的赵从衍号称“香港四大船王”。如今，赵氏家族的航运王国，在全球航运界依然举足轻重。据统计，华光船队目前共有27艘船，总排水量250万吨，轮船总市值约94亿港元。其中“安荣勇士”号市值8.5亿港元，排水量31.8万吨，是香港最大排水量的注册船只。
三位“船王”中，董浩云的儿子董建华成为香港前任特首；包玉刚的四位女婿如吴光正等，在商界均有成就；但赵从衍的三个儿子（本有四子，次子早年因潜水意外丧生），近年所取得的知名度，却并非来自政治或经济的成绩，而是桃色新闻。
和三子赵世曾的风流韵事比起来，他的哥哥弟弟弟们只能望尘莫及了。
赵世曾自称曾拥有10000个女友，先后有演艺圈名人姚炜、盈盈、方怡珍，还有落选港姐张荪微、Terri Holladay、Michelle等等。
1992年，他与Terri举行海陆空“婚宴”，之后生下儿子赵式正，3年后夫妻感情破裂，才爆出他们原来还未领结婚证。后来，赵世曾与马慧拍拖近三年，如胶似漆，俨然一对夫妻。不久后，赵世曾又携一名北方佳丽乌仁出席公开场合，表现得非常亲密，赵世曾更坦言希望乌仁是他“最后一个女友”，拍拖五个月后就传出闪电结婚的消息，但这段感情最后却维持不足一年。原因是女方埋怨男友“孤寒”，过年只给她七百元的零用钱，更发现赵世曾还与其他女性约会，因而决心分手。
尽管三个儿子无论金钱还是女人都各有发展，赵从衍对他们的风流史心知肚明，更是不满三子赵世曾的行为及花花公子形象。因此，直到1997年，赵从衍才以健康理由辞去华光董事局主席，决定由长子赵世彭出任主席、四子赵世光任副主席，三子赵世曾连董事一衔也没有。
“玩女哲学”须知
赵世曾自称玩过的女人逾万，而且还是经过筛选的，如果不筛选更是不止这个数目。而他真正爱过的女人更多达数十人。
赵世曾育有三名子女，但母亲各异。赵世曾与“金大班”姚炜的恋情轰动一时，两人育有一女赵式芝。分手后，赵与港姐盈盈在一起，生了次子式浩；与洋女模Terri Holiday生下幼子式正。目前，他与来自大陆的女子许冬梅（Wendy）同居。
“在情场上，我是逢赌必赢。”在接受采访时，赵世曾回顾自己的风流情史，言语间流露出自豪。并且以骨灰级专家身份自居，细数“玩女”功略。
首先，第一要领是：让女人主动黏上来，不是见到美女就追。
赵世曾坦白说，他在三四十岁的时候，最爱泡女明星和选美冠军。“老实说，年轻的时候跟我在一起的全是女明星，都是她们自己黏过来的，是觉得我对她们的娱乐事业有帮助，有多些宣传作用，我可以说是被她们利用，哈哈哈……”
他还自曝，三四十岁时，是邵逸夫的家中常客，整天在邵的家庭舞会中泡到不少女明星。
尤其令这位玩家津津乐道的是，每个女人被他甩了之后，都不会要生要死。“女人闹自杀，是男人处事不当，他们应该来请教我。跟女人分手，要一步一步来，不是今天说要分手就马上分手，这样她们当然要跳楼啦！”
他的秘诀是，逐日减少见面次数，从一周见7天到4天，再减到2天、1天，一个月一两次，对方就会慢慢明白，知道是时候自己“走路”了。因为，美女今天分手后，明天又可以找到新欢；没人要的女人，被甩了也会自己找条“生路”的。至于同居女友，他说，玩腻了要马上给对方另找住处，不要藕断丝连。
“女人拖越久就越不值钱，对她反而不好。一个女子的青春和外貌就是她的本钱，女子通常会想要跟男人一辈子，如果你不想却又死硬拖住她，对她是很不公道的。”
所以，一个有良心的玩家原则是：如果觉得没有长远的计划，就应该散。“我就常跟分手的女朋友说：大家没可能发展下去，再拖，你就会损失你的本钱了。”
要领二，把握主导权。女人烦不烦，主导权完全在男人手中，赵世曾随时可以叫一个女人千依百顺。“不能不宠女人，但，也不能一味地宠，女人乱发脾气是男人宠出来的，有时要懂得宠女人，有时也要表明立场。”
当然，男人也要能“一点就通”。他举例，当女人说 “我放假很有空”，又或者说“我什么时候不用拍戏”，就要明白她们的意思，立即“跟进”。
现在， 70岁的赵世曾不再像一只留恋花丛的蝴蝶，朵朵鲜花都采，固定与Wendy出现在公众视线。
“年纪大了，觉得一个人开心不可以这么高调，反正我已经够多人认识了，再泡女明星还得了？岂不是火上加油？真的会烧死自己的。”
所以现在，他会低调去泡，不再只玩女星和美后。
不过，尽管赵世曾自己心力衰减，他的两个儿子，年纪轻轻，却已经充分显示出“虎父无犬子”的玩家风范。23岁的儿子赵式浩一天可以泡六七个女人。早、午、晚餐和下午茶可以拖不同女子。
“这个儿子真是厉害啊！比我十多岁时还行，他还说学校的美女很多，也喜欢金发美女，叫我教他两招泡妞秘诀。10岁的小儿子（式正）都会说以后要有两个女人，让她们互相竞争。”
后浪推前浪，儿子充分习得父亲玩家真传，赵世曾不止一次在媒体面前夸奖儿子。他扬言要把儿子栽培成玩家接班人，成为全港最棒的泡妞高手。
情钟于“4”
游艇及女人是赵世曾的快乐源泉。他将自己的游艇命名为“海上乐居”（Happy Sea Lodge），每逢周六，例必出海，绝对宝刀未老。“‘海上乐居’的‘乐’字好重要。我人生的唯一目的就是享乐。”“海上乐居”由意大利设计师设计，于澳洲制造，Riva St Tropez型号，长110英尺，以4000万元购入，附送直升机及装修。
“1994至2004年，我完全享乐度日，从2004年开始我要在事业上再搏杀。”赵世曾透露宏图大计，就是在2014年写三本自传，分别是《如何致富》、《如何自乐》及《如何讨女人欢心》。赵世曾形容做生意与追女孩子同样有挑战，不过他说：“对我来说两样都不难！”
从1994年至2004年再到2014年，不难看出，赵世曾似乎对阿拉伯数字“4”特别厚爱。对于香港人而言，“4”是个不吉利的数字，而赵世曾却认为“4”代表四喜临门，好彩头又好记。赵祖籍上海，其家族经营航运业，“4”的上海话与“水”同音，水即是财，且有“生意兴隆通四海”之意，故他颇为喜欢。因此，赵世曾甚至连车牌都是单位数字“4”。
自1975年至今，香港政府每年都拍卖一批车牌，所得款项均作为善款用途。最值钱的当数阿拉伯数字“1至10”的十大无字头车牌，即阿拉伯数字前无英文字母。如今，这十大车牌已成为高贵身份的象征。除1号车牌属香港警务处长拥有外，其余2至10号都属私人拥有。赵世曾以14.7万港元投得4号车牌。该牌照原属香港医务处长。
玩家的代价
“出来混，迟早要还的。”一句充满禅学意味的台词不仅适用于警匪混战的《无间道》，也适用于金钱和美色发酵冒泡的欲望世界。
2001年8月，赵世曾与两名女友在深圳闹市一间饭店进膳，当其一拖二步出门外时，突然扑出3名蒙面刀客，强行将3人掳上一辆小车。赵世曾事后向记者忆述，起初以为是单纯劫案，所以没有反抗，任由贼人抢去大约4000元人民币，及价值10万元名表。后来但见贼人意犹未足，看似要将他绑架，为保护自身安全，于是突然发难，在车厢内与三个匪徒近身肉搏，小车被迫在半途停下。他趁机打开车门，携同两名女友奔跑再跳下河，蒙面刀客曾拔足穷追，可能为免引起路人注目，折返小车逃去无踪。他惊魂甫定后，到深圳公安局报案，休息一晚，于星期一回香港，再到湾仔警署备案。
当被询问是否要与内地女友断绝来往时，他立马表态“妞照泡、吧照蒲”。只是，赵世曾说，以后都不会再去深圳。而一年前，同样是8月，前同居女友Terri Holladay到香港高等法院提出诉讼，控告赵的律师事务所处事疏忽，导致她与赵世曾分居后，失去三亿港元的生活保障费。
她在庭上表示，当年与赵世曾同居时，对方曾口头承诺支付金钱以保障她的日后生活，并找来律师草拟了协议书。但当时律师方面却因为一时疏忽，未订立一份具法律约束力的协议文件，使得赵世曾对她的承诺难以兑现，导致她蒙受极大的经济损失。因此，她决定向该律师事务所提出三亿港元的赔偿，当中包括两亿港元的信用卡贷款额。
除了头疼前任、现任女友和自己的经济纠纷，赵世曾还必须考虑自己的丰厚身家如何分配给众多女友。他早已为自己立下遗嘱，其子女当然获得遗产分配，只是因不停转换女友，所以在完全不知谁才是其真命女友的情况下，他的遗嘱每年都要更改内容，而近年则转为每半年更改一次。
好友龚如心遗产争夺案的前车之鉴，让他打算用摄像机拍下自己所讲的遗嘱。“拍录像带会比较好，说明是最后一个版本，只有一盒没有拷贝。有改变时再录过，旧的就丢掉。”他感叹：“人生会改变，有些身边人感觉较亲，便分多一点，要捐助的机构也会改变。”他承认每改一次，红颜知己Wendy便分得愈多。前女友Terri Holladay虽然是儿子的妈妈，但遗嘱并没有其份，赵世曾暗指讨厌的人没有份。
但赵世曾似乎从不在乎被人指为风流成性，反以身为“香港第一玩家”为荣，他说：“我最大的快乐就来源于女人。”
育有三名母亲各异的子女，赵世曾依旧无限风流，顶着媒体颁发的“香港头号玩家”牌匾，泡在孙女级的美女堆里，扬言要再博一子。
儿子赵式浩，身负父亲厚望，要成为玩家接班人，成为全港最棒的泡妞高手。70岁的父亲给这位20岁儿子的泡妞锦囊是：千万不能沉迷一个女人和千万不能只搞一个女人。
赵氏航运王国的三公子
上世纪70年代末，香港是全球著名的国际航运中心。环球航运的包玉刚、东方海外的董浩云、万邦集团的曹文锦和华光航业的赵从衍号称“香港四大船王”。如今，赵氏家族的航运王国，在全球航运界依然举足轻重。据统计，华光船队目前共有27艘船，总排水量250万吨，轮船总市值约94亿港元。其中“安荣勇士”号市值8.5亿港元，排水量31.8万吨，是香港最大排水量的注册船只。
三位“船王”中，董浩云的儿子董建华成为香港前任特首；包玉刚的四位女婿如吴光正等，在商界均有成就；但赵从衍的三个儿子（本有四子，次子早年因潜水意外丧生），近年所取得的知名度，却并非来自政治或经济的成绩，而是桃色新闻。
和三子赵世曾的风流韵事比起来，他的哥哥弟弟弟们只能望尘莫及了。
赵世曾自称曾拥有10000个女友，先后有演艺圈名人姚炜、盈盈、方怡珍，还有落选港姐张荪微、Terri Holladay、Michelle等等。
1992年，他与Terri举行海陆空“婚宴”，之后生下儿子赵式正，3年后夫妻感情破裂，才爆出他们原来还未领结婚证。后来，赵世曾与马慧拍拖近三年，如胶似漆，俨然一对夫妻。不久后，赵世曾又携一名北方佳丽乌仁出席公开场合，表现得非常亲密，赵世曾更坦言希望乌仁是他“最后一个女友”，拍拖五个月后就传出闪电结婚的消息，但这段感情最后却维持不足一年。原因是女方埋怨男友“孤寒”，过年只给她七百元的零用钱，更发现赵世曾还与其他女性约会，因而决心分手。
尽管三个儿子无论金钱还是女人都各有发展，赵从衍对他们的风流史心知肚明，更是不满三子赵世曾的行为及花花公子形象。因此，直到1997年，赵从衍才以健康理由辞去华光董事局主席，决定由长子赵世彭出任主席、四子赵世光任副主席，三子赵世曾连董事一衔也没有。
“玩女哲学”须知
赵世曾自称玩过的女人逾万，而且还是经过筛选的，如果不筛选更是不止这个数目。而他真正爱过的女人更多达数十人。
赵世曾育有三名子女，但母亲各异。赵世曾与“金大班”姚炜的恋情轰动一时，两人育有一女赵式芝。分手后，赵与港姐盈盈在一起，生了次子式浩；与洋女模Terri Holiday生下幼子式正。目前，他与来自大陆的女子许冬梅（Wendy）同居。
“在情场上，我是逢赌必赢。”在接受采访时，赵世曾回顾自己的风流情史，言语间流露出自豪。并且以骨灰级专家身份自居，细数“玩女”功略。
首先，第一要领是：让女人主动黏上来，不是见到美女就追。
赵世曾坦白说，他在三四十岁的时候，最爱泡女明星和选美冠军。“老实说，年轻的时候跟我在一起的全是女明星，都是她们自己黏过来的，是觉得我对她们的娱乐事业有帮助，有多些宣传作用，我可以说是被她们利用，哈哈哈……”
他还自曝，三四十岁时，是邵逸夫的家中常客，整天在邵的家庭舞会中泡到不少女明星。
尤其令这位玩家津津乐道的是，每个女人被他甩了之后，都不会要生要死。“女人闹自杀，是男人处事不当，他们应该来请教我。跟女人分手，要一步一步来，不是今天说要分手就马上分手，这样她们当然要跳楼啦！”
他的秘诀是，逐日减少见面次数，从一周见7天到4天，再减到2天、1天，一个月一两次，对方就会慢慢明白，知道是时候自己“走路”了。因为，美女今天分手后，明天又可以找到新欢；没人要的女人，被甩了也会自己找条“生路”的。至于同居女友，他说，玩腻了要马上给对方另找住处，不要藕断丝连。
“女人拖越久就越不值钱，对她反而不好。一个女子的青春和外貌就是她的本钱，女子通常会想要跟男人一辈子，如果你不想却又死硬拖住她，对她是很不公道的。”
所以，一个有良心的玩家原则是：如果觉得没有长远的计划，就应该散。“我就常跟分手的女朋友说：大家没可能发展下去，再拖，你就会损失你的本钱了。”
要领二，把握主导权。女人烦不烦，主导权完全在男人手中，赵世曾随时可以叫一个女人千依百顺。“不能不宠女人，但，也不能一味地宠，女人乱发脾气是男人宠出来的，有时要懂得宠女人，有时也要表明立场。”
当然，男人也要能“一点就通”。他举例，当女人说 “我放假很有空”，又或者说“我什么时候不用拍戏”，就要明白她们的意思，立即“跟进”。
现在， 70岁的赵世曾不再像一只留恋花丛的蝴蝶，朵朵鲜花都采，固定与Wendy出现在公众视线。
“年纪大了，觉得一个人开心不可以这么高调，反正我已经够多人认识了，再泡女明星还得了？岂不是火上加油？真的会烧死自己的。”
所以现在，他会低调去泡，不再只玩女星和美后。
不过，尽管赵世曾自己心力衰减，他的两个儿子，年纪轻轻，却已经充分显示出“虎父无犬子”的玩家风范。23岁的儿子赵式浩一天可以泡六七个女人。早、午、晚餐和下午茶可以拖不同女子。
“这个儿子真是厉害啊！比我十多岁时还行，他还说学校的美女很多，也喜欢金发美女，叫我教他两招泡妞秘诀。10岁的小儿子（式正）都会说以后要有两个女人，让她们互相竞争。”
后浪推前浪，儿子充分习得父亲玩家真传，赵世曾不止一次在媒体面前夸奖儿子。他扬言要把儿子栽培成玩家接班人，成为全港最棒的泡妞高手。
情钟于“4”
游艇及女人是赵世曾的快乐源泉。他将自己的游艇命名为“海上乐居”（Happy Sea Lodge），每逢周六，例必出海，绝对宝刀未老。“‘海上乐居’的‘乐’字好重要。我人生的唯一目的就是享乐。”“海上乐居”由意大利设计师设计，于澳洲制造，Riva St Tropez型号，长110英尺，以4000万元购入，附送直升机及装修。
“1994至2004年，我完全享乐度日，从2004年开始我要在事业上再搏杀。”赵世曾透露宏图大计，就是在2014年写三本自传，分别是《如何致富》、《如何自乐》及《如何讨女人欢心》。赵世曾形容做生意与追女孩子同样有挑战，不过他说：“对我来说两样都不难！”
从1994年至2004年再到2014年，不难看出，赵世曾似乎对阿拉伯数字“4”特别厚爱。对于香港人而言，“4”是个不吉利的数字，而赵世曾却认为“4”代表四喜临门，好彩头又好记。赵祖籍上海，其家族经营航运业，“4”的上海话与“水”同音，水即是财，且有“生意兴隆通四海”之意，故他颇为喜欢。因此，赵世曾甚至连车牌都是单位数字“4”。
自1975年至今，香港政府每年都拍卖一批车牌，所得款项均作为善款用途。最值钱的当数阿拉伯数字“1至10”的十大无字头车牌，即阿拉伯数字前无英文字母。如今，这十大车牌已成为高贵身份的象征。除1号车牌属香港警务处长拥有外，其余2至10号都属私人拥有。赵世曾以14.7万港元投得4号车牌。该牌照原属香港医务处长。
玩家的代价
“出来混，迟早要还的。”一句充满禅学意味的台词不仅适用于警匪混战的《无间道》，也适用于金钱和美色发酵冒泡的欲望世界。
2001年8月，赵世曾与两名女友在深圳闹市一间饭店进膳，当其一拖二步出门外时，突然扑出3名蒙面刀客，强行将3人掳上一辆小车。赵世曾事后向记者忆述，起初以为是单纯劫案，所以没有反抗，任由贼人抢去大约4000元人民币，及价值10万元名表。后来但见贼人意犹未足，看似要将他绑架，为保护自身安全，于是突然发难，在车厢内与三个匪徒近身肉搏，小车被迫在半途停下。他趁机打开车门，携同两名女友奔跑再跳下河，蒙面刀客曾拔足穷追，可能为免引起路人注目，折返小车逃去无踪。他惊魂甫定后，到深圳公安局报案，休息一晚，于星期一回香港，再到湾仔警署备案。
当被询问是否要与内地女友断绝来往时，他立马表态“妞照泡、吧照蒲”。只是，赵世曾说，以后都不会再去深圳。而一年前，同样是8月，前同居女友Terri Holladay到香港高等法院提出诉讼，控告赵的律师事务所处事疏忽，导致她与赵世曾分居后，失去三亿港元的生活保障费。
她在庭上表示，当年与赵世曾同居时，对方曾口头承诺支付金钱以保障她的日后生活，并找来律师草拟了协议书。但当时律师方面却因为一时疏忽，未订立一份具法律约束力的协议文件，使得赵世曾对她的承诺难以兑现，导致她蒙受极大的经济损失。因此，她决定向该律师事务所提出三亿港元的赔偿，当中包括两亿港元的信用卡贷款额。
除了头疼前任、现任女友和自己的经济纠纷，赵世曾还必须考虑自己的丰厚身家如何分配给众多女友。他早已为自己立下遗嘱，其子女当然获得遗产分配，只是因不停转换女友，所以在完全不知谁才是其真命女友的情况下，他的遗嘱每年都要更改内容，而近年则转为每半年更改一次。
好友龚如心遗产争夺案的前车之鉴，让他打算用摄像机拍下自己所讲的遗嘱。“拍录像带会比较好，说明是最后一个版本，只有一盒没有拷贝。有改变时再录过，旧的就丢掉。”他感叹：“人生会改变，有些身边人感觉较亲，便分多一点，要捐助的机构也会改变。”他承认每改一次，红颜知己Wendy便分得愈多。前女友Terri Holladay虽然是儿子的妈妈，但遗嘱并没有其份，赵世曾暗指讨厌的人没有份。
但赵世曾似乎从不在乎被人指为风流成性，反以身为“香港第一玩家”为荣，他说：“我最大的快乐就来源于女人。”
七分靠打拚 留三成后路
香港丽新集团主席，也是亚洲电视永远名誉主席林百欣，星期五上午因病在香港逝世。
祖籍广东潮阳的林百欣，在1914年12月初五出生，林家共有13名兄弟姐妹，他排行第九，为二奶所出。其父林献之，是汕头的厂商兼银行家，抗战前在香港开过米铺及糖冬瓜厂。
月薪三元 花一元学英文
虽生于大富之家，林百欣并没有想过当一名二世祖。他曾向传媒忆述，他第一件事就是学煲茶，当时的月薪只有三元，但他仍每月依时寄钱给生母，又每月花一元多学英文，其后他又遵从父亲要求转读中文。
成衣业起家 人称「非洲王」
在抗战前，刚二十岁出头的林百欣有一天行过九龙城，见一个乡里拿着一大包绣花女仔衫，心生一计，打本让乡里做家庭式手作，他自己四出推销，其后更到几间专门从事出口东南亚贸易公司谈合作，双方一拍即合，订单不断。其后林伯索性自己开了一间名叫成福的制衣厂从事制衣。由于早年他经营的制衣厂，多接来自非洲的订单，当时行内人都称他为「非洲王」。后来他收购「鳄鱼恤」，更成为全球最著名的服装品牌之一。
七分靠打拚 「留三成后路」
「三分天注定，七分靠打拚，爱拚才会赢」，是他辛勤耕耘一生的写照。一提「爱拚才会赢」这一人生的座右铭，林伯总是乐不可支：「是呀，爱拚才会赢，我是拚的。但我做生意从来不去到十足，会留番三成后路。」
后来，林伯涉足香港地产业，尤其是80年代，地产业成为林百欣的丽新集团的主要支柱。80年代后期，林伯更以家族名义向购入亚洲电视超过3成的股权，成为亚视董事局主席，6年后他个人及丽新公司持有亚视股权67.5%，成为最大股东。其后的十余年，林伯在商场并不顺利，投资亚视10亿化为乌有，97年曾因牵涉台湾征地案官非滞留台北一年多，96年高价购入富丽华酒店又因金融风暴而大幅贬值。尽管饱经挫折，但林伯仍然屹立不倒，其坚韧的毅力备受港人称道。
永不言休「工作排到十年后」
有人问过林伯，营营役役大半个世纪，可有退休计划以享清福？林伯如此回答：「我问你，退休之后做么？……我现在做的工作，都铺排到十年后了。我没有想过退休……郁唔到就等于是个废人。」事业、工作已成为他生命的一部分，事必躬亲，永不言休，即使年过90了，依然天天埋首案头，处理公务。
林伯的成功之道，绝对没有「侥幸」两字。有人评价林伯是一位具有卓越战略眼光的经营者，在经营中又巧于用「钻缝术」。事业有成的林伯也是一个出名的「良心」雇主，即使遭遇困难之时，待员工仍一片真诚。如亚视曾连年亏损，但林伯从不欠薪。
祖籍广东潮阳的林百欣，在1914年12月初五出生，林家共有13名兄弟姐妹，他排行第九，为二奶所出。其父林献之，是汕头的厂商兼银行家，抗战前在香港开过米铺及糖冬瓜厂。
月薪三元 花一元学英文
虽生于大富之家，林百欣并没有想过当一名二世祖。他曾向传媒忆述，他第一件事就是学煲茶，当时的月薪只有三元，但他仍每月依时寄钱给生母，又每月花一元多学英文，其后他又遵从父亲要求转读中文。
成衣业起家 人称「非洲王」
在抗战前，刚二十岁出头的林百欣有一天行过九龙城，见一个乡里拿着一大包绣花女仔衫，心生一计，打本让乡里做家庭式手作，他自己四出推销，其后更到几间专门从事出口东南亚贸易公司谈合作，双方一拍即合，订单不断。其后林伯索性自己开了一间名叫成福的制衣厂从事制衣。由于早年他经营的制衣厂，多接来自非洲的订单，当时行内人都称他为「非洲王」。后来他收购「鳄鱼恤」，更成为全球最著名的服装品牌之一。
七分靠打拚 「留三成后路」
「三分天注定，七分靠打拚，爱拚才会赢」，是他辛勤耕耘一生的写照。一提「爱拚才会赢」这一人生的座右铭，林伯总是乐不可支：「是呀，爱拚才会赢，我是拚的。但我做生意从来不去到十足，会留番三成后路。」
后来，林伯涉足香港地产业，尤其是80年代，地产业成为林百欣的丽新集团的主要支柱。80年代后期，林伯更以家族名义向购入亚洲电视超过3成的股权，成为亚视董事局主席，6年后他个人及丽新公司持有亚视股权67.5%，成为最大股东。其后的十余年，林伯在商场并不顺利，投资亚视10亿化为乌有，97年曾因牵涉台湾征地案官非滞留台北一年多，96年高价购入富丽华酒店又因金融风暴而大幅贬值。尽管饱经挫折，但林伯仍然屹立不倒，其坚韧的毅力备受港人称道。
永不言休「工作排到十年后」
有人问过林伯，营营役役大半个世纪，可有退休计划以享清福？林伯如此回答：「我问你，退休之后做么？……我现在做的工作，都铺排到十年后了。我没有想过退休……郁唔到就等于是个废人。」事业、工作已成为他生命的一部分，事必躬亲，永不言休，即使年过90了，依然天天埋首案头，处理公务。
林伯的成功之道，绝对没有「侥幸」两字。有人评价林伯是一位具有卓越战略眼光的经营者，在经营中又巧于用「钻缝术」。事业有成的林伯也是一个出名的「良心」雇主，即使遭遇困难之时，待员工仍一片真诚。如亚视曾连年亏损，但林伯从不欠薪。
林百欣走完传奇一生：事必躬亲，永不言休
香港丽新集团主席，也是亚洲电视永远名誉主席林百欣，星期五上午因病在香港逝世。
根据亚洲电视午间新闻的报道，林百欣去世时十分安祥，终年93岁。亚洲电视董事局对他的去世表示哀伤，并代表亚洲电视对林百欣家人致以深切问候。
香港文汇报今日刊发专文予以报道，文章称，商界奇人林百欣昨日以九十三高龄辞世。他的传奇一生，可说是一部香港七八十年来的发展史。细数林伯的人生历程，人们可以看到他在本港工业尤其是制衣业界叱风云的精彩一页；看到了他对亚洲电视的情深义重、不离不弃；看到了他为支持家乡经济发展、社会稳定的尽心尽力；看到了他为国家兴盛，力促改革开放的不遗余力；也看到了老人虽经多番挫折，但仍屹立不倒的坚毅背影。「纺织界巨人」、「媒体大亨」、「商界闻人」、「大慈善家」……每一个尊称，都倾诉着人们对林伯白手兴家，乐于助人，创建百亿事业王国的敬佩之情。
祖籍广东潮阳的林百欣，在1914年12月初五出生，林家共有13名兄弟姐妹，他排行第九，为二奶所出。其父林献之，是汕头的厂商兼银行家，抗战前在香港开过米铺及糖冬瓜厂。
月薪三元 花一元学英文
虽生于大富之家，林百欣并没有想过当一名二世祖。他曾向传媒忆述，他第一件事就是学煲茶，当时的月薪只有三元，但他仍每月依时寄钱给生母，又每月花一元多学英文，其后他又遵从父亲要求转读中文。
成衣业起家 人称「非洲王」
在抗战前，刚二十岁出头的林百欣有一天行过九龙城，见一个乡里拿着一大包绣花女仔衫，心生一计，打本让乡里做家庭式手作，他自己四出推销，其后更到几间专门从事出口东南亚贸易公司谈合作，双方一拍即合，订单不断。其后林伯索性自己开了一间名叫成福的制衣厂从事制衣。由于早年他经营的制衣厂，多接来自非洲的订单，当时行内人都称他为「非洲王」。后来他收购「鳄鱼恤」，更成为全球最著名的服装品牌之一。
七分靠打拚 「留三成后路」
「三分天注定，七分靠打拚，爱拚才会赢」，是他辛勤耕耘一生的写照。一提「爱拚才会赢」这一人生的座右铭，林伯总是乐不可支：「是呀，爱拚才会赢，我是拚的。但我做生意从来不去到十足，会留番三成后路。」
后来，林伯涉足香港地产业，尤其是80年代，地产业成为林百欣的丽新集团的主要支柱。80年代后期，林伯更以家族名义向购入亚洲电视超过3成的股权，成为亚视董事局主席，6年后他个人及丽新公司持有亚视股权67.5%，成为最大股东。其后的十余年，林伯在商场并不顺利，投资亚视10亿化为乌有，97年曾因牵涉台湾征地案官非滞留台北一年多，96年高价购入富丽华酒店又因金融风暴而大幅贬值。尽管饱经挫折，但林伯仍然屹立不倒，其坚韧的毅力备受港人称道。
永不言休「工作排到十年后」
有人问过林伯，营营役役大半个世纪，可有退休计划以享清福？林伯如此回答：「我问你，退休之后做甚么？……我现在做的工作，都铺排到十年后了。我没有想过退休……郁唔到就等于是个废人。」事业、工作已成为他生命的一部分，事必躬亲，永不言休，即使年过90了，依然天天埋首案头，处理公务。
林伯的成功之道，绝对没有「侥幸」两字。有人评价林伯是一位具有卓越战略眼光的经营者，在经营中又巧于用「钻缝术」。事业有成的林伯也是一个出名的「良心」雇主，即使遭遇困难之时，待员工仍一片真诚。如亚视曾连年亏损，但林伯从不欠薪。
乐善好施 坚持回馈社会
林伯另一令人称道之处，是对国家的一番热诚。他除身兼广州、汕头、厦门及中山四个城市的荣誉市民外，也是港事顾问、特区筹委会委员之一，香港明天更好基金创会成员之一。林伯更是知名的慈善家，每年捐出巨款予各慈善机构，「努力赚钱应该，但也要对社会有贡献」，简单的一句话，林伯坚持了一生。
百亿江山终归林建岳
随着富有传奇色彩，一生大起大落的丽新集团主席兼创办人林百欣于昨日仙游，其百亿丽新集团王国，将正式由次子林建岳接掌，主政上市旗舰丽新国际；而长子林建名则会继续协助弟弟林建岳打理鳄鱼恤业务。至于林伯养子林建康则负责内地地产业务的丽丰控股。人称岳少的林建岳，近年积极拓展娱乐事业，其寰亚娱乐亦已成为新加坡上市公司。
享年93岁的丽新集团创办人兼主席林百欣于02年接受本报记者访问时便点名指出，「林建岳是最了解上市公司业务运作的人」，看得出他早有让林建岳接班的想法。
钦点次子岳少执帅印
去年12月14日，林百欣正式将其持有的丽新系控股公司丽新国际全部共33.73%股权以馈赠形式赠予妻子余宝珠及儿子林建岳，各占一半，令林建岳持有丽国的股权由7.71%增至24.575%，而余宝珠持有丽国的股份由0.25%增至17.25%。以昨日收市价计，4间公司市值约66.025亿元，比去年12月18日公布获馈赠股份时的市值近29亿元升值127.6%。其主因是集团旗下的丰德丽正计划斥资20亿元进军澳门酒店业及增持澳门地产项目楼面，顿时成为澳门概念股而令股价大升。连同林百欣私人物业资产分配，估计林建岳手持的资产超过100亿元。
金融风暴丽展险没顶
早年以做成衣生意起家的林百欣，60年代斥资13亿元收购上市公司鳄鱼恤的大部分股权，其后又进军地产，88年入股亚视。同期，丽新集团在林百欣次子林建岳的推动下，收购了酒店管理公司景耀国际有限公司，其后易名丽新酒店，现已私有化。
根据亚洲电视午间新闻的报道，林百欣去世时十分安祥，终年93岁。亚洲电视董事局对他的去世表示哀伤，并代表亚洲电视对林百欣家人致以深切问候。
香港文汇报今日刊发专文予以报道，文章称，商界奇人林百欣昨日以九十三高龄辞世。他的传奇一生，可说是一部香港七八十年来的发展史。细数林伯的人生历程，人们可以看到他在本港工业尤其是制衣业界叱风云的精彩一页；看到了他对亚洲电视的情深义重、不离不弃；看到了他为支持家乡经济发展、社会稳定的尽心尽力；看到了他为国家兴盛，力促改革开放的不遗余力；也看到了老人虽经多番挫折，但仍屹立不倒的坚毅背影。「纺织界巨人」、「媒体大亨」、「商界闻人」、「大慈善家」……每一个尊称，都倾诉着人们对林伯白手兴家，乐于助人，创建百亿事业王国的敬佩之情。
祖籍广东潮阳的林百欣，在1914年12月初五出生，林家共有13名兄弟姐妹，他排行第九，为二奶所出。其父林献之，是汕头的厂商兼银行家，抗战前在香港开过米铺及糖冬瓜厂。
月薪三元 花一元学英文
虽生于大富之家，林百欣并没有想过当一名二世祖。他曾向传媒忆述，他第一件事就是学煲茶，当时的月薪只有三元，但他仍每月依时寄钱给生母，又每月花一元多学英文，其后他又遵从父亲要求转读中文。
成衣业起家 人称「非洲王」
在抗战前，刚二十岁出头的林百欣有一天行过九龙城，见一个乡里拿着一大包绣花女仔衫，心生一计，打本让乡里做家庭式手作，他自己四出推销，其后更到几间专门从事出口东南亚贸易公司谈合作，双方一拍即合，订单不断。其后林伯索性自己开了一间名叫成福的制衣厂从事制衣。由于早年他经营的制衣厂，多接来自非洲的订单，当时行内人都称他为「非洲王」。后来他收购「鳄鱼恤」，更成为全球最著名的服装品牌之一。
七分靠打拚 「留三成后路」
「三分天注定，七分靠打拚，爱拚才会赢」，是他辛勤耕耘一生的写照。一提「爱拚才会赢」这一人生的座右铭，林伯总是乐不可支：「是呀，爱拚才会赢，我是拚的。但我做生意从来不去到十足，会留番三成后路。」
后来，林伯涉足香港地产业，尤其是80年代，地产业成为林百欣的丽新集团的主要支柱。80年代后期，林伯更以家族名义向购入亚洲电视超过3成的股权，成为亚视董事局主席，6年后他个人及丽新公司持有亚视股权67.5%，成为最大股东。其后的十余年，林伯在商场并不顺利，投资亚视10亿化为乌有，97年曾因牵涉台湾征地案官非滞留台北一年多，96年高价购入富丽华酒店又因金融风暴而大幅贬值。尽管饱经挫折，但林伯仍然屹立不倒，其坚韧的毅力备受港人称道。
永不言休「工作排到十年后」
有人问过林伯，营营役役大半个世纪，可有退休计划以享清福？林伯如此回答：「我问你，退休之后做甚么？……我现在做的工作，都铺排到十年后了。我没有想过退休……郁唔到就等于是个废人。」事业、工作已成为他生命的一部分，事必躬亲，永不言休，即使年过90了，依然天天埋首案头，处理公务。
林伯的成功之道，绝对没有「侥幸」两字。有人评价林伯是一位具有卓越战略眼光的经营者，在经营中又巧于用「钻缝术」。事业有成的林伯也是一个出名的「良心」雇主，即使遭遇困难之时，待员工仍一片真诚。如亚视曾连年亏损，但林伯从不欠薪。
乐善好施 坚持回馈社会
林伯另一令人称道之处，是对国家的一番热诚。他除身兼广州、汕头、厦门及中山四个城市的荣誉市民外，也是港事顾问、特区筹委会委员之一，香港明天更好基金创会成员之一。林伯更是知名的慈善家，每年捐出巨款予各慈善机构，「努力赚钱应该，但也要对社会有贡献」，简单的一句话，林伯坚持了一生。
百亿江山终归林建岳
随着富有传奇色彩，一生大起大落的丽新集团主席兼创办人林百欣于昨日仙游，其百亿丽新集团王国，将正式由次子林建岳接掌，主政上市旗舰丽新国际；而长子林建名则会继续协助弟弟林建岳打理鳄鱼恤业务。至于林伯养子林建康则负责内地地产业务的丽丰控股。人称岳少的林建岳，近年积极拓展娱乐事业，其寰亚娱乐亦已成为新加坡上市公司。
享年93岁的丽新集团创办人兼主席林百欣于02年接受本报记者访问时便点名指出，「林建岳是最了解上市公司业务运作的人」，看得出他早有让林建岳接班的想法。
钦点次子岳少执帅印
去年12月14日，林百欣正式将其持有的丽新系控股公司丽新国际全部共33.73%股权以馈赠形式赠予妻子余宝珠及儿子林建岳，各占一半，令林建岳持有丽国的股权由7.71%增至24.575%，而余宝珠持有丽国的股份由0.25%增至17.25%。以昨日收市价计，4间公司市值约66.025亿元，比去年12月18日公布获馈赠股份时的市值近29亿元升值127.6%。其主因是集团旗下的丰德丽正计划斥资20亿元进军澳门酒店业及增持澳门地产项目楼面，顿时成为澳门概念股而令股价大升。连同林百欣私人物业资产分配，估计林建岳手持的资产超过100亿元。
金融风暴丽展险没顶
早年以做成衣生意起家的林百欣，60年代斥资13亿元收购上市公司鳄鱼恤的大部分股权，其后又进军地产，88年入股亚视。同期，丽新集团在林百欣次子林建岳的推动下，收购了酒店管理公司景耀国际有限公司，其后易名丽新酒店，现已私有化。
赵世曾风流成性
“金大班”姚炜的前夫赵世曾（67岁）获称为香港第一玩家。
自称玩过逾万女人
他自称玩过的女人逾万，而且还是经过筛选的，如果不筛选更是不止这个数目。而他真正爱过的女人更多达数十人。
另外，他还扬言要把20岁的儿子赵式浩栽培成玩家接班人，成为全港最棒的泡妞高手。
赵给20岁儿子的泡妞锦囊是：千万不好沉迷一个女人和千万不好只搞一个女人。
赵世曾是香港船王赵从衍的三公子，弟弟赵世光是邵氏前影星何的丈夫。
70岁时想添丁
赵世曾与“金大班”姚炜的恋情轰动一时，两人育有一女式芝（25岁）。分手后，赵与港姐盈盈在一起，生了次子式浩（20岁）；与洋女模Terri Holiday生下幼子式正（10岁）。目前，他与中国女子Wendy同居，并且准备在70岁再博一子。
他接受《东周刊》的专访时谈到当玩家的条件：让女人主动黏上来，不是见到美女就追。
"在情场上，我是逢赌必赢。”
他尤其乐道的是，每个女人被他甩了之后，都不会要生要死。
他说：“女人闹自杀，是男人处事不当，他们应该来请教我。跟女人分手，要一步一步来，不是今天说要分手就马上分手，这样她们当然要跳楼啦！”
他的秘诀是，逐日减少见面次数，从一周见7天到4天，再减到2天、1天，一个月一两次，对方就会慢慢明白，知道是时候自己‘走路’了。”
他说，美女今天分手后，明天又可以找到新欢；没人要的女人，被甩了也会自己找条“生路”的。
至于同居女友，他说，玩腻了要马上给对方另找住处，不要藕断丝连。
赵世曾：女人拖越久 就越不值钱
赵世曾的玩女“哲学”是：不能久拖。
他说：“女人拖越久就越不值钱，对她反而不好。一个女子的青春和外貌就是她的本钱，女子通常会想要跟男人一辈子，如果你不想却又死硬拖住她，对她是很不公道的。”
所以，他的原则是：如果觉得没有长远的计划，就应该散。
“我就常跟分手的女朋友说：‘大家没可能发展下去，再拖，你就会损失你的本钱了’。”
他还说，女人烦不烦，主导权完全在男人手中，随时可以叫一个女人千依百顺。
“不能不宠女人，但，也不能一味的宠，女人乱发脾气是男人乱宠出来的，有时要懂得宠坏女人，有时也要表明立场。”
当然，男人也要能“一点就通”，他举例，当女人说：“我放假很有空”又或者女星说：“我什么时候不用拍戏”，就要明白她们的意思，立即‘跟进’。
三四十岁时 最爱泡明星
赵世曾坦白告诉记者，他在三四十岁的时候，最爱泡女明星和美后。而与他拍拖的女星和美后包括盈盈、姚炜、方怡珍、陈凤芝和乐蓓等。
“老实说，年轻的时候跟我在一起的全是女明星，都是她们自己黏过来的，是觉得我对她们的娱乐事业有帮助，有多些宣传作用，我可以说是被她们利用，哈哈哈...”
他还自爆，三四十岁时，是邵逸夫的家中常客，整天在邵的住家舞会中泡到不少女明星。
“现在年纪大了，觉得一个人开心不可以这么高调，反正我已经够多人认识了，再泡女明星还得了？岂不是火上加油？真的会烧死自己的。”
所以，现在，他会低调去泡，不再只玩女星和美后。他不在乎被人指风流成性，反而还以身为香港第一玩家为荣。
儿会泡妞 他感高兴
赵世曾现在最感“欣慰’的是，20岁的儿子式浩一天可以泡六七个女人，果真是“虎父无犬子”。
他说，儿子从国外回来，一天可以约会六七个女人，早、午、晚餐和下午茶可以拖不同女子。
“这个儿子真是厉害啊！比我十多岁时还行，他还说学校的美女很多，也喜欢金发美女，叫我教他两招泡妞秘诀。”
“10岁的小儿子（式正）都会说以后要有两个女人，让她们互相竞争。”他开心地说。
姚炜：玩过逾万女人 这样很光荣吗？
对于赵世曾说他玩过的女人过万，前妻“金大班”姚炜没好气地说：“他说玩过的女人过万？我想问普罗大众，这样很光荣吗？”
她停了一会，激动地说：“我简直不想再提这个人，以他的学识（大学生）和家世（船王后代及地产闻人），他可以做好多有益的事，贡献社会。”
她过后唉叹一声，不愿再说下去。
自称玩过逾万女人
他自称玩过的女人逾万，而且还是经过筛选的，如果不筛选更是不止这个数目。而他真正爱过的女人更多达数十人。
另外，他还扬言要把20岁的儿子赵式浩栽培成玩家接班人，成为全港最棒的泡妞高手。
赵给20岁儿子的泡妞锦囊是：千万不好沉迷一个女人和千万不好只搞一个女人。
赵世曾是香港船王赵从衍的三公子，弟弟赵世光是邵氏前影星何的丈夫。
70岁时想添丁
赵世曾与“金大班”姚炜的恋情轰动一时，两人育有一女式芝（25岁）。分手后，赵与港姐盈盈在一起，生了次子式浩（20岁）；与洋女模Terri Holiday生下幼子式正（10岁）。目前，他与中国女子Wendy同居，并且准备在70岁再博一子。
他接受《东周刊》的专访时谈到当玩家的条件：让女人主动黏上来，不是见到美女就追。
"在情场上，我是逢赌必赢。”
他尤其乐道的是，每个女人被他甩了之后，都不会要生要死。
他说：“女人闹自杀，是男人处事不当，他们应该来请教我。跟女人分手，要一步一步来，不是今天说要分手就马上分手，这样她们当然要跳楼啦！”
他的秘诀是，逐日减少见面次数，从一周见7天到4天，再减到2天、1天，一个月一两次，对方就会慢慢明白，知道是时候自己‘走路’了。”
他说，美女今天分手后，明天又可以找到新欢；没人要的女人，被甩了也会自己找条“生路”的。
至于同居女友，他说，玩腻了要马上给对方另找住处，不要藕断丝连。
赵世曾：女人拖越久 就越不值钱
赵世曾的玩女“哲学”是：不能久拖。
他说：“女人拖越久就越不值钱，对她反而不好。一个女子的青春和外貌就是她的本钱，女子通常会想要跟男人一辈子，如果你不想却又死硬拖住她，对她是很不公道的。”
所以，他的原则是：如果觉得没有长远的计划，就应该散。
“我就常跟分手的女朋友说：‘大家没可能发展下去，再拖，你就会损失你的本钱了’。”
他还说，女人烦不烦，主导权完全在男人手中，随时可以叫一个女人千依百顺。
“不能不宠女人，但，也不能一味的宠，女人乱发脾气是男人乱宠出来的，有时要懂得宠坏女人，有时也要表明立场。”
当然，男人也要能“一点就通”，他举例，当女人说：“我放假很有空”又或者女星说：“我什么时候不用拍戏”，就要明白她们的意思，立即‘跟进’。
三四十岁时 最爱泡明星
赵世曾坦白告诉记者，他在三四十岁的时候，最爱泡女明星和美后。而与他拍拖的女星和美后包括盈盈、姚炜、方怡珍、陈凤芝和乐蓓等。
“老实说，年轻的时候跟我在一起的全是女明星，都是她们自己黏过来的，是觉得我对她们的娱乐事业有帮助，有多些宣传作用，我可以说是被她们利用，哈哈哈...”
他还自爆，三四十岁时，是邵逸夫的家中常客，整天在邵的住家舞会中泡到不少女明星。
“现在年纪大了，觉得一个人开心不可以这么高调，反正我已经够多人认识了，再泡女明星还得了？岂不是火上加油？真的会烧死自己的。”
所以，现在，他会低调去泡，不再只玩女星和美后。他不在乎被人指风流成性，反而还以身为香港第一玩家为荣。
儿会泡妞 他感高兴
赵世曾现在最感“欣慰’的是，20岁的儿子式浩一天可以泡六七个女人，果真是“虎父无犬子”。
他说，儿子从国外回来，一天可以约会六七个女人，早、午、晚餐和下午茶可以拖不同女子。
“这个儿子真是厉害啊！比我十多岁时还行，他还说学校的美女很多，也喜欢金发美女，叫我教他两招泡妞秘诀。”
“10岁的小儿子（式正）都会说以后要有两个女人，让她们互相竞争。”他开心地说。
姚炜：玩过逾万女人 这样很光荣吗？
对于赵世曾说他玩过的女人过万，前妻“金大班”姚炜没好气地说：“他说玩过的女人过万？我想问普罗大众，这样很光荣吗？”
她停了一会，激动地说：“我简直不想再提这个人，以他的学识（大学生）和家世（船王后代及地产闻人），他可以做好多有益的事，贡献社会。”
她过后唉叹一声，不愿再说下去。
林百欣一生勤奋 人生字典没有休息二字
林百欣虽然儿孙满堂，但他天生就是勤劳的人，活到92岁（去年）依然每天返工10小时以上，由朝9到晚上7时半，多年来风雨不改，在他的人生字典中，从没有“休息”两个字，但毕竟强人也好，也敌不过岁月而终要“休息”了。
午餐爱吃鱼柳包
林百欣的逸事中，最为人津津乐道的，必然是他对鱼柳包的专一与钟情，虽然他家财万贯，但每天的午餐都只爱吃鱼柳包。一向对大家都是笑容满面的林伯，自从淡出亚视后，他已很少接受传媒访问，不过去年4月底，罗霖为新城电台担任节目主持时，特地邀请林百欣接受访问，因听到是亚姐的关系，林百欣很爽快答允。想不到去年还大谈自己养生之道与人生目标的林百欣，进医院后病情急转直下，实在令人唏嘘。
爱养马“飞跃舞士”名利双收
而在这段最后的访问中，林百欣虽已92高龄，但他坚持永不言休，数十年来都不让自己休息，因为他的人生座右铭就是：“凡事靠自己，一个男人不勤力是不可以的，也绝不能讲放弃，要不断动脑子思考，人家才会给你钱。”林伯更提到他的养生之道，就是数十年来每早6时起身，做50分钟运动才上班，午餐就吃鱼柳包。他说以前做银行会计，工资只有3元，但依然是早上6时起，吃碗白粥就去中山公园学毛笔字才上班。
林百欣是工作狂，所以兴趣不多，即使连儿子林建岳投资多部电影，他都说没有兴趣看，宁愿看书，他还有另一兴趣就是赌马，并且养过多匹马.
午餐爱吃鱼柳包
林百欣的逸事中，最为人津津乐道的，必然是他对鱼柳包的专一与钟情，虽然他家财万贯，但每天的午餐都只爱吃鱼柳包。一向对大家都是笑容满面的林伯，自从淡出亚视后，他已很少接受传媒访问，不过去年4月底，罗霖为新城电台担任节目主持时，特地邀请林百欣接受访问，因听到是亚姐的关系，林百欣很爽快答允。想不到去年还大谈自己养生之道与人生目标的林百欣，进医院后病情急转直下，实在令人唏嘘。
爱养马“飞跃舞士”名利双收
而在这段最后的访问中，林百欣虽已92高龄，但他坚持永不言休，数十年来都不让自己休息，因为他的人生座右铭就是：“凡事靠自己，一个男人不勤力是不可以的，也绝不能讲放弃，要不断动脑子思考，人家才会给你钱。”林伯更提到他的养生之道，就是数十年来每早6时起身，做50分钟运动才上班，午餐就吃鱼柳包。他说以前做银行会计，工资只有3元，但依然是早上6时起，吃碗白粥就去中山公园学毛笔字才上班。
林百欣是工作狂，所以兴趣不多，即使连儿子林建岳投资多部电影，他都说没有兴趣看，宁愿看书，他还有另一兴趣就是赌马，并且养过多匹马.
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
Oxidizing Food
Answer Yes or No to the following:
Raw fruits and vegetables are alkaline – yes?
Meat and milk are acid – yes?
Eat 80% alkaline foods – yes?
If you answered Yes to any one, you are wrong!
Acid And Alkaline Foods
For more than a century scientists have tested a food for its alkaline or acid content by burning that food down to its ashes, its inorganic minerals. Minerals are teeny rocks, all that’s left after a fire, which we see as ash. They pour these ashes into pure water and test the solution to see if the ashes are more acid, or alkaline.
Some minerals are alkaline, like sodium, potassium, calcium, magnesium, iron and silicon. Others are acid, such as sulfur, phosphorus, chlorine and iodine. So if a food has more acid minerals, its ash will test acidic, and a food chart will list that food as "acid."
If a food has more alkaline minerals – like raw fruits and vegetables – we used to believe its alkaline-forming, that it leaves more alkaline minerals in our blood after digestion. Same for acid foods such as meat and milk, we thought they left an acid ash in our blood.
Do You Have a Fire Inside You?
Just one error here, everyone assumed our digestive systems are burning food down or oxidizing it perfectly, one hundred percent. That when our digestive and energy systems are finished with a food, there’s nothing but ashes (minerals) left.
For most of us, that’s simply not true. We don’t have little fires inside us! We have metabolic pathways where a gazillion things are gawky. That’s “clumsy and bumbling along.”
First we gulp our food and don’t chew it to a liquid – drink your food and chew your drinks! From there it’s an endless sea of problems right through our digestive tract, such as low HCL (hydrochloric acid) in our stomach after age 40, or collapsed intestinal villi from a lifetime of grains – collapsed villi can’t absorb food, so perfectly good food passes on to your colon and out into the toilet.
Sang Whang writes in Reverse Aging © 2001:
“Many diet books contain tables with acid forming foods and alkaline forming foods.”
“The big assumption made here is that the food will be completely oxidized (metabolized) by the cells; therefore, the acidity or alkalinity of the food residue (ash) is exclusively determined by these inorganic minerals.”
“Unfortunately, 97% of all foods (the organic elements of carbon, nitrogen, hydrogen, oxygen) do not burn completely and they leave organic acidic waste products.”
“For this reason, even if you eat nothing but alkaline forming foods, your urine will be acidic and so will your perspiration.”
What’s Your Dominant Metabolic System?
For argument’s sake, let’s say we DO digest our food perfectly, then are raw fruits and vegetables alkaline? Meat and milk acid?
Nope, wrong again. Dr. Gabriel Cousens at the Tree of Life Rejuvenation Center in Arizona is proving that some people can eat raw foods and have excess acid in their blood afterwards. He tests how alkaline or acid his patient’s blood is after a meal (measures the change in their blood pH).
He reports in his book Conscious Eating © 2000:
“The blood pH tests are totally different than what is taught in medical schools and in most of the naturopathic literature ... The research shows that food behaves differently in people ... it is the dominant metabolic system of that person which determines whether a nutrient will react in an acid or alkaline way in the body.”
What is a metabolic system? It is the organ and pathways that take care of a specific function, e.g. our heart and circulatory system, our lungs and pulmonary system.
Our Oxidative System is in every little cell. It plucks atoms from the food we eat, to make molecules of energy called ATP.
60% Are Oxidative-Dominant
Dr. Cousens writes: “The oxidative system is dominant in approximately 60% of the population ... fruits and vegetables in the oxidative-dominant system will cause the blood to move to the acid side.”
Wow, for the 60% of us who are oxidative-dominant, raw foods will acidify us! David Wolfe in The Sunfood Diet Success System prints a chart showing most fruits to be slightly acid-forming.
But Cousens’ clinical work shows that this is true only when your oxidative system dominates over your other systems. We could be fast oxidizers or slow oxidizers.
Slow Oxidizers
Fast Oxidizers
high-carbohydrate foods like fruits and grains make you feel good emotionally and energetically
high-carbohydrate foods don’t satisfy you or they make you feel worse
you love sweets and need sweet with a meal to feel satisfied
you prefer fatty foods over sweet – you don’t feel good after fruit and candy
excess fatty foods (avocados, nut butters) or high-protein foods (beans, nuts, flesh) make you feel lethargic and sleepy
a high-protein or fatty meal (like seed milk) gives you energy and a feeling of well-being
perhaps you grew up with an aversion to flesh foods
you crave flesh foods
you don’t like sour foods like lemons
you like sour and salty foods
you can skip meals and maintain energy
you have a strong appetite for each meal
you have trouble falling asleep if you eat too late
eating before sleep helps you to sleep through the night
you can handle fasting without dreadful shakiness or headaches
you don’t enjoy fasting, you feel jittery, weak and hungry
Click through to next page for best food to eat if you’re slow or fast oxidizer
How an Ionizer-Filter Helps
Some of us are mid-range, neither fast nor slow oxidizers. As we get healthier, we shift toward a mixed oxidizer. Yet still for most of us our oxidative system remains dominant among all our metabolic systems. This means we need to take in more alkaline minerals if we’re a raw-fooder eating fruits and vegetables.
This is why I chose the Jupiter Melody alkaline water filter as my filter of choice. It’s obvious to me I’m oxidative-dominant. I’m a slow oxidizer. I need more carbohydrates in my diet. I do well on lots of fruit and raw grain crackers.
Same with fast oxidizers, and anyone whose oxidative system is dominant – it’s likely you’ll feel a difference in your energy and overall sense of well-being, when you drink alkaline water.
If you eat meat or cooked food, then for you alkaline water will quench all those free radicals – see Quench Free Radicals.
Biochemical Individuality
We are each biochemically unique. No two faces are the same and no two humans work the same inside. This is so clear when it comes to our food choices.
Respecting your neighbor’s food likes and dislikes is Step Four of the 12 Steps to Raw Foods by Victoria Boutenko: “I shall live in harmony with people who eat cooked food” [cooked includes flesh such as chicken, meat, fish].
Step Two is: “I believe that live vegan food is the most natural diet for a human being.” [vegan is non-dairy vegetarian]
One reason we crave different foods is because our oxidative system is converting food into energy at different speeds.
Our oxidative system is the metabolic pathway in each and every cell whereby proteins, fats and sugars from food, are converted into ATP and heat.
ATP is our gasoline, the molecule that provides energy to enzymes when they need a little “push” to do their work. Every cell has about two million ATP molecules in use every minute, providing energy for its chemical reactions.
Raw fruits and vegetables are alkaline – yes?
Meat and milk are acid – yes?
Eat 80% alkaline foods – yes?
If you answered Yes to any one, you are wrong!
Acid And Alkaline Foods
For more than a century scientists have tested a food for its alkaline or acid content by burning that food down to its ashes, its inorganic minerals. Minerals are teeny rocks, all that’s left after a fire, which we see as ash. They pour these ashes into pure water and test the solution to see if the ashes are more acid, or alkaline.
Some minerals are alkaline, like sodium, potassium, calcium, magnesium, iron and silicon. Others are acid, such as sulfur, phosphorus, chlorine and iodine. So if a food has more acid minerals, its ash will test acidic, and a food chart will list that food as "acid."
If a food has more alkaline minerals – like raw fruits and vegetables – we used to believe its alkaline-forming, that it leaves more alkaline minerals in our blood after digestion. Same for acid foods such as meat and milk, we thought they left an acid ash in our blood.
Do You Have a Fire Inside You?
Just one error here, everyone assumed our digestive systems are burning food down or oxidizing it perfectly, one hundred percent. That when our digestive and energy systems are finished with a food, there’s nothing but ashes (minerals) left.
For most of us, that’s simply not true. We don’t have little fires inside us! We have metabolic pathways where a gazillion things are gawky. That’s “clumsy and bumbling along.”
First we gulp our food and don’t chew it to a liquid – drink your food and chew your drinks! From there it’s an endless sea of problems right through our digestive tract, such as low HCL (hydrochloric acid) in our stomach after age 40, or collapsed intestinal villi from a lifetime of grains – collapsed villi can’t absorb food, so perfectly good food passes on to your colon and out into the toilet.
Sang Whang writes in Reverse Aging © 2001:
“Many diet books contain tables with acid forming foods and alkaline forming foods.”
“The big assumption made here is that the food will be completely oxidized (metabolized) by the cells; therefore, the acidity or alkalinity of the food residue (ash) is exclusively determined by these inorganic minerals.”
“Unfortunately, 97% of all foods (the organic elements of carbon, nitrogen, hydrogen, oxygen) do not burn completely and they leave organic acidic waste products.”
“For this reason, even if you eat nothing but alkaline forming foods, your urine will be acidic and so will your perspiration.”
What’s Your Dominant Metabolic System?
For argument’s sake, let’s say we DO digest our food perfectly, then are raw fruits and vegetables alkaline? Meat and milk acid?
Nope, wrong again. Dr. Gabriel Cousens at the Tree of Life Rejuvenation Center in Arizona is proving that some people can eat raw foods and have excess acid in their blood afterwards. He tests how alkaline or acid his patient’s blood is after a meal (measures the change in their blood pH).
He reports in his book Conscious Eating © 2000:
“The blood pH tests are totally different than what is taught in medical schools and in most of the naturopathic literature ... The research shows that food behaves differently in people ... it is the dominant metabolic system of that person which determines whether a nutrient will react in an acid or alkaline way in the body.”
What is a metabolic system? It is the organ and pathways that take care of a specific function, e.g. our heart and circulatory system, our lungs and pulmonary system.
Our Oxidative System is in every little cell. It plucks atoms from the food we eat, to make molecules of energy called ATP.
60% Are Oxidative-Dominant
Dr. Cousens writes: “The oxidative system is dominant in approximately 60% of the population ... fruits and vegetables in the oxidative-dominant system will cause the blood to move to the acid side.”
Wow, for the 60% of us who are oxidative-dominant, raw foods will acidify us! David Wolfe in The Sunfood Diet Success System prints a chart showing most fruits to be slightly acid-forming.
But Cousens’ clinical work shows that this is true only when your oxidative system dominates over your other systems. We could be fast oxidizers or slow oxidizers.
Slow Oxidizers
Fast Oxidizers
high-carbohydrate foods like fruits and grains make you feel good emotionally and energetically
high-carbohydrate foods don’t satisfy you or they make you feel worse
you love sweets and need sweet with a meal to feel satisfied
you prefer fatty foods over sweet – you don’t feel good after fruit and candy
excess fatty foods (avocados, nut butters) or high-protein foods (beans, nuts, flesh) make you feel lethargic and sleepy
a high-protein or fatty meal (like seed milk) gives you energy and a feeling of well-being
perhaps you grew up with an aversion to flesh foods
you crave flesh foods
you don’t like sour foods like lemons
you like sour and salty foods
you can skip meals and maintain energy
you have a strong appetite for each meal
you have trouble falling asleep if you eat too late
eating before sleep helps you to sleep through the night
you can handle fasting without dreadful shakiness or headaches
you don’t enjoy fasting, you feel jittery, weak and hungry
Click through to next page for best food to eat if you’re slow or fast oxidizer
How an Ionizer-Filter Helps
Some of us are mid-range, neither fast nor slow oxidizers. As we get healthier, we shift toward a mixed oxidizer. Yet still for most of us our oxidative system remains dominant among all our metabolic systems. This means we need to take in more alkaline minerals if we’re a raw-fooder eating fruits and vegetables.
This is why I chose the Jupiter Melody alkaline water filter as my filter of choice. It’s obvious to me I’m oxidative-dominant. I’m a slow oxidizer. I need more carbohydrates in my diet. I do well on lots of fruit and raw grain crackers.
Same with fast oxidizers, and anyone whose oxidative system is dominant – it’s likely you’ll feel a difference in your energy and overall sense of well-being, when you drink alkaline water.
If you eat meat or cooked food, then for you alkaline water will quench all those free radicals – see Quench Free Radicals.
Biochemical Individuality
We are each biochemically unique. No two faces are the same and no two humans work the same inside. This is so clear when it comes to our food choices.
Respecting your neighbor’s food likes and dislikes is Step Four of the 12 Steps to Raw Foods by Victoria Boutenko: “I shall live in harmony with people who eat cooked food” [cooked includes flesh such as chicken, meat, fish].
Step Two is: “I believe that live vegan food is the most natural diet for a human being.” [vegan is non-dairy vegetarian]
One reason we crave different foods is because our oxidative system is converting food into energy at different speeds.
Our oxidative system is the metabolic pathway in each and every cell whereby proteins, fats and sugars from food, are converted into ATP and heat.
ATP is our gasoline, the molecule that provides energy to enzymes when they need a little “push” to do their work. Every cell has about two million ATP molecules in use every minute, providing energy for its chemical reactions.
Acid/Alkaline Theory of Disease Is Nonsense
Gabe Mirkin, M.D.
Have you seen advertisements for products such as coral calcium or alkaline water that are supposed to neutralize acid in your bloodstream? Taking calcium or drinking alkaline water does not affect blood acidity. Anyone who tells you that certain foods or supplements make your stomach or blood acidic does not understand nutrition.
You should not believe that it matters whether foods are acidic or alkaline, because no foods change the acidity of anything in your body except your urine. Your stomach is so acidic that no food can change its acidity. Citrus fruits, vinegar, and vitamins such as ascorbic acid or folic acid do not change the acidity of your stomach or your bloodstream. An entire bottle of calcium pills or antacids would not change the acidity of your stomach for more than a few minutes.
All foods that leave your stomach are acidic. Then they enter your intestines where secretions from your pancreas neutralize the stomach acids. So no matter what you eat, the food in stomach is acidic and the food in the intestines is alkaline.
You cannot change the acidity of any part of your body except your urine. Your bloodstream and organs control acidity in a very narrow range. Anything that changed acidity in your body would make you very sick and could even kill you. Promoters of these products claim that cancer cells cannot live in an alkaline environment and that is true, but neither can any of the other cells in your body.
All chemical reactions in your body are started by chemicals called enzymes. For example, if you convert chemical A to chemical B and release energy, enzymes must start these reactions. All enzymes function in a very narrow range of acidity. (The degree of acidity or alkalinity is expressed as "pH."). If your blood changes its acidity or alkalinity for any reason, it is quickly changed back to the normal pH or these enzymes would not function and the necessary chemical reactions would not proceed in your body.
For example, when you hold your breath, carbon dioxide accumulates in your bloodstream very rapidly and your blood turns acidic, and you will become uncomfortable or even pass out. This forces you to start breathing again immediately, and the pH returns to normal. If your kidneys are damaged and cannot regulate the acidity of your bloodstream, chemical reactions stop, poisons accumulate in your bloodstream, and you can die.
Certain foods can leave end-products called ash that can make your urine acid or alkaline, but urine is the only body fluid that can have its acidity changed by food or supplements. ALKALINE-ASH FOODS include fresh fruit and raw vegetables. ACID-ASH FOODS include ALL ANIMAL PRODUCTS, whole grains, beans and other seeds. These foods can change the acidity of your urine, but that's irrelevant since your urine is contained in your bladder and does not affect the pH of any other part of your body.
When you take in more protein than your body needs, your body cannot store it, so the excess amino acids are converted to organic acids that would acidify your blood. But your blood never becomes acidic because as soon as the proteins are converted to organic acids, calcium leaves your bones to neutralize the acid and prevent any change in pH. Because of this, many scientists think that taking in too much protein may weaken bones to cause osteoporosis.
Cranberries have been shown to help prevent recurrent urinary tract infections, but not because of their acidity. They contain chemicals that prevent bacteria from sticking to urinary tract cells.
Taking calcium supplements or drinking alkaline water will not change the pH of your blood. If you hear someone say that your body is too acidic and you should use their product to make it more alkaline, you would be wise not to believe anything else the person tells you.
Have you seen advertisements for products such as coral calcium or alkaline water that are supposed to neutralize acid in your bloodstream? Taking calcium or drinking alkaline water does not affect blood acidity. Anyone who tells you that certain foods or supplements make your stomach or blood acidic does not understand nutrition.
You should not believe that it matters whether foods are acidic or alkaline, because no foods change the acidity of anything in your body except your urine. Your stomach is so acidic that no food can change its acidity. Citrus fruits, vinegar, and vitamins such as ascorbic acid or folic acid do not change the acidity of your stomach or your bloodstream. An entire bottle of calcium pills or antacids would not change the acidity of your stomach for more than a few minutes.
All foods that leave your stomach are acidic. Then they enter your intestines where secretions from your pancreas neutralize the stomach acids. So no matter what you eat, the food in stomach is acidic and the food in the intestines is alkaline.
You cannot change the acidity of any part of your body except your urine. Your bloodstream and organs control acidity in a very narrow range. Anything that changed acidity in your body would make you very sick and could even kill you. Promoters of these products claim that cancer cells cannot live in an alkaline environment and that is true, but neither can any of the other cells in your body.
All chemical reactions in your body are started by chemicals called enzymes. For example, if you convert chemical A to chemical B and release energy, enzymes must start these reactions. All enzymes function in a very narrow range of acidity. (The degree of acidity or alkalinity is expressed as "pH."). If your blood changes its acidity or alkalinity for any reason, it is quickly changed back to the normal pH or these enzymes would not function and the necessary chemical reactions would not proceed in your body.
For example, when you hold your breath, carbon dioxide accumulates in your bloodstream very rapidly and your blood turns acidic, and you will become uncomfortable or even pass out. This forces you to start breathing again immediately, and the pH returns to normal. If your kidneys are damaged and cannot regulate the acidity of your bloodstream, chemical reactions stop, poisons accumulate in your bloodstream, and you can die.
Certain foods can leave end-products called ash that can make your urine acid or alkaline, but urine is the only body fluid that can have its acidity changed by food or supplements. ALKALINE-ASH FOODS include fresh fruit and raw vegetables. ACID-ASH FOODS include ALL ANIMAL PRODUCTS, whole grains, beans and other seeds. These foods can change the acidity of your urine, but that's irrelevant since your urine is contained in your bladder and does not affect the pH of any other part of your body.
When you take in more protein than your body needs, your body cannot store it, so the excess amino acids are converted to organic acids that would acidify your blood. But your blood never becomes acidic because as soon as the proteins are converted to organic acids, calcium leaves your bones to neutralize the acid and prevent any change in pH. Because of this, many scientists think that taking in too much protein may weaken bones to cause osteoporosis.
Cranberries have been shown to help prevent recurrent urinary tract infections, but not because of their acidity. They contain chemicals that prevent bacteria from sticking to urinary tract cells.
Taking calcium supplements or drinking alkaline water will not change the pH of your blood. If you hear someone say that your body is too acidic and you should use their product to make it more alkaline, you would be wise not to believe anything else the person tells you.
Acidity - Alkalinity
How do they affect human health?
What are Acidity and Alkalinity how do they affect human health?
This subject is of vital importance!
Scientists report that over 150 degenerative diseases are caused by high acid levels in the body. Knowing this fact, we should begin by understanding what acidity and alkalinity are and how they relate to our health.
The pH scale ranges from 0 to 14, with 0 being extremely acidic, 14 being extremely alkaline and 7 being neutral. Body fluids range between 4.5 and 7.5 pH (blood must maintain 7.35 to 7.45 pH). A one point drop on the pH scale is 10 times more acidic; for example from 7 to 6 is 10 times more acidic, from 7 to 5 is 100 times, from 7 to 2 is 1,000,000 times more acidic. Most plants and fish thrive in waters of pH values from 6.6 to 7.4. This is a good rule of thumb to use for humans as parasites, viruses, bad bacteria, and degenerative diseases are more prevalent in an acidic system. In order for the body to remain healthy, it keeps a delicate and precise balance of blood pH at 7.365, which is slightly alkaline. The body does whatever it has to in order to maintain this balance. The problem is that most people have incredibly acid-forming lifestyles. Acid is produced in your body whenever you have stress, upset emotions and when the food you eat is acid-forming.
The human body is composed of 78% water. The cells in the body are 98% water. Even our bones are 20% water. We can live for thirty days without food but only 3 days without water. If all the water is removed from a 150 pound person, the residue left would weigh less than 35 pounds. We know that the body fluids of healthy people are slightly alkaline while the same fluids of those who are sick are acidic, either very acidic or slightly. Generally speaking, the more acid your body is, the more serious the illness you have. The degree of acidity significantly affects the body's ability to prevent and/or reverse illness and disease (including such degenerative diseases as cancer, diabetes, heart disease, and others). Individuals that have severe health challenges almost invariably also have high acidity. Unfortunately, acidity has become a national epidemic that is one of the most ignored or unknown underlying causes of many of the degenerative diseases of the western world.
High systemic acid levels contribute or cause directly, numerous health problems;
· Acid systems can’t use calcium effectively.
· They can’t maintain proper blood oxygen levels and cancer can only develop in an oxygen poor, acidic environment.
· Acidic blood can’t circulate properly creating extra strain on the heart.
· It adversely affects the digestive system and the lymphatic system.
How is this condition created?
Our acid problems are due to a combination of two chronic habits:
· What we eat and drink and
· What we are not taking in [nutrients, vitamins, minerals, water, etc.]
Whatever comes into contact with our skin, lungs and digestive system is absorbed into the body very quickly. To achieve and maintain a healthy alkaline body, we must eat foods and drinks that produce an alkaline body.
The Standard American Diet (SAD) consists of fast food, high protein, fat, sugar and carbohydrates, which contribute to an overly acidic body. In addition, Americans eat next to no vegetables and the vegetables that are eaten are often cooked thereby creating another acidifying food whereas raw, unprocessed vegetables are alkalizing to the body. In general, it is important to eat a diet that contains both acidic and alkalizing foods. People vary, but for most, the ideal diet is 75 percent alkalizing and 25 percent acidifying.
Dr. Bruce Ames, noted biochemist at the University of California at Berkeley at a 1998 conference of the Society of Toxicology, told the audience of researchers that nutrient deficiency may explain why the 25% of the population that eats the least fruit and vegetables has double the cancer rate in comparison to the 25% of the population that eats the most fruits and vegetables.
“Lack of Vitamins may cause Cancer” Reuters, October, 28, 1998
It is probable that the population that eats higher amounts of vegetables and fruits is also more alkaline than the rest of us. It only makes sense. It isn’t just the nutrient content of the food; it is the acid vs. alkaline ratios that are positively affected as well.
The National Health and Nutrition Survey reported that;
· Less than 10% of Americans consumed five daily servings of fruit and vegetables
· 40% ate no fruit or fruit juice
· 50% ate no vegetables
· 70% have no dietary vitamin C
· 80% didn't eat anything that had carotenoids
· The number one vegetable in the United States is French Fries and that comprises 25% of all vegetables eaten.
· Number two is Iceberg Lettuce and a close third is Ketchup.
If we can’t even eat the minimal amount of alkalizing foods it is no wonder we have such nationwide issues with degenerative diseases caused by acidity.
Dehydration is rampant often because the average American thinks that drinking soda or coffee is the same as drinking water. As well as acting as a diuretic, soda has an acidic range around 2.5 pH. It takes an incredible amount of “good” water to counteract the effects of soda. You may have to drink nearly 32 glasses of 7.0 pH water to eliminate the bad effects of 1 glass of soda. In addition to soda, coffee, caffeine, and smoking all contribute to raising the acid levels in one's body, thereby contributing to serious health problems. It is important to understand that raising the body's pH does not cure disease. It does however, allow the body to heal itself by normalizing cellular function and ridding itself of toxins. Also fruits and vegetables will be adding the minerals that are so important to maintaining good health.
Alkalizing Supplements
We can reduce the acidifying effects of our diet in the short term with Coral Calcium and Greens Blend, but most importantly we need to choose a diet which is balanced on the side of alkaline-forming foods. All natural, raw, vegetable and fruit juices are alkaline-producing. Fruit juices become more acid-producing when processed and especially when sweetened. A food's acid or alkaline-forming tendency in the body has nothing to do with the actual pH of the food itself. For example, lemons are very acidic; however the end products they produce after digestion and assimilation are very alkaline so in fact lemons are alkaline-forming in the body. Likewise, meat will test alkaline before digestion but it leaves very acidic residue in the body so, like nearly all animal products, meat is very acid-forming.
A severe acid condition forces the body to borrow minerals - including calcium, sodium, potassium and magnesium from organs and bones to buffer (neutralize) the acid to safely remove it from the body. This is a primary cause of osteoporosis. Acidic conditions can also cause such problems as:
Cardiovascular damage
Weight gain, obesity and diabetes
Bladder conditions
Kidney stones
Increased propensity for depression
Acceleration of free radical damage
Hormonal problems
Premature aging
Aching muscles and lactic acid buildup
Osteoporosis and joint pain including arthritis
Low energy and chronic fatigue
Slow digestion and elimination
Yeast/fungal overgrowth
Lack of energy and fatigue
Lower body temperature
Escalation of tendency for infection
Immune deficiency
Loss of drive, joy, and enthusiasm
Easily stressed
Pale complexion
Headaches
Gastritis
Loose and painful teeth
Inflamed, sensitive gums
Mouth and stomach ulcers
Cracks at the corners of the lips
Inflammation of the corneas and eyelids
Impaired digestion and excess stomach acid
Nails are thin and split easily
Hair looks dull, has split ends, and falls out
Dry skin
Skin easily irritated
Low blood oxygen levels
Leg cramps and spasms
Coral Calcium is called the great alkalizer. Dr Linus Pauling recommended taking L-Lysine with your Vitamin C. Also consider these other great alkaline-producing products we have ready to ship: Alfalfa, Bladderwrack, Broccoli, Kelp, Spinach, Spirulina and the new Greens Blend.
L- Lysine, Vitamin C and heart disease prevention.
Heart Disease is the Number 1 killer in the United States .
14 million Americans have heart disease and more than 2,600 die daily from heart attacks in the United States alone. 15% of adults in their late 30s to 40s are afflicted by cardiovascular disease, about 50% of 55 to 64 year-olds, and 65% of those will be afflicted in the next decade. The media would have you think that if you live long enough, it is inevitable that you will be affected by heart disease to some degree or another.
Is this true or not? Judge the evidence for yourself.
After 20 years of aggressive drug therapy and promotion of low-fat diet, the number of deaths attributable to cardiovascular disease has not reversed. Obviously, this elusive condition is far more complicated than we had ever imagined.
OR IS IT?
For decades, the public at large has been taught that the key culprit to heart disease is high cholesterol in our blood that comes from a diet that is high in cholesterol. This is not true and the research shows it.
Consider the following:
>Polar bears maintain a total blood cholesterol of over 400 mg/dl and they seldom have heart attacks or heart disease.
>Eskimos are relatively free of heart disease and yet they eat more animal fats from fish and marine animals than almost anyone else.
>The Okinawans are the longest living population group in the world. The average life span for an Okinawan woman is 84 years. The diet consists of fish 2-3 times a week and high intake of vegetables. The cholesterol intake on the whole is more than most with very few issues regarding cardiovascular disease.
>People in North India consume 17 times more animal fat but have 7 times fewer incidences of heart disease compared to people in Southern India .
Vitamin C and Heart Disease: A Chronology
The role Vitamin C plays in heart health.
“The medical profession itself took a very narrow and very wrong view. Lack of ascorbic acid caused scurvy, so if there was no scurvy there was no lack of ascorbic acid. Nothing could be clearer than this. The only trouble was that scurvy is not a first symptom of a lack but a final collapse, a premortal syndrome and there is a very wide gap between scurvy and full health. ” Albert Szent-Gyorgyi, Nobel-prize winner for his discovery of vitamin C in 1927.
Vitamin C consumption in the U.S. rises by 300%. Coincidentally mortality from heart disease decreases by 30% in the U.S. This is the only country with a significant drop in heart disease fatalities.
Two Canadian medical doctors, Drs. Paterson and Willis, suspected that the heart disease process is related to the stability of arteries. They noticed that atherosclerotic plaques are not randomly distributed. Plaques usually develop at the same locations in places where blood vessels are stretched or squeezed, i.e., where mechanical forces and stresses are great, for example in the coronary arteries. In other words cholesterol acts as a bandage or repair kit and is present at all blood vessel areas where damage has occurred.
1937- Canadian cardiologist Dr. J. C. Paterson reported that more than 80% of his heart disease patients have low Vitamin C levels compared to other patients.
1954- Dr. G. C. Willis showed that Vitamin C supplementation can reduce arterial deposits. Makes first claim that atherosclerosis is reversible.
1967- Dr. Boris Sokoloff studied the effects of 1 to 3 gm doses of Vitamin C on sixty patients over the age of 60 yrs. with CVD. Not a single vascular event occurred during the year long study period when 6 to12 heart attacks were expected.
1986- Dr. Pauling summarizes the evidence for vitamin C against heart disease, cancer, diabetes and other diseases in his book “How to Live Longer and Feel Better”, which becomes a bestseller.
1989- Dr. Pauling discovers that optimum dietary vitamin C prevents the deposition of lipoprotein(a) in arterial walls.
1991- Dr. Pauling published “Solution to the Puzzle of Human Cardiovascular Disease”. This scientific paper concluded that Vitamin C deficiency is the direct and most frequent cause of heart attacks.
1992- Dr. Enstrom and colleagues (UCLA) showed in a study involving over 11,000 Americans, that increased intake of Vitamin C reduces the death rate from heart disease by nearly half and prolongs life for more than six years. Enstrom EE, Kanim LE, Klein MA: Vitamin C intake and mortality among a sample of the United States population. Epidemiology 1992;3(3):194-202.
1997- American Heart Association press release reported on German studies that credit Vitamin C in the blood stream with “almost completely reversing endothelial dysfunction” in smokers. In other words, ascorbic acid may prevent damage to the walls of blood vessels caused by smoking that eventually leads to cardiovascular disease.
A variant of the so-called “bad” LDL cholesterol called lipoprotein(a), or Lp(a) for short, was studied and found to be a major player in the heart health story. Lp(a) is a substance that consists of an LDL “bad cholesterol” part plus a protein (apoprotein a), whose exact function is currently unknown.
New research has shown that people with high levels of Lp(a), have a much higher risk of heart disease.
Lp(a) is sticky because of receptors on the surface of the molecule called lysine binding sites. Work that led to the 1987 Nobel Prize in medicine discovered that lysine (and proline) binding sites cause the formation of atherosclerotic plaques.
Beisiegel et. al. in Germany examined plaques during autopsy and found only Lp(a), not ordinary LDL cholesterol were present in plaques.
Those with the highest Lp(a) and cholesterol levels were 14 times as likely to have obstructed blood vessels as those with the lowest levels.
Analyzing the findings from 27 studies, British researchers found that those patients with high levels of Lp(a) had a 70% higher risk of developing heart disease over a period of 10 years.
Despite previous conflicting results concerning the importance of Lp(a), researchers maintain that this study shows that Lp(a) has a “clear association” with heart disease risk.
Researchers also maintain that a person's Lp(a) is largely governed by genetics. For example, people of African decent tend to have higher levels than Caucasians. While this may be true we also know that the formula Dr. Linus Pauling created works to lower Lp(a) dramatically and has been used to reduce and in some cases remove the blockage from arteries throughout the body.
According to the Pauling/Rath 1994 United States patent, the amino acid lysine (lysine analogs), along with vitamin C and other antioxidants (e.g. Co-Q10, vitamin E and vitamin A), can, in sufficient concentration, inhibit Lp(a) binding to exposed lysine residues. Proline residues are also exposed by lesions in blood vessels. Later experiments showed that proline as well as lysine, with vitamin C, other amino acids and antioxidants, in oral amounts well past what is needed for prevention, becomes a solvent by inhibiting the binding of Lp(a). A binding inhibitor augmented with vitamin C can stop and apparently even reverses some plaque formations. Pauling and Rath even have a second U. S. patent for using these binding inhibitors as solvents to melt atherosclerotic plaques from human organs during organ transplants. The organ is dipped in the Lp(a) Binding Inhibitor solution and the plaques melt away.
The Lp(a) binding inhibitors become the Pauling Therapy for heart disease to be used only at high dosages, between 3 to 18 grams of ascorbic acid (Vitamin C) and 3 to 6 grams of L-Lysine. The first cases where this high Vitamin C and L-Lysine therapy were used quickly resolved advanced cardiovascular disease in humans. The effect is so pronounced, and the inhibitors are so nontoxic, that Pauling doubted a clinical study was even necessary. Recently, the amino acid proline was found to be an even more effective Lp(a) binding inhibitor than lysine in vitro. Adding between .5 and 2 grams of proline may be of significant additional benefit.
New Research
Avoid trans fats in the diet and take a quality Omega 3 Essential fatty acid with 10%DHA and EPA.
“Research has shown that an Omega-3 index of 8 % to 10 % reduces a person's relative risk of death from coronary heart disease by 40% and from sudden cardiac death by 90 %.” This benefit probably results from restored insulin-mediated glucose/vitamin C uptake into cells.
New research confirms Dr. John Ely's 30-year theory that sugar (glucose) competes with ascorbic acid (Vitamin C) for insulin-mediated uptake into cells. Taking sugar can effectively crowd out the ascorbate part of ascorbic acid (Vitamin C). The effect of the Pauling Therapy is reportedly much more pronounced and immediate when sugar is eliminated.
What are Acidity and Alkalinity how do they affect human health?
This subject is of vital importance!
Scientists report that over 150 degenerative diseases are caused by high acid levels in the body. Knowing this fact, we should begin by understanding what acidity and alkalinity are and how they relate to our health.
The pH scale ranges from 0 to 14, with 0 being extremely acidic, 14 being extremely alkaline and 7 being neutral. Body fluids range between 4.5 and 7.5 pH (blood must maintain 7.35 to 7.45 pH). A one point drop on the pH scale is 10 times more acidic; for example from 7 to 6 is 10 times more acidic, from 7 to 5 is 100 times, from 7 to 2 is 1,000,000 times more acidic. Most plants and fish thrive in waters of pH values from 6.6 to 7.4. This is a good rule of thumb to use for humans as parasites, viruses, bad bacteria, and degenerative diseases are more prevalent in an acidic system. In order for the body to remain healthy, it keeps a delicate and precise balance of blood pH at 7.365, which is slightly alkaline. The body does whatever it has to in order to maintain this balance. The problem is that most people have incredibly acid-forming lifestyles. Acid is produced in your body whenever you have stress, upset emotions and when the food you eat is acid-forming.
The human body is composed of 78% water. The cells in the body are 98% water. Even our bones are 20% water. We can live for thirty days without food but only 3 days without water. If all the water is removed from a 150 pound person, the residue left would weigh less than 35 pounds. We know that the body fluids of healthy people are slightly alkaline while the same fluids of those who are sick are acidic, either very acidic or slightly. Generally speaking, the more acid your body is, the more serious the illness you have. The degree of acidity significantly affects the body's ability to prevent and/or reverse illness and disease (including such degenerative diseases as cancer, diabetes, heart disease, and others). Individuals that have severe health challenges almost invariably also have high acidity. Unfortunately, acidity has become a national epidemic that is one of the most ignored or unknown underlying causes of many of the degenerative diseases of the western world.
High systemic acid levels contribute or cause directly, numerous health problems;
· Acid systems can’t use calcium effectively.
· They can’t maintain proper blood oxygen levels and cancer can only develop in an oxygen poor, acidic environment.
· Acidic blood can’t circulate properly creating extra strain on the heart.
· It adversely affects the digestive system and the lymphatic system.
How is this condition created?
Our acid problems are due to a combination of two chronic habits:
· What we eat and drink and
· What we are not taking in [nutrients, vitamins, minerals, water, etc.]
Whatever comes into contact with our skin, lungs and digestive system is absorbed into the body very quickly. To achieve and maintain a healthy alkaline body, we must eat foods and drinks that produce an alkaline body.
The Standard American Diet (SAD) consists of fast food, high protein, fat, sugar and carbohydrates, which contribute to an overly acidic body. In addition, Americans eat next to no vegetables and the vegetables that are eaten are often cooked thereby creating another acidifying food whereas raw, unprocessed vegetables are alkalizing to the body. In general, it is important to eat a diet that contains both acidic and alkalizing foods. People vary, but for most, the ideal diet is 75 percent alkalizing and 25 percent acidifying.
Dr. Bruce Ames, noted biochemist at the University of California at Berkeley at a 1998 conference of the Society of Toxicology, told the audience of researchers that nutrient deficiency may explain why the 25% of the population that eats the least fruit and vegetables has double the cancer rate in comparison to the 25% of the population that eats the most fruits and vegetables.
“Lack of Vitamins may cause Cancer” Reuters, October, 28, 1998
It is probable that the population that eats higher amounts of vegetables and fruits is also more alkaline than the rest of us. It only makes sense. It isn’t just the nutrient content of the food; it is the acid vs. alkaline ratios that are positively affected as well.
The National Health and Nutrition Survey reported that;
· Less than 10% of Americans consumed five daily servings of fruit and vegetables
· 40% ate no fruit or fruit juice
· 50% ate no vegetables
· 70% have no dietary vitamin C
· 80% didn't eat anything that had carotenoids
· The number one vegetable in the United States is French Fries and that comprises 25% of all vegetables eaten.
· Number two is Iceberg Lettuce and a close third is Ketchup.
If we can’t even eat the minimal amount of alkalizing foods it is no wonder we have such nationwide issues with degenerative diseases caused by acidity.
Dehydration is rampant often because the average American thinks that drinking soda or coffee is the same as drinking water. As well as acting as a diuretic, soda has an acidic range around 2.5 pH. It takes an incredible amount of “good” water to counteract the effects of soda. You may have to drink nearly 32 glasses of 7.0 pH water to eliminate the bad effects of 1 glass of soda. In addition to soda, coffee, caffeine, and smoking all contribute to raising the acid levels in one's body, thereby contributing to serious health problems. It is important to understand that raising the body's pH does not cure disease. It does however, allow the body to heal itself by normalizing cellular function and ridding itself of toxins. Also fruits and vegetables will be adding the minerals that are so important to maintaining good health.
Alkalizing Supplements
We can reduce the acidifying effects of our diet in the short term with Coral Calcium and Greens Blend, but most importantly we need to choose a diet which is balanced on the side of alkaline-forming foods. All natural, raw, vegetable and fruit juices are alkaline-producing. Fruit juices become more acid-producing when processed and especially when sweetened. A food's acid or alkaline-forming tendency in the body has nothing to do with the actual pH of the food itself. For example, lemons are very acidic; however the end products they produce after digestion and assimilation are very alkaline so in fact lemons are alkaline-forming in the body. Likewise, meat will test alkaline before digestion but it leaves very acidic residue in the body so, like nearly all animal products, meat is very acid-forming.
A severe acid condition forces the body to borrow minerals - including calcium, sodium, potassium and magnesium from organs and bones to buffer (neutralize) the acid to safely remove it from the body. This is a primary cause of osteoporosis. Acidic conditions can also cause such problems as:
Cardiovascular damage
Weight gain, obesity and diabetes
Bladder conditions
Kidney stones
Increased propensity for depression
Acceleration of free radical damage
Hormonal problems
Premature aging
Aching muscles and lactic acid buildup
Osteoporosis and joint pain including arthritis
Low energy and chronic fatigue
Slow digestion and elimination
Yeast/fungal overgrowth
Lack of energy and fatigue
Lower body temperature
Escalation of tendency for infection
Immune deficiency
Loss of drive, joy, and enthusiasm
Easily stressed
Pale complexion
Headaches
Gastritis
Loose and painful teeth
Inflamed, sensitive gums
Mouth and stomach ulcers
Cracks at the corners of the lips
Inflammation of the corneas and eyelids
Impaired digestion and excess stomach acid
Nails are thin and split easily
Hair looks dull, has split ends, and falls out
Dry skin
Skin easily irritated
Low blood oxygen levels
Leg cramps and spasms
Coral Calcium is called the great alkalizer. Dr Linus Pauling recommended taking L-Lysine with your Vitamin C. Also consider these other great alkaline-producing products we have ready to ship: Alfalfa, Bladderwrack, Broccoli, Kelp, Spinach, Spirulina and the new Greens Blend.
L- Lysine, Vitamin C and heart disease prevention.
Heart Disease is the Number 1 killer in the United States .
14 million Americans have heart disease and more than 2,600 die daily from heart attacks in the United States alone. 15% of adults in their late 30s to 40s are afflicted by cardiovascular disease, about 50% of 55 to 64 year-olds, and 65% of those will be afflicted in the next decade. The media would have you think that if you live long enough, it is inevitable that you will be affected by heart disease to some degree or another.
Is this true or not? Judge the evidence for yourself.
After 20 years of aggressive drug therapy and promotion of low-fat diet, the number of deaths attributable to cardiovascular disease has not reversed. Obviously, this elusive condition is far more complicated than we had ever imagined.
OR IS IT?
For decades, the public at large has been taught that the key culprit to heart disease is high cholesterol in our blood that comes from a diet that is high in cholesterol. This is not true and the research shows it.
Consider the following:
>Polar bears maintain a total blood cholesterol of over 400 mg/dl and they seldom have heart attacks or heart disease.
>Eskimos are relatively free of heart disease and yet they eat more animal fats from fish and marine animals than almost anyone else.
>The Okinawans are the longest living population group in the world. The average life span for an Okinawan woman is 84 years. The diet consists of fish 2-3 times a week and high intake of vegetables. The cholesterol intake on the whole is more than most with very few issues regarding cardiovascular disease.
>People in North India consume 17 times more animal fat but have 7 times fewer incidences of heart disease compared to people in Southern India .
Vitamin C and Heart Disease: A Chronology
The role Vitamin C plays in heart health.
“The medical profession itself took a very narrow and very wrong view. Lack of ascorbic acid caused scurvy, so if there was no scurvy there was no lack of ascorbic acid. Nothing could be clearer than this. The only trouble was that scurvy is not a first symptom of a lack but a final collapse, a premortal syndrome and there is a very wide gap between scurvy and full health. ” Albert Szent-Gyorgyi, Nobel-prize winner for his discovery of vitamin C in 1927.
Vitamin C consumption in the U.S. rises by 300%. Coincidentally mortality from heart disease decreases by 30% in the U.S. This is the only country with a significant drop in heart disease fatalities.
Two Canadian medical doctors, Drs. Paterson and Willis, suspected that the heart disease process is related to the stability of arteries. They noticed that atherosclerotic plaques are not randomly distributed. Plaques usually develop at the same locations in places where blood vessels are stretched or squeezed, i.e., where mechanical forces and stresses are great, for example in the coronary arteries. In other words cholesterol acts as a bandage or repair kit and is present at all blood vessel areas where damage has occurred.
1937- Canadian cardiologist Dr. J. C. Paterson reported that more than 80% of his heart disease patients have low Vitamin C levels compared to other patients.
1954- Dr. G. C. Willis showed that Vitamin C supplementation can reduce arterial deposits. Makes first claim that atherosclerosis is reversible.
1967- Dr. Boris Sokoloff studied the effects of 1 to 3 gm doses of Vitamin C on sixty patients over the age of 60 yrs. with CVD. Not a single vascular event occurred during the year long study period when 6 to12 heart attacks were expected.
1986- Dr. Pauling summarizes the evidence for vitamin C against heart disease, cancer, diabetes and other diseases in his book “How to Live Longer and Feel Better”, which becomes a bestseller.
1989- Dr. Pauling discovers that optimum dietary vitamin C prevents the deposition of lipoprotein(a) in arterial walls.
1991- Dr. Pauling published “Solution to the Puzzle of Human Cardiovascular Disease”. This scientific paper concluded that Vitamin C deficiency is the direct and most frequent cause of heart attacks.
1992- Dr. Enstrom and colleagues (UCLA) showed in a study involving over 11,000 Americans, that increased intake of Vitamin C reduces the death rate from heart disease by nearly half and prolongs life for more than six years. Enstrom EE, Kanim LE, Klein MA: Vitamin C intake and mortality among a sample of the United States population. Epidemiology 1992;3(3):194-202.
1997- American Heart Association press release reported on German studies that credit Vitamin C in the blood stream with “almost completely reversing endothelial dysfunction” in smokers. In other words, ascorbic acid may prevent damage to the walls of blood vessels caused by smoking that eventually leads to cardiovascular disease.
A variant of the so-called “bad” LDL cholesterol called lipoprotein(a), or Lp(a) for short, was studied and found to be a major player in the heart health story. Lp(a) is a substance that consists of an LDL “bad cholesterol” part plus a protein (apoprotein a), whose exact function is currently unknown.
New research has shown that people with high levels of Lp(a), have a much higher risk of heart disease.
Lp(a) is sticky because of receptors on the surface of the molecule called lysine binding sites. Work that led to the 1987 Nobel Prize in medicine discovered that lysine (and proline) binding sites cause the formation of atherosclerotic plaques.
Beisiegel et. al. in Germany examined plaques during autopsy and found only Lp(a), not ordinary LDL cholesterol were present in plaques.
Those with the highest Lp(a) and cholesterol levels were 14 times as likely to have obstructed blood vessels as those with the lowest levels.
Analyzing the findings from 27 studies, British researchers found that those patients with high levels of Lp(a) had a 70% higher risk of developing heart disease over a period of 10 years.
Despite previous conflicting results concerning the importance of Lp(a), researchers maintain that this study shows that Lp(a) has a “clear association” with heart disease risk.
Researchers also maintain that a person's Lp(a) is largely governed by genetics. For example, people of African decent tend to have higher levels than Caucasians. While this may be true we also know that the formula Dr. Linus Pauling created works to lower Lp(a) dramatically and has been used to reduce and in some cases remove the blockage from arteries throughout the body.
According to the Pauling/Rath 1994 United States patent, the amino acid lysine (lysine analogs), along with vitamin C and other antioxidants (e.g. Co-Q10, vitamin E and vitamin A), can, in sufficient concentration, inhibit Lp(a) binding to exposed lysine residues. Proline residues are also exposed by lesions in blood vessels. Later experiments showed that proline as well as lysine, with vitamin C, other amino acids and antioxidants, in oral amounts well past what is needed for prevention, becomes a solvent by inhibiting the binding of Lp(a). A binding inhibitor augmented with vitamin C can stop and apparently even reverses some plaque formations. Pauling and Rath even have a second U. S. patent for using these binding inhibitors as solvents to melt atherosclerotic plaques from human organs during organ transplants. The organ is dipped in the Lp(a) Binding Inhibitor solution and the plaques melt away.
The Lp(a) binding inhibitors become the Pauling Therapy for heart disease to be used only at high dosages, between 3 to 18 grams of ascorbic acid (Vitamin C) and 3 to 6 grams of L-Lysine. The first cases where this high Vitamin C and L-Lysine therapy were used quickly resolved advanced cardiovascular disease in humans. The effect is so pronounced, and the inhibitors are so nontoxic, that Pauling doubted a clinical study was even necessary. Recently, the amino acid proline was found to be an even more effective Lp(a) binding inhibitor than lysine in vitro. Adding between .5 and 2 grams of proline may be of significant additional benefit.
New Research
Avoid trans fats in the diet and take a quality Omega 3 Essential fatty acid with 10%DHA and EPA.
“Research has shown that an Omega-3 index of 8 % to 10 % reduces a person's relative risk of death from coronary heart disease by 40% and from sudden cardiac death by 90 %.” This benefit probably results from restored insulin-mediated glucose/vitamin C uptake into cells.
New research confirms Dr. John Ely's 30-year theory that sugar (glucose) competes with ascorbic acid (Vitamin C) for insulin-mediated uptake into cells. Taking sugar can effectively crowd out the ascorbate part of ascorbic acid (Vitamin C). The effect of the Pauling Therapy is reportedly much more pronounced and immediate when sugar is eliminated.
曹操《龟虽寿》，道理大无边
曹操作诗不多。其诗写景者就是写景，抒意者就是抒意，少词砌，言简，无华.
此文，专谈《龟虽寿》。
神龟虽寿，犹有竟时。
腾蛇乘雾，终为土灰。
老骥伏枥，志在千里。
烈士暮年，壮心不已。
盈缩之期，不但在天。
养怡之福，可得永年。
幸甚至哉，歌以咏志。
龟是长寿的，何况冠之以神的龟呼？某龟被冠之以神，被称作神龟，其寿命当然比普通的龟更长。此典，可见《庄子.秋水篇》：“吾闻楚有神龟，死已三千岁矣。”但是，即使是某神龟，其生命也有完结之时。此句讲清了世界万物，包括人和动物，哪怕是神龟在内的生命都是有始必有终的道理。曹操既是在总结前人的道理，也是在启发后人懂此道理。
后人由此所懂得的道理是，与某神龟相同的，是某人被称呼万岁，被称呼万岁的某人，其生命当然比普通人更长，但是，即使某人被称呼万岁，其生命也有完结之时。其此意，当为曹操此句之本意。因为，曹操之前，包括曹操本人在内，已有不少人被称呼万岁，曹操心里清楚，是人，再神，再万岁，也“犹有竟时”。可惜，曹操之后，又有多少人被称呼万岁，其中，又有多少人明白“犹有竟时”的道理？
蛇是地上爬行，水中游行的。某蛇有能耐，居然可以乘雾升腾于天，此腾蛇本事比普通蛇大，此典，可见《韩非.难势篇》：“飞龙乘云，腾蛇游雾，云罢雾霁……”。但与神龟一样，腾蛇生命也有完结之时，不论腾多高，“终为土灰”。此句讲清了人的本事再大，即使如同蛇能腾空一样，不过当世而已，后世来人的本事必将超过前人。曹操既是在总结前人的道理，也是在启发后人懂此道理。
后人由此所懂的道理是，人活一世，即使能做出很伟大的事情，与蛇能腾空一样那么伟大，但是毕竟有限，可以空前，但不可绝后。后来人总会超过前人。所谓长江后浪推前浪。又所谓积薪，后来者居上。前人所为，被后来人超过之后，其为将同土灰一样，“终为土灰”。其实此意，当为曹操此句之本意。因为，曹操之前，包括曹操本人在内，已有不少人做出了伟大的事情，曹操心里清楚，是人，腾再高，再伟大，也将“终为土灰”。可惜，曹操之后，又有多少人腾多高，做了多少伟大的事情，其中，又有多少人明白“终为土灰”的道理？
马老了，只能卧槽休息，一步都走不动了，可心里却还在向往着日奔千里。矛盾的很咧。
人老了，只能卧床休息，一步都走不动了，可心里却还在向往着日夜不停的壮举。矛盾的很咧。
嘴上讲，不恋栈，可身子就是离不开那位子。
时间，是每一个人都可以公平享有的客观条件。但是，如何掌握时间，却因人而异。在某些人手里，时间可以变长，是为“期之盈”；在某些人手里，时间可以变短，是为“期之缩”。可见，老天公平地给予每一个人的时间，却并非完全取决于老天的平均分配的，不同的人是可以决定各自所拥有的时间之盈缩的。
比如学习，有人好学，有人不好学，同样的时间内，所学结果，大不相同，所学多者，是为“期之盈”，所学少者，是为“期之缩”。
如何使自己的时间得以“盈”，免于“缩”，这，取决于“养怡之福”。养怡，首先在养身，次为养心。养身、养心之福在于养身、养心之道，所谓道者，古今万千。所养之道正者，得福得“永年”，所养之道不正者，得祸不得“永年”。
“永年”何解？身可长寿，名可万古乃耳。
曹操《龟虽寿》，道理大无边。所谓大无边，时间越长，道理越明者是也。
此文，专谈《龟虽寿》。
神龟虽寿，犹有竟时。
腾蛇乘雾，终为土灰。
老骥伏枥，志在千里。
烈士暮年，壮心不已。
盈缩之期，不但在天。
养怡之福，可得永年。
幸甚至哉，歌以咏志。
龟是长寿的，何况冠之以神的龟呼？某龟被冠之以神，被称作神龟，其寿命当然比普通的龟更长。此典，可见《庄子.秋水篇》：“吾闻楚有神龟，死已三千岁矣。”但是，即使是某神龟，其生命也有完结之时。此句讲清了世界万物，包括人和动物，哪怕是神龟在内的生命都是有始必有终的道理。曹操既是在总结前人的道理，也是在启发后人懂此道理。
后人由此所懂得的道理是，与某神龟相同的，是某人被称呼万岁，被称呼万岁的某人，其生命当然比普通人更长，但是，即使某人被称呼万岁，其生命也有完结之时。其此意，当为曹操此句之本意。因为，曹操之前，包括曹操本人在内，已有不少人被称呼万岁，曹操心里清楚，是人，再神，再万岁，也“犹有竟时”。可惜，曹操之后，又有多少人被称呼万岁，其中，又有多少人明白“犹有竟时”的道理？
蛇是地上爬行，水中游行的。某蛇有能耐，居然可以乘雾升腾于天，此腾蛇本事比普通蛇大，此典，可见《韩非.难势篇》：“飞龙乘云，腾蛇游雾，云罢雾霁……”。但与神龟一样，腾蛇生命也有完结之时，不论腾多高，“终为土灰”。此句讲清了人的本事再大，即使如同蛇能腾空一样，不过当世而已，后世来人的本事必将超过前人。曹操既是在总结前人的道理，也是在启发后人懂此道理。
后人由此所懂的道理是，人活一世，即使能做出很伟大的事情，与蛇能腾空一样那么伟大，但是毕竟有限，可以空前，但不可绝后。后来人总会超过前人。所谓长江后浪推前浪。又所谓积薪，后来者居上。前人所为，被后来人超过之后，其为将同土灰一样，“终为土灰”。其实此意，当为曹操此句之本意。因为，曹操之前，包括曹操本人在内，已有不少人做出了伟大的事情，曹操心里清楚，是人，腾再高，再伟大，也将“终为土灰”。可惜，曹操之后，又有多少人腾多高，做了多少伟大的事情，其中，又有多少人明白“终为土灰”的道理？
马老了，只能卧槽休息，一步都走不动了，可心里却还在向往着日奔千里。矛盾的很咧。
人老了，只能卧床休息，一步都走不动了，可心里却还在向往着日夜不停的壮举。矛盾的很咧。
嘴上讲，不恋栈，可身子就是离不开那位子。
时间，是每一个人都可以公平享有的客观条件。但是，如何掌握时间，却因人而异。在某些人手里，时间可以变长，是为“期之盈”；在某些人手里，时间可以变短，是为“期之缩”。可见，老天公平地给予每一个人的时间，却并非完全取决于老天的平均分配的，不同的人是可以决定各自所拥有的时间之盈缩的。
比如学习，有人好学，有人不好学，同样的时间内，所学结果，大不相同，所学多者，是为“期之盈”，所学少者，是为“期之缩”。
如何使自己的时间得以“盈”，免于“缩”，这，取决于“养怡之福”。养怡，首先在养身，次为养心。养身、养心之福在于养身、养心之道，所谓道者，古今万千。所养之道正者，得福得“永年”，所养之道不正者，得祸不得“永年”。
“永年”何解？身可长寿，名可万古乃耳。
曹操《龟虽寿》，道理大无边。所谓大无边，时间越长，道理越明者是也。
自立, 自强, 的名人名言
在艰苦中成长成功之人，往往由于心理的阴影，会导致变态的偏差。这种偏差，便是对社会、对人们始终有一种仇视的敌意，不相信任何一个人，更不同情任何一个人。爱钱如命的悭吝，还是心理变态上的次要现象。相反的，有器度、有见识的人，他虽然从艰苦困难中成长，反而更具有同情心和慷慨好义的胸襟怀抱。因为他懂得人生，知道世情的甘苦。 —— 南怀瑾
对人不尊敬，首先就是对自己的不尊敬。 —— 惠特曼
对别人的意见要表示尊重。 千万别说：“你错了。” —— 卡耐基
社会犹如一条船，每个人都要有掌舵的准备。 —— 易卜生
要使别人喜欢你，首先你得改变对人的态度，把精神放得轻松一点，表情自然，笑容可掬，这样别人就会对你产生喜爱的感觉了。 —— 卡耐基
上人生的旅途罢。前途很远，也很暗。然而不要怕。不怕的人的面前才有路。 —— 鲁 迅
我们应该不虚度一生，应该能够说：“我已经做了我能做的事。” —— 居里夫人
人生的价值，并不是用时间，而是用深度量去衡量的。 —— 列夫·托尔斯泰
一个人应当一次只想一件东西，并持之以恒，这样便有希望得到它。但是我却什么都想，结果是什么也抓不着。每次我都发现，当一个所追求的东西唾手可得时，我正在追求别的东西。太晚了。 —— 安德鲁·加德
先相信自己，然后别人才会相信你。 —— 罗曼·罗兰
谁要游戏人生，他就一事无成，谁不能主宰自己，永远是一个奴隶。 —— 歌德
宿命论是那些缺乏的弱者的借口。 —— 拉罗什福科
作为一个人，要是不经历过人世上的悲欢离合，不跟生活打过交手仗，就不可能懂得人生的意义。 —— 杨朔
人生犹如一本书，愚蠢者草草翻过，聪明人细细阅读。为何如此. 因为他们只能读它一次。 —— 保罗
人生是没有毕业的学校。 —— 黎凯
少而好学，如日出之阳；壮而好学，如日中之光；老而好学，如炳烛之明。 —— 刘向
我们唯一不会改正的缺点是软弱。 —— 奥斯特洛夫斯基
习惯是一条巨缆——我们每天编结其中一根线，到最后我们最终无法弄断它。 —— 梅茵
与其皱着眉头送人一件贵重礼品，不如面带笑容送人一件小礼物。 —— 无名氏
有真道德，必生真胆量。凡怕天怕地怕人怕鬼的人，必是心中有鬼，必是品行不端。 —— 宣永光
我从多话的人学到静默，从偏狭的人学到了宽容，从这残忍的人学到了仁爱，但奇怪的是我对于这些老师并不感激。 —— 无名氏
多听，少说，接受每一个人的责难，但是保留你的最后裁决。 —— 莎士比亚
路是脚踏出来的，历史是人写出来的。人的每一步行动都在书写自己的历史。 —— 吉鸿昌
思而后行，以免做出蠢事。因为草率的动作和言语，均是卑劣的特征。 —— 毕达哥拉斯
凡事只要看得淡些，就没有什么可忧虑的了；只要不因愤怒而夸大事态，就没有什么事情值得生气的了。 —— 屠格涅夫
习惯不加以抑制，不久它就会变成你生活上的必需品了。 —— 奥古斯丁
不良的习惯会随时阻碍你走向成名、获利和享乐的路上去。 —— 莎士比亚
人喜欢习惯，因为造它的就是自己。 —— 萧伯纳
习惯，我们每个人或多或少都是它的奴隶。 —— 高汀
倦怠乃人生之大患，人们常叹人生暂短，其实人生悠长，只是由于不知它的用途。 —— 维尼
人应该支配习惯，而决不能让习惯支配人，一 个人不能去掉他的坏习惯，那简直一文不值。 —— 奥斯特洛夫斯基
谁若游戏人生，他就一事无成；谁不主宰自己，永远是一个奴隶。 —— 歌德
单是说不行，要紧的是做。 —— 鲁迅
你有信仰就年轻，疑惑就年老；有自信就年轻，畏惧就年老；有希望就年轻，绝望就年老；岁月使你皮肤起皱，但是失去了热忱，就损伤了灵魂。 —— 卡耐基
巨大的建筑，总是由一木一石叠起来的，我们何妨做做这一木一石呢？我时常做些零碎事，就是为此。 —— 鲁迅
过于求速是做事上最大的危险之一。 —— 培根
一个不注意小事情的人，永远不会成功大事业。 —— 卡耐基
杀了“现在”，也便杀了“将来”。----将来是子孙的时代。 —— 鲁迅
使生活变成幻想，再把幻想化为现时。 —— 居里夫人
要成就一件大事业，必须从小事做起。 —— 列宁
把希望建筑在意欲和心愿上面的人们，二十次中有十九次都会失望。 —— 大仲马
神圣的工作在每个人的日常事务里，理想的前途在于一点一滴做起。 —— 谢觉哉
事业常成于坚忍，毁于急躁。 —— 萨迪
如果有什么需要明天做的事，最好现在就开始。 --富兰克林
据我观察，大部分人都是在别人荒废的时间里崭露头角的。 --福特
盛年不重来，一日难再晨，及时宜自勉，岁月不待人。 --陶潜
时钟随着指针的移动滴答在响：“秒”是雄赳赳气昂昂列队行进的兵士，“分”是士官，“小时”是带队冲锋陷阵的骁勇的军官。，所以当你百无聊赖，胡思乱想的时候，请记住你掌上有千军万马；你是他们的统帅。检阅他们时，你不妨问问自己--他们是否在战斗中发挥了最大的作用。 --约翰逊
生命是以时间为单位的，浪费别人的时间等于谋财害命，浪费自己的时间，等于慢性自杀。 --鲁迅
人生太短，要干的事太多，我要争分夺秒。 --爱迪生
人们说生命是很短促的，我认为是他们自己使生命那样短促的。由于他们不善于利用生命，所以他们反过来抱怨说时间过得太快；可是我认为，就他们那种生活来说，时间倒是过得太慢了。--卢梭
一寸光阴一寸金，寸金难买寸光阴。 --谚语
时间是一位可爱的恋人，对你是多么的爱慕倾心，每分每秒都在叮嘱；劳动、创造、别虚度了一生。 --于沙
丢失的牛羊可以找回；但是失去的时间却无法找回。 --乔叟
对时间的慷慨，就等于慢性自杀。 --奥斯特洛夫斯基
把握住今天，胜过两个明天。 --拉美谚语
每天不浪费或不虚度或不空抛的那一点点时间，即使只有五、六分钟，如得正用，也一样可以有很大的成就。游手好闲惯了，就是有聪明才智，也不会有所作为。--雷曼
时间就是速度，时间就是力量。 --郭沫若
时间是由分秒积成的，善于利用零星时间的人，才会做出更大的成绩来。--华罗庚
昨天只是今天的回忆，明天只是今天的梦。 --吉卜龄
你若是爱千古，你应该爱现在；昨日不能唤回来，明日还是不实在；你能确有把握的，只有今日的现在。 --爱默生
如果你浪费了自己的年龄，那是挺可悲的。因为你的青春只能持续一点儿时间--很短的一点儿时间。 --王尔德
“世俗有时间是金钱”这句话，所以窃取他人时间的小偷，当然该加以处罚，即使是那些愉快的好人，还是该如忌讳疾病地躲避他们。 --卡耐基
选择机会，就是节省时间。 --培根
事在人为：一年可以等于二年、三年，例如每天用十七、八小时读书；反之，二、三年也可以等于一年，甚至比一年还少，例如每天只用五六小时以下读书，我决心每天用十六到十八小时翻阅中国历代文集。--蔡尚思
浪费时间是所有支出中最奢侈及最昂贵的。 --富兰克林
世界上最可宝贵的就是“今”，最容易丧失的也是“今”因为他最容易丧失，所以更觉得他宝贵。 --李大钊
睡得多的人学得少。 --西班牙谚语
不要懒懒散散地虚度生命。 --贝多芬
辛勤的蜜蜂永远没有时间的悲哀。 --布莱克
我只惋惜一件事，日子太短，过得太快。一个人从来看不出做成什么，只能看出还应该作什么？ --居里夫人
善于利用时间的人，永远找不到充裕的时间。--歌德
合理安排时间，就等于节约时间。 --培根
世界上最快而又最慢，最长而又最短，最平凡而又最珍贵，最容易忽视而又最令人后悔的就是时间。 --高尔基
昨天是一张作废的支票，明天是一张期票，而今天则是你惟一拥有的现金--所以应当聪明地把握。 --李昂斯
在所有批评家中，最伟大、最正确，最天才的是时间。 --别林斯基
一分时间，一分成果。对科学工作者来说，就不是一天八小时，而是寸阴必珍，寸阳必争！ --童第周
用“分”来计算时间的人，比用“时”计算时间的人，时间多五十九倍。--佚名
志士惜年，贤人惜日，圣人惜时。 --魏源
明天”，是勤劳的最危险的敌人。 --苏霍姆林斯基
由于时光转瞬即逝，无法挽回，所以说它是世间最宝贵的财富，滥用时光无疑是人们最没有意义的一种消磨方式。 --毛姆
最有希望的成功者，并不是才干出众的人而是那些最善利用每一时机去发掘开拓的人。 --苏格拉底
时间就是生命，无端的空耗别人的时间，其实是无异于谋财害命。--鲁迅
人生太短，要干的事太多，我要争分夺秒。 --爱迪生
不知明天该做什么的人是不幸的。 --高尔基
庸人费心将是消磨时光，能人费尽心机利用时光。 --叔本华
你热爱生命吗？那就别浪费时间，因为时间是组成生命的原料。 --富兰克林
当许多人在一条路上徘徊不前时，他们不得不让开一条大路，让那珍惜时间的人赶到他们的前面去。 --苏格拉底
一个钟头有六十分钟，一天就超过了一千分钟。明白这个道理后，就知道人可做出多少贡献。 --歌德
今天做不成的，明天也不会做好。一天也不能虚度，要下决心把可能的事情，一把抓住而紧紧抱住，有决心就不会任其逃去，而且必然要贯彻实行。 --歌德
神龟虽寿，犹有竞时。 --曹操
时间抓起来说是金子，抓不住就是流水。 --谚语
明天，明天，还有明天，人们都在这样安慰自己，殊不知这个明天，就足以把他们关进坟墓。 --屠格涅夫
时间最不偏私，给任何人都是二十四小时，时间也最偏私，给任何人都不是二十四小时。 --赫胥黎
一年之计在于春，一日之计在于晨。 --萧绛
我的箴言始终是：无日不动笔；如果我有时让艺术之神瞌睡，也只为要使它醒后更兴奋。 --贝多芬
不要把今天能做的事推到明天。因为如果今天做得痛快，明天还可以再做一次。--米契那
疾驰的岁月却是窃取寿命的小偷：窃取后，头也不回地一个追着一个，匆忙逃走。 --木塔里甫
时间是送给我们的宝贵礼物，它使我们变得更聪明，更美好，更成熟，更完美。--托马斯
今晚应做的事没有做，明天再早也是耽误了。 --裴其傣
痛苦常使弱者厌世轻生，却使强者更加清醒奋发。——佚名
天行健，君子以自强不息；地势坤，君子以厚德载物。——周易
对人不尊敬，首先就是对自己的不尊敬。 —— 惠特曼
对别人的意见要表示尊重。 千万别说：“你错了。” —— 卡耐基
社会犹如一条船，每个人都要有掌舵的准备。 —— 易卜生
要使别人喜欢你，首先你得改变对人的态度，把精神放得轻松一点，表情自然，笑容可掬，这样别人就会对你产生喜爱的感觉了。 —— 卡耐基
上人生的旅途罢。前途很远，也很暗。然而不要怕。不怕的人的面前才有路。 —— 鲁 迅
我们应该不虚度一生，应该能够说：“我已经做了我能做的事。” —— 居里夫人
人生的价值，并不是用时间，而是用深度量去衡量的。 —— 列夫·托尔斯泰
一个人应当一次只想一件东西，并持之以恒，这样便有希望得到它。但是我却什么都想，结果是什么也抓不着。每次我都发现，当一个所追求的东西唾手可得时，我正在追求别的东西。太晚了。 —— 安德鲁·加德
先相信自己，然后别人才会相信你。 —— 罗曼·罗兰
谁要游戏人生，他就一事无成，谁不能主宰自己，永远是一个奴隶。 —— 歌德
宿命论是那些缺乏的弱者的借口。 —— 拉罗什福科
作为一个人，要是不经历过人世上的悲欢离合，不跟生活打过交手仗，就不可能懂得人生的意义。 —— 杨朔
人生犹如一本书，愚蠢者草草翻过，聪明人细细阅读。为何如此. 因为他们只能读它一次。 —— 保罗
人生是没有毕业的学校。 —— 黎凯
少而好学，如日出之阳；壮而好学，如日中之光；老而好学，如炳烛之明。 —— 刘向
我们唯一不会改正的缺点是软弱。 —— 奥斯特洛夫斯基
习惯是一条巨缆——我们每天编结其中一根线，到最后我们最终无法弄断它。 —— 梅茵
与其皱着眉头送人一件贵重礼品，不如面带笑容送人一件小礼物。 —— 无名氏
有真道德，必生真胆量。凡怕天怕地怕人怕鬼的人，必是心中有鬼，必是品行不端。 —— 宣永光
我从多话的人学到静默，从偏狭的人学到了宽容，从这残忍的人学到了仁爱，但奇怪的是我对于这些老师并不感激。 —— 无名氏
多听，少说，接受每一个人的责难，但是保留你的最后裁决。 —— 莎士比亚
路是脚踏出来的，历史是人写出来的。人的每一步行动都在书写自己的历史。 —— 吉鸿昌
思而后行，以免做出蠢事。因为草率的动作和言语，均是卑劣的特征。 —— 毕达哥拉斯
凡事只要看得淡些，就没有什么可忧虑的了；只要不因愤怒而夸大事态，就没有什么事情值得生气的了。 —— 屠格涅夫
习惯不加以抑制，不久它就会变成你生活上的必需品了。 —— 奥古斯丁
不良的习惯会随时阻碍你走向成名、获利和享乐的路上去。 —— 莎士比亚
人喜欢习惯，因为造它的就是自己。 —— 萧伯纳
习惯，我们每个人或多或少都是它的奴隶。 —— 高汀
倦怠乃人生之大患，人们常叹人生暂短，其实人生悠长，只是由于不知它的用途。 —— 维尼
人应该支配习惯，而决不能让习惯支配人，一 个人不能去掉他的坏习惯，那简直一文不值。 —— 奥斯特洛夫斯基
谁若游戏人生，他就一事无成；谁不主宰自己，永远是一个奴隶。 —— 歌德
单是说不行，要紧的是做。 —— 鲁迅
你有信仰就年轻，疑惑就年老；有自信就年轻，畏惧就年老；有希望就年轻，绝望就年老；岁月使你皮肤起皱，但是失去了热忱，就损伤了灵魂。 —— 卡耐基
巨大的建筑，总是由一木一石叠起来的，我们何妨做做这一木一石呢？我时常做些零碎事，就是为此。 —— 鲁迅
过于求速是做事上最大的危险之一。 —— 培根
一个不注意小事情的人，永远不会成功大事业。 —— 卡耐基
杀了“现在”，也便杀了“将来”。----将来是子孙的时代。 —— 鲁迅
使生活变成幻想，再把幻想化为现时。 —— 居里夫人
要成就一件大事业，必须从小事做起。 —— 列宁
把希望建筑在意欲和心愿上面的人们，二十次中有十九次都会失望。 —— 大仲马
神圣的工作在每个人的日常事务里，理想的前途在于一点一滴做起。 —— 谢觉哉
事业常成于坚忍，毁于急躁。 —— 萨迪
如果有什么需要明天做的事，最好现在就开始。 --富兰克林
据我观察，大部分人都是在别人荒废的时间里崭露头角的。 --福特
盛年不重来，一日难再晨，及时宜自勉，岁月不待人。 --陶潜
时钟随着指针的移动滴答在响：“秒”是雄赳赳气昂昂列队行进的兵士，“分”是士官，“小时”是带队冲锋陷阵的骁勇的军官。，所以当你百无聊赖，胡思乱想的时候，请记住你掌上有千军万马；你是他们的统帅。检阅他们时，你不妨问问自己--他们是否在战斗中发挥了最大的作用。 --约翰逊
生命是以时间为单位的，浪费别人的时间等于谋财害命，浪费自己的时间，等于慢性自杀。 --鲁迅
人生太短，要干的事太多，我要争分夺秒。 --爱迪生
人们说生命是很短促的，我认为是他们自己使生命那样短促的。由于他们不善于利用生命，所以他们反过来抱怨说时间过得太快；可是我认为，就他们那种生活来说，时间倒是过得太慢了。--卢梭
一寸光阴一寸金，寸金难买寸光阴。 --谚语
时间是一位可爱的恋人，对你是多么的爱慕倾心，每分每秒都在叮嘱；劳动、创造、别虚度了一生。 --于沙
丢失的牛羊可以找回；但是失去的时间却无法找回。 --乔叟
对时间的慷慨，就等于慢性自杀。 --奥斯特洛夫斯基
把握住今天，胜过两个明天。 --拉美谚语
每天不浪费或不虚度或不空抛的那一点点时间，即使只有五、六分钟，如得正用，也一样可以有很大的成就。游手好闲惯了，就是有聪明才智，也不会有所作为。--雷曼
时间就是速度，时间就是力量。 --郭沫若
时间是由分秒积成的，善于利用零星时间的人，才会做出更大的成绩来。--华罗庚
昨天只是今天的回忆，明天只是今天的梦。 --吉卜龄
你若是爱千古，你应该爱现在；昨日不能唤回来，明日还是不实在；你能确有把握的，只有今日的现在。 --爱默生
如果你浪费了自己的年龄，那是挺可悲的。因为你的青春只能持续一点儿时间--很短的一点儿时间。 --王尔德
“世俗有时间是金钱”这句话，所以窃取他人时间的小偷，当然该加以处罚，即使是那些愉快的好人，还是该如忌讳疾病地躲避他们。 --卡耐基
选择机会，就是节省时间。 --培根
事在人为：一年可以等于二年、三年，例如每天用十七、八小时读书；反之，二、三年也可以等于一年，甚至比一年还少，例如每天只用五六小时以下读书，我决心每天用十六到十八小时翻阅中国历代文集。--蔡尚思
浪费时间是所有支出中最奢侈及最昂贵的。 --富兰克林
世界上最可宝贵的就是“今”，最容易丧失的也是“今”因为他最容易丧失，所以更觉得他宝贵。 --李大钊
睡得多的人学得少。 --西班牙谚语
不要懒懒散散地虚度生命。 --贝多芬
辛勤的蜜蜂永远没有时间的悲哀。 --布莱克
我只惋惜一件事，日子太短，过得太快。一个人从来看不出做成什么，只能看出还应该作什么？ --居里夫人
善于利用时间的人，永远找不到充裕的时间。--歌德
合理安排时间，就等于节约时间。 --培根
世界上最快而又最慢，最长而又最短，最平凡而又最珍贵，最容易忽视而又最令人后悔的就是时间。 --高尔基
昨天是一张作废的支票，明天是一张期票，而今天则是你惟一拥有的现金--所以应当聪明地把握。 --李昂斯
在所有批评家中，最伟大、最正确，最天才的是时间。 --别林斯基
一分时间，一分成果。对科学工作者来说，就不是一天八小时，而是寸阴必珍，寸阳必争！ --童第周
用“分”来计算时间的人，比用“时”计算时间的人，时间多五十九倍。--佚名
志士惜年，贤人惜日，圣人惜时。 --魏源
明天”，是勤劳的最危险的敌人。 --苏霍姆林斯基
由于时光转瞬即逝，无法挽回，所以说它是世间最宝贵的财富，滥用时光无疑是人们最没有意义的一种消磨方式。 --毛姆
最有希望的成功者，并不是才干出众的人而是那些最善利用每一时机去发掘开拓的人。 --苏格拉底
时间就是生命，无端的空耗别人的时间，其实是无异于谋财害命。--鲁迅
人生太短，要干的事太多，我要争分夺秒。 --爱迪生
不知明天该做什么的人是不幸的。 --高尔基
庸人费心将是消磨时光，能人费尽心机利用时光。 --叔本华
你热爱生命吗？那就别浪费时间，因为时间是组成生命的原料。 --富兰克林
当许多人在一条路上徘徊不前时，他们不得不让开一条大路，让那珍惜时间的人赶到他们的前面去。 --苏格拉底
一个钟头有六十分钟，一天就超过了一千分钟。明白这个道理后，就知道人可做出多少贡献。 --歌德
今天做不成的，明天也不会做好。一天也不能虚度，要下决心把可能的事情，一把抓住而紧紧抱住，有决心就不会任其逃去，而且必然要贯彻实行。 --歌德
神龟虽寿，犹有竞时。 --曹操
时间抓起来说是金子，抓不住就是流水。 --谚语
明天，明天，还有明天，人们都在这样安慰自己，殊不知这个明天，就足以把他们关进坟墓。 --屠格涅夫
时间最不偏私，给任何人都是二十四小时，时间也最偏私，给任何人都不是二十四小时。 --赫胥黎
一年之计在于春，一日之计在于晨。 --萧绛
我的箴言始终是：无日不动笔；如果我有时让艺术之神瞌睡，也只为要使它醒后更兴奋。 --贝多芬
不要把今天能做的事推到明天。因为如果今天做得痛快，明天还可以再做一次。--米契那
疾驰的岁月却是窃取寿命的小偷：窃取后，头也不回地一个追着一个，匆忙逃走。 --木塔里甫
时间是送给我们的宝贵礼物，它使我们变得更聪明，更美好，更成熟，更完美。--托马斯
今晚应做的事没有做，明天再早也是耽误了。 --裴其傣
痛苦常使弱者厌世轻生，却使强者更加清醒奋发。——佚名
天行健，君子以自强不息；地势坤，君子以厚德载物。——周易
Sunday, June 29, 2008
Symptoms of Acidosis
Due to fast paced daily lifestyles, eating on the run, people have to face a constantly growing endangerment: the over-acidification (Acidosis) of the body cells, which will interrupt cellular activities and functions. It is a major root of sickness and disease. Having our cells constantly exposed to an acidic environment leads to Acidosis!
Studies have shown that an acidic, anaerobic (which is also the lack of oxygen) body environment encourages the breeding of fungus, mold, bacteria, and viruses. As a result, our inner biological terrain shifts from a healthy oxygenated, alkaline environment to an unhealthy acidic one (acidic pH scale).
It is a lot of “hard work” for our body to neutralize and detoxify these acids before they can act as poisons in and around the cells, ultimately changing the environment of each cell.
When our body pH becomes more and more acidic it starts to set up defense mechanisms to keep the damaging acid from entering our vital organs. Unhealthy conditions which can be caused directly by Over-Acidification / Acidosis are:
Symptom Overweight
It is known that acid gets stored in fat cells. As a defense mechanism, your body may actually produce fat cells to protect you from your overly acidic condition. To protect itself from potentially serious damage, the body creates these fat cells to store the acids and carry them away from vital organs. Those fat cells and cellulite deposits may actually keep acid wastes at a safe distance from your vital organs. Many people have found that a return to a healthy alkaline inner biological terrain helps them loosing excess fat.
Symptom Joint Pain and Arthritis
All substances left by the metabolizing process are acidic and toxic; therefore these have to be neutralized by alkalizing elements, e.g. calcium ions, sodium ions, and lithium ions, among which calcium is the most important. Calcium ions are positively charged ions which are constantly looking for acid, to form calcium carbonate in our body. Calcium carbonate is harmless and will be moved out of the body, providing our body fluid pH is alkaline. Otherwise, it is being deposited around body joints. If the calcium ion level is low in the blood and body, excess acid will remain in our body and will lead to numerous health problems, like Join Pain or Arthritis.
Symptom Osteoporosis
Many people think they can eliminate osteoporosis by increasing their consumption of milk and dairy products. But in fact the instances of osteoporosis are rare in countries where the consumption of dairy products is very low. So osteoporosis is an acidosis problem. As the body becomes more acidic, our body tries to remain healthy to protect us against heart attacks, illness, strokes or even cancer. In doing so, it takes calcium from the teeth, bones and tissues, making them weak and brittle.
Symptom Underweight
Yeast and fungus produced in an acidic environment can feed on our nutrients and thus reduce the absorption of everything we eat by as much as 50%. Without protein the body can’t produce enzymes, hormones or other chemical components necessary for cell energy and organ activity. This causes people to become very thin, which is not healthier than being overweight. As alkalizing and oxygenating takes place, the body naturally begins to seek its own ideal weight.
Symptom Low Energy and Chronic Fatigue
When having our cells constantly exposed to an overly acidic environment our biological terrain's oxygen level drops, leaving us tired and fatigued. This will allow parasites, fungus, bacteria, mold and viral infections to flourish and gain a hold throughout the body.
Symptom Heart attack
If our internal biological terrain is exposed to excessive acidity, bacteria and/or fungi and/or viruses can attach themselves to the inner walls of arteries. This can attract white blood cells, causing proteins and cells to clot. In this way a plaque forms in the artery, thus narrowing the artery and restricting the flow of blood, nutrients and oxygen to the tissues supplied by that artery. Should that happen to the coronary artery, a heart attack can occur.
Symptom Allergies
The toxins produced within an acidic, oxygen deprived environment as well as the absorption of undigested proteins is major cause of allergy conditions. When the digestive system is weakened, a wide range of allergic reactions can occur, e.g. food allergies, and the overall susceptibility to allergens is increased.
Symptom Acne
There are many different forms of acne, and not few are linked to an unhealthy diet. Especially foods that are highly acidic tend to cause acne.
Symptom Frequent Colds, Bronchitis, Infections, Headaches
Only when our pH level is fairly balanced, the binding of oxygen to the hemoglobin protein of our red blood cells in the lungs operates. If the pH is too acidic, microbes in our respiratory systems can grow much more easily, and in that way cause bronchitis, pneumonia and sinusitis, and invade our cell system. This can result in cough, bronchial spasms (asthma), colds, infections and headaches.
Studies have shown that an acidic, anaerobic (which is also the lack of oxygen) body environment encourages the breeding of fungus, mold, bacteria, and viruses. As a result, our inner biological terrain shifts from a healthy oxygenated, alkaline environment to an unhealthy acidic one (acidic pH scale).
It is a lot of “hard work” for our body to neutralize and detoxify these acids before they can act as poisons in and around the cells, ultimately changing the environment of each cell.
When our body pH becomes more and more acidic it starts to set up defense mechanisms to keep the damaging acid from entering our vital organs. Unhealthy conditions which can be caused directly by Over-Acidification / Acidosis are:
Symptom Overweight
It is known that acid gets stored in fat cells. As a defense mechanism, your body may actually produce fat cells to protect you from your overly acidic condition. To protect itself from potentially serious damage, the body creates these fat cells to store the acids and carry them away from vital organs. Those fat cells and cellulite deposits may actually keep acid wastes at a safe distance from your vital organs. Many people have found that a return to a healthy alkaline inner biological terrain helps them loosing excess fat.
Symptom Joint Pain and Arthritis
All substances left by the metabolizing process are acidic and toxic; therefore these have to be neutralized by alkalizing elements, e.g. calcium ions, sodium ions, and lithium ions, among which calcium is the most important. Calcium ions are positively charged ions which are constantly looking for acid, to form calcium carbonate in our body. Calcium carbonate is harmless and will be moved out of the body, providing our body fluid pH is alkaline. Otherwise, it is being deposited around body joints. If the calcium ion level is low in the blood and body, excess acid will remain in our body and will lead to numerous health problems, like Join Pain or Arthritis.
Symptom Osteoporosis
Many people think they can eliminate osteoporosis by increasing their consumption of milk and dairy products. But in fact the instances of osteoporosis are rare in countries where the consumption of dairy products is very low. So osteoporosis is an acidosis problem. As the body becomes more acidic, our body tries to remain healthy to protect us against heart attacks, illness, strokes or even cancer. In doing so, it takes calcium from the teeth, bones and tissues, making them weak and brittle.
Symptom Underweight
Yeast and fungus produced in an acidic environment can feed on our nutrients and thus reduce the absorption of everything we eat by as much as 50%. Without protein the body can’t produce enzymes, hormones or other chemical components necessary for cell energy and organ activity. This causes people to become very thin, which is not healthier than being overweight. As alkalizing and oxygenating takes place, the body naturally begins to seek its own ideal weight.
Symptom Low Energy and Chronic Fatigue
When having our cells constantly exposed to an overly acidic environment our biological terrain's oxygen level drops, leaving us tired and fatigued. This will allow parasites, fungus, bacteria, mold and viral infections to flourish and gain a hold throughout the body.
Symptom Heart attack
If our internal biological terrain is exposed to excessive acidity, bacteria and/or fungi and/or viruses can attach themselves to the inner walls of arteries. This can attract white blood cells, causing proteins and cells to clot. In this way a plaque forms in the artery, thus narrowing the artery and restricting the flow of blood, nutrients and oxygen to the tissues supplied by that artery. Should that happen to the coronary artery, a heart attack can occur.
Symptom Allergies
The toxins produced within an acidic, oxygen deprived environment as well as the absorption of undigested proteins is major cause of allergy conditions. When the digestive system is weakened, a wide range of allergic reactions can occur, e.g. food allergies, and the overall susceptibility to allergens is increased.
Symptom Acne
There are many different forms of acne, and not few are linked to an unhealthy diet. Especially foods that are highly acidic tend to cause acne.
Symptom Frequent Colds, Bronchitis, Infections, Headaches
Only when our pH level is fairly balanced, the binding of oxygen to the hemoglobin protein of our red blood cells in the lungs operates. If the pH is too acidic, microbes in our respiratory systems can grow much more easily, and in that way cause bronchitis, pneumonia and sinusitis, and invade our cell system. This can result in cough, bronchial spasms (asthma), colds, infections and headaches.
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